Diamond Defense Podcast

Content warning: Stalking, domestic violence, homicide, and references to suicide. Strong language.

How do you recognize stalking — and where can you turn for help? Joyce Bilyeu of Sacramento’s One Safe Place Family Justice Center joins Lisa to discuss stalking warning signs, digital surveillance, restraining orders, and personalized safety planning. Afterward, Kellie and Lisa explore common stalking tactics and ways to support someone without judgment. A compassionate conversation about recognizing patterns, finding resources, and remembering that no one deserves to be stalked.

***Show Notes***

Self Defense Resources

• Diamond Defense
  https://diamonddefense.com/resources

Other Resources

• One Safe Place: Sacramento Regional Family Justice Center
  https://www.sacramentofjc.org/  
• California Family Justice Network
  https://www.cafamilyjusticenetwork.org/ 
• Power and Control Wheels
  https://www.theduluthmodel.org/wheels/ 
  Copyright by the Domestic Abuse Intervention Project
• Stalking Prevention, Awareness, & Resource Center (SPARC)
  https://www.stalkingawareness.org/
• Danger Assessment Tool
  https://www.dangerassessment.org/DATools.aspx
  Publisher(s) Johns Hopkins University School of Nursing
  Author(s) Jacquelyn C. Campbell
• The Stalking and Harassment Assessment and Risk Profile (SHARP) is a free, web-based tool with more questions, available at CoerciveControl.org. It is designed specifically to examine stalking and assess the “big picture” of the stalking situation and a victim’s risk at the moment. 
• National Domestic Violence Hotline – (800) 799-7233 (SAFE) https://www.thehotline.org/ 

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Production Team

Co-Host and Co-Producer: Lisa
Co-Host and Co-Producer: Kellie

Special Thanks

Joyce Bilyeu and One Safe Place, Ann Cobb, Kelley Ogden

In Honor of Shalini Thakur and Samantha Cromwell

Music

• Music courtesy of Melodie Music.
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    Title: Fighter; Artist: Christy Panchal Composers: Klotz Christina Elyse Panchal (ASCAP: 1020882000) 50%, Carrozza Gregory Joseph (BMI: 00528390441) 50%
    https://melod.ie/track-details/3300-fighter 

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Content Warning: This episode includes discussion of sexual assault, sexual violence, coercion, and other potentially difficult situations.

Roommates, new friends, dates, and parties—college life brings plenty of new people and situations to navigate. In Part 2 of our Back to School series, Lisa and Kellie talk boundaries, consent, red flags, and practical ways to look out for yourself and your friends. Through personal stories and candid conversation, we explore recognizing concerning behavior, finding support, and helping each other through difficult situations.

Show Notes: 

Self Defense Resources

• Diamond Defense
  https://diamonddefense.com/resources

Other Resources

• Power and Control Wheels
  https://www.theduluthmodel.org/wheels/ 
  Copyright by the Domestic Abuse Intervention Project
• Tea and Consent Video
  https://youtu.be/oQbei5JGiT8?si=gC-NIw3vSN51St3q 

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Production Team

Co-Host and Co-Producer: Lisa
Co-Host and Co-Producer: Kellie

Special Thanks

Ann Cobb, Kelley Ogden

Music

• Music courtesy of Melodie Music.
  • Melodie Music Subscription: Pro Plan, Lifetime

Title: Fighter; Artist: Christy Panchal Composers: Klotz Christina Elyse Panchal (ASCAP: 1020882000) 50%, Carrozza Gregory Joseph (BMI: 00528390441) 50%
https://melod.ie/track-details/3300-fighter 

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Season 2 kicks off with Back-to-School Safety, Part 1. Lisa and Kellie talk about creating your own personal safety orientation for campus — learning your environment, planning for night classes, knowing transportation and emergency options, staying safer in dorms and parking areas, and using your phone as a safety tool instead of a distraction. 

Show Notes: 

Self Defense Resources

• Diamond Defense
  https://diamonddefense.com/resources
• What is a Kubaton? A Kubaton is a small handheld self-defense tool, usually a short, rigid stick carried on a keychain. It’s designed to help with grip, leverage, and striking or pressure techniques at close range, and it’s most effective when you’ve practiced how to use and access it safely. 
• Be sure to check your individual campus policies and local laws regarding personal safety tools. 

Other Resources

• Power and Control Wheels
  https://www.theduluthmodel.org/wheels/
  Copyright by the Domestic Abuse Intervention Project
  
  

Engage with Us!

💎Learn more at https://diamonddefense.com/

💎Have a story you want to share on the podcast? Email us at [email protected] 

💎If you enjoyed the episode, please rate and review it — help everyone shine stronger!

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Production Team

Co-Host and Co-Producer: Lisa

Co-Host and Co-Producer: Kellie

Special Thanks

Ann Cobb, Kelley Ogden

Music

• Music courtesy of Melodie Music.
  • Melodie Music Subscription: Pro Plan, Lifetime

Title: Fighter; Artist: Christy Panchal Composers: Klotz Christina Elyse Panchal (ASCAP: 1020882000) 50%, Carrozza Gregory Joseph (BMI: 00528390441) 50%

https://melod.ie/track-details/3300-fighter 

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After Lisa creates an age-appropriate risk reduction lesson for a young student, she and Kellie explore how to teach personal safety to kids in a way that empowers rather than scares them. The conversation includes awareness, confidence, verbal boundaries, trusting instincts, support systems, and calming tools adults can use, too. 

Show Notes

Self Defense Resources

• Diamond Defense
  https://diamonddefense.com/resources

Other Resources

• Power and Control Wheels
  https://www.theduluthmodel.org/wheels/
  Copyright by the Domestic Abuse Intervention Project
  
  

Engage with Us!

💎Learn more at https://diamonddefense.com/

💎Have a story you want to share on the podcast? Email us at [email protected] 

💎If you enjoyed the episode, please rate and review it — help everyone shine stronger!

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Production Team

Co-Host and Co-Producer: Lisa
Co-Host and Co-Producer: Kellie

Special Thanks

Ann Cobb, Kelley Ogden, Mr. Mattingly, Anna and her mom

Music

• Music courtesy of Melodie Music.
  • Melodie Music Subscription: Pro Plan, Lifetime

Title: Fighter; Artist: Christy Panchal Composers: Klotz Christina Elyse Panchal (ASCAP: 1020882000) 50%, Carrozza Gregory Joseph (BMI: 00528390441) 50%
https://melod.ie/track-details/3300-fighter 

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Dr. Merideth Thompson joins the Diamond Defense Podcast to unpack financial abuse in intimate relationships: what it is, how it overlaps with coercive control, common red flags, safe exit planning, recovery, and how loved ones can help. 

Self Defense Resources

• Diamond Defense
  https://diamonddefense.com/resources

Other Resources

• CAPSA (Citizens Against Physical & Sexual Abuse)
  https://www.capsa.org/ 
• FinAbility
  https://www.finability.org/ 
• Domestic Violence Hotline (in the United States)
  1-800-799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233)
  thehotline.org
• Power and Control Wheels: https://www.theduluthmodel.org/wheels/ 
  Copyright by the Domestic Abuse Intervention Project

Engage with Us!

💎Learn more at https://diamonddefense.com/

💎Have a story you want to share on the podcast? Email us at [email protected] 

💎If you enjoyed the episode, please rate and review it — help everyone shine stronger!

💎Diamond Defense YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@diamonddefense321 

Production Team

Co-Host and Co-Producer: Lisa

Co-Host and Co-Producer: Kellie

Special Thanks

Ann Cobb, Kelley Ogden, Dr. Merideth Thompson

Music

• Music courtesy of Melodie Music.
  • Melodie Music Subscription: Pro Plan, Lifetime

Title: Fighter Artist: Christy Panchal Composers: Klotz Christina Elyse Panchal (ASCAP: 1020882000) 50%, Carrozza Gregory Joseph (BMI: 00528390441) 50%

https://melod.ie/track-details/3300-fighter 

Title: Pendulous Threads Artist: Doug Stronach Composer: Stronach Douglas (SOCAN: 471111593) 100%

https://melod.ie/track-details/6191-pendulous-threads 

Title: Pivotal Moment Artist: Daniel Greis Composer: Greis Daniel (APRA: 779836466) 100% 

https://melod.ie/track-details/3091-pivotal-moment

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Content Warning: This episode includes discussion of emotional abuse, sexual assault, and domestic violence. Please choose how you listen in a way that protects yourself.

Think someone you love might be in an abusive relationship? Tiffiny Newton breaks down red flags, coercive control, trauma bonding, and what actually helps when someone is ready to leave.

Show Notes

Tiffiny Newton’s Website: https://tiffinynewton.com/ 

Self Defense Resources

• Diamond Defense: https://diamonddefense.com/resources
• Domestic Violence Hotline (in the United States): 1-800-799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233)    thehotline.org
• Relationships Australia Victoria RAV — What is Coercive Control? Article: https://www.relationshipsvictoria.org.au/news/what-is-coercive-control/ 

Sexual Assault Resources

• National Sexual Assault Hotline: 800-656-4673 https://rainn.org/help-and-healing/hotline/

Other Resources

• Power and Control Wheels: https://www.theduluthmodel.org/wheels/ Copyright by the Domestic Abuse Intervention Project
• Sacramento Family Justice Center: https://www.sacramentofjc.org/ 

Engage with Us!

💎Discover more at https://diamonddefense.com/

💎Have a story you want to share on the podcast? Email us at [email protected] 

💎If you enjoyed the episode, please rate and review it — help everyone shine stronger!

💎Diamond Defense YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@diamonddefense321 

Production Team

Co-Host and Co-Producer: Lisa 

Co-Host and Co-Producer: Kellie 

Special Thanks

Ann Cobb, Tiffiny Newton, Kelley Ogden, Karin

Music

• Music courtesy of Melodie Music.
  • Melodie Music Subscription: Pro Plan, Lifetime

Title: Fighter; Artist: Christy Panchal Composers: Klotz Christina Elyse Panchal (ASCAP: 1020882000) 50%, Carrozza Gregory Joseph (BMI: 00528390441) 50%

https://melod.ie/track-details/3300-fighter 

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Eight episodes in, we pause to listen back—to the moments when instinct spoke, boundaries mattered, and survival took shape in real time. This mid-season recap revisits discussions of sexual assault, coercive control, and personal safety; nothing is graphic, but some content may be activating.

Self Defense Resources

• Diamond Defense
  • https://diamonddefense.com/resources
• Domestic Violence Hotline (in the United States)
  • 1-800-799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233)
  • https://www.thehotline.org/
• Relationships Australia Victoria RAV — What is Coercive Control? Article
  • https://www.relationshipsvictoria.org.au/news/what-is-coercive-control/

Sexual Assault Resources

• National Sexual Assault Hotline – 800-656-4673
  • https://rainn.org/help-and-healing/hotline/

💎Learn more at https://diamonddefense.com/

💎Have a story you want to share on the podcast? Email us at [email protected] 

💎If you enjoyed the episode, please rate and review it — help everyone shine stronger!

💎Diamond Defense YouTube Channel
https://www.youtube.com/@diamonddefense321 

Show Notes

Co-Host and Co-Producer: Lisa
Co-Host and Co-Producer: Kellie

Special Thanks

Ann Cobb, Kelley Ogden, Aniko, Jessica, Martha, Karin

Music

• Music courtesy of Melodie Music.
  • Melodie Music Subscription: Pro Plan, Lifetime

Title: Fighter; Artist: Christy Panchal Composers: Klotz Christina Elyse Panchal (ASCAP: 1020882000) 50%, Carrozza Gregory Joseph (BMI: 00528390441) 50%

https://melod.ie/track-details/3300-fighter 

Title: Introspection; Artist: Travis A. King Composers: King Travis Adam (APRA: 00400117039) 100%

https://melod.ie/track-details/2459-introspection 

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Content Warning: This episode includes personal accounts of coercive control, emotional abuse, intimidation, and fear within a relationship.

Understand coercive control relationships and the quiet patterns of emotional abuse hiding in plain sight. This episode explores some of the hidden patterns of emotional and psychological abuse, why they’re so hard to recognize, and how awareness can become a path back to safety. 

Self-defense instructor Lisa sits down with Karin, a survivor of a long-term coercive control relationship, for a deeply honest, illuminating conversation. Together, they unpack how control took root, how it escalated over time, and how Karin ultimately found her way out.

This is not a sensational story. It’s a listening story — one meant to give language to experiences many people feel but struggle to name.

Whether you’re questioning a relationship, supporting someone you love, or seeking to understand the quieter forms of abuse that often go unseen, this episode offers insight, validation, and a reminder: control is not love — and safety is possible.

Self Defense Resources

• Diamond Defense
  https://diamonddefense.com/resources
• Domestic Violence Hotline (in the United States)
  1-800-799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233)
  thehotline.org
• Relationships Australia Victoria RAV — What is Coercive Control? (Article)
  https://www.relationshipsvictoria.org.au/news/what-is-coercive-control/ 

💎Learn more at https://diamonddefense.com/

💎Have a story you want to share on the podcast? Email us at [email protected] 

💎If you enjoyed the episode, please rate and review it — help everyone shine stronger!

Show Notes
Co-Host and Co-Producer: Lisa
Co-Host and Co-Producer: Kellie

Special Thanks
Ann Cobb, Kelley Ogden, Karin

Music

Music courtesy of Melodie Music.
Melodie Music Subscription: Pro Plan, Lifetime

Title: Fighter; Artist: Christy Panchal Composers: Klotz Christina Elyse Panchal (ASCAP: 1020882000) 50%, Carrozza Gregory Joseph (BMI: 00528390441) 50%
https://melod.ie/track-details/3300-fighter

Title: A Change in the Weather Artist: Cookie Cartel Composers: Ancheta Mary Beth (SOCAN: 263187068) 50%, Kearley Dan William (SOCAN: 441100030) 50%
https://melod.ie/track-details/2443-a-change-in-the-weather

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Think self-defense is only for the strong or the fearless? Think again. In this episode, Lisa breaks down reality-based training, martial arts options, and the truth about awareness, boundaries, and using your voice as your first weapon. Perfect for anyone ready to feel safer, more grounded, and more confident — no matter your size, age, or starting point.

Self Defense Resources
https://diamonddefense.com/resources

💎Learn more at https://diamonddefense.com/
💎If you enjoyed the episode, please rate and review it — help everyone shine stronger!

Show Notes
Co-Host and Co-Producer: Lisa
Co-Host and Co-Producer: Kellie

Special Thanks
Ann Cobb, Kelley Ogden

Music
Music courtesy of Melodie Music.
Melodie Music Subscription: Pro Plan, Lifetime

Title: Fighter; Composer: Christy Panchal
https://melod.ie/track-details/3300-fighter 

💎Discover more at https://diamonddefense.com/

What do a race car driver, a wolf man, and a maybe–sex-cult recruiter have in common? They each taught a hard-earned lesson in intuition, boundaries, and the courage to walk away. Co-host Kellie turns three wild dating tales — Race Car Driver Man, Wolf Man, and Possible Sex Cult Recruiter Guy — into modern parables on red flags, boundaries, and self-trust. With co-host Lisa, they explore how paying attention and setting boundaries can help keep you safe — with humor, vulnerability, and a little courage thrown in.

NSFW: sexually explicit content, profanity

Self Defense Resources
https://diamonddefense.com/resources

💎Learn more at https://diamonddefense.com/
💎If you enjoyed the episode, please rate and review it — help everyone shine stronger!

Show Notes
Co-Host and Co-Producer: Lisa
Co-Host and Co-Producer: Kellie

Special Thanks
Ann Cobb, Kelley Ogden

Music

Music courtesy of Melodie Music.
Melodie Music Subscription: Pro Plan, Lifetime


Title: Fighter; Composer: Christy Panchal
https://melod.ie/track-details/3300-fighter

Title: Sneaking Around Composer: Andy Scott
https://melod.ie/track-details/1115-sneaking-around 

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