In this episode, Attorney, Mediator, CDFA, and Chief PeaceKeeper™ Scott Levin sits down with Financial Advisor and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst Laurie Itkin to break down one of the most complex issues in divorce: how to divide a 401(k).

401(k)s present a unique set of challenges in divorce. These retirement assets often contain both community and separate property, grow in value over time, and require a Qualified Domestic Relations Order (QDRO) to divide properly. So how do you determine what portion is marital? How is appreciation handled? What’s the smartest, most tax-efficient way to divide the funds?

👉 Whether you're going through a divorce, advising clients, or simply want to understand the financial intricacies of retirement accounts in family law, this conversation provides essential guidance and real-world clarity.

👩‍💼 About Our Guest – Laurie Itkin

Laurie Itkin is a financial advisor, wealth manager, and CDFA®, and author of the Amazon best-seller Every Woman Should Know Her Options: Invest Your Way to Financial Empowerment. Named one of Investopedia’s Top 100 Financial Advisors, Laurie specializes in divorce-related financial planning through her firm The Options Lady.

🔗 Learn more at: https://www.theoptionslady.com/

🧑‍⚖️ About Scott Levin, Chief PeaceKeeper™

Scott Levin is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, full-time mediator, and family law attorney serving clients throughout California. Founder of San Diego Divorce Mediation & Family Law, Scott leads couples toward informed, respectful divorce solutions that protect both finances and relationships.

📍 Areas We Serve:

Kensington, La Jolla, Encinitas, Carlsbad, Rancho Santa Fe, Solana Beach, Point Loma, Poway, Del Mar, Santaluz, Coronado, Scripps Ranch, Sabre Springs, Rancho Peñasquitos, Torrey Pines, Bankers Hill — and throughout California.

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📝 Read the full transcript:
 Transcript – How to Divide a 401(k) During Divorce

Thanks for listening and I hope you'll continue to learn more about how you can peacefully divorce.

As a divorce mediation attorney in California, Scott Levin helps couples figure out the settlement terms and draft enforceable settlement agreements so they can divorce fairly without needing to go to court. Obtain closure peacefully through an amicable divorce. process that protects families and kids.

Visit San Diego Divorce Mediation for more information and to learn more about our mission to help divorcing couples make informed decisions and fair agreements through mediation or book a free virtual consultation.

Scott Levin, attorney, mediator, CDFA®
Chief PeaceKeeper
[email protected]
858-255-1321
San Diego Divorce Mediation & Family Law
www.SanDiegoFamilyLawyer.net

Hey everyone, it's family mediator Scott Levin, the Chief Peacekeeper™, and I’m excited to share my recent appearance on the Divorce Doesn’t Suck podcast! In this episode, I talk about why I completely shifted my law practice away from litigation and dedicated my career to helping families navigate divorce peacefully through mediation.

I share how my personal journey, including the birth of my third child, made me realize that divorce should not be a war—and how mediation is the key to protecting families, finances, and co-parenting relationships.

🔹 In this episode, we cover:
✅ Why I left litigation behind to focus 100% on divorce mediation
✅ The biggest mistakes I see divorcing couples make—and how to avoid them
✅ How real estate, finances, and child custody are handled in mediation
✅ Why the traditional courtroom divorce model is outdated and harmful
✅ How you can divorce with dignity, clarity, and financial stability

If you’re going through a divorce, thinking about it, or just want to learn more about how mediation can save you time, money, and stress, this episode is for you.

💬 Drop a comment below—what’s your biggest question about mediation?

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Thanks for listening and I hope you'll continue to learn more about how you can peacefully divorce.

As a divorce mediation attorney in California, Scott Levin helps couples figure out the settlement terms and draft enforceable settlement agreements so they can divorce fairly without needing to go to court. Obtain closure peacefully through an amicable divorce. process that protects families and kids.

Visit San Diego Divorce Mediation for more information and to learn more about our mission to help divorcing couples make informed decisions and fair agreements through mediation or book a free virtual consultation.

Scott Levin, attorney, mediator, CDFA®
Chief PeaceKeeper
[email protected]
858-255-1321
San Diego Divorce Mediation & Family Law
www.SanDiegoFamilyLawyer.net

In my discussion with divorce coach Lara Brunstrom, our discussion sheds light on amicable divorce strategies and mindset needed to navigate a separation process with clear objectives. This discussion focuses on a peaceful path forward to end your marriage with no regret or remorse. 

With a compassionate approach and a wealth of expertise, Lara and I share the same guidance we provide clients to help them make informed decisions that prioritize what matters most to their futures.  From understanding the legal landscape to managing emotional challenges and safeguarding financial stability, our insights will hopefully empower listeners and motivate them to choose an affordable future focused divorce mediation approach.

Discover how to divorce coach Lara Brunstrom helps clients navigate divorce with focus on growth and transformation with her thoughtful guidance.

Thanks for listening and I hope you'll continue to learn more about how you can peacefully divorce.

As a divorce mediation attorney in California, Scott Levin helps couples figure out the settlement terms and draft enforceable settlement agreements so they can divorce fairly without needing to go to court. Obtain closure peacefully through an amicable divorce. process that protects families and kids.

Visit San Diego Divorce Mediation for more information and to learn more about our mission to help divorcing couples make informed decisions and fair agreements through mediation or book a free virtual consultation.

Scott Levin, attorney, mediator, CDFA®
Chief PeaceKeeper
[email protected]
858-255-1321
San Diego Divorce Mediation & Family Law
www.SanDiegoFamilyLawyer.net

Learn about your mortgage refinancing options during divorce as we help guide you to make informed decisions while in the midst of one of life's more challenging transitions.

In my candid conversation with Sam Mehta of Blue Fire Mortgage Group, we unravel the web of refinancing options for separating couples struggling with high mortgage rates. Sam, with his wealth of expertise, breaks down the steps you need to navigate to ensure that you make sound decisions regarding your primary residence and mortgage loan to help you navigate financial settlements during divorce. 

The discussion hits on numerous options for dealing with your home including how to divide your family home in divorce and under what circumstances it may make sense to agree to continue to co-own your home after divorce.

If you're grappling with the question of how to secure your mortgage future post-divorce, this episode arms you with vital information. By highlighting the significance of a solid 12-month payment history from the party responsible for the mortgage, Sam illustrates how your actions now affect your lending capabilities later.

Tune in to equip yourself with the insights and resources to understand the financial issues of the divorce process so that you can make decisions which put you on the path of financial independence and stability, no matter what personal storms you may face.

Thanks for listening and I hope you'll continue to learn more about how you can peacefully divorce.

As a divorce mediation attorney in California, Scott Levin helps couples figure out the settlement terms and draft enforceable settlement agreements so they can divorce fairly without needing to go to court. Obtain closure peacefully through an amicable divorce. process that protects families and kids.

Visit San Diego Divorce Mediation for more information and to learn more about our mission to help divorcing couples make informed decisions and fair agreements through mediation or book a free virtual consultation.

Scott Levin, attorney, mediator, CDFA®
Chief PeaceKeeper
[email protected]
858-255-1321
San Diego Divorce Mediation & Family Law
www.SanDiegoFamilyLawyer.net

Discover insights into how integrating legal, financial, and emotional strategies can help achieve the benefits and of a healthy divorce.

San Diego Divorce Mediation Attorney and CDFA Scott Levin is joined by divorce coach Jill Kaufman  for an in-depth exploration of the power of mediation over traditional litigation, which often mitigates emotional harm and financial strain, offering a more peaceful path forward. Learn the importance of selecting the right legal counsel aligned with holistic values, and avoid the pitfalls of adversarial approaches that can complicate and prolong the journey.

Delve into the art of effective mediation tactics and the benefits of assembling a team of financial, legal, and mental health professionals. We discuss the nuances of negotiation, emphasizing the importance of understanding the motivations behind demands to foster a more amicable resolution. Scott and Jill share real-life scenarios where creative solutions, such as involving divorce financial neutral services or opting for settlements, have led to better mental health and family outcomes.  

The discussion underscores the necessity of prioritizing fair settlements that consider the welfare of any children involved, setting the stage for healthier family dynamics.

Thanks for listening and I hope you'll continue to learn more about how you can peacefully divorce.

As a divorce mediation attorney in California, Scott Levin helps couples figure out the settlement terms and draft enforceable settlement agreements so they can divorce fairly without needing to go to court. Obtain closure peacefully through an amicable divorce. process that protects families and kids.

Visit San Diego Divorce Mediation for more information and to learn more about our mission to help divorcing couples make informed decisions and fair agreements through mediation or book a free virtual consultation.

Scott Levin, attorney, mediator, CDFA®
Chief PeaceKeeper
[email protected]
858-255-1321
San Diego Divorce Mediation & Family Law
www.SanDiegoFamilyLawyer.net

What if you could navigate your divorce with reduced stress and greater control? In this episode, Scott Levin, Chief Peacekeeper and family law attorney, collaborates with Tanya Aure, a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, to examine the divorce mediation vs attorney differences and how mediation vs litigation differ for divorce proceedings.

Tanya and I clarify the mediation process, highlighting how it allows you to retain decision-making authority rather than leaving it in the hands of your attorney. We share our personal experiences and delve into practical considerations when thinking about a California mediator vs lawyer for divorce, from asset division to determining the future of your home and vehicles.

Discover why mediation is a faster, more cost-effective, and empowering option for you and your spouse. Gain valuable insights into how mediation encourages direct communication and mutual agreement, and learn why we are strong advocates for this amicable divorce process approach over traditional litigation. 

Don’t miss this opportunity to hear from two experienced professionals about how you can take charge of your divorce journey.

Thanks for listening and I hope you'll continue to learn more about how you can peacefully divorce.

As a divorce mediation attorney in California, Scott Levin helps couples figure out the settlement terms and draft enforceable settlement agreements so they can divorce fairly without needing to go to court. Obtain closure peacefully through an amicable divorce. process that protects families and kids.

Visit San Diego Divorce Mediation for more information and to learn more about our mission to help divorcing couples make informed decisions and fair agreements through mediation or book a free virtual consultation.

Scott Levin, attorney, mediator, CDFA®
Chief PeaceKeeper
[email protected]
858-255-1321
San Diego Divorce Mediation & Family Law
www.SanDiegoFamilyLawyer.net

Ever wondered how to ensure your financial future is secure during a divorce? Join us for an enlightening conversation with Scott Levin, a family law attorney specializing in divorce mediation, and Tanya Aure, a San Diego Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) from Southern California. Scott and Tanya unpack the critical role a CDFA plays in navigating the financial complexities of divorce, from separating community property to managing intricate assets like RSUs, pensions, and rental properties. Tanya sheds light on how a CDFA can provide clarity and informed decision-making, making it crucial for those not well-versed in finances to seek their expertise.

In this episode, Scott and Tanya discuss real-world scenarios where a San Diego divorce financial planner impacts the settlement in a positive way with unique and indispensable skills.  Learn how Tanya breaks down various asset classifications—like dividing an IRA in divorce vs taxable brokerage accounts— to help clients understand their financial landscape fully.

Hear about the importance of being informed before finalizing any settlements, and how a California CDFA can help achieve a fair divorce settlement and give you the confidence needed to navigate the mediation process effectively. This episode is a must-listen for anyone aiming to make sound financial decisions during a divorce, ensuring a secure and well-planned future.

Thanks for listening and I hope you'll continue to learn more about how you can peacefully divorce.

As a divorce mediation attorney in California, Scott Levin helps couples figure out the settlement terms and draft enforceable settlement agreements so they can divorce fairly without needing to go to court. Obtain closure peacefully through an amicable divorce. process that protects families and kids.

Visit San Diego Divorce Mediation for more information and to learn more about our mission to help divorcing couples make informed decisions and fair agreements through mediation or book a free virtual consultation.

Scott Levin, attorney, mediator, CDFA®
Chief PeaceKeeper
[email protected]
858-255-1321
San Diego Divorce Mediation & Family Law
www.SanDiegoFamilyLawyer.net

Can you truly find peace and empowerment amid the chaos of divorce? Discover the transformative power of conscious uncoupling with Dympna McAloon, a coach who turned a personal crisis into a guiding light for others. During this heartfelt conversation, Dympna shares her journey through the emotional labyrinth of separation and the peace she found in Katherine Woodward Thomas’s conscious uncoupling process, famously embraced by Gwyneth Paltrow. Learn how stepping away from the blame game and focusing on personal responsibility can lead to profound growth and healing.

Through a structured five-step roadmap, Dympna explains how individuals can move from pain and chaos to calm and empowerment. This process not only helps settle emotions but also enables individuals to reclaim their power and break free from negative patterns that hinder future relationships. Tune in as we discuss the steps that can transform a painful experience into an opportunity for personal growth and emotional freedom, offering practical advice for handling the challenges of separation with grace and mindfulness.

Thanks for listening and I hope you'll continue to learn more about how you can peacefully divorce.

As a divorce mediation attorney in California, Scott Levin helps couples figure out the settlement terms and draft enforceable settlement agreements so they can divorce fairly without needing to go to court. Obtain closure peacefully through an amicable divorce. process that protects families and kids.

Visit San Diego Divorce Mediation for more information and to learn more about our mission to help divorcing couples make informed decisions and fair agreements through mediation or book a free virtual consultation.

Scott Levin, attorney, mediator, CDFA®
Chief PeaceKeeper
[email protected]
858-255-1321
San Diego Divorce Mediation & Family Law
www.SanDiegoFamilyLawyer.net

Untangling the financial knots of a divorce can be daunting, especially when a mortgage is involved. That's why we brought in Sam Mehta from Blue Fire Mortgage Group, a true home loan expert and lifer in the business. We discuss the intersection of home loans and divorce and cover the issues most commonly asked about.  Learn how couples can both remain on the loan after divorce and the potential risks involved. Learn about the 12 month rule and how a non-owner can stay on the loan but not have it count against him or her when applying for future loans.  This discussion really provides great insight and mortgage wisdom.

As a creative problem solver for couples wanting to mediate divorce in California, Scott Levin shares his insights and mortgage advice during divorce in California from the legal side of things.  Sam and Scott share a common perspective on divorce, and they shed light on why navigating such a pivotal life event with grace and financial savvy is crucial.

Thanks for listening and I hope you'll continue to learn more about how you can peacefully divorce.

As a divorce mediation attorney in California, Scott Levin helps couples figure out the settlement terms and draft enforceable settlement agreements so they can divorce fairly without needing to go to court. Obtain closure peacefully through an amicable divorce. process that protects families and kids.

Visit San Diego Divorce Mediation for more information and to learn more about our mission to help divorcing couples make informed decisions and fair agreements through mediation or book a free virtual consultation.

Scott Levin, attorney, mediator, CDFA®
Chief PeaceKeeper
[email protected]
858-255-1321
San Diego Divorce Mediation & Family Law
www.SanDiegoFamilyLawyer.net

Navigating the division of assets in a divorce can feel like trekking through a legal labyrinth, but fear not, as this episode promises to be your guiding light.  Host Scott Levin is joined by attorney Elizabeth Van Clief and financial forensics guru Ashlyn Downing to dissect the complex process of splitting restricted stock units and retirement funds during divorce. 

The discussion introduces concepts of separate and community property, and how an asset can be both. Figuring out how to divide RSUs and 401ks, IRAs and pensions often require the assistance of financial analysts who are able to provide clear understanding as to the community value aka the portion that is jointly owned.  

Learn a bit about what is up grabs and what stays in your corner when the dust settles in the Golden State's community property ring. This conversation is peppered with insights that will introduce you to valuation issues surrounding the financial fray of divorce from some of the top respected experts who tackle them. 

Thanks for listening and I hope you'll continue to learn more about how you can peacefully divorce.

As a divorce mediation attorney in California, Scott Levin helps couples figure out the settlement terms and draft enforceable settlement agreements so they can divorce fairly without needing to go to court. Obtain closure peacefully through an amicable divorce. process that protects families and kids.

Visit San Diego Divorce Mediation for more information and to learn more about our mission to help divorcing couples make informed decisions and fair agreements through mediation or book a free virtual consultation.

Scott Levin, attorney, mediator, CDFA®
Chief PeaceKeeper
[email protected]
858-255-1321
San Diego Divorce Mediation & Family Law
www.SanDiegoFamilyLawyer.net