DEEP&DIRTY with Lisa Opel

(ENG): SUSAN BRATTON: Throatgasms, Sex Tech and 1,000 Threesomes.

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Susan Bratton has had more than 1,000 threesomes, so who better to tell us what actually makes them hot?

In this episode of Deep and Dirty, Lisa and Susan talk about what makes group sex feel safe, connected and genuinely pleasurable. They explore how to communicate your needs, move beyond sexual performance and embrace the awkward moments that naturally happen when bodies come together.

The conversation also goes deliciously off-road into throatgasms, yoni massage, sex toys, long-distance intimacy, teledildonics and the science of expanding our capacity for pleasure. Susan also explains why toys are collaborators rather than competition, and why, at 65, she is having the best sex of her life.

About Susan Bratton: she is an intimacy expert, bestselling author and sex educator who has helped millions create more pleasure, passion and connection. For more than two decades, she has taught the pleasure-based sex education many of us never received.

Find Susan here:

Better Lover: https://betterlover.com/ | Susan’s website: https://susanbratton.com/ | Susan’s favourite pleasure tools: https://drivedesire.com/ | Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susanbratton/ | YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/BetterLover | Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/trustedhotsexadvisortomillions/ | LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/susanbratton/ | X / Twitter: https://x.com/susanbratton

I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!

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My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples

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(ENG): LADY VYRA: Inside the mind of a dominatrix.

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In this episode, Lisa talks to Berlin-based dominatrix Lady Vyra about sensual dominance, BDSM as bodywork, and why kink can be so much more playful, tender and funny than the clichés suggest. There is movement, theatre, leather, breath, shame, power, and yes: an alien-looking vibrator that left one poor man beautifully confused.

Lady Vyra shares stories from her sessions, including couple play-coaching, women discovering their dominant side, and an extended chastity adventure through Berlin involving rules, check-ins, a prison room and a very official-sounding arousal ban. Somehow, between all the whips, cages and roleplay, it becomes a conversation about trust, embodiment and giving yourself permission to want what you want.

We also talk about why BDSM can feel almost meditative, how safe words and communication make deeper play possible, and why pleasure deserves a place next to massages, facials and all the other things we casually call self-care. Funny, juicy, thoughtful and surprisingly wholesome in the dirtiest possible way.

Find Lady Vyra: https://ladyvyra.com/ | Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ladyvyra_2/

I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!

Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under [email protected]

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My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples

My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook

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DEEP&DIRTY (DE): Augenkontakt ist intimer als Nacktheit. Und Oral ist meditativ.

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In dieser Folge geht es um zwei Themen, die erst mal wirken, als hätten sie nicht viel miteinander zu tun: Augenkontakt und Oral. Ich schaue mir beides erst getrennt an und merke dann ziemlich schnell: Am Ende geht es bei beiden um Nähe, Fokus und dieses kleine innere „Uff, das ist jetzt aber echt nah“.

Es geht darum, warum Augenkontakt sich manchmal intimer anfühlen kann als nackt sein. Warum angeschaut werden so viel auslösen kann. Und warum Oral für manche Menschen etwas Meditatives haben kann: beim Geben durch Fokus, beim Empfangen durch Vertrauen und Loslassen.

Eine Folge über Intimität, Kopfkino, Körpergefühl, kleine peinliche Momente, echte Aufmerksamkeit und die Frage, was passiert, wenn wir beim Sex ein bisschen weniger performen und ein bisschen mehr da sind.

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I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!

Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under [email protected]

More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)

My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples

My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook

Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com

(ENG): Are we headed towards a sexless society?

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Are we headed toward a sexless society, or is desire simply exhausted?

In this episode, I talk about dopamine, doomscrolling, dating apps, consent, body image, self-improvement culture and why intimacy can feel so complicated now. Not to shame anyone for having less sex, but to ask what desire needs in order to feel safe, playful and alive again.

Less performance. More play. Less perfection. More presence. Less self-surveillance. More tenderness.

I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!

Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under [email protected]

More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)

My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples

My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook

My book SAVED IN NOTES... on Amazon (E-Book, Softback & Hardback)

Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com

(ENG): REBECCA MINOR @bi_invisibility: Bi+ invisibility, straight-assumed relationships, identity, motherhood, and finding the words for who you are.

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What happens when you know you are queer, but the world keeps reading your life as straight?

In this episode, I talk to Rebecca Minor, therapist, gender specialist, author, and co-founder of bi+ (in)visibility. We speak about bi+ invisibility, straight-assumed relationships, identity, motherhood, coming out, bisexual men, community, and the question so many people carry quietly: Am I queer enough?

Rebecca reminds us that your actions do not determine your identity. You can be bi, queer, pan, questioning, married, monogamous, a parent, private, visible, or still figuring things out. Your identity is still yours.

About Rebecca: Rebecca Minor is a queer therapist, educator, and founder of bi+ (in)visibility, an online community for bi+, pan, and queer people navigating life in straight-assumed relationships. Drawing from both her clinical work and lived experience, Rebecca helps people untangle identity, belonging, visibility, and what it means to be known. Her work has resonated with hundreds of thousands of people who have spent years wondering whether they are "queer enough" and looking for language, community, and connection. She is also the author of Raising Trans Kids: What to Expect When You Weren’t Expecting This.

Links: Instagram: @bi_invisibility | @gender.specialist | bi+ (in)visibility: genderspecialist.com/bi-invisibility | Rebecca’s book: Raising Trans Kids: What to Expect When You Weren’t Expecting This

I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!

Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under [email protected]

More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)

My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples

My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook

My book SAVED IN NOTES... on Amazon (E-Book, Softback & Hardback)

Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com

DEEP&DIRTY (DE): LOVIS WALTNER - Sexuelle Bildung beginnt an der Supermarktkasse.

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ÜBER DIESE FOLGE:

Was passiert, wenn ein Kind an der Supermarktkasse fragt, wie das Baby in den Bauch gekommen ist? Oder wenn es in der Badewanne den eigenen Körper entdeckt und sagt: “Das fühlt sich schön an”?

In dieser Folge spreche ich mit Sexualpädagogin Lovis Waltner über sexuelle Bildung, die nicht aus dem einen großen, peinlichen Aufklärungsgespräch besteht. Sondern aus vielen kleinen Momenten im Alltag.

Lovis macht Mut, nicht perfekt sein zu müssen. Wir dürfen sagen: “Das ist eine gute Frage, ich muss kurz überlegen.” Oder: “Das weiß ich gerade nicht, aber ich finde es heraus.” Wichtig ist, dass Kinder merken: Mit diesen Themen darf ich kommen.

Denn wenn Kinder keine Antworten von uns bekommen, suchen sie sie woanders. Bei Freund:innen, im Internet, auf Social Media oder irgendwann in Pornos.

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Über Lovis Waltner | Lovis Waltner ist Sexualpädagogin, Sexualberaterin und Jugend- und Heimerzieherin. Ihr Schwerpunkt liegt in der sexuellen Bildung für Kinder, Jugendliche, Eltern und Fachkräfte. Sie arbeitet unter anderem mit Familien, Schulen, Kindergärten und der Kinder- und Jugendhilfe.

In ihrer Arbeit geht es um Körperwissen, Gefühle, Grenzen, Sprache, Selbstbestimmung, digitale Medien und die Frage, wie Erwachsene Kinder und Jugendliche sicher, altersgerecht und unaufgeregt begleiten können.

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I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!

Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under [email protected]

More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)

My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples

My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook

Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com

DEEP&DIRTY (DE): HEIßE GEDANKEN FÜR HEIßE TAGE.

Es ist heiß. Zu heiß zum Arbeiten, zu heiß zum Schlafen, vielleicht sogar zu heiß für Sex. Aber Fantasie hält sich nicht an Temperaturen.

Heiße Gedanken für heiße Tage ist eine Solo-Folge über die Erotik des Unausgesprochenen. Über das Prickeln vor dem ersten Schritt. Über Menschen, die man kaum kennt und trotzdem mitnimmt. Und über Fantasien, die oft ganz leise anfangen.

Und ja, ich habe mich mal wieder ans Schreiben auf Deutsch gewagt. Das ist für mich immer noch ungewohnt, also seid lieb zu mir.

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I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!

Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under [email protected]

More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)

My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples

My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook

Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com

(ENG): LEA MISHRA // BIWEEKLY SHOP. A conversation about being Bi+, finding language for yourself, and creating everyday ways to feel seen.

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In this episode of DEEP & DIRTY, I talk to Lea Mishra, founder of Biweekly, about Bi+ visibility, fashion as a quiet signal, coming out more than once, flirting with women, internalized biphobia, and why so many Bi+ people still feel invisible.

Lea shares how the question “Where is everyone?” led her to create Biweekly: a fashion brand using symbols, colors and everyday pieces to make Bi+ identity more visible without having to shout. We talk about being bi in straight-presenting relationships, feeling “too normal” to belong, the pressure and freedom around coming out, and why bisexuality is an attraction, not an action.

An episode for everyone who has ever felt not queer enough, too late, too hidden, or unsure whether they count.

About Lea

Lea Mishra is the founder of Biweekly, a fashion brand creating clothing and accessories for more Bi+ visibility in Europe. Before Biweekly, she co-founded POHA House, a co-living brand focused on community and connection. Lea lives in Zurich, is a mother of two, and is passionate about building brands that create real impact through visibility, belonging and community.

Links

Website: https://biweekly.shop/deInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/biweekly.shop/TikTok: @biweekly.shop

I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!

Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under [email protected]

More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)

My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples

My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook

My book SAVED IN NOTES... on Amazon (E-Book, Softback & Hardback)

Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com

(ENG): MARIE // MOONLIGHT SOIETY. Sex Work Without Shame: Feminism, Kink and Booking Desire.

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In this episode, I speak with Marie, founder of Moonlight Society Berlin, an escort agency focused on kink-aware, emotionally intelligent companionship.

We talk about escort, kink, BDSM and fetish without shame, scandal or judgement. Marie shares why she founded the agency she once needed herself, how feminist sex work can look in practice, and why communication, consent, transparency and emotional intelligence are at the heart of her work.

We also explore why booking companionship can be especially powerful for women, queer people and anyone curious about desire, fantasy or kink — but unsure where to begin. A conversation about sex work, brave spaces, conscious encounters and the courage to ask for what you want.

ABOUT MARIE // Marie is the founder of Moonlight Society, a Berlin-based boutique escort agency for kink-aware, emotionally intelligent companionship. With a background in journalism, branding, art direction and digital marketing — and her own lived experience in sex work — Marie created Moonlight Society as an ethical, feminist and transparent alternative within the escort industry.

LINKS:

Moonlight Society: https://moonlight-society.com // Instagram: @moonlightsociety_berlin // Email: [email protected]

I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!

Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under [email protected]

More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)

My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples

My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook

My book SAVED IN NOTES... on Amazon (E-Book, Softback & Hardback)

Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com

DEEP&DIRTY (DE): MONE HAZEL - People Pleasing beim Sex.

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ÜBER DIESE FOLGE:

Was, wenn du gar nicht so unkompliziert bist, sondern einfach gelernt hast, es allen recht zu machen?

In dieser Folge von DEEP & DIRTY spreche ich mit Mone Hazel über People Pleasing, Selbstwert und Sex. Wir reden darüber, warum People Pleaser im Bett oft experimentierfreudig wirken, obwohl sie vielleicht vor allem versuchen, zu erraten, was das Gegenüber möchte. Und darüber, was mit Lust passiert, wenn man ständig gefallen, leisten und Konflikte vermeiden will.

Es geht um Selbstwert als Grundlage für ehrliche Beziehungen, um Grenzen, Kommunikation, Fantasien und die Frage: Wie finde ich eigentlich heraus, was ich wirklich will?

In dieser Folge sprechen wir über:

➡︎ People Pleasing in Beziehungen und beim Sex

➡︎ warum Gefallen nicht dasselbe ist wie Begehren

➡︎ Selbstwert und sexuelle Kommunikation

➡︎ die Angst vor dem Nein

➡︎ Fantasien als Hinweis auf die eigene Lust

➡︎ Männer, Leistungsdruck und emotionale Entwicklung

➡︎ kleine Schritte raus aus dem People-Pleasing-Modus

DEEP & DIRTY findest du überall, wo es Podcasts gibt, und hier auf YouTube.

Über Mone Hazel

Mone Hazel ist Coach, Sexualberaterin und Content-Creatorin. Seit 2019 macht sie Aufklärungs-Content rund um Liebe, Sex und Beziehung und verbindet dabei Fachwissen mit Humor. In ihrer Arbeit stärkt sie vor allem das Selbstwertgefühl von Menschen und begleitet sie dabei, People Pleasing und alte Beziehungsmuster aufzulösen.

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I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!

Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under [email protected]

More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)

My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples

My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook

Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com