It is finally time to have Tamir Berkman on my podcast! Divorce is a painful and emotional experience, and we often fail to acknowledge that it can be incredibly challenging for men. In this episode, who better to have on than Australian Tamir Berkman, the founder of Divorce Cowboy, who explores men's unique difficulties during divorce and separation. Tamir's program offers emotional support and tools for men to navigate the challenging emotions of divorce, including the suppression of emotions, identity crises, and blame games. 

Furthermore, Tamir discusses the importance of empathy in negotiation tactics, which can lead to better outcomes for everyone involved. Lastly, Tamir touches on the troubling trend of labeling ex-partners with personality disorders without proper diagnosis or understanding of mental health issues. 

Today's episode sheds light on men's unique challenges during divorce and provides valuable insights into coping and moving forward during difficult times. This episode is a MUST-LISTEN for women going through a divorce to learn about the other side!

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Tamir Berkman is a divorce coach for men who have been through a separation. Tamir understands firsthand the pain, stress, and confusion of divorce.

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About The Podcast

This podcast invites highly sought-after divorce professionals to share their guidance to all women listening. The intent is to share tips that affluent women can use to maintain their lifestyle during and post-divorce.

Hosted by Olivia Summerhill, a Certified Financial Planner, Divorce Specialist, and Money Coach who discreetly helps high-net-worth women in divorce with their financial questions.

Website | www.summerhillfirm.com

LinkedIn | www.linkedin.com/in/oliviasummerhill 

Grief is a universal human experience that can arise from losing a loved one or going through a divorce. It can be incredibly challenging and painful, filled with various emotions and complexities.  

Join us in this episode as we welcome Lizzie Pickering, a renowned Speaker, and Grief Investigator. Lizzie shares what she does as a grief investigator and her upcoming trip to the British countryside, a personal journey to find solace and healing in nature. Her favorite part of her work is providing a safe space for individuals to share their thoughts, emotions, and memories of their loved ones without judgment. (This includes your ex and the life you thought you would have!!) She understands the importance of creating a non-judgmental environment for individuals to express their grief openly and without fear of criticism.

Discover the power of grief investigation with Lizzie, and find solace in a judgment-free space.

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About Lizzie Pickering

Lizzie Pickering is a Speaker, Grief Investigator, and Film and Podcast producer. Her primary work is offering Grief Guidance to companies through presentations, podcasts, and 1:1 sessions. Her unique advantage is that she is not a counselor or therapist (there are so many good ones). Still, she has 20 years of experience investigating responses to shock, trauma, and grief through her films, podcasts, and the years she spent caring for her terminally ill eldest child, Harry. She helps to translate and navigate the confusion around grief with reading lists, self-help practices, and knowledge of how to navigate loss and dramatic change.

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About The Podcast

This podcast invites highly sought-after divorce professionals to share their guidance with all women listening. The intent is to share tips that affluent women can use to maintain their lifestyle during and post-divorce.

Hosted by Olivia Summerhill, a Certified Financial Planner, Divorce Specialist, and Money Coach who discreetly helps high-net-worth women in divorce with their financial questions.

Website | www.summerhillfirm.com

LinkedIn | www.linkedin.com/in/oliviasummerhill 

Divorce is emotionally draining and challenging, especially for women not used to handling finances in their previous relationships. 

Working with a financial advisor who understands your situation and cares can help you set the right financial objectives in this new season. Not just a plan for the near future, but they can also create a long-term plan for managing your money and growing your wealth. Working with the right financial advisor can be an excellent approach to boosting your financial confidence during divorce and beyond.

In this episode, Jenifer Sapel is a Financial Advisor and the Founder of Utor Wealth, a company on a mission to help women increase their financial confidence and independence. She shares what she is focusing on as a financial advisor and how she creates financial confidence in women who are going through a divorce and don't have the confidence to handle finances. Jenifer also explains what independence means in the financial world. 

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About Jenifer Sapel

Jenifer Sapel ChFC®, WMCP®, founder of Utor Wealth, poet, mother, athlete, and begrudging lover of nature, is an accomplished financial advisor and 40-something who uses F bombs frequently. With two kids under 4 and caregiving for an autistic niece, she enjoys learning to love her size 14 body, laughing with tiny humans, and squeezing an audiobook in whenever possible. She is busy crushing the patriarchy by loving herself, creating solid boundaries, and showing more women to own and build wealth at her financial planning firm.

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About The Podcast

This podcast invites highly sought-after divorce professionals to share their guidance with all women listening. The intent is to share tips that affluent women can use to maintain their lifestyle during and post-divorce.

Hosted by Olivia Summerhill, a Certified Financial Planner, Divorce Specialist, and Money Coach who discreetly helps high-net-worth women in divorce with their financial questions.

Website | www.summerhillfirm.com

LinkedIn | www.linkedin.com/in/oliviasummerhill 

The current divorce system is broken, and many affluent women cannot afford a lawyer, while those who can fear getting caught up in a long, messy, expensive ordeal. Hello Divorce aims to solve these problems by embracing technology to make the divorce process easier for its customers, providing plain English instructions for its digital tools, and offering expert help for those who need it.

Hello Divorce is a startup founded by family law attorney Erin Levin that provides digital tools combined with expert help from lawyers, financial advisors, and mediators to help people navigate the divorce process. The company's three-step approach aims to make divorce easier, kinder, and less expensive by simplifying the procedural part of the divorce process and offering expert help to negotiate a fair agreement for both spouses.

In addition to divorce-related resources, Hello Divorce provides:

Erin Levine emphasizes the importance of trusting one's gut during divorce and recommends other divorce resources, including books and podcasts. 

Tune in to this episode to learn more about how technology can help make divorce easier.

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About Erin Levine

Erin was a divorce lawyer for 17 years and a certified family law specialist. She's been a private judge, mediator, and litigator. Erin knows how broken, toxic, wildly inefficient, and unreasonably expensive the family law system is. Erin set out to revolutionize how consumers interact with the law and provide a kinder, more accessible, and cheaper pathway to divorce. Erin's access to justice work has been recognized by the legal industry and beyond, with awards and recognition from Women Founders Network, TechCrunch, Vice, Forbes, and the American Bar Association.

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About The Podcast

This podcast invites highly sought-after divorce professionals to share their guidance with all women listening. The intent is to share tips that affluent women can use to maintain their lifestyle during and post-divorce.

Hosted by Olivia Summerhill, a Certified Financial Planner, Divorce Specialist, and Money Coach who discreetly helps high-net-worth women in divorce with their financial questions.

Website | www.summerhillfirm.com

LinkedIn | www.linkedin.com/in/oliviasummerhill 

Divorce may be a difficult and stressful experience for anybody. But with the correct strategy, you can manage the process to avoid friction and increase your chances of a good ending. A range of tools and approaches are available to assist you in achieving your objectives and moving ahead in your life, ranging from collaborative divorce to postnuptial agreements. 

Andrea Vacca is the founder of Vacca Family Law Group and a collaborative divorce attorney and mediator. She shares what collaborative divorce is and its importance to people undergoing a divorce—the benefits of mediation and collaborative approaches for wealthy clients, especially with finances. She also talks about her thoughts on positive psychology and how it relates to divorce, which can be a valuable tool for helping individuals cope with the emotional challenges of divorce and move forward positively. 

Tune in to this episode for valuable insights about collaborative divorce! 

Topics Discussed 

Andrea's definition of collaborative divorce and its importance 

Benefits that mediation and collaborative approaches can offer to wealthy clients 

Andrea's thoughts on Positive Psychology and how it relates to divorce 

Should women file quickly for divorce or not 

What is a postnuptial agreement, and can postnuptial hurt a marriage 

Advice if you are considering divorce 

About Andrea Vacca 

Andrea is a collaborative divorce attorney and mediator; she's been practicing law for about 30 years and lives in Manhattan, New York City. She is a founder of a firm called Vacca Family Law Group, which is exclusively a firm that only works with couples who want to stay out of court. They helped them through collaborative divorce, mediation, and negotiation. Their whole goal is to help couples come to agreements that speak to what's important to them and do what's best for their children so they can move on and have the best life they can have on the other side of their marriage. 

Andrea graduated from SUNY College at Buffalo with a B.A. in Journalism and received her J.D. from Albany Law School of Union University. She was admitted to the New York State Bar in 1993 and the Federal Bar, N.D.N.Y. in 1994. She earned a Certificate in Positive Psychology in 2013. 

Connect with Andrea 

Website | www.vaccalaw.com 

Instagram | @vacca_familylaw 

Linkedin | www.linkedin.com/in/andreavacca and www.linkedin.com/company/law-office-of-andrea-vacca 

About The Podcast 

This podcast invites highly sought-after divorce professionals to share their guidance with all women listening. The intent is to share tips that affluent women can use to maintain their lifestyle during and post-divorce. 

Hosted by Olivia Summerhill, a Certified Financial Planner, Divorce Specialist, and Money Coach who discreetly helps high-net-worth women in divorce with their financial questions. 

Website | www.summerhillfirm.com 

LinkedIn | www.linkedin.com/in/oliviasummerhill 

Keywords: Divorce collaborative divorce mediation collaborative divorce process Attorney Positive psychology Postnuptial

Divorce for Wealthy Women

Simplifying Divorce Through Technology: The Benefits of Using DComply with Marco Munoz

There are a lot of tools that can help women and children go through a divorce with more ease and efficiency. And we’ll talk more about that in this episode.

Joining us is Marco Munoz, the Co-Founder of the DComply app. DComply is the #1 co-parenting app on the market today. Every divorced parent deals with child support and shared expenses, and this app will help minimize divorce conflict over money.

We talk about Marco’s personal experience with co-parenting troubles when it comes to sharing financial responsibilities with his ex-wife. He also shares methods and techniques on how to make co-parenting easier.  We talk about how women going through a divorce can better manage their finances and have a better ex-relationship.

If you want to streamline your finances and how you collect child support, listen to this episode!

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About Marco Munoz

Marco Munoz, co-founder of DComply. Marco has 20 years of experience in technology, but primarily in sales leadership, operations, and account management. 

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About The Podcast

This podcast invites highly sought-after divorce professionals to share their guidance with all women listening. The intent is to share tips that affluent women can use to maintain their lifestyle during and post-divorce.

Hosted by Olivia Summerhill, a Certified Financial Planner, Divorce Specialist, and Money Coach who discreetly helps high-net-worth women in divorce with their financial questions.

Website | www.summerhillfirm.com

LinkedIn | www.linkedin.com/in/oliviasummerhill

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'My past was always just beneath the surface. I couldn't look into someone's eyes without them knowing the truth. The truth is...The day I met Jeremy changed me forever. More than once, I thought it would be my last day. The feelings of despair were so intense I couldn't look at me in the mirror. I was so ashamed. The double life, the $94 million in stolen money, and the FBI investigation. What other choice did I have? Behind my brown eyes and long brown hair and the seemingly perfect life—I am a woman who experienced pain and trauma far beyond my years. Finally, I am ready to look into your eyes and share my story—there is a chance it can help you too.'

Author Kimberly Blackburn shares her story of breaking the cycle of abuse in her new book, Dirty Love. She is working to build a community for women to better their relationships and feel supported while talking about serious issues that are still very prominent in our society. She knows her work will inspire other wealthy women to live a more authentic life. 

Some topics and questions covered: 

-Trauma, materialism, abuse, healing journey, single parenting

-How did your lavish lifestyle play into the cycle of abuse you experienced in your relationship?

Kimberly's book: Dirty Love

Lisa Zeiderman is Managing Partner at Miller Zeiderman LLP. A Matrimonial Attorney, CFL, and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, she regularly handles complex financial and custody divorce matters for high-net-worth individuals. Named to the Crain’s New York list of Notable Women Attorneys for 2022, a Hudson Valley Best Lawyer in 2022, and a 2021 Best Family Law Attorney for Client Satisfaction by the American Institute of Family Law Attorneys, among other awards, Ms. Zeiderman is also a founding member of the American Academy of Certified Financial Litigators and a member of the panel for Attorneys for Children. 

In addition to authoring a well-read blog on Psychology Today, “Legal Matters: Understanding Mental Health Issues as They Apply to Divorce and Child Custody,” Ms. Zeiderman is regularly published in Financial Advisor Magazine, the New York Law Journal, and various other publications, quoted on issues ranging from financial empowerment to tax matters to child custody. Ms. Zeiderman, a Fordham University of Law graduate, also serves as the Vice President of the Board of Savvy Ladies, Inc., and on the board of LIFT, Legal Information for Families Today.

Today we discuss a range of topics: 

• Setting up a divorce financial checklist

• Figuring out executive compensation, tax issues, stocks, RSUs, bonuses, etc.

• Financial abuse: how to spot it and what to do

• Separation of property: when one spouse owns a business or the two built a business together

• Prenuptial agreements

Visit her site here, if you are in New York and need to consult with an attorney who understands your complex situation.

Worried about your spouse hiding Crypto, and do you not understand the metaverse, FTX, or NFTs? Listen to this episode with Bob and me!

Bob Mayer is the owner and founder of Twenty Second Consulting, LLC. He has close to 20 years of experience in starting, running, and consulting businesses in various fields. He has nine blockchain, cryptocurrency, and NFT-related certifications and advises high-net-worth individuals and companies on those topics. He is a writer and soon-to-be published author, and he lives on a farm in Western Massachusetts with his wife, Carrie. 

Some questions answered today: 

Is crypto easy to hide?

How do you explain NFT's and FTX?

How do you diversify crypto?

What could Tom and Giselle have done differently? 

More information about Tom and Giselle's current situation: Tom Brady and Giselle Bundchen

Celebrity attorney Natalie Elisha Goldberg founded Goldberg LLP in order to help makes sense of the money within the confusing law jargon. As a mother, wife, and attorney, she has made it her mission to help people protect their hard-earned life savings, property, and future. Natalie is an award-winning attorney, best-selling author, a nationwide speaker about women and money, and a fearless cheerleader for her client's success. Natalie founded Goldberg LLP to bring the power of estate planning law to clients and focuses her legal practice on high-net-worth and ultra-high-net-worth families.

Our topics today on the podcast with Natalie include three themes: Estate Planning, Prenups, and Trusts, and answer questions such as You may get married a second time around; why do you need a prenup? What are some of the issues you see around estate planning for affluent women? Why are trusts a MUST?

Listen to Natalie's upcoming Ted Talk, which will be airing at the end of January 2023, and visit her website to learn more here.