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Journal Day 5b: Journaling to Combat Gaslighting

Understanding Gaslighting and the Power of Journaling

In this episode of Divorce Dividends, Valeska discusses the concept of gaslighting, how it affects people's perception of truth, and the role of journaling in reclaiming trust in oneself. Sharing personal experiences, she emphasizes the importance of documenting events as they happen to validate one's reality against the distortions of gaslighting. She also hints at valuable insights from therapy that will be shared in future episodes, and encourages listeners to share their own stories to support others.

02:41 GASLIGHTING COMMENTARY
03:49 JOURNAL 10/20/2020

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[Preparing for Divorce: Five Essential Steps]

In this first content episode of Divorce Dividends, host Valeska Bacon discusses the crucial steps to take when preparing for a divorce. She provides practical advice to help ensure privacy and control during the divorce process. Valeska also emphasizes the importance of being prepared both financially and logistically, while reminding listeners to seek professional guidance for their unique situations. This episode aims to empower those going through a divorce by helping them take control of their lives and prepare for a smoother transition.

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00:00 Welcome to Divorce Dividends
01:36 The Importance of Preparation
03:06 Step 1: Set Up a Private Email
06:10 Step 2: Change Your Passwords
09:49 Step 3: Get a Post Office Box
11:35 Step 4: Open a Separate Bank Account
14:53 Step 5: Get a Credit Card in Your Name
16:55 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

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Journal Day 5: How am I the villain?

[Reflecting on Divorce: Raw Journal Entries and Personal Truths]

In this episode of Divorce Dividends, Valeska shares deeply personal journal entries from October 2020, detailing her emotional experiences during her divorce. She opens up about the stress of asset negotiations, the emotional burden on her children, and the challenges of maintaining her sanity. Valeska also highlights the transformative impact of Byron Katie's book 'Loving What Is' on her journey. She emphasizes the importance of understanding and processing one's own truth, while offering support and resources for listeners navigating similar experiences.

02:22 JOURNAL 10/15/2020
02:46 JOURNAL 10/16/2020
04:02 BYRON KATIE "INTERLUDE"
04:44 JOURNAL 10/17/202
05:46 EXPLANATION

Byron Katie's book Loving What is

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Journal Day 4: & The Kids...

[Navigating Divorce: Raw Emotions and Reflections]

In this heartfelt episode, Valeska reads a deeply personal journal entry detailing an emotional experience involving her children and the complexities of co-parenting after divorce. She reflects on the turmoil, fears, and sadness she felt during the transition, touching on the importance of journaling as a means to process and understand her emotions. Valeska also shares valuable insights and coping strategies, aiming to provide support and understanding to listeners who might be facing similar challenges. She emphasizes the significance of being honest with oneself and seeks to foster a community of mutual support through shared experiences.

00:05 END OF ENTRY 10/20/2020
06:59 END OF JOURNAL ENTRY 10/5/2020

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Journal Day 3: E + R = O

[Navigating Life's Events... Your Response Matters]

In this episode, Valeska discusses the concept of how events, often beyond our control, can be navigated by focusing on our response. The outcome of any situation is shaped by how we choose to respond. Valeska encourages listeners to try this approach when faced with challenges.

00:00 Introduction to E+R=O

00:04 Understanding the Event (E)

00:12 The Power of Response (R)

00:19 Shaping the Outcome (O)

00:19 Practical Application

00:20 Final Thoughts

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In this episode, your host, Valeska Bacon, pivots to a deeply personal narrative, sharing raw and authentic reflections of a difficult time in her life. She recalls the events leading up to her divorce and the challenges she faced, including a cross-country trip to care for an ailing loved one during the early days of the COVID-19 pandemic. The episode ends with a teaser for the next, where she will read a poignant journal entry from the day her former husband asked for a divorce. The host invites listeners to engage, reflect, and look forward to future episodes featuring various professionals.

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In this heartfelt episode, Valeska shares insights from her journal during her divorce, recounting the emotional struggles and the parallels between her experiences and her children's. She discusses the impact of memories from her own childhood, the concept of epigenetics, and the process of dealing with feelings of abandonment and self-worth. Valeska invites listeners to share their own stories to foster a sense of community and support.

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In this emotionally raw episode of Divorce Dividends, your host, Valeska Bacon,  reads from her personal journal, recounting the early days of her divorce in 2020. The journal entries touch on feelings of fear, sadness, and the struggle to maintain a relationship with their children amid the turmoil. Valeska reflects on the hindsight gained over the years, acknowledging the pain but also holding onto hope and love for her children. She invites listeners to share their own stories and offer solidarity and support.

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