#Coldplaygate - Episode 342 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. A recent social media post from a Coldplay concert went viral. It was a video of a couple who were having an affair and attended the concert together, only to end up on the “kisscam”. Ironically, their reactions to being on the screen gave away their secret. Affairs are painful and devastating for everyone involved but many lessons on divorce, child custody and building your future can be learned from these situations if you choose to use them positively. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!

Destroying Your Ex Does Not Win Your Case - Episode 341 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Family Court hearings are typically full of all kinds of mudslinging in both directions. Since we are in an adversary system and most people experience the law as “guilty vs innocent”, this may seem like a logical approach. But a Family Law Judge doesn’t think in terms of “guilty vs innocent” so trying to destroy your ex in court doesn’t necessarily solve your problems. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!

Core Foundations in Child Custody - Episode 340 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. There are core foundations in child custody that apply in almost every case. These principles will give you more success in your case, regardless of your situation and regardless of where you are at in the timeline of your case. Even if you’ve done these things poorly in the past, you can turn your case around but applying these techniques today. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!

Retaliation in Child Custody Court - Episode 339 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. When Narcissists win in Court, they often become emboldened and when they lose, they want a rematch. Often, that means retaliation against you that results in constant court hearings and chaos. Does the Court even care about retaliatory motives? Listen now to find out. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!

In Episode 338 "Were You the One Doing Everything?" we will discuss how I often hear clients say they “did everything” in their relationship. What you may not realize is that doing everything is a trauma response. People who “do everything” also frequently over-commit , struggle to delegate, mistrust others, are perfectionists, and are reluctant to ask for help. Hyper-independence is a way of avoiding needing on others in order to avoid being hurt. It also makes you the perfect target for a narcissist.

What You Say V. How You Say It (In Court) – Episode 337 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Most people get very focused on the “what” part of the information they want the court to know. Much of my work as a coach is teaching people “how” to say the things they need to in a way that will resonate with the court. I’m going to give you 5 examples of what vs. how and then share 5 key principles to help you apply these techniques to your own examples. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!

Trauma Bond with a Narcissist – Episode 336 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Trauma bonds are created through a biochemical reaction in your body similar to addiction. So, it’s no wonder we have trouble breaking free, long after the relationship has ended. We often continue on the emotional rollercoaster that is a relationship with a narcissist. How do you know if you have a trauma bond and what can you do to break it? To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!

5 Common Legal Traps with a Narcissist – Episode 335 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In this episode, I’ll discuss five of the most common traps we see narcissists use to try to gain the upper hand in Court. Understanding how the narcissists weaponize these traps and what steps you can take to prevent them is crucial to your success against them in your child custody case. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!

Exposing the Narcissist’s Abuse – Episode 334 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Parents are often concerned about being able to expose narcissistic abuse from the other parent. In this episode, I’ll share tips to help you gather the information you need to help you expose the behaviors. I’ll also talk about how to present the information in a child-focused way that succeeds and not in a narcissist-focused way, which almost always fails. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!

Self Love is Key to Ending Toxic Relationships– Episode 333 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. The toxic patterns of a narcissist-codependent relationship don’t magically end just because the relationship ends, especially if we have to co-parent with the narcissist. The same unhealthy dynamics continue t until we do the internal work that is required to develop self-love and break our unhealthy relationship patterns. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!