By Suzanne LaGrande
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I spoke with a man this week who offered me advice based on his many years of experience in “the business” . When he was first starting out, he told me that many people had helped him. Now wanted to give back.
I believed his motivations were sincere. The problem was his help.
Ostensibly, the conversation was to help me. But he spent most of his time talking about his successes and the difficulties he experienced.
To every question I asked, he shook his head, and with the heavy side told me that as an outsider, it would be difficult, if not impossible, to do what he had done.
According to him, I had to have certain credentials, the kind that those in the business recognized. Without them, it would be impossible for me to be taken seriously by people in “the business.”
“But, good luck,” he said, and I believed he meant it.
I decided to disregard everything he told me.
Not because he was wrong about what he knows. I'm sure his advice is based on the reality of his experience. I'm sure that if I did some research, I would find evidence that the obstacles he perceives are quite real.
In the past, I have pledged allegiance to these kinds of discouraging realities. Where did they leave me?
Frustrated. Timid, Beholden to the opinions of authorities, who may be willing to share their secrets provided I follow their advice.
Because I believed that these authorities, like this man were right, I concluded, I must not not know enough and so I discounted my own opinions, and retooled my dreams according to the rules of their reality
I didn't dare do anything I was likely to fail at which as it turned out, were all of the things that were worth doing.
Here's what I now know.: To whatever extent you dare to do what you love you set into motion energies that are unpredictable and powerful. doing the things that excite and light you up, create a momentum that travels under an inside barriers and around the limitations that tell you what is and is not possible.
In ignoring naysayers, including the voices of doubt within me, I am giving credence what might be possible.
This may or may not give me a way around the obstacles. But my path is not circumscribed by these obstacles, but by something else.: My visions, my desire, the reality that I am reaching for, even if it doesn't yet exist.
The naysayers could be right. They probably are. But, even with the reality the “real world” on their side. I no longer care.
The exhilaration of trying to do what no one thinks is possible, even me, teels like it's changing the so called “real world.”
It's making me feel happier.
And it's making me braver than I've been in a long time.
It’s one clear indication that I am indeed on my way to becoming a real badass.
P.S.
I’ve created a kind of compass for helping myself discern what advice I will take in and what advice I will disregard. I’ve included some of the questions I ask myself.
I’ve also included a template for you to use to create your very own compass too. Download it below.
Compass of Discernment
In this episode of Disobedient Femmes, Suzanne LaGrande speaks with stylist and founder of Have a Stylegasm, Jennifer Koch. They discuss:
* What style is and how it’s connected to how you showing up and being visible
* What a stylist does and why fashion matters
* How style doesn’t necessarily require spending a lot of money and her “Shop Your Closet” Workshop
* How she incorporates energy work into her work with her clients
* How style can promote self acceptance and greater appreciation of the body you have
To find out more about Jennifer Koch’s work, visit her on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/haveastylegasm/
In this episode of Disobedient Femmes, Suzanne LaGrande speaks with social media and personal branding photographer Julia Mae Hunt. Among other things, Suzanne and Julia discuss:
How taking a photograph makes you vulnerable
What social media photography is
How storytelling is part of both photojournalism and social branding photography
The surprising ways having your picture taken can help you to develop confidence
The kinds of simple changes that over time can make a big difference in physical health as well as emotional emotional well-being
How changes in lifestyle and eating habits have to be enjoyable to be sustainable
How emotional eating needs to be understood and addressed
The importance of loving your body regardless of weight
To find out more about Julia’s work visit:https://www.juliamaephotography.com/
In this episode of Disobedient Femmes, Suzanne LaGrande speaks with women’s weight loss and body love coach, Sarah Hass. Suzanne and Sarah discuss:
How Sarah’s son’s diagnosis of childhood diabetes started her on the path to building a healthy lifestyle for her family
The kinds of simple changes that over time can make a big difference in physical health as well as emotional emotional well-being
How changes in lifestyle and eating habits have to be enjoyable to be sustainable
How emotional eating needs to be understood and addressed
The importance of loving your body regardless of weight
To find out more about Sarah’s work visit:
https://sarahhaaswellness.com/
The podcast currently has 35 episodes available.