DMCB

A bit of a random episode where I simply just share my thoughts, feelings and ideas on what I'm currently facing and experiencing in life based on the question I found: 'When was the last time you felt most yourself?'

In life many people, situations and circumstances will attack your identity, statements like “you’re not good enough”, “you’re not right for this”, “you don’t belong here”, “you’re not beautiful enough”, “you’re not talented”, etc will be thrown at us and it’s easy to begin internalising those false perceptions of ourselves.

When we don’t know who we are others will tell us who we are and we will then begin living life through their perspective, which isn't always going to be positive. It's important to have personal integrity and to stand for your character and not compromise your identity to match the worlds perception of beauty. 

Insecurity is something that governs so many of our lives, we fall victim to believing that we are not worthy enough, not beautiful enough or not good enough.

What’s important to remember is that - You are wonderfully and fearfully created (psalm 139:14) there is nothing that you lack, God specifically created you in his own image, his creation of you is an outpouring representation of his love. Once we intentionally choose to no longer see ourselves through the eyes of the world, and instead begin to look at ourselves through God and his words falling in love with yourself will become a lot easier and a lot more freeing. 

You’ve stayed long enough at this mountain. Turn and take your journey.- Deuteronomy 1:6

So many of us think that lives challenges are forever, that where we are now will be where we remain, we see lives challenges and obstacles as these big mountains that will never move or will never change, we literally feel stuck and I’ve felt stuck countless times.

I literally saw my situation as damn I’m going to be here forever, nothings changing for me nothing is working, and I’m sharing this because I genuinely believe someone needs to hear this and that message is your situation will change, that mountain will move, that depression, the brokeness, the injuries, the unemployment, the hurt, the stress all of it will too shall pass, this message is a lot greater than me and you need to understand this for yourself.

I began to understand that there is literally a time and place for everything, and God wants us to move forward, he doesn’t want us to be in the same position for the rest of our lives, at some point you’ll receive that message of you’ve stayed here long enough at this mountain, turn and take your journey, you too will make that decision to turn around and take your journey.

But even that I feel like is so important the fact that were being instructed to turn around and take your journey, I feel like too often we try to fight these mountains, we try to make them move, we try to attack them and approach them with everything we have, meanwhile all we have to do is take a step back and see that there was a path next to the mountain all along, there was a way but we were too busy focusing on the mountain that we weren’t able to see the way.

With all that I mentioned that I went through it was never the situation that was the problem it was where I was looking and what I was seeing that was the problem, my perspective and vision limited me to the realm of frustration, sadness and anger, when all I really needed to do was take a step back breathe and understand that some situations are not in my control to change, but those exact situations are forcing me to change, and If I was to adapt and change myself in accordance to what is being expected of me and encouraged of me that frustration , sadness and anger would naturally leave. I thought I had to change my situations but I really had to change myself. I had to decided who I wanted to be. I had to take a step back from these mountains and look at the bigger picture, I feel like when we see these mountains in our lives we focus predominantly on them, our vision is set on these mountains, and we can’t see anything other than this mountain in our lives, and that’s how we operate if all we see in our lives is problems that’s all we will manifest and that’s what our lives will be limited to and our vision speaks to our character, I read that we don’t see things as they are, we see them as who we are, so when you are looking at your situations what do you see? And whatever you see is a reflection of who you are, that’s why I say its not your situation you need to primarily change its yourself. People have this misconception that my life needs to change, no you need to change, everything starts from within, when I began to understand that my life followed and changed according to that

In this episode I was joined by the wonderful and amazing Atina - an honest and transparent conversation in regards to maintaining this momentum when it comes to our dreams and goals, we quickly realised that momentum is very personal and has a different meaning to each and every individual, but it's important to pace yourself and remembering that its God's timing over my own timing, his way over my way. We shared some experiences and some moments where we felt like we lost momentum and how we responded to that. 

I feel like too often when were on our journey to attaining our dreams and goals we lose that momentum that we started with, we loose that energy, that drive and that desire to want better and do better. We forget why we even started in the first place simply because the results of our actions don’t come instantaneously and that dream and goal that you started with becomes simply a distant memory or the road to attaining it just looks to long and too intimidating and especially in todays society where we seek immediate gratification or immediate results, and that’s why I think its so important to understand and be constantly reminded of why you’re doing what you’re doing, we need to find our why and constantly remind ourselves of it.

To lose momentum is a dangerous cycle to begin and I think often we don’t realise that we choose to lose momentum, its our choices that put us in that position, we often blame it on other things like circumstances but the truth is life is just an expression of your choices, the reason why you are where you are is because of the decisions that you have made, things can happen that are out of our control but we still choose how to respond,

To have nothing or to start from nothing is not a reason as to why you’re not doing something. I feel like too many of us use our current situations/predicaments as reasons to why were not going after what we want and it makes no sense, because its not your situation or your background that dictates your future, your legacy or your dreams, if that was the case a lot of big businesses/ brands or entrepreneurs wouldn’t exist. We need to stop seeking for more and instead start seeking for how we can use what we already have. A lot of successful people start out with nothing but a vision and a dream, so if you think you need money or any other materialistic things you're only playing yourself, money was never the answer and will never be the answer, money and other material gains are results from actions and plans. Get it out of your head that you need to have a certain amount of money, or better equipment , or more followers, or more investments to do what you need to do.

If you want to do it, do it and go after it and stop waiting for more, because you not being the richest, not having the widest network, the deepest understanding, the best equipment is a limitation you set on yourself, no one is stopping you but yourself, your beginnings may be small but your latter days will be great (Job 8;7) its not about where you start, or what you do or don’t have all of that is irrelevant if your focused on the goal and the dream, none of that other stuff should matter. 

Life is constantly changing, we’re constantly meeting new people, constantly seeing new things, constantly being put in new and different situations and we’re constantly coming across the unpredictable. The unplanned. It scares a lot of us, we panic, we freeze, we get caught up in the fact that I didn’t plan for this, I didn’t expect for this to happen, I wasn’t ready. So in this episode I was accompanied by the wise, insightful and amazing Jaiden Robjent, in which we discussed this concept of change, how it affects us, how we can respond to it, how we can embrace it.

We understood that the unpredictable the unplanned hits hard and fast, and in that moment you’re left to decide what next. Some of us never get to that point of deciding, some of us are still so shocked and so surprised by the unplanned by the unpredictable that that’s all we can see in the moment all we can see think and feel is how did this happen? What I found to be the truth is life has and comes with many of those moments, some are more frustrating than others but those moments come and in that moment we have a decision to make. I recently said how success and greatness comes with the ability to adapt, and that ability to adapt and that willingness to change is so so important, because if we don’t change, if we don’t adapt, it we don’t meet each situation obstacle and predicament with an open and willing mind to change we will never grow. Focus on your mind, focus on who you are, who you could be and who you are becoming, and find peace in your mind, keeping a level head and entering each avenue with purpose and intent. 

I feel like evolving is vital for survival and vital for living, how can you not evolve? How can you not strive to be better? When we stop growing we stop living, put it this way life is constantly changing, new things, new ideas, new theories, new conversations, new people, new opportunities are constantly being presented and you can’t meet new with old, you can’t approach everything with what you already know/understand because if you do you’ll get the same outcome, if we live based only on what we know we will only experience what we know, so it’s like how can you stop growing, stop evolving, stop being better? The minute you do that’s the reality you live in for life, that’s the moment you stop and you stay stagnant. So continue to evolve, continue to embrace change, and don't forget to rest!