Design Your Life On Purpose!

To call this an intense time would be an understatement!  We are in the midst of a pandemic that has taken over 100,000 lives to date.  Add to that, people are vehemently calling out systemic racism and calling for equality. We are watching police violence, protest of that violence.  Emotional and intense times for sure! In this challenging time, we have the opportunity for immense change. . . much needed change.  So how do we allow that change to happen?In this podcast, Cheri doesn’t speak to the specific issues, rather she speaks to a key ingredient for fostering and allowing any kind of permanent change.  This key step is to sit in the murkiness and the discomfort.  To be willing and able to be uncomfortable.  To resist the urge to reach for easy answers but rather remain in the difficult and awkward place between identifying the problem and finding lasting solutions.

In this podcast, Cheri talks about healthy detachment and equanimity; two strategies for staying calm when life comes unhinged, like during a pandemic! She discusses how to be intentionally untethered to things which happen you have no control over. Ways to remain unruffled and at peace in these crazy times.

What will be your new normal after we make it through this corona virus pandemic?  Will you return to the same life you were living prior to the outbreak?  Will you go right back to what you were doing before?  Or will you use this time, the huge expansive pause that most of us are in, to reevaluate your life and make deliberate choices about what your future will hold?In some ways, this crisis gives us as individuals, as a country, and as world the opportunity to press the reset button.  In this podcast, I’m inviting you to use this time to evaluate what you like about your life and equally as important, what you want to change as we go forward into our new normal.  I’m inviting you to willingly press the reset button so you can live the life you’ve always intended.

What do we do when we're thrown a curve ball?  How to we stay in control when things blow up in our face? How do we stay in the driver's seat when a crisis grabs the wheel and takes us way off course?That's definitely what many of us are asking as the coronavirus sweeps around the globe, were are all sheltering in place and we're not sure when or if things will ever get back to normal.So, what DO we do?  That's the topic of this podcast, not the Covid-19 specifically, but rather about how to navigate a crisis.I share with you what I believe to be the key for staying in control when things are out of your control.

We all get confused from time to time and it can be MADDENING!  We want answers and we want ‘em now! But what do we do when the answers aren’t coming?  What do we do when we don’t know what to do???In this podcast, I share with you my own struggles with confusion and lack of clarity. I share what I’ve learned as a doer who can’t “act” my way to new answers.  I talk about how to stop making lists and instead simply listen. How to stop forcing actions and instead try waiting.  How to stop forcing things to happen but rather allow them to unfold.

Do you ever put things off because they seem too hard, to scary, too mundane or not very sexy?  I do!  But I also know that living the life I want REQUIRES that sometimes I do those hard-to-do things!In this podcast I share with you a secret for tackling those pull-your-hair-out tasks so you can move on with the rest of your delicious life.  I call these Power Hours.Listen and learn how to lean into the power of your community and support one another to Get Sh*t Done!

We all make mistakes, am I right?  But are you someone who won’t let your flub-ups go?  Do you continue to flog yourself and beat yourself up for your mistakes? In this podcast, I confess to some bone-headed moves I’ve made lately which reminded me of the need for and power of self-compassion.  I share with you some of the wisdom of self-compassion expert Dr. Kristen Neff and the power of clearing the mental clutter caused by holding onto mistakes you’ve made. Holding on to things that you've done in the past with criticism is definitely clutter, and this podcast will help you Let. It. Go!

We want what we want.  I don't know about you, but I get frustrated when the things I want don't come to me in a timely manner.  Are you like me, and have times where you do "everything" you think you're supposed to do, but what you want alludes you?  Or are you also like me and sometimes just wish things would show up with little to no effort on your part?In this podcast, I talk about the frustration we can feel when our desires and/or our efforts don't produce the results we want in the time we think it should.  I talk about how to keep from giving up when your desired outcome is elusive.  More importantly, I talk about finding that sweet spot . . . the one where you enthusiastically show up to the task at hand while simultaneously understanding that the timing may not be in your control.  Like the Amish saying goes, this podcast is about how to Pray and Move Your Feet.

Wouldn't it be nice if there were a simple recipe that insured you got everything you wanted?  Unfortunately, there isn't. However, I think I've figured out seven ingredients, that when practiced and fully stepped into, bring you closer to your ideal life than you ever imagined. I've observed and learned through my own trial and error, that there are seven necessary actions and mindsets we have to take to live the life that is truly fulfilling.  To live a life that is More Happy and Less Crappy.In this follow-up to Episode 20 of "A Well-Designed Life", I give you the final three ingredients in my recipe for living your ideal life; #5: Being willing to let go of the things in your life that are not working, #6: deliberating creating tension to create the sweet spot and finally, #7: embracing the mysteries of life.

Wouldn't it be nice if there were a simple recipe that insured you got everything you wanted?  Unfortunately, there isn't. However, I think I've figured out seven ingredients, that when practiced and fully stepped into, bring you closer to your ideal life than you ever imagined. I've observed and learned through my own trial and error, that there are seven necessary actions and mindsets we have to take to live the life that is truly fulfilling.  To live a life that is More Happy and Less Crappy.In this episode of A Well-Designed Life I introduce you to the first four of the seven: To take 100% responsibility, to know what you want, to know why you want it and to declare without apology that you deserve it.