Most people think the hardest part of divorce is getting through it.

But what if the real challenges come after everything is finalized?

In this week’s episode of Discussions with a Divorce Coach, I’m joined by Karen Burr, Esq. an experienced family law attorney and mediator, for a conversation that so many people don’t realize they need—until they’re already dealing with the consequences.

We discus why the biggest mistakes in divorce often aren’t obvious in the moment. They show up later—through post-judgment issues, ongoing conflict, financial strain, and decisions that didn’t fully consider the long-term impact.

And that’s exactly what we talk about in this episode. 

We dive into:

• The myths that keep people stuck or misinformed during divorce 

• Where people waste time, energy, and money—and what actually matters instead 

• The moments when clients say, “I wish I had known this sooner…” 

• How to make thoughtful, informed decisions—even when you feel overwhelmed 

• Why the choices you make now directly shape your life after divorce 

This is one of those conversations that can truly change how you approach the entire process.

Because divorce isn’t just about getting it done…It’s about doing it in a way that protects your future.

Let’s talk about money.

Not just the numbers, the budgets, or the logistics — but what money starts to represent when you’re going through divorce.

Because for many people, this is where things begin to feel really overwhelming.

It’s not just about figuring out accounts or expenses. It’s the questions that come with it. Will I be okay? Can I do this on my own? Where do I even start? The uncertainty can feel heavy, and the pressure to make the “right” decisions can feel even heavier.

It often goes unspoken but money during divorce is deeply emotional.

It can represent security, independence, control, and even self-worth. So when everything feels uncertain, it makes sense that money feels like one of the hardest parts to navigate.

In this episode of Discussions with a Divorce Coach: 5 Questions in 15 Minutes, I sit down with money coach Julia Shteynberg to talk about what’s really going on beneath the surface when it comes to money.

This conversation goes beyond spreadsheets and strategies. We talk about the patterns, beliefs, and habits that shape the way you think about and handle your finances, often without even realizing it.

Julia shares how financial overwhelm isn’t a personal failure but is often the result of unclear systems, unexamined beliefs, and a lack of support. More importantly, she explains how clarity is something that can be created.

Why This Conversation Matters

Divorce is a time when so many decisions need to be made, and money is often at the center of them.

The more unclear things feel financially, the harder it becomes to move forward with confidence. But when you begin to understand your financial picture — and the mindset behind it — something starts to shift.

You move from reacting to responding From fear to intention. From feeling stuck to starting to see options.

A Thought to Take With You

Money isn’t just something you manage.  It’s something that reflects how you think, feel, and make decisions during one of the biggest transitions of your life.

And when you begin to understand that, you can start to a

Divorce is a transition. The more informed you are, the more clarity you have. The more clarity you have, the more confident you feel. The more confident you feel, the more courage you gain.

Your marriage may have ended — your life is not over.

Treat yourself with grace and space today. 🤍

What if keeping the house in divorce… isn’t always the best decision?

For many people, once they’ve asked “Should I stay or go?”the next question comes fast…

“What do I do with the house?”

And for a lot of people, the answer feels obvious.Keep it. Hold onto it. Stay where things feel familiar.

But what most people don’t realize is…this decision isn’t just emotional.

It’s one of the biggest financial decisions you’ll make in your divorce — and what feels like security today can become stress tomorrow.

In this week’s episode of Discussions with a Divorce Coach, I sit down with Stacey Ellison, a Certified Divorce Lending Professional, to talk about what you really need to know before deciding what to do with your home.

And this conversation might change how you think about it.

Because what I see — and what Stacey sees every day — is that many people make decisions about the house based on emotion… without fully understanding the long-term financial impact.

And that’s where things can get complicated.

This conversation breaks down:• What it actually takes to keep the house after divorce• How mortgage qualification works on your own• Options most people don’t even know they have• And how to make a decision that supports your future — not just your present

If you’re navigating divorce — or think you might be —this is one decision you want to get right.

Divorce is a transition. The more informed you are, the more clarity you have. And with clarity comes confidence… and the courage to move forward.

Your marriage may have ended — your life is not over.

(((hugs)))Kimberly

What if the way you think divorce has to happen… isn’t the only way?

Most people go into divorce believing they have two choices: fight it out in court… or try mediation.

But most people don’t realize there is another option.  One that was designed to solve some of the biggest problems people face during divorce.

In this week’s episode of Discussions with a Divorce Coach, I sit down with Dr. Julie Davelman to talk about collaborative divorce and why it can completely shift the experience for families going through this transition.

And it can make a bigger difference than you think…”

Instead of increasing conflict, collaborative divorce focuses on reducing it. Instead of “winning,” the focus becomes moving forward in a healthier, more respectful way.

Because what I see - and what Dr. Davelman has seen throughout her career - is that when conflict takes over, everything gets harder… especially for children.

This conversation breaks down:• What collaborative divorce actually looks like• Who it’s a good fit for• Why so many people never hear about it• And how it can help you move forward with more clarity and less chaos

If you’re navigating divorce — or even just trying to understand your options — this Discussion matters.

Divorce is a transition. The more informed you are, the more clarity you have. And with clarity comes confidence… and the courage to move forward.

Your marriage may have ended — your life is not over.

(((hugs)))

Kimberly

P.S. If you’re feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure of your next step, you don’t have to figure it out alone.

Whether you need clarity, support, or a plan — I’m here to help. www.KimberlyLorahCoaching.com

What if the most important decisions about your children, your finances, and your future were made by you instead of a stranger in a courtroom?

For many people navigating divorce, the fear of a judge making all of the decisions, rising legal fees, escalating conflict, and long timelines can make an already overwhelming process feel even heavier.

What if there was a way to move through divorce with less conflict, more clarity, and a greater sense of control?

That’s exactly why I’m excited to share that a new episode of my Spotify podcast, Discussions with a Divorce Coach: 5 Questions in 15 Minutes is available now.

In this episode, I sit down with David Fein, family law attorney and divorce mediator, to talk about a different path forward — divorce mediation.

Together, we break down:

• What mediation actually is (and how it’s different from going to court) 

• Who mediation is best suited for — even in high-conflict situations 

• How parenting plans are created when children are involved 

• How long the process really takes 

• Whether you still have legal protection in mediation 

• And the often-overlooked emotional and healing benefits of choosing a collaborative path 

One of my favorite takeaways from this conversation:

Mediation moves at the speed of your cooperation — and puts the pen back in your hand. 

You have more control, more clarity, and more say in your future.

Divorce is a major life transition.The more informed you are, the more clarity you have.The more clarity you have, the more confident you feel.The more confident you feel, the more courage you gain.

And remember — your marriage may have ended, but your life is not over.

(((hugs)))Kimberly

"What is a divorce coach — and how is divorce coaching different from therapy?In this first episode of Discussions With A Divorce Coach: 5 Questions in 15 Minutes, Kimberly Lorah introduces herself and explains how divorce coaching helps people navigate one of life’s most difficult transitions with clarity, confidence, and courage.Divorce is not just a legal event — it’s a life transition. Many people have attorneys, mediators, or financial professionals helping with specific parts of the process. But who helps you manage the emotional overwhelm, decision fatigue, and preparation for difficult conversations?That’s where divorce coaching comes in.Kimberly Lorah is a Licensed Professional Counselor, Certified Divorce Coach, divorced single mom, and founder of Blossom Coaching. In this introductory episode, she answers one of the most common questions she hears:“What exactly does a divorce coach do?”In this episode you’ll learn:• What divorce coaching is• How divorce coaching differs from therapy• When it’s helpful to work with a divorce coach• Who benefits most from divorce coaching• How coaching supports people at every stage of divorceThrough short, focused conversations with experts in the divorce field — including attorneys, mediators, financial professionals, and therapists — this series is designed to help you reduce chaos and better understand your options during divorce.Because when you understand your options, you gain clarity.When you gain clarity, you build confidence.And when you build confidence, you move forward with courage.About Kimberly LorahKimberly Lorah is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Certified Divorce Coach who helps individuals navigate divorce with clarity, confidence, and courage. Through Blossom Coaching, she supports people in moving from chaos to clarity during life’s most difficult transitions.🌸 Learn more about coaching programs and resources:https://kimberlylorahcoaching.comConnect with Kimberly LorahWebsite:https://kimberlylorahcoaching.com"