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Have you ever felt afraid that if you stopped doing... stopped reading your Bible, stopped serving, stopped performing... that God might love you a little less?
You’re not alone.

In this raw and honest conversation, we unpack the deep-rooted lie that love must be earned... a lie many of us first learned in childhood, and one that still shapes how we relate to God today. Together, we explore how trauma, performance, and perfectionism condition our brains to equate doing with being loved and how the gospel, neuroscience, and the gentle heart of Jesus invite us into something different.

We talk about:

• Why unworthiness feels “true” in your body (and how to gently rewire it)
• How spiritual disciplines can become performance and how to return to intimacy
• The science of neuroplasticity and renewing your mind in Christ
• What it means to rest in love that doesn’t have to be earned

If you’ve ever wondered, “Does God still love me if I don’t do X, Y, or Z?” this episode will meet you in that question and remind you that love was never something you had to earn.

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