Disability & BDSM

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Narrator:

Auntie Vice (aka Rebecca Blanton) is a kink writer & educator. Their work focuses on psychology, sexuality, and power. They hold a Ph.D in Political Psychology and a BA in Psychology. They run the award-winning blog LoveLettersToAUnicorn.com and host the podcast Fat Chicks on Top.

You can follow Auntie Vice on IG (auntievicensfw, Rebecca Blanton, and Fat Chicks on Top) and Substack; you can also enjoy their blog “Love Letters to a Unicorn” and podcast “Fat Chicks on Top”!

Don’t forget to read their latest book, “Kinky & Complicated: Navigating BDSM with Mental Illness or Neurodivergence” - we will be discussing this book in part 2 of this episode which is available now!

Book Overview:

Kinky & Complicated is for everyone living with a mental illness or neurodivergene and trying to navigate intimate relationships. Mental health conditions and neurodivergence change how people show up in relationships. Atypical brains process information, emotions, and desires differently than is modeled in most relationship advice books. This book is for everyone who lives with or loves someone with an atypical brain.

The book provides a researched-based overview of how various mental health conditions and neurodivergence change the way people understand and interact with the world. This information helps individuals understand that they are not the issue- they are just living in a world not designed for them. It then covers how these differences show up in our relationships. The book covers the complexities of consent when someone lives with a mental illness or neurodivergence. It also covers how consent changes as conditions change over time. It has a chapter about common myths around kink and and mental health. The belief that kink is a healing and can replace traditional treatments, the desire to sublimate self-harm with kink activities, and other common ideas are explained in detail.Finally, the book provides dozens of tools to help people develop the langauge and skills to communicate about the insivible aspects of your illness. It provides worksheets to help plan for changes in mental health conditions and make plans for when you lack ability to clearly communicate about your needs and desires. It also offers several tools to help navigate the health care system.What the Critics are Saying:Kinky and Complicated: Navigating BDSM with Mental Illness or Neurodivergence is an invaluable resource for folks with "neurospicy brains" and/or a brain with a mental health issue, and their partners, as they navigate BDSM. Jill Hamilton, "In Bed with Married Women" podcast, Cosmopolitan, O Magazine

Thank you for joining us for season 2 of Disability & BDSM!

You can also follow the project & Noor on IG @chronicallykinky or on Bluesky @juiceolive

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Narrator:

In Chicago 2009, Saira Barbaric joined the TNG Community and BDSM clubs. Working nowadays as a pornographer, performance artist & nightlife producer, Saira Barbaric is a sadomasochist Switch fascinated by trial and pleasure. They use all pronouns. He’s a non-binary trans, Black, disabled independent artist who currently calls Seattle home.

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Thank you for joining us for season 2 of Disability & BDSM! You can also follow the project & Noor on IG @chronicallykinky.

Narrator:Jeremiah uses he/him and currently calls Baltimore home. He is an art student and creator. He is known as Romeo in the scene, a Sir in training and a pup. You can find him on IG @saintepemir

Keep the Disability & BDSM collection going as a free to access project by pledging $5/month or $50/annually. You’ll also receive access to any written works, tutorials, and more as a thank you.

Thank you for joining us for season 2 of Disability & BDSM! You can also follow the project & Noor on IG @chronicallykinky.

The Narrators:

Val Violet (Ze/Hir, She/Her) is a leather educator, event organizer, and leatherworker based in Seattle, WA. She is a white, butch, trans woman leatherdyke, a disabled, Covid-competent mobility aid user and a Dominant sadist.

chastity vale (she/her) is a white leatherdyke, a submissive, a trans woman, a dyke and a faggot. she is an artist working mostly in interactive fiction and video art, a writer, and a leather archivist and historian. her research has focused on trans women, inclusivity in leather, and submission.

Both run the T Slur Collective: a Seattle-based duo of leather historians, archivists, and educators and a butch/femme leatherdyke couple. Both are trans women, and their experiences as trans women in the leather scene play a big role in their work.

Part 1 Recap: We ended the last episode talking about disability as a political identity, where Val discusses how disabled people are largely ignored and that puts disabled people in the position where they have to be political. Chastity shared that the history of disabled people is not often archived or included and part of that is the lack of care from the state; it wasn’t until the Capital Crawl on March 12th 1990 that the ADA was passed.

Thank you for joining us for season 2 of Disability & BDSM! This is a personally run and funded project, so if you enjoy this episode please consider subscribing for $5/month, it helps with equipment, software and other costs to keep the show running. You can also follow us on IG @chronicallykinky

If you would like to share your story, feel free to email me at [email protected] - I will respond as soon as I can and appreciate your willingness to become a narrator as well as your patience.

The Narrators:

Val Violet (Ze/Hir, She/Her) is a leather educator, event organizer, and leatherworker based in Seattle, WA. She is a white, butch, trans woman leatherdyke, a disabled, Covid-competent mobility aid user and a Dominant sadist.

chastity vale (she/her) is a white leatherdyke, a submissive, a trans woman, a dyke and a faggot. she is an artist working mostly in interactive fiction and video art, a writer, and a leather archivist and historian. her research has focused on trans women, inclusivity in leather, and submission.

Both run the T Slur Collective: a Seattle-based duo of leather historians, archivists, and educators and a butch/femme leatherdyke couple. Both are trans women, and their experiences as trans women in the leather scene play a big role in their work.

Thank you for joining us for season 2 of Disability & BDSM! This is a personally run and funded project, so if you enjoy this episode please consider subscribing for $5/month, it helps with equipment, software and other costs to keep the show running. You can also follow us on IG @chronicallykinky

If you would like to share your story, feel free to email me at [email protected] - I will respond as soon as I can and appreciate your willingness to become a narrator as well as your patience.

Narrator: Carta uses she/her pronouns. She is a disabled transwoman and erotic artist. During the recording you will hear Carta refer to having hEDS - as this interview was recorded over a year ago prior to publishing - she now knows her diagnosis to be clEDS. You can support Carta’s work by visiting cartamonir.art or follow her on IG @yourgirlfriendcarta

Thank you for joining us for part two of our fifth episode of Disability and BDSM! This is a personally run and funded project, so if you enjoy this episode please consider subscribing for $5/month. You can also follow us on IG @chronicallykinky.

Narrator: Carta uses she/her pronouns. She is a disabled transwoman and erotic artist. During the recording you will hear Carta refer to having hEDS - as this interview was recorded over a year ago prior to publishing - she now knows her diagnosis to be clEDS. You can support Carta’s work by visiting cartamonir.art or follow her on IG @yourgirlfriendcarta

Thank you for joining us for part one of our fifth episode of Disability and BDSM! This is a personally run and funded project, so if you enjoy this episode please consider subscribing for $5/month. You can also follow us on IG @chronicallykinky.

Narrator: BunBun uses she/her pronouns. She identifies as a black women, online sex worker, disabled and much more. You can learn more about BunBun on IG @the_divine_matriarch

Thank you for joining us for our fourth episode of Disability and BDSM! This is a personally run and funded project, so if you enjoy this episode please consider subscribing for $5/month. You can also follow us on IG @chronicallykinky.

On a personal note, a big thank you to everyone who’s supported this work and to everyone’s patience. I appreciate you more than you know.

Narrator: Ginger uses she/they pronouns. They identify as an indigenous queer femme, retired sex worker, as well as disabled. You can follow Ginger’s IG @a.ghoul_and_her.curio - below are a selection of photos they’ve shared for the project.

Thank you for joining us for our third episode of Disability and BDSM! This is a personally run and funded project, so if you enjoy this episode please consider subscribing for $5/month.

Conducted over Zoom/Video Conference on September 11th, 2023

Narrator: rae uses it/its/they/them pronouns. It identifies as a trans, queer, non-binary, Hispanic, disabled, poly and kinky person. They’re a 24/7 lifestyle player as well as a sex worker and fetish artist. They also have an invisible (terminal) disability called VEDS.

You can follow Rae on socials @thatpainpup

Thank you for joining us for our second episode of Disability and BDSM! This is a personally run and funded project, so if you enjoy this episode please consider subscribing for $5/month.

Conducted over Zoom/Video Conference on August 20th, 2023