Disrupt, For Good

This week, Dylan sits down with Leslie Fhima who opens up about life after The Golden Bachelor, navigating heartbreak in the public eye, and what it really means to stay open to love after disappointment. From reality TV fame to online criticism, Leslie shares how she’s learned to trust herself, embrace vulnerability, and continue choosing connection — even when it’s hard. This episode is a powerful reminder that heartbreak doesn’t have to close us off from life, love, or new beginnings.

Key Takeaways:

1. Heartbreak doesn’t mean the connection wasn’t real. Leslie reflects honestly on her experience with Gerry and why it’s important to honour your feelings, even when a relationship doesn’t work out in the end.
   
2. Staying open requires courage, not certainty. Whether it’s going on national television, dating later in life, or facing public criticism, Leslie shares how openness is less about fearlessness and more about willingness.
   
3. Confidence comes from being comfortable in your own skin. From performing on stage to handling online trolls, Leslie explains how self-acceptance and resilience helped her move through both heartbreak and public scrutiny with grace

Guest Details:

Connect with Leslie @lesliefhima

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In this episode of Disrupt for Good, Dylan sits down with Ben Friedland, Vice Chairman, Co-Head of CBRE Alternative Investments Practice, to explore what truly drives long-term success in business. With more than two decades advising some of the world’s largest private equity and hedge funds, Ben shares his insights on trust, mentorship, negotiation, communication, and why relationships remain the foundation of every great deal. From navigating high-pressure transactions to building credibility that compounds over time, this conversation is packed with timeless lessons for anyone building a career in business.

Key Takeaways:

1. Relationships Are the Real Currency of Business. Long-term success isn’t built on transactions alone — it’s built on trust, credibility, and genuine human connection. Ben explains why the strongest business relationships are cultivated over years, not moments.
2. Communication Creates Leverage. In a world dominated by texts and emails, Ben shares why face-to-face conversations, phone calls, and authentic communication still create the strongest outcomes in negotiations and leadership.
3. Play the Long Game. Ben breaks down the mindset of being “long-term greedy” — focusing on giving clients the best possible advice, building trust, and prioritising reputation over short-term wins.

Guest Details:

Find out more about Ben and CBRE www.cbre.com/people/benjamin-friedland

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In this powerful conversation, body language and sales expert Linda Clemons shares how nonverbal communication shapes the way we connect, influence, and build trust — often before we even speak. From first impressions and confidence to sales psychology, emotional intelligence, and authentic connection, this episode explores the hidden signals that impact every interaction. Whether you’re a business owner, leader, salesperson, or simply want to communicate more effectively, this conversation will change the way you see human behaviour forever.

Key Takeaways:

1. Your body language communicates before your words do. From posture and facial expressions to tone and energy, nonverbal communication shapes how others perceive us long before we speak. Awareness of these “silent signals” can completely change the way we connect, lead, and build trust.
2. Authentic connection is the foundation of influence and sales. People don’t want to feel “sold to” — they want to feel seen, understood, and valued. Linda explains how genuine presence, emotional intelligence, and client-centered communication create stronger relationships and deeper trust in both business and life.
3. Confidence is felt through energy, not just words. The way we show up emotionally and physically impacts every interaction. Whether in leadership, dating, negotiations, or everyday conversations, our energy and nonverbal cues often influence others more powerfully than what we actually say.

Guest Details:

Find out more about Linda and her work https://lindaclemons.com

Follow Linda on Instagram @lindaclemons https://www.instagram.com/lindaclemons/

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In this episode of Disrupt for Good, Dylan sits down with Sandra Mason to talk about her experience on The Golden Bachelor and Bachelor Mansion Takeover, the confidence that comes from putting yourself out there, and why standing out matters more than playing it safe.

From applying for reality TV on a whim, to navigating life, dating, reinvention, and high-pressure group dynamics on national television — Sandra shares the mindset that’s helped her embrace opportunity at every stage of life. This conversation is equal parts hilarious, insightful, and unexpectedly empowering.

Whether it’s dating, career pivots, or chasing something new, this episode is a reminder that it’s never too late to try something different.

Key Takeaways:

1. The “Why Not?” mindset can change your life. Some of the biggest opportunities come from taking chances before you feel fully ready. Sandra shares how a simple “why not?” led her from viewer to contestant on national television.

2. Standing out matters more than fitting in. From submitting unconventional photos to embracing her personality unapologetically, Sandra proves that authenticity and individuality are often what make people memorable.

3. Confidence comes from experience, not perfection. Whether it’s dating, trying new things, or stepping into unfamiliar environments, confidence is built by showing up, taking risks, and learning as you go.

Guest Details:

Follow Sandra on Instagram @sandrathejoy

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In this episode, Dr. Ryan Neinstein breaks down what really drives success in today’s world — and it’s not just skill. From building a globally recognised brand to creating deep trust with patients, he shares why connection, clarity, and emotional intelligence matter more than ever.

This conversation dives into the shift from traditional expertise to human-first leadership, why being “for everyone” actually weakens your brand, and how the most successful businesses today are built on authenticity, not perfection.

Key Takeaways:

1. Your brand isn’t what you say — it’s what people feel. A brand is simply what people think about you when you’re not in the room. If that message isn’t clear and authentic, it won’t stick.

2. Trust is built through care, not credentials. People don’t choose you because of how impressive you are — they choose you because they feel seen, understood, and genuinely cared for.

3. Being specific attracts the right people. Trying to appeal to everyone weakens your impact. The clearer you are about who you serve and how, the stronger your brand becomes.

Guest Details:

Dr. Ryan Neinstein, Plastic Surgeon of Neinstein Plastic Surgery.

Website - neinsteinplasticsurgery.com

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In this episode of Disrupt for Good, Tammy Ly shares the unfiltered reality behind her journey from small-town beginnings to the high-pressure worlds of real estate and reality TV.

From navigating The Bachelor franchise to building a multi-state real estate career and designing standout spaces, Tammy opens up about growth, resilience, and what it really takes to succeed in competitive industries. She dives into the emotional toll of being in the public eye, the lessons learned from criticism, and how she’s evolved into a more grounded, self-aware version of herself—without losing her edge.

This is a conversation about ambition, identity, and backing yourself—even when the spotlight is intense.

Key Takeaways:

1. Growth comes from pressure, not comfort
Tammy’s experience on reality TV forced her to confront her flaws, triggers, and insecurities in a very public way—accelerating her personal growth in ways most people never experience.

2. Your edge is your advantage
From “double dipping” across real estate, insurance, and design to embracing her bold personality, Tammy proves that leaning into your uniqueness is what sets you apart in saturated industries.

3. Success is built on resilience (and support)
Behind the ambition is a strong support system—Tammy highlights the importance of partnership, mentorship, and community in sustaining long-term success.

Guest Details:

Tammy Ly - Real Estate Agent and reality star on The Bachelor, Bachelor in Paradise, and Bachelor Mansion Takeover. Follow on Instagram http://instagram.com/tammykayly

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From juggling three kids and a booming real estate career to starring on Selling Sunset, Maya Vander shares what it really takes to succeed in one of the most competitive industries in the world.

In this episode, Maya opens up about building her career from scratch in both LA and Miami, the realities behind reality TV, and the balancing act of growing a business while protecting your reputation. She gets candid about burnout, boundaries, and why success today looks very different from when she first started.

This is a grounded, no-BS conversation about playing the long game, staying true to yourself, and building a career that actually supports your life—not consumes it.

Key Takeaways:

1. Real estate is a long game—not a highlight reel
What you see on TV isn’t the full story. Behind the glamour is years of grinding, side jobs, and slow momentum before things click.

2. Protect your reputation over short-term attention
Maya intentionally avoided drama on TV because her real business—and credibility—mattered more than fleeting fame.

3. Success evolves (and it’s more practical than you think)
For Maya, success isn’t private jets—it’s financial stability, freedom, and being able to support her family while doing meaningful work.

Guest Details:

Maya Vander - Real Estate Agent and Star of Netflix's Selling Sunset - https://www.mayavander.com/

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In this episode of Disrupt for Good, Dylan sits down with Hilary Musser—real estate developer, entrepreneur, and star of Members Only—to unpack what it really takes to build success in one of the world’s most competitive luxury markets.

With over 30 years in real estate, Hilary shares how she carved out her name in Palm Beach through trust, instinct, and unapologetic honesty—without relying on traditional advertising. From multimillion-dollar deals to designing a record-breaking luxury home, she reveals the mindset, risks, and resilience behind her success.

The conversation also goes behind the scenes of reality TV, exploring what Members Only doesn’t show—from the intense filming schedule to the realities of building a personal brand on screen. 

Key Takeaways: 

1. Trust is your greatest currency
Hilary built her entire business through word of mouth—proving that in high-stakes industries, reputation, honesty, and relationships matter more than any marketing strategy.

2. Big opportunities come from fast decisions
Some of her most successful projects—including a major luxury development—came from acting quickly and backing her instincts when opportunities appeared unexpectedly.

3. Success is built on resilience, not perfection
From construction challenges to scenes being cut from a global TV show, Hilary highlights that setbacks are inevitable—but staying focused and adaptable is what sets successful people apart.

Guest Details:

Hilary Musser - Real Estate Developer, and Star of Netflix's Member's Only ⁠https://hilarymusserhomes.com

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Recently retired tech teacher Janet Elias joins Dylan for a candid, entertaining, and eye-opening conversation about her 22-year career in New York City education—and what she’s doing next.

From going viral during COVID with her students, to exposing real issues in schools through social media, Janet shares how she turned content into impact. She dives into the realities teachers face behind the scenes, including spending tens of thousands of their own money on classrooms, navigating difficult leadership dynamics, and the growing challenges of technology and student wellbeing.

Beyond the classroom, Janet also opens up about her unexpected life as a business owner, running a high-end car wash on Long Island, and what entrepreneurship has taught her about people, service, and leadership.

This episode is equal parts inspiring, confronting, and full of personality—offering a rare, unfiltered look at education, influence, and knowing when it’s time to move on.

Key Takeaways:

1. Influence can create real-world change What started as fun TikToks during COVID turned into a powerful platform—helping teachers, exposing issues, and even forcing real change within schools.

2. The education system has normalised the wrong things From teachers spending their own money to a lack of accountability in schools, Janet challenges long-standing norms and calls out what’s no longer working.

3. Adaptability is a lifelong advantage Whether it’s pivoting careers, embracing new technology like AI, or running a business, Janet’s journey shows that growth doesn’t stop—and reinvention is always possible.

Guest Details:

Janet Elias - ⁠https://www.mselias.com⁠

⁠@mseliaschickgeek⁠

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In this episode, we sit down with criminal defense attorney Jason Russo to explore what really happens inside the justice system—and why his role is often misunderstood.

From starting his career as a prosecutor to defending clients facing life-altering charges, Jason shares the experiences that shaped his perspective on justice, truth, and human nature. He opens up about high-stakes cases, including wrongful convictions, and the responsibility that comes with advocating for someone’s life.

This conversation challenges common misconceptions about guilt, fairness, and what it truly means to “defend” someone—revealing a side of the legal system most people never see.

Key Takeaways:

1. The role of a defense attorney isn’t about guilt—it’s about rightsEven when someone admits wrongdoing, the legal system must still prove guilt properly. Defense attorneys exist to ensure fairness, accountability, and protection of individual rights.

2. The justice system is more complex than people thinkFrom jury misconceptions to the burden of proof, many people misunderstand how the system actually works—especially the idea that defendants don’t have to prove their innocence.

3. Empathy and communication are just as important as legal skillWorking with clients and their families requires emotional intelligence, trust, and constant communication—especially during the most difficult moments of their lives.

Guest Details:

Jason Russo - Attorney at Law, Gaitman & Russo

Website: https://www.notguiltyli.com

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