Divorce is a great way to discover your identity. It is a slow and bumpy process to recovery and healing. Losing your partner and the dream of having a family together feels like death because it is. In my opinion and experience I can say that it's okay to not feel okay and crumble and brake down. Dwelling and grieving is not only beneficial but crucial for healing the heart. Be careful who you listen to, because everybody has an opinion. Not because they love you, means that their advice is good for you. Take advantage of the opportunity that life is presenting to you in the mist of the struggles. Learn to love yourself the right way.