Dear Dual Perspective

In this episode, Emma and Sara hear from a listener who is trying to keep a healthy sexual connection with their partner through the pressure of trying to have a baby. To help answer this question, your hosts invited Sarah Cloutier from Spark Therapy to share advice based on her counselling practice.

Fertility statistics

One in Six podcast

Fertility Awareness Week 2024

Nagoski, Emily. 2015. Come as You Are: The surprising new science that will transform your sex life. Simon & Schuster.

Come As You Are podcast

In this episode, Emma and Sara answer a question from a listener asking how to teach children (and adults) acceptance and kindness in a world full of significant, overlapping crises. Emma begins with the serenity prayer and suggestions for building community, and Sara brings in some core concepts from game theory. Both of your hosts tie these rules to live by back to their favourite 80s movies.

Is this really the safest time in human history?

Veritasium video on game theory

Poster on community building

In this episode, your hosts answer a question about whether someone who has seen some concerning posts from a local influencer related to mental health should reach out and offer support. Emma notes that it's important to consider one's own capacity, and Sara mentions some elements of social media engagement and parasocial relationships. Emma gets into the bystander effect and whether this could be affecting this situation although it's unfolding online in front of a lot of followers, instead of in person.

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References:

Article from the Atlantic on attachment and parasocial relationships

Guardian article about parasocial relationships

Bystander effect definition

In this episode, Emma and Sara contemplate a question from a listener asking about their partner's feeling that living in their hometown, surrounded by long-time friends and family, is making it harder for him to behave authentically. Your hosts ponder how community size makes this more difficult, and reference a past episode on setting boundaries in friendships.

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Ivan Coyote, 2022, Care of: Letters, Connections and Cures

Statistics Canada figures on moving by age group

In this episode, Emma and Sara, along with guest Lucas, army brat and former army reservist, answer a question from a listener who is wondering how separations from her young child due to her military service might impact him over time. Lucas offers insights from his own experience, and Emma and Sara cite extensive research on the wellbeing of children in military families, and how separations from kids in other lines of work are often quite similar unless a military family member is deployed.

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Bonney, J. F., & Gaffney, M. A. (2001). Internalizing and

Briggs-Gowan, M. J., Greene, C., Ford, J., Clark, R., McCarthy, K. J., & Carter, A. S. (2019). Adverse impact of multiple separations or loss of primary caregivers on young children. European Journal of Psychotraumatology, 10(1), 1646965. https://doi.org/10.1080/20008198.2019.1646965

Cunitz, K., Dölitzsch, C., Kösters, M., Willmund, G.-D., Zimmermann, P., Bühler, A. H., Fegert, J. M., Ziegenhain, U., & Kölch, M. (2019). Parental military deployment as risk factor for children’s mental health: A meta-analytical review. Child and Adolescent Psychiatry and Mental Health, 13(1), 26. https://doi.org/10.1186/s13034-019-0287-y

Howard, K., Martin, A., Berlin, L. J., & Brooks-Gunn, J. (2011). Early mother–child separation, parenting, and child well-being in Early Head Start families. Attachment & Human Development, 13(1), 5–26. https://doi.org/10.1080/14616734.2010.488119

Kelly, M. L., Herzog-Simmer, P. A., & Harris, M. A. (1994). Effects of Military-Induced Separation on the Parenting Stress and Family Functioning of Deploying Mothers. Military Psychology, 6(2), 125–138. https://doi.org/10.1207/s15327876mp0602_4

Miltary.com. (2011, September 30). Deployment: Your Children and Separation. https://www.military.com/spouse/military-deployment/deployment-children-and-separation.html

The National Child Traumatic Stress Network. (n.d.). Children with Traumatic Separation: Information for Professionals [Fact Sheet]. https://www.nctsn.org/sites/default/files/resources/children_with_traumatic_separation_professionals.pdf

Williams, A., Richmond, R., Khalid-Khan, S., Reddy, P., Groll, D., Rühland, L., & Cramm, H. (2023). Mental health of Canadian children growing up in military families: The parent perspective. Acta Psychologica, 235, 103887. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.actpsy.2023.103887

Williamson, V., Stevelink, S. A. M., Da Silva, E., & Fear, N. T. (2018). A systematic review of wellbeing in children: A comparison of military and civilian families. Child and Adolescent Psychiatry and Mental Health, 12(1), 46. https://doi.org/10.1186/s13034-018-0252-1

In this episode, Emma and Sara answer a question from a listener who feels a loved one is struggling with depression, but is not receptive to the listener's suggestions or feedback on how to manage better. Emma emphasizes that it's not possible to diagnose someone without an evaluation, and Sara comments that the listener's values and views on the correct course of action may not be held by their loved one. Emma further reveals that one of her personal life rules is to never give unsolicited advice, and your two hosts talk about strategies to avoid popping into problem solving mode.

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Positionality

Quote from Ram Dass about trees

In this episode, Emma and Sara answer a question from a mom who has unfollowed a bunch of conflicting parenting advice accounts on Instagram after finding herself scrolling a lot during maternity leave. This listener is wondering about whether Millenial parenting styles are better than how Boomers parented us, and whether mothers are more anxious now than in the past. Emma talks about the vulnerabilities of being at home with an infant and the evidence for good enough parenting, while Sara comments on the industry of parenting advice how those accounts making mothers feel inadequate is an effective marketing tactic.

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Resources:

Medina, J. 2014. Brain rules for baby: How to raise a smart and happy child from zero to five. Pear Press.

How parenting advice became an industry

Polling data on anxiety in mothers

Statistics on measles

"It's time to quit mommy blogging, for the sake of my children"

In this episode, Emma and Sara have a 'year in review' conversation, talking about their favourite episodes, successes and challenges, and advice for anyone looking to start a podcast or similar creative project.

In this episode, Emma and Sara answer a question from a listener about how to make friends while going through personal upheaval, such as divorce, a mental health crisis, or a life-altering health condition. Sara offers that probably what this listener is seeking through friendship is support, and that there may be other ways to access that, while Emma offers many practical suggestions from her clinical training on how to build resiliency and live in line with ones values.

You can also find us on CJUC, Whitehorse Community Radio, every Wednesday at 8 PM. Check out our show page: ⁠⁠https://cjucfm.com/shows/dear-dual-perspective/

PTSD rates in Canadian adults

40 year probability of divorce

Disability rates

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