Attention to all of my recovering people-pleasers out there.

Have you been wondering about what you can do to stop the cycle of people-pleasing?

In the previous episode, we talked about 7 signs that show you might be a people pleaser (if you haven’t heard that episode yet and you want to go back and listen to that first, it’s Season 5 Episode 14).

In this episode, we’re going to talk about how to stop people-pleasing while still being compassionate.

If you’ve ever struggled with people-pleasing and you’re wondering how to stop doing that while still staying true to your compassionate nature, then I’d love for you to stick around for this episode.

If you’re ready to start making the inner changes necessary to stop people-pleasing and you’re an empath who is looking to set healthy boundaries in your relationships, manage energetic and emotional overwhelm, and work through self-limiting beliefs…

Then I’d love to invite you to join The Empath Empowerment Coaching Program!

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Is being a people pleaser all that bad?

I mean, isn’t it just being nice and agreeable?

Doesn’t it just allow you to get along with most everyone around you?

Or maybe it makes us feel generally liked?

And it probably makes you feel like you can avoid conflict as much as possible? Right?

Wrong.

Tough love coming at ya, my friend. Being a people pleaser is not what it seems.

According to heathline.com, “being a people pleaser goes beyond simple kindness and it involves editing or altering words or behaviors for the sake of another person’s feelings or reactions.”

The danger with people-pleasing is that you have to sacrifice parts of yourself to please or meet the needs of others.

When you people-please over a long period of time, it leads to burnout, exhaustion, resentment, and it really isn’t sustainable at all.

I mean, how long can we really keep this gig up?

How much longer are you going to give up your energy and time to please others?

How much longer are you going to betray yourself in order for others to “like you?”

If you’ve ever wondered if you might be a people pleaser, you won’t want to miss this podcast episode.

Stay-tuned for this episode where I’ll share 7 signs that you might be a people pleaser.

If you’re ready to start making the inner changes necessary to stop people-pleasing and you’re an empath who is looking to set healthy boundaries in your relationships, manage energetic and emotional overwhelm, and work through self-limiting beliefs…

Then I’d love to invite you to join The Empath Empowerment Coaching Program!

*Summer sale (at the time of this recording): Over 40% off of The Empath Empowerment Coaching Program.

For more details on the course, please visit: https://naomicourtneycoaching.com/empowered-empath-coaching-course/

Additional links mentioned in the show: 

1. Article on How to build self-worth as an idealist: https://www.truity.com/blog/how-build-self-worth-idealist

Empaths, empathy, and codependency. Have you ever wondered why these words always seem to come up in the same conversation?

Let’s make more sense of this by defining these terms first:

Empathy is the ability to share and understand the feelings of another

An empath is someone with a nervous system who is highly-attuned to the emotions and energy of others. This is someone who can literally feel and take on the emotions and energy of others (ex. I feel for you vs. I feel what you’re feeling).

Codependency is any relationship in which two people become so invested in each other that they can’t function independently anymore. Your mood, happiness, and identity are defined by the other person.

As children, empaths and HSPs tend to tune in to their parents' energy and try to adjust their own to suit their caregivers needs.

We think that our parents/caregivers happiness and wellness depends on how well we’re behaving, or how much we please them, so we start to chameleon into whatever we think will make them happy.

We end up believing that we’re responsible for their happiness and wellbeing.

So as we grow up, we tend to bring this into our adult relationships. And we wonder why we end up in codependent relationships as empaths (it all starts with things that we learned in our childhood)?

This could be things like having poor boundaries and being natural nurturers and being prone to over-giving.

We tend to absorb the energy and emotions of others around us (this makes sense why it would feel like our mood, happiness are defined by other people).

We just want to help others, but sometimes we can end up trying to “fix” everything when it’s not our job or journey to, it’s the other person’s job to do their own individual work.

We don’t want to see other people (esp. Loved ones) in pain and we have a natural instinct to want to shoulder that pain for others.

But we have to realize that we can’t take away the pain from others. It’s not our responsibility as much as it seems and feels like it is.

If you’ve ever questioned if you might be in a codependent relationship, stay tuned for this episode because I’m going to share the 7 signs that you might be in a codependent relationship.

If you’re an empath who is ready to go all in right now with overcoming energetic overwhelm, releasing limiting beliefs, and setting healthy boundaries in your relationships, then I’d love to invite you to enroll in The Empath Empowerment Coaching Program!

Right now, I’m offering a summer sale. The empath empowerment program is now over 50% off! It’s a great time to get in.

For more details on the course, please visit: https://naomicourtneycoaching.com/empowered-empath-coaching-course/

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Do you and your partner show each other love, attention, and affection in different ways?

Do you wish they could learn the way you prefer to be shown love?

Or maybe you’re looking to discover the best way to show your partner warmth?

We all have different love languages. Which means that we all communicate love in different ways.

Stay tuned for this episode on the 5 love languages and how to use them to create more love and appreciation within your relationships.

You can also learn how to show your partner their preferred sense of love and affection (and vice versa) through learning about personality type.

If you’re ready to dive deeper into learning you/your partner’s type and you’re an empath who is looking to improve your relationships through understanding your inner wiring on a deeper level through a tool like personality types, then I’d love to invite you to join The Empath Empowerment Coaching Program.

This is my signature, 8-week, 1:1 coaching program for empaths who are interested in setting better boundaries in their relationships, managing their energetic overwhelm, and tackling their self-limiting beliefs.

*SUMMER SALE (at the time of this recording)! Over 40% off of The Empath Empowerment Coaching Program.

For more details on the course, please visit: https://naomicourtneycoaching.com/empowered-empath-coaching-course/

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Many of us want and need different things in our relationships.

Some of us need a lot of space and independence.

And then some of us struggle with (I’m gonna say it straight up) clinginess and wanting to be with our partners all of the time.

There’s science behind this. It’s called attachment styles.

Attachment style refers to the way that we relate to others, behave, and respond emotionally in our relationships.

They are formed in our childhood and are based in response to the relationships we had with our earliest caregivers.

So why is this important for empaths and highly-sensitives to keep in mind when wanting to improve their relationships?

Well, we have a nervous system that is highly-attuned to the emotions and energy of others around us.

So when our partner is behaving in a way that we can’t understand and we start to feel emotionally overwhelmed, keeping the attachment styles in mind can help you to hold space, have deeper compassion for, and see a different perspective that your partner may be experiencing.

This information will help you understand your partner and their behavior better.

Because, as I always like to say...we are all wired very differently.

So if you’ve been trying to understand your partner and their behavior on a deeper level, stay tuned for this episode on the 4 attachment styles.

Listen in to learn which style you and your partner have.

If you’re an empath who is looking to build better boundaries in your relationships and to do the mindset work in order to develop a better sense of self-esteem, then I’d love to invite you to join The Empath Empowerment Coaching Program!

This is my signature, 8-week, 1:1 coaching program for empaths who are interested in setting better boundaries in their relationships, managing their energetic overwhelm, and tackling their self-limiting beliefs.

*Summer sale (at the time of this recording): Over 40% off of The Empath Empowerment Coaching Program.

For more details on the course, please visit: https://naomicourtneycoaching.com/empowered-empath-coaching-course/

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Are you in a relationship or partnership with someone? Have you ever been curious about what’s motivating them at an unconscious level? Have you ever wondered how they were wired internally?

One of my most recent podcast guests, Daniel Anear, said, “As we go through changes it can bring up the end of a relationship or it can be a catalyst to revitalize your relationships.”

We all have our own wounding and we have different attachment styles.

In our childhood, we learn how to interact with people and we each bring our own beliefs, patterning, and conditioning into our relationships when we’re adults.

It’s not always easy, but these things can be worked through with understanding, compassion, and respect for each other's unique differences and needs.

Join us in this insightful podcast interview with Daniel Anear, who is a relationship and marriage counselor, a father and husband, transformation coach, INFJ, and an Enneagram 1. This episode is all about relationships and how you can make them go more successfully.

We talk all about personality types (the Enneagram and Myers-Briggs) and how to use them as a tool in your relationships. We also cover how to create a mutually-satisfying relationship and go over the signs that a relationship might be ending or over.

You can connect with Dan on

Instagram @danielrelationshipcounselling