Dear Romance Writer,
I’m a queer in my 50s and I’ve been in a triad with the same two people for the last 12 years. They were a couple first (together for 10 years before they met me). Over the last couple years I’ve been growing apart with one of my partners, Q. Q’s politics are getting weird, our interests are diverging, and I’m not attracted to them anymore. Things with my other partner, P, are great. We still connect, have passion, and love spending time together.
After quarantining with both of them I’m pushed over the edge — I don’t want to be with Q anymore (or live with them), but P is still committed to them. I definitely couldn’t bear to end my relationship with P and I’m at a loss. How can I keep P and lose Q?