It is never about "doing", but rather how committed are you to the thing you say you want. When you "try" to do something, what you're really saying is, "I have is to leave an escape route, so that in the event things don't work out, you can say you put forth a valiant effort.  However, when you consciously choose what you want and commit to its achievement, you move forward with resolve, cutting yourself off any other outcomes other than the result you're after.  So, how committed are you to the things you say you want?