Listen to This Episode If You:

• 🎄 Are navigating the holiday season post-separation or divorce.

• ❓ Need guidance on legal deadlines and court closures during Christmas.

• 💡 Want tips for co-parenting and managing handovers with minimal stress.

• 🛡 Are concerned about manipulative or high-conflict behavior during the holidays.

• 🌟 Are looking for ideas to create new traditions and move forward emotionally.

• 🎄Trying to figure out how to manage Christmas under the same roof this year.

Trigger warning: Domestic and Family Violence is discussed in this episode. 

Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for personalized legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your circumstances.

Separated for the Holidays? How to Manage Legal and Emotional Challenges

The holiday season can be particularly challenging for those navigating separation or divorce. In this episode, we offer practical tips and emotional support for managing legal matters, co-parenting, and the unique pressures of this time of year. We discuss everything from court closures and legal deadlines to handling difficult exes and creating new traditions with your kids. Whether you’re under the same roof with your ex, facing your first holiday alone, or co-parenting through conflict, this episode provides strategies to help you cope and thrive.

Key Topics Discussed:

1. Legal Matters During the Holidays:

   • Court closures in the Australian Family Court and deadlines during the Christmas and New Year period.

   • What to consider doing if you receive unexpected legal documents from your ex.

   • Emergency contacts for urgent legal applications.

   • Making plans with your lawyer over the Christmas break.

2. Co-Parenting Challenges:

   • Managing Christmas handovers and shared custody arrangements.

   • Shielding kids from parental conflict and ensuring their joy during the holidays.

   • Tips for planning and communicating with your ex to reduce misunderstandings.

3. Living Under One Roof:

   • Strategies for surviving the holiday period with your ex in the same house.

   • Emotional and practical tips to maintain peace for yourself and your children.

4. Safety Planning:

   • Recognizing heightened risks of family violence during the holidays.

   • Developing a safety plan and resources for immediate help.

5. Building New Traditions:

   • Overcoming the emotional challenges of changing family dynamics.

   • Ideas for creating meaningful and joyful new traditions with your kids.

   • How to embrace "adult Christmas" and find happiness in new experiences.

6. Self-Care and Support:

   • Managing loneliness and isolation during the holidays.

   • Connecting with friends, family, or community groups for support.

   • Planning your day to stay busy and emotionally grounded.

Final Thoughts:

The holidays can be a difficult time, but with the right strategies and support, you can navigate them successfully. Whether you’re dealing with a challenging ex, managing legal deadlines, or starting new traditions, remember: this season is temporary, and brighter days lie ahead.

Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for personalized legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your circumstances.

Happy holidays from all of us at the Divorce Course Podcast. ❤️

Links & Resources Mentioned:

• Episodes Mentioned in this

The Do’s and Don’ts  of being separated under one roof

https://youtu.be/jdi4snqP_I4?si=6zmQS1XAYZPkm_gG

Handover Hell: how to deal handover

https://youtu.be/YphzOPZmC3k?si=YSOHinsBvaxvLlX5

Co Parenting & Navigating the School Holidays with the Four Divorce Personality Types / Ep. 79

https://youtu.be/vnUo5oEGQRo?si=sB49DNfdTYHPqGPo

No No No to Ho Ho Ho Divorce During Christmas

https://youtu.be/DoO7aNw9ja0?si=8lgyHLtPdsnimn91

10 essential boundaries in divorce

https://youtu.be/5KSMYe6ctVE?si=yfH4diXg8GWBd6ba

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline: 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police: 000

• DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811

• DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636

• National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)

Thank you for tuning in to this episode. We hope these strategies empower you to handle mediation with confidence and clarity. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Every share helps others find support during difficult times. Stay strong—you’ve got this.

Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, so seek personalized legal advice tailored to your circumstances.

00:00 Introduction and Overview

01:30 Legal Matters During the Holidays

03:44 Challenges of Living Under One Roof

07:49 Co-Parenting and Custody Issues

18:02 Dealing with Manipulative Ex-Partners

22:54 Navigating Custody Without Court Orders

23:11 Creating New Traditions After Separation

27:59 Handling Emotional Challenges During Holidays

29:16 Legal Tips for Holiday Custody Arrangements

30:26 Planning and Self-Care for a Better Holiday

34:41 Dealing with High-Conflict Exes

37:21 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

Does Family Violence and Post Separation Abuse factor into Property Settlement? This is now answered in The Family Law Amendment Bill 2024 which introduces some of the most significant reforms in the Australia Family Court in decades, addressing key issues like financial abuse, property disputes, and the treatment of family violence in court. In this episode, We are going to break down the changes, and try to explain what they mean for you, and share practical tips on how to prepare if you're navigating the family court system. These updates aim to create a fairer, safer process for families in transition.  

Disclaimer: Always talk to your own lawyer before making any decisions or actions on your own case and situation. This discussion is general in nature and should not be considered legal advice.

Listen to This Episode If You:

• 🌟 Are dealing with financial or economical abuse and want to understand how it’s recognized in the new laws.

• ❓ Are curious about how any type of  family violence impacts property settlements.

• 🐾 Want to know how pets are treated in property settlements under the new reforms.

• 💡 Need to understand the regulatory changes to Children’s Contact Services.

• 🛡 Want to stay informed on how the latest family law changes could affect your case.

Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:

1. Expanded Definition of Family Violence:

   • Includes economic and financial abuse (e.g., controlling finances or withholding support).

   • Courts will now explicitly consider these behaviors in property settlements.

2. Family Violence and Contributions:

   • Courts must evaluate how family violence impacts financial and non-financial contributions.

   • Adjustments to property settlements may favor victims of abuse.

3. Pets in Property Settlements:

   • New provisions address disputes over companion animals, focusing on exclusive ownership or sale.

   • Recognizes the role pets play in family dynamics and safety concerns.

4. Children’s Contact Services (CCS):

   • Establishes accreditation and compliance requirements for CCS providers.

   • Introduces protections for sensitive safety information shared within CCS.

5. Protected Confidences:

   • Enhances safeguards for therapeutic notes and children’s statements, ensuring privacy in court proceedings.

Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:

• Supplementary explanatory memorandum 

• Family Law Amendment Bill

https://www.aph.gov.au/Parliamentary_Business/Bills_Legislation/bd/bd2425/25bd013

• https://parlinfo.aph.gov.au/parlInfo/search/display/display.w3p;query=Id%3A%22legislation%2Fems%2Fr7234_ems_d9233ec7-832e-4627-88c2-6970f86eb262%22

• ARC App https://download.arc-app.org.au/

• Empower You App - https://www.police.nsw.gov.au/safety_and_prevention/policing_in_the_community/empower_you_app

• Episodes for More Information:

• Communicating Coercive Control in Your Affidavit

https://open.spotify.com/episode/6Ci0M4DqznBf1L1kcZM3vY?si=wVsGQ4wcSViYDeBJZr8Puw

• Post-Separation Abuse: Strategies to Protect Yourself

• https://open.spotify.com/episode/1ccm01eMpJ3TMZa2uMaUMN?si=FvU_ux2ATBuiBL5IW2g8gQ

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE: Call 1800 811 811 

• LEGAL AID:https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au/Home Access free or low-cost legal advice tailored to your situation.

• Lifeline: Call 13 11 14 for 24/7 crisis support and counseling.

• Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 for confidential support tailored for men.

• Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 for counseling services for children and young people.

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1800 019 123 for culturally sensitive support.

• Relationships Australia: Access resources and counseling for relationship and family issues.

• Emergency Services: Call 000 in an emergency for immediate assistance.

• DVConnect Womensline: Call 1800 811 811 for support, 24/7.

• DV Connect Mensline: Call 1800 600 636 for advice and assistance for men.

• National Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) for 24/7 counseling and support.

These resources are here to help you. Please don’t hesitate to reach out for support—you are not alone.

Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, so seek personalized legal advice tailored to your circumstances.

00:00 Introduction to Family Law Changes

01:09 Significant Changes in Family Law Act

03:35 Economic and Financial Abuse

06:48 Impact of Family Violence on Contributions

10:46 Wastage and Financial Misconduct

15:47 Pets and Family Law

19:12 Children Contact Centers

20:50 Accreditation and Safety in Contact Centers

22:01 Understanding Protected Confidences

25:15 Implications of New Legislation on Counseling

27:25 Property Reforms and Family Violence

31:26 Practical Steps for Ongoing Cases

36:32 Documenting Family Violence

38:44 Future Impacts and Final Thoughts

Mediation is meant to be a pathway to resolution, but what happens when one party has no intention of settling? In this episode we explore the troubles and solutions of mediation, offering practical tips on how to navigate manipulative tactics and protect your mental health.

Whether it’s property or parenting arrangements, this is an informative guide on what you can potentially expect before, during, and after mediation to stay one step ahead.

If you’ve ever worried about being stuck in a mediation that feels like a game rather than a genuine effort to resolve issues, this episode is for you.

Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, so seek personalised legal advice tailored to your circumstances.

Listen to This Episode If You:

🌟 Want to prepare for an upcoming mediation session.

❓ Are unsure how to handle a manipulative ex during mediation.

💡 Need strategies to make mediation as productive as possible.

🛡 Are concerned about wasting time and money in mediation.

 📚 Want tips to protect your legal and emotional boundaries.

Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:

The Purpose of Mediation:

Understanding its role in the divorce process and when it works best.

 Manipulative Tactics to Watch For:

Recognising red flags during mediation. Preparation Tips: How to gather evidence and set boundaries before mediation.

 Strategies During Mediation:

Getting small wins, staying focused, and not falling into traps.

Post-Mediation Steps:

Following up with offers and using mediation outcomes in court, even if no agreement is reached.

 Common Pitfalls:

 “Don’t be surprised if” scenarios, including last-minute walkouts and wild demands.

 Emotional Management:

How to stay calm and avoid frustration when things don’t go as planned.

Links & Resources Mentioned:

Course Enrolment: Join our Divorce Blueprint Course www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol before the deadline to get personalised guidance, legal education, and emotional support from Laura and Lynette. Platinum spots are limited—sign up now to secure your place.

4VOICES

https://www.4voices.org.au/

Christmas Appeal

https://4voiceschristmasappeal.raiselysite.com/

 Episodes Mentioned in this

8 Ways to Protect yourself from DARVO and your Narcissistic Ex during Family Court https://youtu.be/pRMOfozwBKs?si=tDmJwHO3ch-uYhTg

Mediation and negotiation tips for divorcing an ex with narcissistic behaviors / Ep. 99 https://youtu.be/JYqqDyWa5ns?si=k7G6OfpMwPP1Hqgg

Costs, Family Court and Calderbank Offers / Ep. 65 https://youtu.be/0OKhDB8s3As?si=54omWq46LHn_Eb6R

Do I really need a lawyer for divorce mediation or family dispute resolution? https://youtu.be/GB2lJftxdh4?si=BgdkYJrQTeokTlSK

Master Your Divorce Negotiations: The Iron Fist Within the Velvet Glove Technique / Ep. 109 https://youtu.be/JSYc-yun-jM?si=VCefzLZb-ie-f1m9

Emergency Contacts:

WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)

Thank you for tuning in to this episode. We hope these strategies empower you to handle mediation with confidence and clarity. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Every share helps others find support during difficult times. Stay strong—you’ve got this.

Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, so seek personalized legal advice tailored to your circumstances.

00:00 Introduction and Overview

01:06 The Importance of Mediation in Divorce

02:23 Recognising Manipulative Tactics during divorce

03:53 Pre-Mediation Strategies for mediating with a narcissist or manipulative type

06:23 During Mediation: What to Expect

10:08 What can you do Post-Mediation

20:23 Making the Most of a Failed Mediation

25:41 What about Unrealistic Demands in Mediation

26:34 Preparing for Mediation Roadblocks

28:51 Handling Unexpected Settlement Outcomes

30:23 How to Deal with Manipulative Tactics

36:55 The Importance of Legal Representation

38:56 Lowering Expectations and Emotional Preparation for Mediation

43:41 Final Thoughts and Additional Resources

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Facing the journey from separation to settlement can feel overwhelming and uncertain, but you’re not alone. In this episode, Laura and Lynette take you through the seven essential stages of the divorce process, from making the initial decision to separate, all the way to moving forward after your settlement. They share practical tips, emotional insights, and legal education to help you make empowered choices at every step. Whether you're at the beginning of this journey or somewhere in the middle, this episode offers a roadmap to guide you through.

Listen to This Episode If You:

• 🌟 Are just starting your divorce journey and don’t know what comes next.

• ❓ Need help understanding the steps from separation to settlement.

• 💡 Want tips on managing property settlements, parenting plans, and legal agreements.

• 🛡 Are facing challenges with a high-conflict or manipulative ex.

• 📚 Want to learn how to move forward emotionally and financially after the settlement is done.

1. Deciding to Separate: Understanding the importance of making the decision and how to document it for legal purposes.

2. Living Under One Roof: Strategies for managing separation when you’re still sharing a home due to financial or housing constraints.

3. Understanding Your Legal Rights: Why seeking legal education or advice early is critical to protect yourself.

4. Property and Financial Settlements: The steps involved in dividing assets, debts, and managing disclosure obligations.

5. Parenting Plans and Agreements: How to create effective parenting arrangements that prioritise the best interests of your children.

6. Finalising Legal Documents: What you need to know about consent orders, mediation, and navigating the court system if necessary.

7. Moving Forward After Divorce: Tips for reclaiming your independence, managing finances, and building a new life.

RESOURCES

• Course Enrolment:

• Join our Divorce Blueprint Course www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol before the deadline to get personalised guidance, legal education, and emotional support from Laura and Lynette. Platinum spots are limited—sign up now to secure your place.

• LEGAL AID https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au/

• Lifeline: 13 11 14

• Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 1300 364 277

• Police: 000

• DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)

• DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636

• National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)

• Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978

Thank you for tuning in to this episode. We hope it gives you clarity and confidence to take the next steps in your journey. Don’t forget to check out our course for step-by-step guidance and support through every stage of your divorce. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Stay strong, and remember—you’ve got this.

Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, and it’s important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your circumstances.

00:00 Introduction to the 7 Steps from Separation to Settlement

01:34 How to Make the Decision to Separate

03:36 Can you Be Separated Under One Roof in Divorce

06:51 How to find out Your Legal Rights and Obligations in Divorce

10:46 How to Divide Assets, Property, and Debt in Divorce

14:44 How to Create Parenting Plans and Arrangements

19:24 How to Navigate Legal Paperwork and Mediation in Divorce

20:57 How to learn about Divorce Applications and Time Limits

22:35 How to avoid the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce

23:48 How to get Empowerment Through Knowledge and Support in Divorce

27:28 How to Move Forward After Divorce

33:29 How to Join Our Supportive Divorce Community

BONUS mini episode: Divorce is a challenging journey, and there are so many things we wish we’d known before starting out. In this special episode, I share three key insights I learned along the way—insights that could save you time, stress, and money. From setting firm boundaries to creating a clear plan and building a strong support system, these lessons are invaluable for anyone facing separation or divorce.

And there’s more! Next week, we’re hosting a free, live webinar designed to support you wherever you are in your divorce journey. This session will cover everything from practical advice on setting boundaries and protecting your finances to tips for handling high-conflict communication. Join us for actionable insights and a live Q&A session with my mum, a family law expert. Webinar registration link https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/divorcewebinarregistration

• 🌟 Are beginning your divorce journey and need a roadmap to help guide your decisions.

• ❓ Want to hear practical, first-hand tips from someone who’s been through it.

• 💡 Need insights on handling emotional and financial boundaries during divorce.

• 🛡 Are curious about what our free webinar will cover and how it can help you.

• 📚 Want to learn how to build a strong support system to get through challenging times.

• Setting Firm Boundaries: The importance of defining clear emotional and practical boundaries.

• Creating a Plan: How having a roadmap can help you feel more in control and prepared.

• Building a Support System: Why having friends, family, or a professional by your side is invaluable.

• DIVORCE Webinar Details: What to expect from our upcoming live webinar, including actionable insights and a live Q&A with a family law specialist.

• Topics Covered: Boundaries, financial protection, handling high-conflict communication, and more.

• Live Q&A: Ask your specific questions and receive advice from a family law expert.

• Privacy Guaranteed: Participate as much or as little as you like in a safe, confidential space.

• Limited Spots: Click the link in our show notes or visit thedivorcecourse.com.au to save your seat!

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline: 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police: 000

• DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)

• DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636

• National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)

Thank you for tuning in to this episode! We hope these insights make your journey a little easier and empower you to take control of the process. And remember, don’t miss out on our final free webinar of the year next week—it’s an incredible opportunity to learn, ask questions, and find support. See you there!

Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, and it’s important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your circumstances.

00:00 Introduction and Setting Expectations

00:03 Three Things I Wish I Knew Before Divorce

00:17 Importance of Setting Boundaries with your ex

00:31 Having a Plan when going through the divorce process

00:52 Power of a Support System when facing divorce

01:08 Exciting Divorce Webinar Announcement

01:15 Webinar Details and Benefits

02:05 Addressing Concerns and Privacy

03:07 Final Thoughts and How to Register

If you’ve ever felt that your ex is using the legal system to keep you trapped or that you’re facing ongoing harassment, this episode provides the support and strategies you need. 

Divorce may mean separation, but sometimes, for those dealing with high-conflict exes, the abuse continues well after the split. In this episode, we discuss five key strategies to manage and escape post-separation abuse purgatory. From court misuse to constant control tactics, this episode offers crucial help for protecting yourself legally, emotionally, and financially. 

Listen to This Episode If You:

• 🌟 Are experiencing legal harassment or ongoing control tactics post-divorce.

• ❓ Want to know how to protect yourself from manipulative use of the court system.

• 💡 Need strategies for setting firm boundaries against a high-conflict ex.

• 🛡 Are navigating the court process with an ex who refuses to cooperate on settlements.

• 📚 Want insights on how recent Family Law changes impact post-separation dynamics.

Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:

• Understanding Post-Separation Abuse: What it is, how it manifests, and why it’s so pervasive.

• Central Practice Directions: How this court directive aims to reduce misuse of the legal system.

• Section 117C Offers: Leveraging financial penalties to discourage frivolous court actions.

• Legal Documentation: Keeping a record of your ex’s actions and the importance of filing timelines.

• Emotional Boundaries: Techniques to mentally distance yourself from ongoing harassment.

Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general discussion for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice in any way at all. Every situation is unique, and it’s important to seek personalised legal advice tailored to your circumstances.

When Divorce isn't the End: Handling Legal & Post-Separation Abuse

Related Episodes that may be helpful:

• Post Separation Abuse Wheel Episode https://youtu.be/YALj5wsoe6k?si=OZp5WhOwyR7Omkyf

• How to divorce a statue https://youtu.be/tM75QvgjM_0?si=9tAnY9EXLu7JjcOS

• Family Court Vs Settling https://youtu.be/gYpW3znoY28?si=NvrUKsGVIlMt8WNC

• When your ex files in court - response to initiating application https://youtu.be/qTHDgWTjF1A?si=rETvrOrpMKf_IwzZ

• Navigating Community Legal Services https://youtu.be/4sEUhu6r07Q?si=Qjla_vk0NAZ2eS_U

• Decoding a word salad letter like a lawyer https://youtu.be/k0AhA3MIjM0?si=onpRY7wU7DTeC63Q

Free Resources & Links:

• CENTRAL PRACTICE DIRECTIONS https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-cpd

• Section 117c  of the Family Law Act https://classic.austlii.edu.au/au/legis/cth/consol_act/fla1975114/s117c.html

• Free Webinar registration link https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/divorcewebinarregistration

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline: 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police: 000

• DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)

• DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636

• National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)

Thank you for tuning in to this episode on managing post-separation abuse. We hope these strategies offer you the tools and confidence to protect yourself and find peace beyond the courtroom. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Every rating helps others find support during difficult transitions. Stay strong and take care.

Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general discussion for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice in any way at all. Every situation is unique, and it’s important to seek personalised legal advice tailored to your circumstances.

00:00 Introduction to Post Separation Abuse

00:23 Trigger Warnings and Support Resources

01:06 Podcast Introduction and Goals

01:26 Understanding Post Separation Abuse

03:26 Legal Protections: Central Practice Direction

11:56 Legal Protections: Section 117C

16:40 Taking Legal Action: Going to Court

22:41 New Legal Measures: Harmful Proceedings

23:12 Register Today!

23:22 Understanding Harmful Proceedings

24:20 Court's Role in Handling Harmful Litigants

27:56 Strategies for Dealing with Legal Abuse

33:04 Building Emotional Resilience

37:55 Support and Resources

38:52 Listener Feedback and Conclusion

When going through a divorce or de facto separation, one of the biggest questions you’ll face is: Should I settle, or should I go to court? In this episode, we take an in depth look into the reasons why people choose to settle and why others decide to hold out for court. We discuss the risks, costs, and personal factors that play into this decision, while also highlighting potential pitfalls and traps that could influence you to settle too early or too late. Whether you’re in the early stages of property settlement or nearing mediation, this episode will help you think critically about your own situation.

• 🌟 Wish you could speak to others about their decisions to settle or go to court.

• ❓ Want to understand the risks and costs involved in going to court versus settling.

• 💡 Need insights on how to others have avoided settling for a bad offers or been pressured into an agreements.

• 🛡 Are navigating a high-conflict divorce and worried about making the right financial decisions and want to listen to what others have done in the past.

• 📚 Want to better understand how lawyers play a role in helping you decide when to settle.

• Reasons to Settle: When taking your lawyer’s advice, financial risks, and emotional well-being make settling the best option.

• Risks of Going to Court: The potential for additional costs, including paying for your ex’s legal fees, and how this can impact your decision.

• Understanding Costs: How court costs and lawyer fees add up, and why it’s crucial to factor in these expenses when making your decision.

• Section 117 Offers: What they are, how they work, and why you should think carefully before rejecting a reasonable offer.

• Emotional Factors: How guilt, pressure, or anger can cloud judgement and lead to poor settlement decisions.

• Disclosure Issues: Why it’s essential to have financial disclosure before settling and how to handle situations where your ex isn't sharing all the information.

• Post-Separation Abuse: How ongoing manipulation and control can affect your or their decision to settle, and strategies to protect yourself from further harm.

• Related Episodes:

• Understanding Legal Costs and Risks COSTS & CALDERBANK OFFERS

https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog/costscourtcalderbankoffer

• Divorce Myths

https://open.spotify.com/episode/33mBdotbKK4yLH586ZaWko?si=czer_l9VRIOVWxWxGSiJjg

• The Premature Pitfalls of Percentage Negotiations

​​https://open.spotify.com/episode/6bxTgrdymCeW16Q7z5njUe?si=UPG5F5vtSNuHWCKwWWg32g

Choosing your lawyer

https://open.spotify.com/episode/0XQOMoxqaSpf5YrxTc50eR?si=KUq4BzFPQaeIndch9p-3QA

Red Flags when choosing a lawyer

https://open.spotify.com/episode/6fR3jP75Z4amMlRCsEOAhJ?si=66f50b888bb44784

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline: 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police: 000

• DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)

• DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636

• National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)

Thank you for listening to this episode. We hope it helps you think critically about when to settle and when to go to court, while also providing the knowledge you need to protect yourself during your divorce journey. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the guidance they need. Stay strong and take care.

Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.

00:00 Introduction to Settling in Divorce

01:43 Understanding the Role of Lawyers in Settling

06:00 Cost-Benefit Analysis in Court Cases

10:21 Risks of Going to Family Court

16:25 Bad Reasons for Settling 

19:52 Navigating Emotional Decisions in Divorce

20:30 Reasons People Settle in Divorce

21:34 Understanding the Family Law Act in your Divorce

22:49 Challenges with Disclosure in Property Settlement and Divorce

25:27 Unrealistic Expectations in Divorce outcomes

29:24 Dealing with Anger and Abuse during the divorce process

32:05 Denial and Acceptance in Divorce

34:26 Final Thoughts

This is a legal and emotional boundary check episode for you where we discuss 10 critical legal and emotional boundaries that are essential to maintain during this process. From communication and financial boundaries to setting clear limits on social media and handling high-conflict exes, this episode is packed with practical tips to help protect your emotional well-being and legal standing. Whether you're in the early stages of divorce or deep into the process, setting boundaries is crucial for navigating the journey with more clarity and peace of mind.

Listen to This Episode If You:

🌟 Are dealing with communication challenges with your ex and need to set boundaries.

❓ Want to understand the importance of legal boundaries, such as avoiding pressure to sign documents.

💡 Are struggling with emotional boundaries and need tips on protecting your mental health.

🛡 Are co-parenting and need strategies for managing handovers or avoiding conflict.

📚 Want to learn how to set clear financial boundaries to protect your income and assets.

Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances and your country.

Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:

Communication Boundaries: How to manage communication with your ex, especially in high-conflict situations.

Task Boundaries: Why it's important to divide responsibilities post-separation and avoid falling into old habits.

Digital Boundaries: Protecting your privacy online, managing social media, and securing your email and iCloud accounts.

Living Boundaries: Setting clear rules if you're still living under the same roof or need to protect your space post-separation.

Financial Boundaries: The importance of separating accounts, handling child support, and protecting your finances from coercive control.

Legal Boundaries: How to avoid being pressured into signing agreements and managing legal deadlines.

Emotional Boundaries: Finding ways to protect your mental health and limiting the emotional toll of the divorce process.

Physical Boundaries: Strategies for handling custody handovers and protecting your safety with restraining orders, if necessary.

Family and Friend Boundaries: Setting limits on how involved your family and friends are in your divorce, while maintaining support.

Children’s Boundaries: Keeping your kids out of adult matters and ensuring they are not used as messengers or spies.

Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:

Related Episodes:

• The Pitfalls of Percentage Arguements https://open.spotify.com/episode/6bxTgrdymCeW16Q7z5njUe?si=Bl0w1opYQHKk6UVHSZr6Qg
• Co-Parenting & Communication with Our Children Creator
• https://open.spotify.com/episode/3Nz2etsYgdMVym8BdcaLwE?si=O7mqw42aT6GZVF58tBopBw
• Separated Under One Roof Do’s & Don’ts 
• https://open.spotify.com/episode/2IXSOZ8vVadbcrq10DuxG0?si=_bVJyhtBS5edyJhjf10H1A
• What about their stuff dealing with your ex’s belongings in Divorce
• https://open.spotify.com/episode/2bPd3wWLQh3pzQmL2KCR0v?si=nqVtorlkTxq39fRZbm0L1g
• Overcoming Sleep Struggles during divorce
• https://open.spotify.com/episode/6klNAJWd2vMAl0LWJq8XCC?si=o0seCI1IQK-od5eAevRXcA
• When amicable goes wrong
• https://open.spotify.com/episode/1aK3dni8maqPLOx9vKQDG4?si=IFa7dV5yTkyw76LUXFf0Aw
• Power Dynamics Balancing Power and Progress
• https://open.spotify.com/episode/5I3WfPNkXncss2EI5jJwD1?si=S-8buOZNRa2wu2DW--0-JQ
• Financial Fairness in Divorce 
• https://open.spotify.com/episode/3S73M140m759WcOrrKms2k?si=YzpyqEpPT4iJ8EWeLbyuXg
• Disclosure 
• https://open.spotify.com/episode/07olqt4NN0MQQ0Y5KiHkP2?si=ojEdwxpgSWyg2pBb3EhWRA
• Handover Hell
• https://open.spotify.com/episode/6Pskjns3vZkLyv9FCefvxm?si=pfZ4ctZbS1CsjWJdoHifgw
• Navigating Parental Trash Talk
• https://open.spotify.com/episode/7bxqn5I6B1HCzO9r0zKnxY?si=kP__OnksRxivMCK8k8bMbw
• Links to other things
• https://www.ourfamilywizard.com.au/
• https://www.ourchildren.com.au/

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline: 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police: 000

• DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)

• DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636

• National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)

Thank you for tuning in to this episode about managing your income, expenses, and savings during the separation period. We hope this episode provides the knowledge and tools you need to protect yourself during the often tricky period before property settlement. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the guidance they need. Stay strong and take care.

Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.

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• 00:00 Introduction to Divorce Boundaries
• 02:41 Communication Boundaries
• 06:55 Task Boundaries
• 09:25 Digital Boundaries
• 15:28 Living Boundaries
• 18:59 Financial Boundaries
• 25:06 Managing Child Support and Private Agreements
• 26:51 Setting Legal Boundaries
• 30:20 Creating Emotional Boundaries
• 33:12 Establishing Custody and Restraining Orders
• 36:48 Navigating Family and Friendship Boundaries
• 43:29 Summary and Final Thoughts

What happens to your income, expenses and savings in the time between breaking up and official separation and getting final property orders? In this episode we take a look into what happens to your income, expenses, and savings during this in-between period. We discuss how the Family Court of Australia usually treats savings, the importance of documenting expenses, and how your wages may be considered.

Whether you’re squirrelling away savings, managing a joint account, or figuring out how to navigate expenses after separation, this episode provides crucial insights to help you protect yourself during property settlements. They also tackle the concept of "ad backs" and when they might apply. Please note that this is a general discussion and everyone’s situation is different so please do not make any legal decisions based on this podcast discussion, always see a lawyer who knows the full facts of your case before making any decisions.

Listen to This Episode If You: 

🌟 Are confused about how savings are treated during the divorce process.

❓ Want to know how to manage expenses and income between separation and property settlement.

💡 Need to understand what happens to wages after separation.

🛡 Are unsure about how to protect yourself from your ex draining joint accounts or going on spending sprees.

📚 Want to learn how to document expenses and safeguard your assets in case of high-conflict situations.

Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:

Savings and Property Settlements: How savings accumulated between separation and final property orders are sometimes handled.

Income and Wages Post-Separation: What can happen to your wages after separation and why it’s sometimes crucial to separate your accounts.

Reasonable Expenses: What the family court may consider as reasonable expenses during this period, from bills to childcare and beyond.

Ad Backs Explained: Understanding what an "ad back" is and how it might affect your settlement if your ex has spent joint money.

Documentation Is Key: The importance of tracking and documenting all financial transactions during the divorce process.

Handling Joint Accounts: Ways to protect yourself from joint accounts being drained and what you can do if this happens.

High-Conflict Tips: Strategies for protecting yourself financially when your ex is manipulative or controlling. Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: 

Related Episodes: Navigating the Mortgage Minefield in Divorce https://open.spotify.com/episode/4wPp... Help My Ex is spending all the money https://open.spotify.com/episode/32WS... Record Keeping: Protecting Yourself https://open.spotify.com/episode/4tNr... Protecting yourself from Darvo https://open.spotify.com/episode/0Jyf... Debt Episode https://open.spotify.com/episode/074h...

Free Resources: Go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)

Thank you for tuning in to this episode about managing your income, expenses, and savings during the separation period. We hope this episode provides the knowledge and tools you need to protect yourself during the often tricky period before property settlement. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the guidance they need. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.

 00:00 Introduction to Divorce & Money 01:31 Understanding Savings During Separation 03:08 Expenses and Their Impact on Property Settlement 06:04 The Concept of Ad Backs in Divorce 16:27 Managing Wages and Income Post-Separation 20:46 Understanding Financial Responsibilities Post-Separation 22:34 The Importance of Documentation and Mediation 24:21 Strategies for Managing Financial Manipulation 29:28 Navigating Government Support and Property Pools 32:45 The Role of Reasonable Living Expenses in Settlements 34:54 Proactive Steps for Financial Security 38:50 Final Thoughts

Do you ever wish you had a time machine to go back and give yourself advice before starting your divorce journey? In this episode, we share valuable insights and tips from listeners who have gone through it all. Together, we will break down some of the most important things people wish they had known before starting the process, from not rushing into decisions to custody issues. They also discuss some of the key mistakes to avoid, especially in high-conflict or narcissistic divorces. Whether you’re just starting out or deep into the process, this episode will offer practical advice to help guide you through your divorce with more confidence and clarity.

Listen to This Episode If You:

❓ Wonder how to gather the right information and evidence to protect yourself.

💡 Need to understand the importance of not rushing into decisions or being pressured by others.

🛡 Are navigating a high-conflict divorce and need strategies to protect yourself from manipulation.

📚 Want to learn how to create a strategy and stay organized during the divorce process.

🌟 Are at the beginning of your divorce and want advice on how to avoid common mistakes.

Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:

Don’t Rush: Take your time to gather all your information before making any major decisions. Avoid being pressured into rushing through the process.

Collect and Organise Your Information: Get all your documents and information together before starting the legal process to avoid mistakes and delays.

Parenting Plans: Don’t force your children into uncomfortable situations—especially when the other parent may not be interested in the relationship.

Look Out for Hidden Assets: Learn how to identify secret bank accounts and other financial manipulations that may arise during a divorce.

Get a Lawyer Who Understands Narcissistic Behaviour: Make sure your lawyer knows how to handle high-conflict individuals who use manipulative tactics.

Court Orders for Sole Occupancy: Understand how to get your ex out of the house if needed, and the risks involved.

Don’t Settle Too Quickly: Take your time to evaluate any settlement offers and don’t let anyone pressure you into accepting less than what is fair.

Protect Your Mental Health: Treat the divorce process like a part-time job—don’t let it consume your entire life.

Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:

Related Episodes:

How to Document Coercive Control - Communicating Coercive Control in Documents / Ep. 161

Record Keeping: Protecting Yourself

https://open.spotify.com/episode/4tNrLiwyDO07jnbzNVxe4m?si=OPR9iwTzQKOKc2HOHvcH-Q

Divorce Delay Tactics https://open.spotify.com/episode/2st3qxvJByN981xqZgPRIR?si=l0LL9935S0GAQ6Wx2qJhIg

Disclosure Dilemas Overcoming Disclosure Dilemmas: Your Path to Divorce Victory / Ep. 148

Divorce Budgeting 101: Understanding Legal Fees & Six Simple Saving Strategies / Ep. 119

Free Resources:

Property Settlement Checklist www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

Divorce Documentation Guide www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

Emergency Contacts:

WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

LEGAL AID

Lifeline: 13 11 14

Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978

Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800

Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123

Relationships Australia

Police: 000

DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)

DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636

National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)

Thank you for listening to this episode. We hope these listener-shared insights and practical advice will help guide you through your divorce journey. Remember, you are not alone, and taking the time to understand and plan will make all the difference. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Stay strong and take care.

Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.

Contents of this Video

00:00 Introduction: Navigating Divorce 

01:25 Key Tip: Don't Rush

02:43 Gathering Information: Collate Your Documents

04:00 Children and Visitation and Custody: Complexities and Considerations

05:38 Property Settlement Financial Precautions: Secret Bank Accounts and Abuse

08:22 Legal Strategies: Understanding Narcissistic Tactics

08:56 Court Orders: Sole Occupancy and Safety Concerns

10:50 Disclosure Challenges: Waiting for Information

12:33 Settlement Tips: Don't Settle for Less

15:14 Emotional Toll: The Full-Time Job of Divorce

20:24 Free Resources for Mediation and Negotiation

21:03 Is the System Child-Centred?

23:40 Dealing with Nasty In-Laws

27:03 Family Court Legal Costs and Settlements

29:34 Importance of Family Violence Protection Orders

34:46 Managing Expectations and Seeking Support in Divorce

38:16 Final Thoughts and Farewell