This passage primarily elaborates on the “essence of enjoying the process.” Using examples from gaming and life experiences, the author points out that we often become overly fixated on the final goal, believing that happiness can only be achieved upon reaching it, while overlooking the joy and growth that the pursuit itself brings. The author emphasizes that each challenge overcome and problem solved is a moment of joy and progress, and each trial and error is an opportunity for growth. It is precisely these challenging and dynamic experiences that shape the meaning of our lives and fuel our motivation to move forward. Therefore, we should learn to enjoy the process rather than focusing solely on the goal to truly experience the joy and value of life.

A good relationship is one where, even after arguments or disagreements, you still care for and love each other. In any relationship, disappointments are inevitable. How you face and address those disappointments becomes the key to whether the relationship can remain stable. Your ability to repair the disappointments that arise from unrealistic expectations of each other determines whether the relationship can continue.

What should the couples do to move the ideal relations forward? It’s that you sit every once in a while and you say how are we doing? I think couples should have different commitment ceremonies in the course of a marriage. I think that every few years or every year they should have a little summit or ceremony or whatever they want to call it, kind of where are we at or checking in how are we doing, what has been good in our life? What could we do better? What could we do differently? Are we doing right to our children? Are we meeting some of our important needs at this point? What has changed for us? to address all of this issues head on. The problem in modern relationship between couples is that most of the big topics are addressed when there is a crisis. rather than when actually things are good, when you are calm. You have less incentive to change when things are good. But you have less creativity to change when things are getting worse. Same for companies same for couples.

In her bestselling book Good Inside, Dr. Becky describes a similar idea: In a relationship, or when interacting with others, it’s important to maintain a mindset that, when you are feeling disappointment, anger, resentment, jealousy, or other negative emotions, you shouldn’t let just one of these emotions control you. Instead, try to hold at least two perspectives or judgments. For example, when you are blaming or criticizing your child, you should also recognize that your child is inherently good, kind, and trustworthy. Your disappointment and anger are directed only at their outward behavior, not their inner self.

Furthermore, when you yell at your child or even say hurtful things, you should have some awareness or reservation in your own heart—perhaps a sense of regret. This feeling of remorse is crucial because you know that your actions are wrong; you are merely venting your emotions. This sense of guilt determines whether you can later calmly talk to your child about what just happened and understand the underlying emotional needs behind their behavior that upset you. After all, behind every undesirable behavior of a child lies a genuine need from deep within them.

The ability to maintain two seemingly opposing feelings, thoughts, or emotions in any situation is essential for sustaining our relationships.

Love means caring, acceptance, understanding, tolerance, and patience. Even though love sometimes brings pain, it is inherently an intimate relationship. In contrast, desire is a relationship that maintains distance, viewing the other as an independent individual and being captivated by their admirable qualities and charm.

True freedom is making choices within constraints. Having many options does not equate to true freedom; the right to not choose is what defines freedom. For example, being able to travel the world does not mean freedom—choosing to settle down in one place for the long term does. Similarly, the freedom to buy whatever you want is not true freedom; exercising restraint and purchasing only what you truly need is. True freedom is about focus and longevity, such as staying with one person for life and finding a lifelong soulmate. True freedom is making choices within limitations, not being bound by desires and external influences.

This conversation explores the different manifestations of shame and guilt in romantic relationships. Shame stems from self-reproach for one’s actions and lacks empathy for the other person, while guilt focuses on the harm caused to the partner, reflecting care and a sense of responsibility. Shame often leads to self-justification and defensiveness, whereas guilt is a crucial step in rebuilding trust.

Life itself has no inherent meaning.

Meaning arises from solving the practical problems in life.

This dialog holds an existentialist view, suggesting that the meaning of life is not predetermined, but is created through our actions and choices. By addressing the challenges in life, overcoming obstacles, and pursuing goals, we give life its meaning.