My sisters and brothers in the Lord,
Welcome to Week 7 of Disciples Together on the Way. This is our final week exploring the traditional Christian practice of asceticism or, to give it another name, self-denial. Why is this theme so important? Well, as the Catechism of the Catholic Church clearly states: “The alternative is clear: either man governs his passions and finds peace, or he lets himself be dominated by them and becomes unhappy.” Hence, if we want to be happy…let us continue to learn to practice asceticism.
This week’s challenge is to exercise self-restraint in our speech. More specifically, each day, we’ll read the Epistle of Saint James Chapter 3, verses 1 to12, which is a beautiful meditation on the need to control the tongue.
Each day we’ll attempt to put those verses into practice by becoming more intentional about our speech, working to avoid sins of the tongue and using our speech to bless rather than curse.
The Church has always taught that our words can be sinful, and even gravely so. Each Sunday during the Confiteor, we say: “I confess to almighty God and to you, my brothers and sisters, that I have greatly sinned in my thoughts and in my words, in what I have done and in what I have failed to do . . .”
So how do we sin by our words? Let’s consider a few areas. Do we take the Lord’s name in vain? Do we use swear words, curses, or other profanities? What about gossip or detraction? The sin of detraction is when we disclose another’s faults to those who didn’t need to know.
An aside. As readily as information is spread in our modern society, I sometimes think we have forgotten that detraction is a sin.
Consider this story involving the 16th century saint of Rome, Philip Neri. A woman once confessed to St. Philip that she had spoken to two or three persons of some small hidden fault of a friend of hers. As a penance, St. Philip had her to buy a chicken at the market and bring it to him. Every step from the market to St. Philip she was to pluck a feather. When she finally handed St. Philip the featherless chicken, St. Philip told her: “Now go back the same way, pick up all the feathers you dropped and bring them to me.” She said, “But father, I cannot, for they been scattered over the city.” St. Philip said: “And also your detraction has gone all over the city and you cannot repair it.” Hence, let’s not ignore the sin of detraction.
Let’s consider a few more areas of sinful speech. Do we engage in calumny — false statements that harm others’ reputations? Do we lie? Do we boast or brag? Flattery? Insults? Dirty jokes? Sarcasm? Do we interrupt others when they are speaking? Do we control the tone of your voice, or do we find that we regularly raise the tone of our voice or speak in a bitter tone? Do we shout or yell? And last, but not least, how do we use social media?
Yes, there is much here. But don’t be discouraged! Ask God for help. He doesn’t expect us to become perfect in one short week. Rather, out of love for Him, spend each day growing in virtue in this area. And when you fall short, repent and begin anew.
So, to recap: Our challenge this week is to tame our tongue and to read James 3: 1-12 each day. Next week, we’ll begin a new theme and I’ll be back with another challenge. Until then, may God bless you throughout this coming week, in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Amen.
Yours in Christ,
+ Earl Boyea
Bishop of Lansing