We get Judged on various aspects since our childhood by our parents, freinds,relatives,society ,culture which creates a hatred or resistance for our being . Universal laws says that whatever we love and hate manifests outside of us .What we don't like In ourself we project outside we attract those people in our life who carry the same personality trait which we hate about ourself .So once we stop resisting those parts of us and start loving it and be in allowance we will stop getting those type of people in our life .so once u discover true love within ,once we stop judging those bad parts inside us we ll stop judging others and we ll Discover true and unconditional love inside us and with the other person