Liz was only five years old when her father died in the Vietnam War. This was to set her life on a trajectory of fear, perfectionism and desperately wanting to be loved by a man. When she got pregnant by a man she had not been with for long, he asked, "What are you going to do?" She didn't want an abortion, but she didn't want to be pregnant. He drove her, and he paid for it. The relationship was over in a matter of weeks after the abortion.