DEEP&DIRTY with Lisa Opel

(ENG): SHARI KLEIN - Vulvalippen forever & “shame balls” (The Pleasure Society)

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Erotic poetry, queer pleasure, and finding better words for our bodies with Shari Klein.

Why “shame lips” but no “shame balls”? Shari Klein, founder of The Pleasure Society, joins me to explore the language we inherit and the shame we can leave behind. We talk about her campaign for vulvalippen (“vulva lips”), erotic poetry, queer pleasure, and the assumptions behind virginity. A curious, cheeky conversation about finding better words for our bodies and creating more space for pleasure.

About Shari Klein: (she/her) is the Amsterdam-based founder of The Pleasure Society. A pleasure curator, speaker, host, moderator, and voiceover artist, she also writes erotic poetry and spoken word. Through radio, events, and cultural collaborations, she creates spaces for open conversations about sexuality, intimacy, and pleasure. She is also a co-initiator of Schaamteloos, the campaign advocating for shame-free language around our bodies.

Find Shari here:

https://www.pleasuresociety.nl/ | https://www.instagram.com/shariklein/ | https://www.instagram.com/thepleasuresociety/ | https://schaamteloos.org/

I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!

Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under [email protected]

More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)

My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples

My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook

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DEEP&DIRTY (DE): JULIA HENCHEN - Du, ich und das Patriarchat.

Wie viel Patriarchat liegt mit uns im Bett? Mit Julia Henchen spreche ich über Macht in Beziehungen, gelernte Sexregeln und diesen verdammten Druck, selbst beim Loslassen noch alles richtig machen zu müssen. Wer hat Penetration eigentlich zur Hauptsache erklärt? Und was passiert mit meinen eigenen Wünschen, wenn ich ständig damit beschäftigt bin, begehrenswert zu sein? Wir nehmen den Mythos „Männer wollen immer“ auseinander, diskutieren spontane und responsive Lust – und ja, auch ich hinterfrage dabei ein paar eigene Überzeugungen. Außerdem geht’s um sexuelle Befreiung, die sich plötzlich wie Arbeit anfühlt, und eine ziemlich aufschlussreiche Frage: Kann ich Nein sagen, ohne anschließend die Stimmung retten zu müssen?

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Über Julia: Julia ist systemische Paar- und Sexualtherapeutin, Autorin und Podcasterin, bekannt als @lustfaktor. Ihr neues Buch „Lust – Macht – Begehren“ könnt ihr jetzt vorbestellen. DO IT!

Alle Links: Buch vorbestellen | Tickets zur Buchpremiere am 9. November im Clärchens Ballhaus, Berlin | Website & Beratung | Instagram @lustfaktor | Podcast „Kopf aus – Lust an“ | Spotify | Apple Podcasts | Onlinekurse | Fortbildungen | Weitere Bücher

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I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!

Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under [email protected]

More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)

My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples

My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook

Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com

DEEP&DIRTY (DE): EVA HANSON - Tantra-Massage: Warum Frauen zögern.

Was passiert bei einer Tantra-Massage für Frauen wirklich? Wie läuft eine Intimmassage ab? Und was, wenn ich feucht werde, weine oder komme?

Mit Eva Hanson spreche ich über Lust, Scham, Grenzen und die ungewohnte Freiheit, einfach nur empfangen zu dürfen.

YouTube Video hier: https://youtu.be/82y9JGUHGaA

Über Eva: Eva Hanson ist Tantra-Masseurin, Berührungscoach und Autorin von Hautrausch: Inside Tantra-Massage. Sie arbeitet seit über 13 Jahren in diesem Bereich und ist auf Frauen spezialisiert.

Links: Website & Buch | Instagram | Steady | SexuelleKultur.com

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I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!

Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under [email protected]

More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)

My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples

My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook

Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com

(ENG): SUSAN BRATTON: Throatgasms, Sex Tech and 1,000 Threesomes.

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Susan Bratton has had more than 1,000 threesomes, so who better to tell us what actually makes them hot?

In this episode of Deep and Dirty, Lisa and Susan talk about what makes group sex feel safe, connected and genuinely pleasurable. They explore how to communicate your needs, move beyond sexual performance and embrace the awkward moments that naturally happen when bodies come together.

The conversation also goes deliciously off-road into throatgasms, yoni massage, sex toys, long-distance intimacy, teledildonics and the science of expanding our capacity for pleasure. Susan also explains why toys are collaborators rather than competition, and why, at 65, she is having the best sex of her life.

About Susan Bratton: she is an intimacy expert, bestselling author and sex educator who has helped millions create more pleasure, passion and connection. For more than two decades, she has taught the pleasure-based sex education many of us never received.

Find Susan here:

Better Lover: https://betterlover.com/ | Susan’s website: https://susanbratton.com/ | Susan’s favourite pleasure tools: https://drivedesire.com/ | Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susanbratton/ | YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/BetterLover | Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/trustedhotsexadvisortomillions/ | LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/susanbratton/ | X / Twitter: https://x.com/susanbratton

I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!

Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under [email protected]

More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)

My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples

My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook

My book SAVED IN NOTES... on Amazon (E-Book, Softback & Hardback)

Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com

(ENG): LADY VYRA: Inside the mind of a dominatrix.

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In this episode, Lisa talks to Berlin-based dominatrix Lady Vyra about sensual dominance, BDSM as bodywork, and why kink can be so much more playful, tender and funny than the clichés suggest. There is movement, theatre, leather, breath, shame, power, and yes: an alien-looking vibrator that left one poor man beautifully confused.

Lady Vyra shares stories from her sessions, including couple play-coaching, women discovering their dominant side, and an extended chastity adventure through Berlin involving rules, check-ins, a prison room and a very official-sounding arousal ban. Somehow, between all the whips, cages and roleplay, it becomes a conversation about trust, embodiment and giving yourself permission to want what you want.

We also talk about why BDSM can feel almost meditative, how safe words and communication make deeper play possible, and why pleasure deserves a place next to massages, facials and all the other things we casually call self-care. Funny, juicy, thoughtful and surprisingly wholesome in the dirtiest possible way.

Find Lady Vyra: https://ladyvyra.com/ | Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ladyvyra_2/

I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!

Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under [email protected]

More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)

My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples

My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook

My book SAVED IN NOTES... on Amazon (E-Book, Softback & Hardback)

Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com

DEEP&DIRTY (DE): Augenkontakt ist intimer als Nacktheit. Und Oral ist meditativ.

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In dieser Folge geht es um zwei Themen, die erst mal wirken, als hätten sie nicht viel miteinander zu tun: Augenkontakt und Oral. Ich schaue mir beides erst getrennt an und merke dann ziemlich schnell: Am Ende geht es bei beiden um Nähe, Fokus und dieses kleine innere „Uff, das ist jetzt aber echt nah“.

Es geht darum, warum Augenkontakt sich manchmal intimer anfühlen kann als nackt sein. Warum angeschaut werden so viel auslösen kann. Und warum Oral für manche Menschen etwas Meditatives haben kann: beim Geben durch Fokus, beim Empfangen durch Vertrauen und Loslassen.

Eine Folge über Intimität, Kopfkino, Körpergefühl, kleine peinliche Momente, echte Aufmerksamkeit und die Frage, was passiert, wenn wir beim Sex ein bisschen weniger performen und ein bisschen mehr da sind.

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I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!

Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under [email protected]

More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)

My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples

My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook

Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com

(ENG): Are we headed towards a sexless society?

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Are we headed toward a sexless society, or is desire simply exhausted?

In this episode, I talk about dopamine, doomscrolling, dating apps, consent, body image, self-improvement culture and why intimacy can feel so complicated now. Not to shame anyone for having less sex, but to ask what desire needs in order to feel safe, playful and alive again.

Less performance. More play. Less perfection. More presence. Less self-surveillance. More tenderness.

I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!

Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under [email protected]

More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)

My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples

My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook

My book SAVED IN NOTES... on Amazon (E-Book, Softback & Hardback)

Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com

(ENG): REBECCA MINOR @bi_invisibility: Bi+ invisibility, straight-assumed relationships, identity, motherhood, and finding the words for who you are.

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What happens when you know you are queer, but the world keeps reading your life as straight?

In this episode, I talk to Rebecca Minor, therapist, gender specialist, author, and co-founder of bi+ (in)visibility. We speak about bi+ invisibility, straight-assumed relationships, identity, motherhood, coming out, bisexual men, community, and the question so many people carry quietly: Am I queer enough?

Rebecca reminds us that your actions do not determine your identity. You can be bi, queer, pan, questioning, married, monogamous, a parent, private, visible, or still figuring things out. Your identity is still yours.

About Rebecca: Rebecca Minor is a queer therapist, educator, and founder of bi+ (in)visibility, an online community for bi+, pan, and queer people navigating life in straight-assumed relationships. Drawing from both her clinical work and lived experience, Rebecca helps people untangle identity, belonging, visibility, and what it means to be known. Her work has resonated with hundreds of thousands of people who have spent years wondering whether they are "queer enough" and looking for language, community, and connection. She is also the author of Raising Trans Kids: What to Expect When You Weren’t Expecting This.

Links: Instagram: @bi_invisibility | @gender.specialist | bi+ (in)visibility: genderspecialist.com/bi-invisibility | Rebecca’s book: Raising Trans Kids: What to Expect When You Weren’t Expecting This

I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!

Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under [email protected]

More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)

My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples

My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook

My book SAVED IN NOTES... on Amazon (E-Book, Softback & Hardback)

Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com

DEEP&DIRTY (DE): LOVIS WALTNER - Sexuelle Bildung beginnt an der Supermarktkasse.

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ALLE LINKS ZU LOVIS:Website: https://www.hejlovis.com/ | Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hej.lovis.sxpaedagogik |E-Mail: [email protected]

ÜBER DIESE FOLGE:

Was passiert, wenn ein Kind an der Supermarktkasse fragt, wie das Baby in den Bauch gekommen ist? Oder wenn es in der Badewanne den eigenen Körper entdeckt und sagt: “Das fühlt sich schön an”?

In dieser Folge spreche ich mit Sexualpädagogin Lovis Waltner über sexuelle Bildung, die nicht aus dem einen großen, peinlichen Aufklärungsgespräch besteht. Sondern aus vielen kleinen Momenten im Alltag.

Lovis macht Mut, nicht perfekt sein zu müssen. Wir dürfen sagen: “Das ist eine gute Frage, ich muss kurz überlegen.” Oder: “Das weiß ich gerade nicht, aber ich finde es heraus.” Wichtig ist, dass Kinder merken: Mit diesen Themen darf ich kommen.

Denn wenn Kinder keine Antworten von uns bekommen, suchen sie sie woanders. Bei Freund:innen, im Internet, auf Social Media oder irgendwann in Pornos.

DEEP & DIRTY findest du überall, wo es Podcasts gibt, und hier auf YouTube.

Über Lovis Waltner | Lovis Waltner ist Sexualpädagogin, Sexualberaterin und Jugend- und Heimerzieherin. Ihr Schwerpunkt liegt in der sexuellen Bildung für Kinder, Jugendliche, Eltern und Fachkräfte. Sie arbeitet unter anderem mit Familien, Schulen, Kindergärten und der Kinder- und Jugendhilfe.

In ihrer Arbeit geht es um Körperwissen, Gefühle, Grenzen, Sprache, Selbstbestimmung, digitale Medien und die Frage, wie Erwachsene Kinder und Jugendliche sicher, altersgerecht und unaufgeregt begleiten können.

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I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!

Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under [email protected]

More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)

My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples

My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook

Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com

DEEP&DIRTY (DE): HEIßE GEDANKEN FÜR HEIßE TAGE.

Es ist heiß. Zu heiß zum Arbeiten, zu heiß zum Schlafen, vielleicht sogar zu heiß für Sex. Aber Fantasie hält sich nicht an Temperaturen.

Heiße Gedanken für heiße Tage ist eine Solo-Folge über die Erotik des Unausgesprochenen. Über das Prickeln vor dem ersten Schritt. Über Menschen, die man kaum kennt und trotzdem mitnimmt. Und über Fantasien, die oft ganz leise anfangen.

Und ja, ich habe mich mal wieder ans Schreiben auf Deutsch gewagt. Das ist für mich immer noch ungewohnt, also seid lieb zu mir.

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I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!

Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under [email protected]

More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)

My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples

My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook

Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com