Defy the Norm Podcast

Defy the Norm Podcast

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Defy the Norm Podcast episodes

  • 131 How We Stopped Living by Society’s Rules and Built a Life That Felt Like Ours
    • 00:01–01:22: Robyn and Victor reintroduce Nomads With a Purpose and the Defy the Norm podcast after a long break. They reflect on 11 years of full-time travel with five children and how challenges helped them grow individually, spiritually, and as a couple.
    • 01:22–03:37: Victor describes how trying to remain likable and adapting his personality to each coaching client caused exhaustion and anxiety. His overworked nervous system kept inventing worst-case scenarios and made it difficult to distinguish real danger from fear.
    • 03:37–07:40: They contrast familiar, controlled hardship—such as weight training or jiu-jitsu—with the uncertainty of travel and adventure. Robyn explains that repeated exposure to unfamiliar challenges develops self-trust, self-worth, risk assessment, and authenticity.
    • 07:40–13:19: Their three-part framework for change is to calm the nervous system, step slightly outside the comfort zone, and question whether fearful reactions are based on facts, old conditioning, family patterns, or society’s expectations.
    • 13:19–18:43: Traveling gave their children strong identities, confidence, and the ability to assess risk. Their current challenge is learning how to turn their authentic interests into sustainable work without falling into comparison, competition, conformity, or the pursuit of security at all costs.
    • 18:43–24:55: A six-month European trip removed the pressure of extended-family expectations and strengthened the family as a team. However, Victor’s exhaustion, lack of involvement in planning, and fear of disappointing clients demonstrate how an overwhelmed nervous system can follow someone into even their dream lifestyle.
    • 24:55–34:33: They revisit difficult periods in Bend and Breckenridge, including career setbacks, unsuitable jobs, financial strain, and an RV accident. In hindsight, they see these events as experiences that ultimately led them to their ideal Bend property and a more collaborative marriage.
    • 34:33–40:17: Spirituality helped Victor move beyond seeing himself only as a provider and grinder. He now believes his gifts have a larger purpose and that it is healthy to desire abundance, influence, and income—especially when those resources allow him to help more people.
    • 40:17–45:29: Victor explains his coaching approach: he identifies patterns in movement, posture, breathing, fascia, and emotional stress. He believes healing accelerates when physical retraining is combined with examining the emotions, experiences, and identities being held in the body.
    • 45:29–47:45: Their central family lesson is to stop treating life as a collection of prescribed roles and schedules and begin operating as a team. Families can ask, “How do we want to live, thrive, and wake up excited?” instead of automatically following society’s definition of a good life.

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      48 min
    • A Playful Life: Think To Play

      This is the MINDSET PROGRAM to Robyn's book, A Playful Life: Think, Move, & Eat Your Way to More Fun

      Are you an adventure-seeking woman who would love to have more energy and a strong, capable body? 

      In this book, Robyn shares her mindset, workout, and nutrition plan, allowing her to spend her days chasing outdoor adventures like rock climbing, surfing, mountain biking, and skiing.

      Click here to access the ebook version of A Playful Life for free.

      Click here to order the paperback copy of A Playful Life, which is filled with delicious recipes and all the workouts.

      Click here to sign up for coaching with Robyn or Victor.

       

      1 hr 14 min
    • A Playful Life: Move To Play

      This is the WORKOUT PROGRAM to Robyn's book, A Playful Life: Think, Move, & Eat Your Way to More Fun

      Are you an adventure-seeking woman who would love to have more energy and a strong, capable body? 

      In this book, Robyn shares her mindset, workout, and nutrition plan, allowing her to spend her days chasing outdoor adventures like rock climbing, surfing, mountain biking, and skiing.

      Click here to access the ebook version of A Playful Life for free.

      Click here to order the paperback copy of A Playful Life, which is filled with delicious recipes and all the workouts.

      Click here to sign up for coaching with Robyn or Victor.

       

      15 min
    • A Playful Life: Eat To Play

      This is the NUTRITION PROGRAM to Robyn's book, A Playful Life: Think, Move, & Eat Your Way to More Fun

      Are you an adventure-seeking woman who would love to have more energy and a strong, capable body? 

      In this book, Robyn shares her mindset, workout, and nutrition plan, allowing her to spend her days chasing outdoor adventures like rock climbing, surfing, mountain biking, and skiing.

      Click here to access the ebook version of A Playful Life for free.

      Click here to order the paperback copy of A Playful Life, which is filled with delicious recipes and all the workouts.

      Click here to sign up for coaching with Robyn or Victor.

       

      1 hr 30 min
    • 130 Why Fun is the Secret to Living Your Best Life

      Are you stuck in a cycle of work, responsibilities, and endless routine?

      Join Victor and Robyn as they challenge everything you thought you knew about living a fulfilling life.

      In this eye-opening episode, we dive deep into why fun isn't just a luxury—it's a necessity for personal growth, happiness, and true wellness.

      Discover:

      - Why your "someday" might never come
      - How adventure sports can transform your mindset
      - The truth about health, wellness, and living with purpose
      - Practical strategies to break free from comfort zone limitations
      - Personal stories of overcoming fear and embracing excitement

      Whether you're feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or just curious about injecting more joy into your life, this episode is your wake-up call.

      Learn how to redefine your perfect day, challenge your limiting beliefs, and create a life that makes you jump out of bed with enthusiasm.

      Warning: This episode may cause spontaneous adventure planning, sudden bursts of excitement, and a complete reimagining of what's possible in your life.

      39 min
    • 129 How To Stop Shame From Holding You Back: Live An Extraordinary Life
      In this raw and vulnerable episode, Robyn & Victor explore the complex emotion of shame, diving deep into its origins, impacts, and strategies for overcoming it.
       
      Drawing from personal experiences and insights from Enneagram theory, they discuss how shame can manifest in different personality types, affect relationships, and limit personal growth.
       
      They share their own journeys of confronting shame, offering practical advice on developing self-awareness, building capability, and creating a life of purpose and authenticity.
       
      Listeners will gain valuable insights into recognizing shame triggers, breaking free from self-limiting beliefs, and stepping into their true potential.
       
      Key Topics:
      - Understanding shame across different Enneagram types
      - Personal stories of overcoming shame
      - Practical strategies for self-discovery
      - The importance of developing personal desires and goals
      - Navigating shame in relationships and personal growth
      58 min
    • 128 Communication Is More Than Just Talking

      In this week's episode, we are covering:

      Communication: More Than Just Talking

      One of our biggest struggles has been truly understanding each other. Robyn would talk for hours, feeling unheard, while Victor would listen intently but miss the emotional core of what I was saying. It wasn't about the words, but about the feeling behind them. Victor's perspective was different. He was trying to find the core message, the one sentence that would validate my feelings. But our communication styles were fundamentally misaligned.

      The Power of Understanding Personal Growth

      We discovered that our individual growth paths were crucial to our relationship. Victor, for instance, requires extensive self-care – sometimes up to 4-5 hours daily. This isn't indulgence, but a necessary process of emotional and physical reset. For Robyn, growth meant learning to trust the universe, to understand that I couldn't force change in Victor, but could only transform myself.

       

      Breaking Down Our Communication Differences

      Our Myers-Briggs types play a significant role in how we communicate: - Victor is more focused on feelings, memories, and past experiences - Robyn is driven by future goals, efficiency, and forward momentum. This fundamental difference used to create conflict, but now we've learned to see it as a strength.

      The Turning Point: Rediscovering Connection

      We started spending time together in our hot tub, reconnecting and trying to understand each other's perspectives. We realized that:

      1. Individual growth is crucial

      2. Communication is about understanding, not just talking
      3. Relationships require constant intentional effort

      Our Relationship Toolkit

      We've developed strategies that have helped us:
      - Practice radical open-mindedness
      - Communicate honestly
      - Respect individual journeys
      - Create shared goals
      - Maintain personal growth

      A Message of Hope

      To couples struggling in long-term relationships, we want to say: Don't give up. Relationships are not about perfection, but about continuous growth and commitment.

      Key Takeaways:

      - Prioritize your partnership
      - Communicate openly
      - Maintain individual growth
      - Be patient with yourself and your partner
      - Regularly reassess and realign your relationship

      Our Relationship Course

      We've created a relationship course that breaks down our journey into four key elements:

      1. Understanding personal wounds

      2. Effective communication
      3. Shadow work
      4. Contract renegotiation

      The Secret Sauce: Manifestation and Trust

      Perhaps our most powerful tool has been manifestation. By consistently visualizing and believing in our desired outcome, we've been able to create remarkable experiences – from world travel to deepening our connection.

      Final Thoughts

      Marriage is not a destination. It's a continuous journey of growth, understanding, and recommitment. Some days are harder than others, but the key is to keep showing up, keep loving, and keep believing in each other.

      Resources:

      Our Relationship Course https://bit.ly/betheheromarriagecourse 

      Recommended Reading:

      Gene Keys https://a.co/d/3xgXEPx

      Enneagram Book https://a.co/d/gINIsS2

      Enneagram Cheatsheets https://bit.ly/enneagramcheatsheets

       

      Coaching Services Available

      Free Consult with Robyn https://calendly.com/robyn-nomadswithapurpose/30minconsult
      Free Consult with Victor https://calendly.com/theworkoutwarrior/30minconsult

      1 hr
    • 127 Choosing Your Spouse or Children: A Candid Conversation About Relationship Dynamics

      In a raw and vulnerable podcast episode, Victor and Robyn share their journey of navigating marriage, parenthood, and personal growth.

      Their story reveals a common relationship challenge: The delicate balance between prioritizing your spouse and your children.

      The Roots of Disconnection:

      Robyn candidly admits that for years, she chose her children over her husband. This wasn't a deliberate decision, but a gradual process rooted in several factors:

      1. Changing Dynamics: As their family grew and children became more involved in activities, their relationship shifted from being couple-centered to child-centered.

      2. Unaddressed Expectations: Small feelings of betrayal and unmet expectations began to create distance between them.

      3. Individual Pursuits: Victor's jujitsu and Robyn's yoga and surfing became separate activities that further pulled them apart.

      The Self-Care Connection: A key insight from their conversation is the critical role of self-care. Victor, in particular, requires extensive daily self-care - sometimes up to 4-5 hours - to feel grounded and balanced. This includes: - Listening to educational content - Stretching and mobility work - Breathwork - Workouts - Running - Mobility Therapy

      What Keeps Them Together Despite their challenges? Two things have sustained their relationship:

      1. Open-mindedness: Both are willing to listen and explore new ideas. 2. Self-discipline: Each are commitment to physical health and self-improvement

      The Missing Piece: Shared Vision

      Currently, they're working to develop a shared vision for their future. Robyn emphasizes the importance of not just existing, but actively creating something meaningful together.

      Key Takeaways:

      - Relationships require constant communication and realignment

      - Self-care is crucial, but shouldn't come at the expense of connection
      - Maintaining individual growth while nurturing the relationship is challenging but possible

      Recommended Resources:

      - "The Gene Keys" by Richard Rudd
      - Beatrice Chestnut's Enneagram book on 27 types

      Their story is a testament to the complexity of long-term relationships and the ongoing work required to maintain them.

      31 min
    • 126 Journey to Self-Love: My Transformative Ayahuasca Experience

      Welcome to the Defy the Norm podcast. In this solo cast, host Victor Robledo shares his deeply transformative experience from a recent ayahuasca retreat. Victor and his wife, Robin, have been living a life of adventure with their five children for the past 10 years, and this retreat marks a significant milestone in their spiritual journey.

      Victor candidly discusses his initial trepidations, the build-up to the retreat, and the powerful self-love he discovered. He reflects on his struggles with ADD, anxiety, and past traumas, and how the retreat helped him confront and heal these issues. Through vivid storytelling, he recounts his interactions with the ayahuasca entity, the intense emotional purging, and the overwhelming feeling of peace and clarity that followed.

      This episode is a raw and honest account of personal growth and the profound impact of ayahuasca. Whether you're considering a retreat yourself or simply curious about the experience, Victor's journey offers valuable insights and inspiration. Tune in to learn more about his path to self-discovery and the power of this sacred medicine.

      42 min
    • 125 Navigating Marriage Growth: Communication, Understanding, and Personal Development

      Tired of the constant battles with your spouse? In this video, we explore game-changing strategies that have helped us turn conflict into connection within our relationship. 

      Learn effective communication techniques, conflict resolution skills, and actionable tips to break the cycle of constant arguments. 

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      32 min

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    We’re the Robledo Family and we're here to inspire you to boldly and unapologetically live outside the box, dream big, and question everything. We are here to show you how to DEFY THE NORM. Back in…