E42 - Do You Regret Being A Writer?

Episode Summary:

In this reflective and deeply personal episode, Rubina revisits a decision she made in 2016—to step away from the expected path after college and pursue writing. As social media revives nostalgia for “simpler times,” she finds herself asking a question she recently voiced in therapy: Do I regret choosing to be a writer?

Her answer is clear: Absolutely not.

Although life didn’t unfold as she once imagined, writing became the one constant that helped her survive, heal, and slowly return to herself. This episode is an honest conversation for writers who feel behind, doubtful, or unsure if they made the right choice.

Key Points Discussed:

• The emotional pull of nostalgia and how it triggers self-questioning
• Choosing writing with hope, ambition, and rose-tinted expectations
• How depression and disillusionment shaped the early years
• Writing and reading as lifelines during emotional isolation
• Journaling as a long-term practice that led to self-awareness and clarity
• Writing as a safe space for vulnerability without judgment
• Choosing a less-trodden path and avoiding deeper misalignment
• Why writing became a way to uncover the real self beneath conditioning

Takeaways:

• Writing doesn’t have to look successful to be life-changing
• Sometimes the path that looks “nasty” is the one that leads you home
• Journaling can be a powerful tool for healing and self-discovery
• Doubt doesn’t mean you chose wrong—it may mean you’re growing
• Be kind to your past self and gentle with where you are now
• 2026 is a fresh invitation to choose yourself and your writing again

✨ This episode is for anyone wondering if choosing writing was a mistake—and discovering it may have been an act of survival instead.

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Welcome to Becoming A Writer, where writing inspiration is served fresh in 20 minutes or less, every 4th Saturday.

One big lesson to learn as writers - it’s not just about publishing a book—it’s about becoming a writer who writes for life. There’s plenty of advice out there on how to write and publish, but not much about how to be a writer—how to love the process and grow into it. Once you figured that out, you will never stop writing.

This podcast is here to help you explore, experiment with, and express your writer self. Writing can be fun, fulfilling, and a lifelong joy—and your books deserve the writer you’re meant to be.

About Me -

I’m Rubina Gauri Gomes, a multi-genre writer exploring mystery, suspense, and the creative life.

I encourage writers to pursue their passion through my podcast, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Becoming A Writer⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

I have authored ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Writer vs. Social Writer⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, a guide to discovering and embracing both the introspective Soul Writer and the engaging Social Writer within you, helping you balance these aspects for a more fulfilling writing journey.