By Laura & Lyn
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Facing the journey from separation to settlement can feel overwhelming and uncertain, but you’re not alone. In this episode, Laura and Lynette take you through the seven essential stages of the divorce process, from making the initial decision to separate, all the way to moving forward after your settlement. They share practical tips, emotional insights, and legal education to help you make empowered choices at every step. Whether you're at the beginning of this journey or somewhere in the middle, this episode offers a roadmap to guide you through.
Listen to This Episode If You:
🌟 Are just starting your divorce journey and don’t know what comes next.
❓ Need help understanding the steps from separation to settlement.
💡 Want tips on managing property settlements, parenting plans, and legal agreements.
🛡 Are facing challenges with a high-conflict or manipulative ex.
📚 Want to learn how to move forward emotionally and financially after the settlement is done.
Deciding to Separate: Understanding the importance of making the decision and how to document it for legal purposes.
Living Under One Roof: Strategies for managing separation when you’re still sharing a home due to financial or housing constraints.
Understanding Your Legal Rights: Why seeking legal education or advice early is critical to protect yourself.
Property and Financial Settlements: The steps involved in dividing assets, debts, and managing disclosure obligations.
Parenting Plans and Agreements: How to create effective parenting arrangements that prioritise the best interests of your children.
Finalising Legal Documents: What you need to know about consent orders, mediation, and navigating the court system if necessary.
Moving Forward After Divorce: Tips for reclaiming your independence, managing finances, and building a new life.
RESOURCES
Course Enrolment:
Join our Divorce Blueprint Course www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol before the deadline to get personalised guidance, legal education, and emotional support from Laura and Lynette. Platinum spots are limited—sign up now to secure your place.
Emergency Contacts:
LEGAL AID https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au/
Lifeline: 13 11 14
Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800
Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123
Relationships Australia 1300 364 277
Police: 000
DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)
DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636
National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978
Thank you for tuning in to this episode. We hope it gives you clarity and confidence to take the next steps in your journey. Don’t forget to check out our course for step-by-step guidance and support through every stage of your divorce. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Stay strong, and remember—you’ve got this.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, and it’s important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your circumstances.
00:00 Introduction to the 7 Steps from Separation to Settlement
01:34 How to Make the Decision to Separate
03:36 Can you Be Separated Under One Roof in Divorce
06:51 How to find out Your Legal Rights and Obligations in Divorce
10:46 How to Divide Assets, Property, and Debt in Divorce
14:44 How to Create Parenting Plans and Arrangements
19:24 How to Navigate Legal Paperwork and Mediation in Divorce
20:57 How to learn about Divorce Applications and Time Limits
22:35 How to avoid the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce
23:48 How to get Empowerment Through Knowledge and Support in Divorce
27:28 How to Move Forward After Divorce
33:29 How to Join Our Supportive Divorce Community
BONUS mini episode: Divorce is a challenging journey, and there are so many things we wish we’d known before starting out. In this special episode, I share three key insights I learned along the way—insights that could save you time, stress, and money. From setting firm boundaries to creating a clear plan and building a strong support system, these lessons are invaluable for anyone facing separation or divorce.
And there’s more! Next week, we’re hosting a free, live webinar designed to support you wherever you are in your divorce journey. This session will cover everything from practical advice on setting boundaries and protecting your finances to tips for handling high-conflict communication. Join us for actionable insights and a live Q&A session with my mum, a family law expert. Webinar registration link https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/divorcewebinarregistration
Listen to This Episode If You:🌟 Are beginning your divorce journey and need a roadmap to help guide your decisions.
❓ Want to hear practical, first-hand tips from someone who’s been through it.
💡 Need insights on handling emotional and financial boundaries during divorce.
🛡 Are curious about what our free webinar will cover and how it can help you.
📚 Want to learn how to build a strong support system to get through challenging times.
Setting Firm Boundaries: The importance of defining clear emotional and practical boundaries.
Creating a Plan: How having a roadmap can help you feel more in control and prepared.
Building a Support System: Why having friends, family, or a professional by your side is invaluable.
DIVORCE Webinar Details: What to expect from our upcoming live webinar, including actionable insights and a live Q&A with a family law specialist.
Topics Covered: Boundaries, financial protection, handling high-conflict communication, and more.
Live Q&A: Ask your specific questions and receive advice from a family law expert.
Privacy Guaranteed: Participate as much or as little as you like in a safe, confidential space.
Limited Spots: Click the link in our show notes or visit thedivorcecourse.com.au to save your seat!
WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
LEGAL AID
Lifeline: 13 11 14
Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978
Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800
Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123
Relationships Australia
Police: 000
DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)
DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636
National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Thank you for tuning in to this episode! We hope these insights make your journey a little easier and empower you to take control of the process. And remember, don’t miss out on our final free webinar of the year next week—it’s an incredible opportunity to learn, ask questions, and find support. See you there!
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, and it’s important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your circumstances.
00:00 Introduction and Setting Expectations
00:03 Three Things I Wish I Knew Before Divorce
00:17 Importance of Setting Boundaries with your ex
00:31 Having a Plan when going through the divorce process
00:52 Power of a Support System when facing divorce
01:08 Exciting Divorce Webinar Announcement
01:15 Webinar Details and Benefits
02:05 Addressing Concerns and Privacy
03:07 Final Thoughts and How to Register
If you’ve ever felt that your ex is using the legal system to keep you trapped or that you’re facing ongoing harassment, this episode provides the support and strategies you need.
Divorce may mean separation, but sometimes, for those dealing with high-conflict exes, the abuse continues well after the split. In this episode, we discuss five key strategies to manage and escape post-separation abuse purgatory. From court misuse to constant control tactics, this episode offers crucial help for protecting yourself legally, emotionally, and financially.
Listen to This Episode If You:
🌟 Are experiencing legal harassment or ongoing control tactics post-divorce.
❓ Want to know how to protect yourself from manipulative use of the court system.
💡 Need strategies for setting firm boundaries against a high-conflict ex.
🛡 Are navigating the court process with an ex who refuses to cooperate on settlements.
📚 Want insights on how recent Family Law changes impact post-separation dynamics.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:
Understanding Post-Separation Abuse: What it is, how it manifests, and why it’s so pervasive.
Central Practice Directions: How this court directive aims to reduce misuse of the legal system.
Section 117C Offers: Leveraging financial penalties to discourage frivolous court actions.
Legal Documentation: Keeping a record of your ex’s actions and the importance of filing timelines.
Emotional Boundaries: Techniques to mentally distance yourself from ongoing harassment.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general discussion for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice in any way at all. Every situation is unique, and it’s important to seek personalised legal advice tailored to your circumstances.
When Divorce isn't the End: Handling Legal & Post-Separation Abuse
Related Episodes that may be helpful:
Post Separation Abuse Wheel Episode https://youtu.be/YALj5wsoe6k?si=OZp5WhOwyR7Omkyf
How to divorce a statue https://youtu.be/tM75QvgjM_0?si=9tAnY9EXLu7JjcOS
Family Court Vs Settling https://youtu.be/gYpW3znoY28?si=NvrUKsGVIlMt8WNC
When your ex files in court - response to initiating application https://youtu.be/qTHDgWTjF1A?si=rETvrOrpMKf_IwzZ
Navigating Community Legal Services https://youtu.be/4sEUhu6r07Q?si=Qjla_vk0NAZ2eS_U
Decoding a word salad letter like a lawyer https://youtu.be/k0AhA3MIjM0?si=onpRY7wU7DTeC63Q
Free Resources & Links:
CENTRAL PRACTICE DIRECTIONS https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-cpd
Section 117c of the Family Law Act https://classic.austlii.edu.au/au/legis/cth/consol_act/fla1975114/s117c.html
Free Webinar registration link https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/divorcewebinarregistration
Emergency Contacts:
WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
LEGAL AID
Lifeline: 13 11 14
Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978
Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800
Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123
Relationships Australia
Police: 000
DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)
DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636
National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Thank you for tuning in to this episode on managing post-separation abuse. We hope these strategies offer you the tools and confidence to protect yourself and find peace beyond the courtroom. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Every rating helps others find support during difficult transitions. Stay strong and take care.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general discussion for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice in any way at all. Every situation is unique, and it’s important to seek personalised legal advice tailored to your circumstances.
00:00 Introduction to Post Separation Abuse
00:23 Trigger Warnings and Support Resources
01:06 Podcast Introduction and Goals
01:26 Understanding Post Separation Abuse
03:26 Legal Protections: Central Practice Direction
11:56 Legal Protections: Section 117C
16:40 Taking Legal Action: Going to Court
22:41 New Legal Measures: Harmful Proceedings
23:12 Register Today!
23:22 Understanding Harmful Proceedings
24:20 Court's Role in Handling Harmful Litigants
27:56 Strategies for Dealing with Legal Abuse
33:04 Building Emotional Resilience
37:55 Support and Resources
38:52 Listener Feedback and Conclusion
When going through a divorce or de facto separation, one of the biggest questions you’ll face is: Should I settle, or should I go to court? In this episode, we take an in depth look into the reasons why people choose to settle and why others decide to hold out for court. We discuss the risks, costs, and personal factors that play into this decision, while also highlighting potential pitfalls and traps that could influence you to settle too early or too late. Whether you’re in the early stages of property settlement or nearing mediation, this episode will help you think critically about your own situation.
Listen to This Episode If You:🌟 Wish you could speak to others about their decisions to settle or go to court.
❓ Want to understand the risks and costs involved in going to court versus settling.
💡 Need insights on how to others have avoided settling for a bad offers or been pressured into an agreements.
🛡 Are navigating a high-conflict divorce and worried about making the right financial decisions and want to listen to what others have done in the past.
📚 Want to better understand how lawyers play a role in helping you decide when to settle.
Reasons to Settle: When taking your lawyer’s advice, financial risks, and emotional well-being make settling the best option.
Risks of Going to Court: The potential for additional costs, including paying for your ex’s legal fees, and how this can impact your decision.
Understanding Costs: How court costs and lawyer fees add up, and why it’s crucial to factor in these expenses when making your decision.
Section 117 Offers: What they are, how they work, and why you should think carefully before rejecting a reasonable offer.
Emotional Factors: How guilt, pressure, or anger can cloud judgement and lead to poor settlement decisions.
Disclosure Issues: Why it’s essential to have financial disclosure before settling and how to handle situations where your ex isn't sharing all the information.
Post-Separation Abuse: How ongoing manipulation and control can affect your or their decision to settle, and strategies to protect yourself from further harm.
Related Episodes:
Understanding Legal Costs and Risks COSTS & CALDERBANK OFFERS
https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog/costscourtcalderbankoffer
Divorce Myths
https://open.spotify.com/episode/33mBdotbKK4yLH586ZaWko?si=czer_l9VRIOVWxWxGSiJjg
The Premature Pitfalls of Percentage Negotiations
https://open.spotify.com/episode/6bxTgrdymCeW16Q7z5njUe?si=UPG5F5vtSNuHWCKwWWg32g
Choosing your lawyer
https://open.spotify.com/episode/0XQOMoxqaSpf5YrxTc50eR?si=KUq4BzFPQaeIndch9p-3QA
Red Flags when choosing a lawyer
https://open.spotify.com/episode/6fR3jP75Z4amMlRCsEOAhJ?si=66f50b888bb44784
Emergency Contacts:WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
LEGAL AID
Lifeline: 13 11 14
Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978
Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800
Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123
Relationships Australia
Police: 000
DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)
DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636
National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Thank you for listening to this episode. We hope it helps you think critically about when to settle and when to go to court, while also providing the knowledge you need to protect yourself during your divorce journey. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the guidance they need. Stay strong and take care.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.
00:00 Introduction to Settling in Divorce
01:43 Understanding the Role of Lawyers in Settling
06:00 Cost-Benefit Analysis in Court Cases
10:21 Risks of Going to Family Court
16:25 Bad Reasons for Settling
19:52 Navigating Emotional Decisions in Divorce
20:30 Reasons People Settle in Divorce
21:34 Understanding the Family Law Act in your Divorce
22:49 Challenges with Disclosure in Property Settlement and Divorce
25:27 Unrealistic Expectations in Divorce outcomes
29:24 Dealing with Anger and Abuse during the divorce process
32:05 Denial and Acceptance in Divorce
34:26 Final Thoughts
This is a legal and emotional boundary check episode for you where we discuss 10 critical legal and emotional boundaries that are essential to maintain during this process. From communication and financial boundaries to setting clear limits on social media and handling high-conflict exes, this episode is packed with practical tips to help protect your emotional well-being and legal standing. Whether you're in the early stages of divorce or deep into the process, setting boundaries is crucial for navigating the journey with more clarity and peace of mind.
Listen to This Episode If You:
🌟 Are dealing with communication challenges with your ex and need to set boundaries.
❓ Want to understand the importance of legal boundaries, such as avoiding pressure to sign documents.
💡 Are struggling with emotional boundaries and need tips on protecting your mental health.
🛡 Are co-parenting and need strategies for managing handovers or avoiding conflict.
📚 Want to learn how to set clear financial boundaries to protect your income and assets.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances and your country.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:
Communication Boundaries: How to manage communication with your ex, especially in high-conflict situations.
Task Boundaries: Why it's important to divide responsibilities post-separation and avoid falling into old habits.
Digital Boundaries: Protecting your privacy online, managing social media, and securing your email and iCloud accounts.
Living Boundaries: Setting clear rules if you're still living under the same roof or need to protect your space post-separation.
Financial Boundaries: The importance of separating accounts, handling child support, and protecting your finances from coercive control.
Legal Boundaries: How to avoid being pressured into signing agreements and managing legal deadlines.
Emotional Boundaries: Finding ways to protect your mental health and limiting the emotional toll of the divorce process.
Physical Boundaries: Strategies for handling custody handovers and protecting your safety with restraining orders, if necessary.
Family and Friend Boundaries: Setting limits on how involved your family and friends are in your divorce, while maintaining support.
Children’s Boundaries: Keeping your kids out of adult matters and ensuring they are not used as messengers or spies.
Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:
Related Episodes:
Emergency Contacts:
WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
LEGAL AID
Lifeline: 13 11 14
Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978
Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800
Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123
Relationships Australia
Police: 000
DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)
DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636
National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Thank you for tuning in to this episode about managing your income, expenses, and savings during the separation period. We hope this episode provides the knowledge and tools you need to protect yourself during the often tricky period before property settlement. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the guidance they need. Stay strong and take care.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.
What happens to your income, expenses and savings in the time between breaking up and official separation and getting final property orders? In this episode we take a look into what happens to your income, expenses, and savings during this in-between period. We discuss how the Family Court of Australia usually treats savings, the importance of documenting expenses, and how your wages may be considered.
Whether you’re squirrelling away savings, managing a joint account, or figuring out how to navigate expenses after separation, this episode provides crucial insights to help you protect yourself during property settlements. They also tackle the concept of "ad backs" and when they might apply. Please note that this is a general discussion and everyone’s situation is different so please do not make any legal decisions based on this podcast discussion, always see a lawyer who knows the full facts of your case before making any decisions.
Listen to This Episode If You:
🌟 Are confused about how savings are treated during the divorce process.
❓ Want to know how to manage expenses and income between separation and property settlement.
💡 Need to understand what happens to wages after separation.
🛡 Are unsure about how to protect yourself from your ex draining joint accounts or going on spending sprees.
📚 Want to learn how to document expenses and safeguard your assets in case of high-conflict situations.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:
Savings and Property Settlements: How savings accumulated between separation and final property orders are sometimes handled.
Income and Wages Post-Separation: What can happen to your wages after separation and why it’s sometimes crucial to separate your accounts.
Reasonable Expenses: What the family court may consider as reasonable expenses during this period, from bills to childcare and beyond.
Ad Backs Explained: Understanding what an "ad back" is and how it might affect your settlement if your ex has spent joint money.
Documentation Is Key: The importance of tracking and documenting all financial transactions during the divorce process.
Handling Joint Accounts: Ways to protect yourself from joint accounts being drained and what you can do if this happens.
High-Conflict Tips: Strategies for protecting yourself financially when your ex is manipulative or controlling. Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:
Related Episodes: Navigating the Mortgage Minefield in Divorce https://open.spotify.com/episode/4wPp... Help My Ex is spending all the money https://open.spotify.com/episode/32WS... Record Keeping: Protecting Yourself https://open.spotify.com/episode/4tNr... Protecting yourself from Darvo https://open.spotify.com/episode/0Jyf... Debt Episode https://open.spotify.com/episode/074h...
Free Resources: Go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Thank you for tuning in to this episode about managing your income, expenses, and savings during the separation period. We hope this episode provides the knowledge and tools you need to protect yourself during the often tricky period before property settlement. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the guidance they need. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.
00:00 Introduction to Divorce & Money 01:31 Understanding Savings During Separation 03:08 Expenses and Their Impact on Property Settlement 06:04 The Concept of Ad Backs in Divorce 16:27 Managing Wages and Income Post-Separation 20:46 Understanding Financial Responsibilities Post-Separation 22:34 The Importance of Documentation and Mediation 24:21 Strategies for Managing Financial Manipulation 29:28 Navigating Government Support and Property Pools 32:45 The Role of Reasonable Living Expenses in Settlements 34:54 Proactive Steps for Financial Security 38:50 Final Thoughts
Do you ever wish you had a time machine to go back and give yourself advice before starting your divorce journey? In this episode, we share valuable insights and tips from listeners who have gone through it all. Together, we will break down some of the most important things people wish they had known before starting the process, from not rushing into decisions to custody issues. They also discuss some of the key mistakes to avoid, especially in high-conflict or narcissistic divorces. Whether you’re just starting out or deep into the process, this episode will offer practical advice to help guide you through your divorce with more confidence and clarity.
Listen to This Episode If You:
❓ Wonder how to gather the right information and evidence to protect yourself.
💡 Need to understand the importance of not rushing into decisions or being pressured by others.
🛡 Are navigating a high-conflict divorce and need strategies to protect yourself from manipulation.
📚 Want to learn how to create a strategy and stay organized during the divorce process.
🌟 Are at the beginning of your divorce and want advice on how to avoid common mistakes.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:
Don’t Rush: Take your time to gather all your information before making any major decisions. Avoid being pressured into rushing through the process.
Collect and Organise Your Information: Get all your documents and information together before starting the legal process to avoid mistakes and delays.
Parenting Plans: Don’t force your children into uncomfortable situations—especially when the other parent may not be interested in the relationship.
Look Out for Hidden Assets: Learn how to identify secret bank accounts and other financial manipulations that may arise during a divorce.
Get a Lawyer Who Understands Narcissistic Behaviour: Make sure your lawyer knows how to handle high-conflict individuals who use manipulative tactics.
Court Orders for Sole Occupancy: Understand how to get your ex out of the house if needed, and the risks involved.
Don’t Settle Too Quickly: Take your time to evaluate any settlement offers and don’t let anyone pressure you into accepting less than what is fair.
Protect Your Mental Health: Treat the divorce process like a part-time job—don’t let it consume your entire life.
Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:
Related Episodes:
How to Document Coercive Control - Communicating Coercive Control in Documents / Ep. 161
Record Keeping: Protecting Yourself
https://open.spotify.com/episode/4tNrLiwyDO07jnbzNVxe4m?si=OPR9iwTzQKOKc2HOHvcH-Q
Divorce Delay Tactics https://open.spotify.com/episode/2st3qxvJByN981xqZgPRIR?si=l0LL9935S0GAQ6Wx2qJhIg
Disclosure Dilemas Overcoming Disclosure Dilemmas: Your Path to Divorce Victory / Ep. 148
Divorce Budgeting 101: Understanding Legal Fees & Six Simple Saving Strategies / Ep. 119
Free Resources:
Property Settlement Checklist www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Divorce Documentation Guide www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Emergency Contacts:
WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
LEGAL AID
Lifeline: 13 11 14
Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978
Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800
Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123
Relationships Australia
Police: 000
DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)
DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636
National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Thank you for listening to this episode. We hope these listener-shared insights and practical advice will help guide you through your divorce journey. Remember, you are not alone, and taking the time to understand and plan will make all the difference. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Stay strong and take care.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.
Contents of this Video
00:00 Introduction: Navigating Divorce
01:25 Key Tip: Don't Rush
02:43 Gathering Information: Collate Your Documents
04:00 Children and Visitation and Custody: Complexities and Considerations
05:38 Property Settlement Financial Precautions: Secret Bank Accounts and Abuse
08:22 Legal Strategies: Understanding Narcissistic Tactics
08:56 Court Orders: Sole Occupancy and Safety Concerns
10:50 Disclosure Challenges: Waiting for Information
12:33 Settlement Tips: Don't Settle for Less
15:14 Emotional Toll: The Full-Time Job of Divorce
20:24 Free Resources for Mediation and Negotiation
21:03 Is the System Child-Centred?
23:40 Dealing with Nasty In-Laws
27:03 Family Court Legal Costs and Settlements
29:34 Importance of Family Violence Protection Orders
34:46 Managing Expectations and Seeking Support in Divorce
38:16 Final Thoughts and Farewell
Listen to This Episode If You:
🌟 Are navigating a parenting plan or consent or court orders for children at different stages of development.
❓ Want to understand how the court views plans for babies and the differing age groups all the way to teenagers.
💡 Are trying to figure out how to create a flexible and adaptable parenting plan as your child grows.
🛡 Are dealing with high-conflict ex-partners and need strategies to protect your child's best interests.
📚 Want to learn more about how to handle special situations like breastfeeding, car seats, and school-related issues.
Are you overwhelmed by trying to come up with a fair parenting plan or consent order offer after separation or divorce? Wondering what will happen as they get older, or struggling to figure out what is what when it comes to the different age groups—toddlers, tweens, and teens and everything in-between. In this episode, we discuss the unique challenges and considerations for each stage of your child’s development when creating parenting plans and consent orders or asking for court orders. We discuss topics like the primary attachment theory for babies, navigating parenting plans for young children, and managing the evolving needs of primary school-aged kids and figuring out what to do with stubborn teenagers. Whether you’re in the early stages of separation or dealing with an ongoing custody battle, this episode provides valuable insights on how to approach parenting plans that truly serve the best interests of your children.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:
https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/divorcewebinarregistration (webinar)
https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/opt-in (before you go checklist)
https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/opt-in-4ab0c1ab-f43e-4db3-b49b-43c865aa8b1d (mediation checklist)
https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist (disclosure checklist)
Podcast Episode Timeline
00:00 Introduction to Parenting Plans
01:08 Understanding Parenting Plans for Babies
03:53 Challenges with Parenting Plans for Babies
13:56 Parenting Plans for Primary School Kids
17:56 Common Issues with Primary School Kids
21:56 Navigating Parenting Plans for Teens
22:55 Planning for Your Child's Future
23:41 Teenagers and Court Orders
24:13 Navigating Parental Breaches
25:44 Resources for Mediation and Disclosure
26:27 Mental Health and Teen Independence
27:32 Pressure on Children in Custody Cases
30:06 Handling Avoidant Parents
33:03 Dealing with High-Conflict Exes
33:51 The Importance of Detailed Orders
35:23 Co-Parenting with Manipulative Exes
38:13 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
Emergency Contacts:
When going through a divorce and dividing assets, there's an essential factor that many people overlook or have no idea about: future needs. In this episode, we discuss what "future needs" mean in family law in Australia, how they are considered by the court, and how they can significantly affect the division of property. From your health and age to your earning capacity and children’s future, understanding these factors is crucial for a fair property settlement. We also touch on the future needs factors outlined in Section 75(2) of the Family Law Act and discuss how to navigate property settlements both inside and outside of court based on the four divorce personalities, high conflict, manipulative and controlling (narcissistic types), amicable and avoidant.
Listen to This Episode If You:
🌟 Are in the process of a property settlement and need to understand what "future needs" mean.
❓ Want to explore how the court factors in age, health, earning capacity, and other personal circumstances.
💡 Are looking to understand how future needs affect property division in both marriages and de facto relationships.
🛡 Want to learn how to protect your interests in property settlements, especially if you have children or a lower income.
📚 Are curious about the impact of future needs when dividing property amicably or through mediation.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:
What Are Future Needs?: Explanation of how the court considers future needs when dividing property.
Section 75(2) Factors: A breakdown of the 17 key factors listed in this section of the Family Law Act.
Health and Age: How your current health or age could influence your property settlement.
Earning Capacity: What happens if one partner earns significantly more or has greater financial resources.
Children and Their Needs: How the care of children under 18 can affect property division.
Impact of the Length of Marriage: How a long marriage can affect property division, especially if one spouse’s career supported the other.
Practical Tips for negotiating these factors amicably, as well as what happens if the case ends up in court.
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