A lot shifts after 40. Your tolerance for pretending disappears. That bottomless energy you used to have? Poof… gone. Suddenly, you're saying no to things that used to be an automatic yes (including sex).

It's not selfishness. It's honesty.

In this episode of Sex IRL, Stacey explores how to step into main character energy without shutting people out or burning everything down to the studs. Because showing up as your whole self gives intimacy a fighting chance.

In this episode:

• Why fakeness feels intolerable after 40

• How to say no to what you don't want while leaning into what you do

• Why "what's genuinely best for me is ultimately best for us"

• The magnetic pull of authenticity

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