Nobody asked how I was coping.

They just expected me to keep going.

And I did.

In this episode of Divorce in Plain English, I talk openly about something I have never addressed directly before: the silence many men carry through divorce.

I share my own experience of working seven days a week, carrying financial pressure alone, watching my mortgage jump to 8.8%, taking out loans to cover bills, and convincing myself I was fine when I wasn't.

This is not a legal episode.

It is a personal one.

We talk about why men stay silent, what that silence costs us financially and emotionally, and what I wish I had done differently.

If you are going through a divorce right now, or know someone who is, I hope this episode helps.

No legal advice. Just plain English from someone who has been there.

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• What divorce actually does to a person emotionally — and why the weight of it is so rarely talked about honestly
• How prolonged financial stress during proceedings affects you psychologically — and what happens when grief gets pushed down instead of processed
• What Dr Venus Olla wishes every person going through divorce knew about their own emotional response to it

Vincent James is joined by Dr Venus Olla — Registered Psychotherapist, trauma specialist and founder of Olla Healing Arts in Windsor, Ontario — for the most personal and important conversation this podcast has ever had. Dr Olla brings over 20 years of clinical experience in trauma, grief and life transitions to a discussion that goes far beyond the finances.

This content is based on personal experience and clinical expertise. It is for information only — not legal, financial or therapeutic advice. Always seek advice from a qualified professional for your specific circumstances.

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I have answered questions about divorce finances for two seasons. In two days I ask the questions I could never answer myself — with Dr Venus Olla, Registered Psychotherapist with many years experience in trauma and grief. Dropping 1st June.This content is based on personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales. It is for information only — not legal or financial advice. Always seek advice from a qualified professional.📩 Free weekly newsletter: https://divorceinplainenglish.substack.com📅 Book a personal session (£95): https://calendly.com/adejames/talk-to-vincent-personal-divorce-experience-session📖 Financial Remedy Roadmap ebook (£25): https://shinajames.gumroad.com/l/drdgzb🎙️ Full episodes on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6co6pfsXEjTLB2XRhXZRCG▶️ YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@DivorceinPlainEnglish

In eight days the most personal and important episode of Divorce in Plain English drops. Dr Venus Olla — Registered Psychotherapist — joins Vincent James for a conversation about the emotional weight of divorce that most people carry completely alone.This content is based on personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales. It is for information only — not legal or financial advice. Always seek advice from a qualified professional.📩 Free weekly newsletter: https://divorceinplainenglish.substack.com📅 Book a personal session (£95): https://calendly.com/adejames/talk-to-vincent-personal-divorce-experience-session📖 Financial Remedy Roadmap ebook (£25): https://shinajames.gumroad.com/l/drdgzb🎙️ Full episodes on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6co6pfsXEjTLB2XRhXZRCG▶️ YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@DivorceinPlainEnglish

There was a moment in my divorce when I realized that nobody was coming to explain the process to me — and that if I did not start understanding it myself I was going to lose things I could not afford to lose.

• Why the fog of not understanding the financial remedy process costs you more than you realize — in money, in decisions and in your sense of control
• The moment Vincent stopped reacting and started understanding — and how that single shift changed everything about how he approached his proceedings
• What 22 years of carrying the financial weight of a marriage actually means in the eyes of the court — and why Vincent found out too late

This content is based on personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales. It is for information only — not legal or financial advice. Always seek advice from a qualified professional.

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📖 Financial Remedy Roadmap ebook (£25): https://shinajames.gumroad.com/l/drdgzb

🎙️ Season 2 of Divorce in Plain English is now live — new episodes every week. Follow on Spotify so you never miss one.

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Form E is not just a form — it is the foundation of your entire divorce case. And most people do not realize that until they have already made mistakes they cannot take back.

• Why Form E is the most important document in the financial remedy process and what the court actually does with it
• The documents you must gather before you fill in a single word — and why starting without them causes costly delays
• What happens when the other side does not complete Form E honestly — and what tools the court has to deal with it

This content is based on personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales. It is for information only — not legal or financial advice. Always seek advice from a qualified professional.

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Season 2 Episode 2 - Grey Divorce: What No One Tells You About Splitting Later in Life | Divorce in Plain English

Nobody prepares you for what it means to rebuild your financial life in your fifties or sixties — when everything you planned together suddenly has to be divided.

• Why the pension — not the house — is almost always the most important asset in a grey divorce
• What most people miss about the state pension and how divorce later in life affects your entitlement
• How the adult children dynamic leads people to accept less than they are entitled to — and what to do instead

This content is based on personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales. It is for information only — not legal or financial advice. Always seek advice from a qualified professional.

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🎙️ Season 2 of Divorce in Plain English is now live — new episodes every two weeks. Follow on Spotify so you never miss one.

Season 2, Episode 1.

Divorcing a Narcissist: What It Means for Your Finances

When you are divorcing a narcissist the financial process does not just feel difficult — it is designed to feel impossible. And that is not an accident.

• Why narcissists rarely cooperate with financial disclosure and what the court can do about it
• How money is used as a control mechanism during the marriage — and how that affects your case
• The one decision Vincent made that cost him more than it should have — and what he would do differently

This content is based on personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales. It is for information only — not legal or financial advice. Always seek advice from a qualified professional.

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Practical Advice for Moving Forward After Divorce | Divorce in Plain English

Divorce is not just an ending — it is the start of a new chapter, and this episode gives you the practical guidance to move forward with confidence.

• Straightforward practical advice for anyone who has been through or is going through a UK divorce
• The key things Vincent wishes someone had told him when he was navigating the process himself
• A closing message from Vincent on resilience, rebuilding and why the best is still ahead of you

This content is based on personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales. It is for information only — not legal or financial advice. Always seek advice from a qualified professional.

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Legal Notice: This podcast is hosted by Vincent James, sharing personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales only. Nothing in this podcast constitutes legal, financial or tax advice. Vincent is not a solicitor, barrister, financial adviser or legal professional. Every divorce situation is unique. Always seek advice from a qualified professional about your own circumstances. Any support offered by the host is peer emotional support only — not case-specific legal guidance.