Divorce ReDefined with Cindy Stibbard

Co-parenting isn't impossible. Jay and I sit down and talk about how parents can let go of fear, set healthy boundaries, communicate more effectively and create thriving lives, no matter what their EX do! For Co-Parenting Courses, follow Jay on Instagram @jayskibbens FREEBIE: Is This Still My Forever Person? https://divorceredefined.cindystibbard.com/opt-in-6a63c29e-c38f-4b9b-a944-20c9f5a02a0d

In this episode, I have the privilege of sitting with world-renowned love and relationship expert Jillian Turecki. Jillian is on a mission to teach people how to transform their love life completely, and where you start is by addressing the relationship you have with yourself. Whether you're looking to strengthen your relationship, heal your heartbreak and choose better partners, develop a stronger sense of self, or move away from dysfunctional patterns into highly functioning ones, this episode is for you. FREEBIE: Is This Still My Forever Person? https://divorceredefined.cindystibbard.com/opt-in-6a63c29e-c38f-4b9b-a944-20c9f5a02a0d

I am deeply honoured to have the privilege to get vulnerable and humanly emotional with @ronniestevenson, former star of Real Housewives of Vancouver @realhousewivesofvancouver this week as she shares openly and candidly about her very personal, devastating and heart wrenching story of the sudden loss of her son, @thehoustonstevensonlegacy to suicide 15 months ago. In this episode, Ronnie and I get emotional with each other as we open up, share and connect over our profound losses and how both of our worlds have been irrevocably shattered and rocked to the core. Ronnie's beautiful courage to find the strength to keep going in the face of this inconceivable tragedy for herself, her surviving children, her husband, her siblings and Houston's legacy is nothing short of a story of strength, grit, resilience and the realness of raw grief. Have your Kleenex handy for this one.

In this episode, we talk about how to get over your past and move on to live a more fulfilled and meaningful life without the past continuing to loom over you. Jason is launching his new book; Get Past Your Past: How Facing Your Broken Places Leads to True Connection. In this book, Jason invites you to own your past, hold onto hope, and live a connected life. FREEBIE: Is This Still My Forever Person? https://divorceredefined.cindystibbard.com/opt-in-6a63c29e-c38f-4b9b-a944-20c9f5a02a0d

Like most men, you've felt alone for a long time – even when surrounded by people. No matter how much money you make, how healthy your body is, whether you're single or have the family of your dreams, your mental stress and (secret) inner struggles persist. You endlessly search for what you never seem to find: FREEDOM. Freedom from what? Stress. Stagnation. Self-doubt. Self-sabotage. Feeling isolated and alone. A consistently nourishing, thriving intimacy may elude you. You may feel disconnected from your deepest purpose. Even when you get your way, it never fully satisfies. According to Bryan and his extensive work in this field, men tend to be ruled over by five primary distractions: work, ass, addiction (alcohol/drugs/porn, etc.), sports, and war/politics. Thus, our joy and vitality are inevitably drained by the daily whims of external forces we have little control. We fail to be present for what really matters and don't know how to use our power in ways we otherwise would have real agency. So even when we outwardly succeed, we feel internally dissatisfied and endlessly disoriented. For more guided support for men (women & couples, too) please visit: bryanreeves.com For further support, and guidance and to access my coaching programs, please follow me on Instagram @divorceredefined or pop me an email to [email protected] FREEBIE: Is This Still My Forever Person? https://divorceredefined.cindystibbard.com/opt-in-6a63c29e-c38f-4b9b-a944-20c9f5a02a0d

At the heart of an affair, you will often find yourself longing and yearning for an emotional connection, for novelty, for freedom, for autonomy, for sexual intensity, a wish to recapture lost parts of yourself or an attempt to bring back vitality - Esther Perel. You have found yourself in an extramarital affair for reasons unique to you. Some reasons you are aware of and others you may be unclear about. In this episode, we dive into these reasons. I sit down with Lauren LaRusso, a trauma-informed psychotherapist who has helped countless individuals and couples process extramarital affairs impacting their lives. Infidelity has affected her life, my life, and countless others we love and care about. It became a clear path for her to make it her mission to help others through, heal, and grow from an affair. For more support and individual coaching programs and expert guidance for your own unique situation, visit me on Instagram @divorceredefined or send me an email at [email protected] FREEBIE: Is This Still My Forever Person? https://divorceredefined.cindystibbard.com/opt-in-6a63c29e-c38f-4b9b-a944-20c9f5a02a0d

In successful relationships, three essential ingredients must be carefully considered and nurtured. Think of these as the pillars upon which a thriving partnership stands. Are you wondering if your partner is someone you can grow with? Get a copy of my FREE 18-questions to assess if your partner is someone you can grow with: https://divorceredefined.cindystibbard.com/opt-in-6a63c29e-c38f-4b9b-a944-20c9f5a02a0d Are you looking for a Support Group? I Think I Want a Support Group, but Ho Do I Know? runs every Thursday until December 21. Click the link here to join: https://divorceredefined.cindystibbard.com/ithinkiwantadivorcesupportgroup

While there is no hierarchy of loss, the death of a partner is among the most profound losses. The death of the adult you love the most is an especially cruel experience. I know this now: I have been widowed at 47. Mike's death was sudden and unforeseen, and the psychological impact is taking a while for me to understand – and I imagine I haven't even scratched the surface–It was something I could never have fathomed being prepared for. While grief is not a mental health issue in the same way as depression or anxiety, it is a profound psychological wound; one of the most bleakly transformative events a human being can experience and one we need to understand better. Grief education should be part of our national curriculum, but it isn't. The loss of your partner is one you cannot hide from psychologically or practically. Humans are programmed to be in couples. They are all around you – and you are single. Your status suddenly changes from two to one – in the most mundane ways, which are hard to articulate. I feel existentially alone despite being loving family and friends. For those of us fortunate enough to afford therapy, it becomes possible to share this feeling. But even with my multiple therapists and therapist friends and mentors, I have a lot of fear around boring friends, my family, my listeners, and my followers as the grief forges ahead, dragging everyone along in its wake as I share my experience openly about losing the love of my life. To join my community: https://divorceredefined.cindystibbard.com/forms/2148151111 To follow my content on Instagram and TikTok: @divorceredefined To book a FREE Discovery Call: https://divorceredefined.as.me/discovery-call

Ongoing relationship distress is harmful to each romantic partner's mental and physical wellbeing, and in addition, can negatively impact the kids. We all know this. Difficult conflict can lead to things being said that hurt us at our core. The growing emotional distance can leave us feeling like we are stranded on a boat in the middle of an ocean—desperate for connection, safety, and security. The lack of commitment and trust perpetuates toxic interactions that push us farther away from each other rather than building a bridge back to one another. Fortunately, empirically-based couples therapy has demonstrated that couples therapy can create a positive change for 70% of couples. And these changes actually last. But when is it too late for a couple to save their marriage? FREEBIE: Is This Still My Forever Person? https://divorceredefined.cindystibbard.com/opt-in-6a63c29e-c38f-4b9b-a944-20c9f5a02a0d

Sarah's new book: LIVE, LAUGH, TRUE LOVE: A Step-By-Step Guide to Dating and Finding a Meaningful Relationship from a Divorce Attorney, is written from the perspective of a divorce attorney, essentially working backwards. Delineating all of the things she routinely watches go wrong in relationships. Sarah shows the reader the pitfalls to avoid and termed the 6 main reasons relationships fall apart the Fail Factors or F-Words. They are: 1) Fundamental Values, 2) Fear, 3) Foundation, 4) Fairy Tale, 5) Family and 6) Fixing. Raised by a mother who has practiced Family Law for almost thirty years, and still practices, Sarah feels as though she has been exposed to the issues Family Law practitioners encounter on a daily basis, her entire life. Sarah has also been a yoga instructor since 2000, and a spin instructor since 2004. She continues to teach. Sarah incorporates her experience as an instructor into her lawyering style. Teaching has enabled Sarah to maintain calm even under the most rigorous of pressures. It has provided her with the invaluable opportunity to command the respect and attention of any group of individuals she addresses, and it is her nurturing nature that gravitated her, both, to teaching and to the practice of, specifically, Family Law. FREEBIE: Is This Still My Forever Person? https://divorceredefined.cindystibbard.com/opt-in-6a63c29e-c38f-4b9b-a944-20c9f5a02a0d