Before you dive into your New Year’s resolutions for 2019, it’s a good idea to spend at least a little while reflecting on the resolutions you made for 2018 and how successfully you were able to follow through on them. Chances are, you may not have stuck through with all of them 100%—and that’s okay! Some resolutions require more intensive planning and commitment than others, plus life has a tendency to intrude when you least want it to. Remember that with every mistake or lapse comes an opportunity to learn.

So for this final minisode of 2018, Dorothy reflects on some of the setbacks she ran into with her resolutions this year, five questions you can ask yourself to figure out what happened with your own goals, and another invitation to have Dorothy hold you accountable for your upcoming 2019 plans.

Show Notes:

• How Dorothy fell short of one of her own major goals and the constructive advice her coach offered.
• Why it’s helpful to have more than one metric to measure the “success” or “failure” of your resolutions.
• The importance of doing these year-end reviews, painful as they can be.
• The positives Dorothy is taking away from a big shift in her family this year.
• Five goalkeeping questions you can ask yourself:
  • What were your three biggest wins this year?
  • What were the three biggest lessons you learned this year?
  • What are three things you are grateful for this year?
  • How did the biggest challenge you face this year actually benefit you?
  • What is one personal quality you developed the most this year?
  
  

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Nicholas Bayerle is an international speaker, podcast host and CEO of the Billion Dollar Body lifestyle brand, which is aimed at businessmen who want to have it all. Nicholas has not always been successful, with he and his wife living in run-down low-income housing only a few years ago. But through personal improvement and sheer determination, he was able to go from overweight and broke to fit, financially successful and able to give back.

In this episode, Nicholas discusses how his early successes led to a significant personal setback, how he was able to pick himself up time and time again following numerous professional and financial difficulties, and why his Billion Dollar Body brand caters specifically to men.

Show Notes:

• What beliefs about money did Nicholas’ family and early life instill in him?
  • His father told him that no matter how bad things got, as long as he could cut grass and use a weed trimmer there would always be a way to make money.
  • He realized that everybody has weaknesses, even rich and successful people, and it’s only pressure that exposes those weaknesses.
  • Value to Nicholas is being able to solve problems for more people.
  • He was never afraid of trying things because he could always go back to helping people for money.
  • Problematically, this meant he really only knew how to fight when his back was too the wall; he had to change his mindset to run toward his goals.
  
  
• Why has Nicholas always been so success-oriented?
  • Learned to ride his bike without training wheels from a very young age, his dad reasoning that training wheels don’t actually improve balance.
  • Became the youngest kid in the world to ever race bicycles, later graduating to motocross bikes.
  • He wanted to go pro, but his dad told him that there was no way he could be the best in the world; in time, Nicholas realized that always aiming to be the best would mean that there would always be people looking to one-up him.
  • However this did cause a period of estrangement between Nicholas and his dad, also affecting his weight, grades and social life; realized that life could change in a moment.
  
  
• What was the turning point for Nicholas?
  • Was inspired by a conversation with a man who always had fresh fruit on hand and did so because he was training to be a boxer.
  • Realized it was more than just eating to look well; it’s about eating to perform well.
  • He took action and lost 53 pounds in six months without working out at all; weight loss was entirely from nutrition.
  • Ended up rekindling his relationship with his dad as well.
  • By sharing everything about himself openly, he realized there was nothing anybody could use against him.
  
  
• What allowed this lifestyle change to stick for him?
  • Commitment is so key; but it’s far easier to commit to other people than yourself.
  • True commitment is still following through with a plan after the initial rush is gone.
  • Inspired by his Navy Seal mentor, who injured himself during a workout but still pushed through to the end because he had committed to that routine.
  • Make a decision, follow through on it, and then afterward figure out if you want to do it again.
  
  
• How did Nicholas launch his Three-Dimensional Businessman program?
  • While he had been able to turn around his physical health and social life, he was still broke.
  • After getting married, he went into business. He was actually very successful at first, but then his health took a dive, or his marriage became tense. Had trouble managing all three at the same time.
  • Lost this first business and had to work as a carpet cleaner under his father. Was very broke at this time.
  • He was suffering from a lottery mindset, that he would suddenly get lucky and be awarded with success. Realized that he had given up responsibility for his own destiny.
  • When he found out he and his wife were going to lose their house, he concluded that only he could turn his life around; he sold what he didn’t need and gave up every non-essential hobby to maximize the money he had.
  • Resolved to work until 10PM every day to make the income he needed.
  • He and his wife took a risky, expensive business course—especially risky after his dad got in a serious accident—and he almost backed out at the last moment. The resulting mindset shift vastly improved their success.
  
  
• What inspired Nicholas to make a brand for men specifically ?
  • Billion Dollar Body refers not only to your own physical body but a body of like-minded individuals looking to achieve success; your chances of success increase when working together, but you need to be able to depend on yourself in the first place.
  • He works with men because he generally prefers the company of men, and also because his female coaching clients were largely talking about their husbands’ difficulties.
  • Creating a powerful vision can generate a powerful community around it; people want to participate.
  • The next step is divining a message from your own personal failures and difficulties.
  • Nicholas invites any interested man listening to take on the 30 Day Challenge that Billion Dollar Body offers.
  
  
• Does Nicholas teach giving back as part of the Billion Dollar Brotherhood?
  • Giving back is actually a prerequisite for joining; clients need to be part of a business or organization that tangibly gives back in some way.
  • The idea is to attack the root of the problem so hard and effectively that you could conceivably make your business redundant doing so.
  
  
• Who has been the most impactful person in Nicholas’ journey to do well and achieve financial success?
  • His wife and Jesus.
  
  
• Who has been the most impactful person in Nicholas’ drive to do good?
  • His Navy Seal mentor.
  
  
• When Nicholas is having a bad day, what does he do to get himself into a more constructive headspace?
  • He accepts responsibility, accepts his reality, and figures out how to improve his mindset even in the slightest degree.
  • He learned from Jim Quick that you need to eat healthy to feel right and avoid people who stand in the way of you feeling and performing better.
  
  
• What book does Nicholas recommend to those seeking a more successful path in life?
  • The Bible, touting Jesus’ influence.
  
  
• What is the best piece of advice related to happiness that Nicholas would give our listeners?
  • Focus on getting closer to the idealized self you want to become.
  
  
• Places to find Nicholas:
  • Billion Dollar Body
  • Billion Dollar Body 30 Day Challenge
  • The Billion Dollar Body Podcast
  • Nicholas on Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/nicholasbayerle
  
  

Do Well & Do Good Challenge Nomination:

“The Winning Edge is a 501c3 non-profit organization making an impact on communities around the nation. By adding our strengths to existing programs in schools and prisons, and through sports and rallies; The Winning Edge helps others overcome limits in often challenging situations. Founded to provide encouragement, inspiration and support, the Winning Edge has heard and obeyed the call to instigate change and make good things happen.”

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It’s the last full week of 2018, but before the ball drops on the year and we usher in 2019, it’s important that your resolutions for the coming months are not only positive but actionable. Since a lot of New Year’s resolutions tend to be lofty and require more determination and consistency than we estimate, many people fall off their goals by the time February comes along.

So with a little help from her client Tyson Zahner, this minisode contains five principles you can use to keep your resolutions manageable and on track going into 2019.

Show Notes:

• The two prerequisites Dorothy believes every achievable goal needs.
• Aspirations vs. goals and why you should aim for the latter.
• The importance of taking full responsibility for your situation and capacity to improve.
• Why action-based goals increase your chances of success compared to results-based goals.
• The “snowball effect” of gradual progress.
• Accommodating for setbacks and recognizing that they don’t mean failure.
• Dorothy's own goals for 2019 and her promise to be your accountability partner.
• How you can prepare for longer-term goals that you may not be able to complete in 2019.

If you would like Dorothy to hold you accountable for your 2019 resolutions, Dorothy invites you to DM her on Instagram @dorothyillson!

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Andre Popa is a contractor and remodeller who co-founded the firm 11dezign with his wife Tami. Andre was born in communist Romania, where his father spent over a decade in prison for standing up to the regime. Following his release, his family immigrated to the United States without any money or resources and eked out a living through dumpster diving and scavenging. These experiences fostered his entrepreneurial spirit, allowing him to carve out the comfortable, successful life he has today.

In this episode, Andre relates his personal story with all of its ups and downs, and explains how a trip to the hospital compelled him to view money as a tool for optimizing happiness rather than for achieving financial success.

Show Notes:

• What was Andre’s childhood like in Romania?
  • His father was imprisoned for 14 years for standing up to the regime, which meant that his family was also bugged and followed even after his release.
  • Family could only get pork once a week, not much time for play or relaxation.
  
  
• What was Andre’s money mindset like due to this environment?
  • He learned to make money whenever he could, such as buying candy and stickers and reselling them to his classmates.
  • He and his family would scavenge food that grocery stores threw away for being stale or expired but was still edible.
  • It made him realize that he was always going to be fine in America as long as he could find a trash can and be willing to dive in.
  
  
• What were Andre’s teenage years like?
  • Family was one of the few white families in a lately Latino southern California neighborhood.
  • Would be picked on for being an outsider and had to learn to fight to defend himself.
  • Experiences taught him leadership skills and how to pick himself from failures.
  • Would also distribute newspapers and even sell puppies!
  • His family was always able to find opportunities.
  • By the time he was in high school, he was offering his services as a contractor for household maintenance tasks.
  
  
• Did he have a plan at that time?
  • No, he was more focused on the moment.
  • Tried out different activities, including a stint in acting.
  
  
• How did he get into his current line of work?
  • Bought his first piece of real estate when he was 25, and a year later his first restaurant.
  • Real estate would make up the bulk of his income over the course of his career.
  • Started getting attention for his remodeling work, building a client base.
  • Got his contractor's license, allowing him to add actors, athletes and other celebrities to his clientèle.
  • He and his wife Tami loved working on their own projects most of all.
  
  
• Why did he get out of remodeling?
  • As the stakes in his business rose, including costs and regulations, the work became less fun and more stressful.
  • Ended up resenting his work.
  • Andre and his wife mutually decided to quit, but he nevertheless persisted and leaned in for a while.
  
  
• Does Andre believe he's earned optimizing for happiness at this level of his career, or is that something he feels everyone should do regardless of where they are?
  • Absolutely; we only have this life to live, so we should maximize happiness whenever possible and avoid getting ourselves stuck in joyless ruts.
  • Recollects a massive panic attack he experienced early on in his career, one so bad he thought it was a heart attack or stroke.
  • Rather than treat his anxiety with medication, he took a thought-based approach centered around hypnotherapy and changing his mindset.
  • Realized that thought creates our reality; need to break out out negative thought cycles.
  
  
• Does Andre believe poverty is a choice or a matter of circumstance?
  • He believes it’s 100% a choice.
  • There are circumstances, but we can choose how to deal with those circumstances.
  
  
• How has he instilled strong work ethic in his own children?
  • Through homeschooling, exposing them to positive adult influences.
  • One of his daughters has her own travel blog at ChowBellaTravels.com. The other wants to travel to Mars.
  
  
• How does Andre give back with his work?
  • Made sure to overpay and even overfeed his employers to make sure they get the most out of their work.
  • Speaks highly of Walter, who builds homes for the underprivileged in Mexico and instills culture and possibilities in children despite their circumstances.
  
  
• Who has been the most impactful person in Andre’s journey to do well and achieve financial success?
  • Tony Robbins
  
  
• Who has been the most impactful person in Andre’s drive to do good?
  • The Dalai Lama
  
  
• What are some of his regular mindset and personality-development practices?
  • Meditation is crucial; he practises it a few times a day to stay focused.
  • Listens to several audiobooks.
  
  
• What book does Andre recommend to those seeking a more successful path in life?
  • The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy
  
  
• What is the best piece of advice related to happiness Andre has for our listeners?
  • Fight. Always remember you have options and choices. Decide that you are a badass and can accomplish what you want to.
  
  
• Places to find Andre:
  • 11dezign – http://www.11dezign.com
  • The Badassery Factory – https://www.badasseryfactory.com
  • The Badassery Factory on Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/badasseryfactory/
  • Andre on Twitter – @ThePopas
    
  
  

Do Well & Do Good Challenge Nomination:

‘Youth With A Mission is a global movement of Christians from many cultures, age groups, and Christian traditions, dedicated to serving Jesus throughout the world. Also known as YWAM (pronounced “WHY-wham”), we unite in a common purpose to know God and to make Him known.

‘Back when we began in 1960, our main focus was to get youth involved in missions. Today, we still focus on youth, and we also involve people aged 9 to 90. We currently have tens of thousands of staff (called “YWAMers”) and we work in thousands of teams and locations.

‘One of the joys of participating in YWAM is to work with people from many nations. YWAM’s staff come from nearly every country in the world, including places like Indonesia, Nepal, Mozambique, and Colombia.’

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We’re closing out 2018, so it’s a good time to figure out your goals for the coming year. Setting goals and making resolutions can be anxiety-inducing, especially when you need to figure out a plan and inevitably compare yourself to your friends and colleagues. But, as counterintuitive as it sounds, you might find that these stressful expectations decrease if you set your sights significantly higher.

In this minisode, Dorothy delves into why you shouldn’t try to compete with your peers but instead aspire to the standards of those who have found personal and professional success.

Show Notes:

• How it is possible to feel lonely at the top—but not in the way you expect.
• Why massive goals are easier to achieve than average goals.
• Not falling into the trap of underestimating yourself and overestimating others.

If you have any ideas related to setting goals for 2019, Dorothy invites you to DM her on Instagram @dorothyillson!

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Paul Dunn is a widely respected business leader and four-time TEDx speaker. He was one of the original employees of Hewlett-Packard’s Australian division and went on to found a marketing firm that has assisted the growth of countless businesses. He is a disruptor both in business and in generosity, with the non-profit organization he chairs, B1G1 (Buy One Get One), enabling corporations to easily give back right into their business structures, creating over 164 million giving impacts to date.

In this episode, Paul discusses the tragedy that spurred him to donate on the spot, why so many companies are hesitant to give back, and his belief in “the power of small.”

Show Notes:

• How did Paul get to where he is?
  • Not through a Joseph Campbell's “hero’s story”but thanks to incredible luck.
  • He was headhunted from an early age and took inspiration from Silicon Valley culture.
  • Frequently worked with accountants and developed a unique perspective on the profession despite not being part of it.
  • Met a man named Pastor Silva, who related his experience with the 2004 Indian ocean tsunami that left his students orphaned and homeless. Was inspired to donate to the man and cover the children's housing and needs.
  • Realized in that moment that his life was no longer merely about business but giving value to the people he worked with.
  • Believes it's every businessperson obligation to be generous and help out.
  • Encounter with a deputy chef who had her own By One Give One program pushed him farther down the path to founding B1G1.
  
  
• What does Paul think is a key element of any business or organization?
  • To have systems that delight and inspire, pushing others to contribute and be the best selves they can be.
  
  
• What is “the power of small”?
  • When you forge connections not with your product but with the outcomes your product can provide to your users.
  
  
• What was the most challenging part of starting and growing B1G1?
  • Gaining the cooperation of organizations and companies to assist with this initiative.
  • Finding a way for B1G1 to be sustainable in and of itself.
  
  
• Why does Paul think so few businesses factor giving back into their business models?
  • The vast majority of businesses are typically smaller scale, and so the money they could give away is instead used to sustain themselves.
  • B1G1 is designed to work with smaller business models like these; the challenge is gaining traction and attention.
  • Businesses owners tend to also become obsessed with legacy and giving away eventually rather than in the moment; Paul wants them to “live” a legacy rather than “leave” one.
  
  
• What’s one story involving B1G1 has especially affected Paul?
  • The RIO Group, which focuses on recruitment, worked with local petrol companies in Australia to produce non-sniffable gasoline, reducing the amount of recreational gasoline sniffing by 94%.
  
  
• Who has been the most impactful person in Paul’s journey to do well and achieve financial success?
  • Masami Sato.
  
  
• Who has been the most impactful person in Paul’s drive to do good?
  • Once again, Masami Sato.
  
  
• When Paul is having a bad day, what does he do to get himself out of his funk?
  • Reads through his gratitude journal to remember what he’s grateful for.
  
  
• What book does Paul recommend to those seeking a more successful path in life?
  • The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg
  • Meaningful by Bernadette Jiwa
  
  
• What is the best piece of advice related to happiness Paul has for our listeners?
  • Find something you can feel grateful for.
  
  
• Places to find Paul:
  • B1G1
  
  

Do Well & Do Good Challenge Nomination:

“Rescuing Leftover Cuisine is a national 501(c)3 non-profit food rescue organization, operating in 16 cities and headquartered in New York City, that provides solutions to prevent excess wholesome cuisine from being wasted. RLC provides services such as food waste consulting, excess food delivery, co-branding services, and tax credit assistance.”

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A big reason it can be so daunting to put your own product or project out into the world is the fear that the market is just too saturated with similar ideas for your own to stand out. In fact, Dorothy ran into this same predicament when preparing to launch Do Well & Do Good. Thankfully, she also has firsthand experience that there will always be a way to make yourself stick out from the rest of the pack.

In this minisode, Dorothy debunks the limiting believe that a market is too overcrowded for you to contribute your own voice, expounds on her own apprehension in putting this podcast out into the world, and relates her validating encounter with another podcaster.

Show Notes:

• Why it’s important to find a niche rather than general market for your work.
• An anecdote from future Do Well & Do Good guest James Swanwick about how you can differentiate yourself from the competition.
• How the Chris Harder show (check out Episode 24) almost deterred Dorothy from creating this show.
• Dorothy’s meeting with Chris and Lori Harder (Episode 28) and when she realized she was on the right path.

Dorothy invites you to DM her on Instagram @dorothyillson if you would like to share your own experiences with time management and healthy work habits!

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Dave Aarons is the CEO of Unbundled Attorney, which uses a network of lawyers to provide legal services to families who otherwise would not be able to afford them. A veteran of the legal industry since 2004, Dave aims to establish the first donation-based unbundled legal clinic in the United States. Dave does not think that prohibitive costs should come between the average family and solid legal representation, and that unbundled legal services are beneficial to the legal industry even if they seem new and scary.

In this episode, Dave discusses how his low-income upbringing fostered his self-reliant attitude, breaks down how unbundled legal services work, and asks you to reconsider how you engage with the social media you find comforting and secure.

Show Notes:

• How did Dave’s formative years shape his beliefs toward money?
  • Raised by single mother who had to rely on thrift and coupon shopping.
  • Due to these circumstances he learned to appreciate everything he owned and every opportunity that came his way.
  • Realized the need to be independent and self-reliant, especially after his bike was stolen and he had to earn the money to buy a new one.
  
  
• Did his circumstances lead him to become an entrepreneur?
  • Not really, because entrepreneurship is not especially stable or secure. Became an entrepreneur more out of stubbornness and wanting to have job and personal freedom.
  • Realized residual payment through entrepreneurship would allow him to finance his hobbies and side-ventures.
  
  
• What are unbundled legal services and why are they so important?
  • Normally to retain legal services, you need to pay a high fee up front, which bars a lot of lower-income individuals from obtaining representation.
  • Unbundled legal services allow you to retain an attorney for specific aspects of your case rather than for the entire case up front.
  • Allows you to pay for the case each step at a time, accommodating for limited finances.
  • Unbundled Attorney matches these clients to lawyers who provide these specific legal services.
  
  
• How have traditional law firms responded to this service?
  • Old school law firms are generally resistant to change, but the marketplace is forced to adapt due to the very high percentage (70-80%) of people who can’t afford traditional legal fees.
  • It’s a matter of finding of more open-minded attorneys.
  
  
• How was Unbundled Attorney born?
  • Used to work for a provider that offered a variety of legal services under a single fee, but said fee was prohibitively high for the average family, even with discounts.
  • Tried increasing discount percentages, but it was still too much for many people, so gradually started tailoring options service by service for flat fees.
  
  
• Who has been the most impactful person in Dave’s journey to do well and achieve financial success?
  • His mentor, Steve Douglas
  
  
• Who has been the most impactful person in Dave’s drive to do good?
  • His mother.
  
  
• When Dave is having a bad day, what does he do to get himself out of his funk?
  • Plays golf, writes in his journal,
  
  
• What book does Dave recommend to those seeking a more successful path in life?
  • The Slight Edge: Turning Simple Disciplines Into Massive Success & Happiness by Jeff Olson
  
  
• What is the best piece of advice related to success Dave has for our listeners?
  • Take a good, hard look at what you actually get out of the casual media you consume and whether or not it’s worth the free time you have.
  
  
• Places to find Dave:
  • Unbundled Attorney
  
  

Do Well & Do Good Challenge Nomination:

“Claire’s Place Foundation, Inc. is a 501c3 non-profit organization providing support to children and families affected by cystic fibrosis (CF). Claire’s Place Foundation is named in honor of Claire Wineland, now a teenager, who has been living with CF her entire life. The foundation offers a Support Families Network and Extended Hospital Stay Grants to families affected by CF, offering both emotional and financial support. A young author of bestseller “Every Breath I Take, Surviving and Thriving with Cystic Fibrosis,” Claire’s unique inspirational model for people living with this disease has led her to be a TEDx Speaker and receive multiple awards including FoxTeen Choice Awards 2015, Gloria Barron Prize for Young Heroes, Southbay Magazine’s“Top 10 South Bay Teen”, Looking Beyond LA’s “Soaring Spirit Award,” and winner of Los Angeles Business Journal’s “Small Nonprofit of the Year.” She has been featured on Inside Edition, The Dr. Oz Show, CNN, Huffington Post, ABC News, Cosmopolitan Magazine, People Magazine, Ladies’ Home Journal and many more. Claire’s Place Foundation is a way for Claire to give back with hope, strength, and joy and make meaning of what she has had to go through.”

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In spite of her advice to reframe your reactions to negative situations and people only a week ago, Dorothy found herself wallowing in anger and self-pity after a disagreement with her partner. Thankfully the two of them were able to patch up their misunderstanding, but Dorothy felt hypocritical and realized how difficult it can be not to immediately give into your worst feelings when the going gets tough. So with this minisode, she discusses how you can build up your emotional muscle and forgive yourself for the occasional little slip-up.

Also: if you’re listening to this episode a day or two after it comes out, there’s still time to join our free Facebook community on vote on which of the non-profits nominated by our guests this month will receive a donation equal to 10% of Dorothy’s advertising agency’s income.

Show Notes:

• Why Dorothy didn’t want to look at her problems in a different light as discussed in Episode 27.
• How she and her partner were able to calmly resolve their disagreement.
• Why it’s difficult to push back against a “woe is me” victimhood mindset.
• Toning your emotional muscles so you can  condition your emotional reactions over time.

Dorothy invites you to DM her on Instagram @dorothyillson if you would like to share your own experiences with time management and healthy work habits!

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Hailing from small-town Michigan, Lori Harder grew up believing that her weight and anxiety would always define her. But after leaving home at the age of 18, Lori realized she could determine her own destiny and reshaped herself both physically and emotionally, becoming a three-time fitness world champion and transformational coach. With her husband Chris (check out Episode 24) she runs multiple seven-figure businesses, hosts the Find Your Happy podcast and founded The Bliss Project.

In this episode, Lori reveals how she gradually rewrote the story of her life, explains the importance of having a “tribe,” and lays out how her personal struggles influenced her philosophy toward doing good.

Show Notes:

• What is the “Great Chicken Nugget Battle of 2006” and how did it shape Lori?
  • In her mid-20s, Lori was trapped in “victim mode,” wanting to work in fitness and help other women but stuck at a personal standstill, eating and drinking simply to numb her anxieties.
  • One night out, she started taking her personal frustrations out on husband Chris by throwing (dipped) chicken nuggets at him.
  • Woke up the next morning realizing she had reached a personal low and that she couldn’t push her husband away along with everything else. It spurred her to make genuine changes in her life.
  
  
• How did Lori go about rewriting the stories she had told herself?
  • Took her three years to make smaller, though important, lifestyle changes, settling into healthier routines and behaviors.
  • Started looking up local fitness competitions and who could help her with them, then set personal deadlines.
  • Asked herself what she needed to do to actually accomplish her goals and then built plans around those answers.
  • Small steps built to larger changes.
  
  
• How does Lori define “tribe” and why is it so important?
  • Your tribe is the people you interact with the most—friends, family, coworkers—and who influence how you live your life.
  • Your tribe can reinforce positive and negative behaviors.
  • Need to surround yourself with a tribe whose members help foster your best traits and support you on your ideal path.
  
  
• Have people in Lori’s family followed her on this path?
  • Used to have a very strained relationship with her family due differences in religious beliefs.
  • She needed to really work with her family to improve their relationship in spite of these differences, finding new ways to connect.
  • She did have to get away from them and move out of their environment for a while to find people who did support her healthier habits.
  • It was a struggle because leaving her tribe was scary, uncertain territory.
  • Now she’s strong enough to be with them while still maintaining her independence and help them in turn.
  
  
• How can people stuck in a negatively reinforcing tribe set healthy boundaries?
  • Make your perspective clear to them while also understanding their point of view.
  • Make peace your outcome, even if it means putting the conversation on hold.
  • Find a good time and place, especially if the discussion could turn into an argument.
  
  
• How has Lori’s success allowed her to give back?
  • When you’ve been a victim and/or had the victim mindset, you understand how low a person can feel and how they can get stuck in a pattern of anxiety and inaction.
  • Success has afforded her opportunities to be the encouraging figure in other people’s lives.
  • She can also pay for meals and services that actually help people. Thriving financial enables generosity.
  
  
• Who has been the most impactful person in Lori’s journey to do well and achieve financial success?
  • Her husband Chris.
  
  
• Who has been the most impactful person in Lori’s drive to do good?
  • Oprah Winfrey.
  
  
• What are some constructive daily habits that Lori practises?
  • Waking up, choosing to live in a happy, healthy way, then doing the necessary tasks to make that happiness a reality.
  
  
• What books does Lori recommend to those seeking a more successful path in life?
  • A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principle of A Course in Miracles by Marianne Williamson
  • Secrets of the Millionaire Mind: Mastering the Inner Game of Wealth by T. Harv Eker
  
  

• What is the best piece of advice for achieving happiness that Lori has for our listeners?
  • Regularly ask yourself what truly makes you happy, and how you can make each day fulfilling.
  
  
• Places to find Lori:
  • LoriHarder.com
  • Earn Your Happy podcast
  • The Bliss Project
  • A Tribe Called Bliss: Break Through Superficial Friendships, Create Real Connections, Reach Your Highest Potential
  
  

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