If you keep attracting the same kind of partner, or you keep ending up in the same painful relationship cycle, this episode will shift how you see dating forever.

In this episode, Charisse Walker and dating and relationship coach, Bern Mendez, delve into the complexities of relationships and personal healing. They discuss the impact of past traumas on current relationships, the importance of self-awareness, and the journey towards emotional healing. Bern shares insights on attachment styles, the significance of self-soothing, and the role of intuition in dating. The conversation also touches on the challenges single women face in dating and the importance of investing in personal growth to foster healthier relationships.

They also discuss why “trust your gut” can actually keep you stuck when your nervous system is still wired for inconsistency, trauma bonding, and familiar patterns. We talk about the real reason healthy love can feel “boring,” why chemistry can be misleading, and how attachment styles (anxious vs avoidant) can silently drive your choices before you even realize you are choosing.

This is a must-watch if you are:

- Divorced and dating again

- A single mom trying not to repeat the same mistake

- Attracting emotionally unavailable partners

- Stuck in on-and-off relationships or situationships

- Ready to heal, rewire, and choose love from clarity instead of survival

In this episode, you will learn:

✅ How trauma patterns shape attraction

✅ What “nervous system hijacking” looks like in dating

✅ Why inconsistency creates obsession (intermittent reinforcement)

✅ The truth about intuition vs triggers

✅ How to slow down and choose better partners with confidence

Free resource from Bern:Visit bern mendez.com (quiz + videos + application to work with him)If this episode helped you, please LIKE, SUBSCRIBE, and SHARE it with a friend who needs to hear it.

Connect with your host, Charisse Walker

Charisse Walker is the host of Unbreakable Mompreneurs and the author of Flipping the Iceberg. She helps women navigate life transitions with clarity and strength, in business, relationships, and beyond.

🌐 Website: www.charissewalker.com

📲 Social: instagram: @charissewalker1