This week, we chat about the viral Op Ed from Matthew Fray who counsels men in ways to save their marriages. Is it good for a white man to step up and raises these issues that have been historically dominated by women? What should the role of a husband be in 2020? Why are gender roles in heterosexual marriages still so segregated? 

We share our thoughts on Australia’s response to the protests in the US, and the performance of virtue and a desire for social justice. Attention and care is not a performance. Why has performing virtue become the norm? 

Discussed this week:

The Good Men Project 

Articles

Deaths Inside: Every Indigenous Death in Custody since 2019 (The Guardian, April 2019) 

The Man Who Coaches Husbands on How to Avoid Divorce (NYTtimes, 2020)

She divorced me because I left dishes by the sink (HuffPost, 2016)

Michelle Obama & Roxane Gay’s Responses (Women’s Agenda, 2020)

8 minutes and 46 seconds: How George Floyd was killed in Police Custody (NYTimes, 2020)

Books

Becoming (Michelle Obama, 2018) 

Seven Fallen Feathers (Tanya Talaga, 2017) 

Boys & Sex: Young Men on Hookups, Love, Porn and Consent (Peggy Orenstein, 2020)

Songs

Across the Universe, Fiona Apple (dir. Paul Thomas Anderson, 1998)

Films/Series

This is where I Leave You (dir. Shawn Levy, 2014)

Jeffery Epstein: Filthy Rich (Netflix, 2020) 

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