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Designing Yourself
By Whitney Hess & Paul McAleer
Designing Yourself episodes
- #10: Too Much Past
Thanks to Ryan MacMichael for this week's topic!
Are regrets really all that bad? In this episode Whitney and Paul dive in and get right to it: why we feel regret, how it's triggered, and how to see it as an opportunity. Then we chat about "bucket lists" — often a plan to head off regrets in life — and share our own life plans, encased in amber, from the website 43things.
Whitney Hess & Paul McAleerDesigning Yourself #10: Too Much PastMP3 | iTunes | RSS
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Links and References in this Episode:
Rent
43things
43places
Leslie Jensen-Inman's piece on The Pastry Box Project:
When I feel in limbo and feel I have no control over anything, I remind myself to be where my feet are.1 hr 13 min - #9: Embracing the Suffering
Whitney and Paul talk compassion and wisdom in this episode, as it pertains to others as well as the self. Does the way we see others affect compassion? What's the difference between empathy and compassion? We also talk about cultivating compassion and how it can be a truly empowering quality.
Whitney Hess & Paul McAleerDesigning Yourself #9: Embracing the SufferingMP3 | iTunes | RSS
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Twitter: @DesigningYou | @whitneyhess | @paulmcaleer
Links and References in this Episode:
Essential Spirituality by Roger Walsh
Tara Brach
A Guide to Cultivating Compassion in Your Life, With 7 Practices
1 hr 15 min - #8: Sam I Am
A butcher, a baker, a candlestick maker. I am a [blank]. What do we get out of making ourselves a noun? In this episode, Whitney and Paul try to conquer the complexities of identity – what it means, how it's formed, and how it effects our relationships with others. Do we create our identities or do our identities create us? Can we encapsulate all that we are in 140 character bios? Plus puns, pop culture and personas!
Whitney Hess & Paul McAleerDesigning Yourself #8: Sam I AmMP3 | iTunes | RSS
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Twitter: @DesigningYou | @whitneyhess | @paulmcaleer
Links and References in this Episode:
Panopticon institutional building design
PEZ Candy
Vintage Ceiling Fan Forums
The Net with Sandra Bullock
Identity with John Cusack
Muji design store
Orphan Black tv series
JetPens.com Japanese pens (and here's Paul's favorite pen)
Fountain Pen Hospital in NYC
1 hr 14 min - #7: Nothing Lasts
Nothing in life is permanent and yet, we try to act like it is. In this episode Whitney and Paul dig deep into what constant change looks and feels like - including how it feels to see someone else change long standing beliefs. We also reflect on Groundhog Day, Robert Frost, and Heraclitus.
Whitney Hess & Paul McAleerDesigning Yourself #7: Nothing LastsMP3 | iTunes | RSS
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Twitter: @DesigningYou | @whitneyhess | @paulmcaleer
Links and References in this Episode:
Groundhog Day iTunes | Amazon
"Nothing Gold Can Stay" by Robert Frost
Heraclitus:
No man ever steps in the same river twice, for it's not the same river and he's not the same man.1 hr 12 min - #6: Being Seen
Is vulnerability necessary for personal growth? In this episode, Whitney and Paul tackle this sensitive topic, revealing their own hurdles with honesty and authenticity. What is the strength in vulnerability? And why is it so hard to let ourselves be seen for who we really are?
Whitney Hess & Paul McAleer#6: VulnerabilityMP3 | iTunes | RSS
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Links and References in this Episode:
Empathy begins with vulnerability by Sara Wachter-Boettcher (pronounced Walk-ter Bett-cher – sorry, Sara!)
The power of vulnerability , TED talk by Brené Brown
New Ventures West, Whitney's coaching program
1 hr 8 min - #5: No Means Yes
Why do we allow distractions to divert our attention and fragment our time, keeping us away from doing what really matters to us? In this episode, Paul and Whitney discuss what it means to concentrate, to pay attention, to focus–which always requires saying no to ourselves and others. When does a desire for productivity begin to diminish the quality of our lives? And is technology to blame or is it just human nature?
Whitney Hess & Paul McAleer#5: No Means YesMP3 | iTunes | RSS
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Links and References in this Episode (yep, just one this week) :
The Power of a Positive No by William Ury
1 hr 6 min - #4: Good Enough
In this episode, Whitney and Paul talk about balance. Can one ever achieve balance? Is it something that one can obtain over time? Is it ever permanent? And are Gummy vitamins a form of balance? (Spoiler: they are!)
Whitney Hess & Paul McAleerDesigning Yourself #4: Good EnoughMP3 | iTunes | RSS
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Links and References in this Episode:
4-Hour Body
Seinfeld Calendar
Lift app
CrowdVine
Things app
Gummy multivitamins
Essential Spirituality by Roger Walsh
Ganesha, Hindu god
Zen Mind, Beginner's Mind by Shunryu Suzuki
1 hr 6 min - #3: Getting to Know You
Becoming aware of yourself, your body, your surroundings... it's tough stuff. In this episode, Whitney and Paul talk about how they've succeeded and faltered with self-awareness through their lives. Also: empathy for others and for one's self.
Whitney Hess & Paul McAleerDesigning Yourself #3: Getting to Know YouMP3 | iTunes | RSS
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Twitter: @DesigningYou (new!) | @whitneyhess | @paulmcaleer
Links and References in this Episode:
Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman
The Power of a Positive No by William Ury
Synecdoche New York: Amazon | iTunes
New Ventures West
Whitney's entry, "How We Pose Shapes How We Feel":
The funny thing about self-awareness though is that we all think we have it. We feel so tapped into our own motivations and desires, the modern, intellectual people that we are. But our concept of self-awareness is grossly limited.Paul's entry, "Head First":
These are the small moves we can make, the small adjustments, that may seem trivial or even nonsensical but really can change our whole selves.Bodywork / mirror work: Paul referenced bodywork but really meant mirror work , and this entry at Blessing Manifesting is pretty great: "Self Care: Mirror, Mirror":
One of my favorite exercises in [Louise L. Hay's book You Can Heal Your Life is] The Mirror. You take a mirror, look into it, looking at your reflection and you say "I love and accept you exactly as you are."1 hr 5 min - #2: Too Much Future
Fear!
In this episode Paul and Whitney talk about one of their favorite topics - no, really - fear. What holds you back, and what keeps you up at night? How do you get past a sleepless night? From there, they discuss living in the future - which may be the genesis of our fear.
Whitney Hess & Paul McAleerDesigning Yourself #2: Too Much FutureMP3 version
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References in this episode:
The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Toile
Zen Mind, Beginner's Mind by Shunryu Suzuki and David Chadwick
Monkey mind: "... a Buddhist term meaning 'unsettled; restless; capricious; whimsical; fanciful; inconstant; confused; indecisive; uncontrollable'."
Merlin Mann's talk "Scared Shitless"
Your Hosts:
@whitneyhess and @paulmcaleer
1 hr 5 min - #1: The Hamster Wheel
You've got to start somewhere.
In the inaugural episode of Designing Yourself, Whitney & Paul talk about the separation of one's self. We allow parts of ourselves to post things in various mediums, but does that give a picture of who we are, fully? Can it?
They also talk about to do lists, starting things, and selflessness versus selfishness.
Whitney Hess & Paul McAleer1: The Hamster Wheel is LifeLink to MP3 version
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References in this episode:
Whitney's essay, "A New Way to Be": "Just being here."
Paul's 1999 website About page: "...the experiment is: how much of this is 'real'? What defines 'real' anyway? That's a question that will be continually stressed and pressed by this site and your visits to it."
Your Hosts:
@whitneyhess and @paulmcaleer
1 hr 11 min
About Designing Yourself
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A podcast exploring design as it applies to life and personal growth.