Commentary notes

Questions to ask yourself before deleting a relationship

* In general do you respect the other party?

* You can dislike someone but still respect their abilities, performance, and achievements. You can even like someone with whom you have disagreements.

* Is this a party you should keep open the option of working with in the future?

* What could the downside be of closing the door to future collaborations?

* Perhaps your position on the issue may not be as “right” in part or in totality?

* Maybe you can learn something through a disagreement?

Things to do to keep a relationship with someone after a disagreement

* Don’t say or do anything you can’t take back.

* Demonstrate your interest in that person.

* Keep an open channel. Send a periodic email. Have coffee once a quarter with the person. Pass along articles

* Be patient.

* Be friendly.

* Be genuine. Don’t try too hard.

* Treat people with dignity and respect

* This is how we often treat strangers. Why should we treat people we know in a less civil manner?

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