Be selfish. Be utterly and beautifully and divinely selfish with regards to what seeds you allow to be planted in your Garden. Your Garden is your mind. The seeds are the thoughts you allow to take root there. A wise gardener chooses lovingly and carefully what it is they wish to plant, and builds fences around their precious seeds to protect them from those who would do them harm. And then, once the seeds have fully matured, and borne flower and fruit, the wise gardener can give freely and abundantly, even to those who would not have respected it. Cultivate your mind (and thus your reality) with wisdom and love.