Struggling with what to do with your ex's stuff after a separation or divorce? Whether it's a garage full of clutter, valuable memorabilia, or just everyday items left behind, dealing with an ex's belongings can be frustrating and emotionally draining. In this episode, Laura and Lynette discuss practical strategies for handling your ex's stuff, from boxing it up to negotiating its removal, all while considering the legal implications. They also explore how different scenarios—whether amicable, manipulative, controlling, avoidant, or high conflict—affect the process. Tune in to gain valuable insights and practical tips to navigate this tricky aspect of post-separation life. (Remember to see your lawyer before doing anything about this issue as each situation is different.)

Listen to This Episode If You:

- 🌟 Want practical legal education on dealing with your ex’s belongings.

- ❓ Are unsure about the legal implications of getting rid of or storing your ex’s stuff.

- 💡 Seek clarity on how different types of relationships (amicable, manipulative, etc.) impact handling belongings.

- 🛡 Are dealing with a high-conflict or controlling ex-partner.

- 📦 Need strategies for negotiating the removal of your ex’s items.

Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:

Impact of Stuff on Your Life: How lingering belongings can affect your mental and emotional well-being.

Legal Considerations: The potential legal consequences of disposing of or keeping your ex's belongings.

Different Relationship Scenarios: Strategies tailored to different types of ex-partners (amicable, manipulative, controlling, avoidant, high conflict).

Practical Steps: Tips on boxing up items, setting deadlines, and using storage solutions.

 Using Mediation: How to incorporate belongings into mediation agreements and consent orders.

Involving Authorities: When and how to involve the police in high-conflict situations.

Handling Emotional Attachments: Dealing with the emotional aspects of letting go or holding on to items.

Episode 158 Sorting Through the Chaos: Dealing with Your Ex's Belongings During Divorce

For Full Show Notes, go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog

For more support, visit www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case.

Useful Resources:

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Thank you for tuning in to this informative episode on handling your ex’s belongings. Understanding the legal and emotional aspects is crucial for navigating this tricky part of post-separation life. If you found this podcast helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps others find the support they need. Stay strong and take care.

**Disclaimer:** This podcast episode provides general education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal education tailored to your specific circumstances.

Are you struggling with understanding parental responsibility after a divorce or separation? Need strategies for handling parenting disagreements about major or minor decisions for your children? In Australia, who makes decisions for the children before there is a parenting plan or court order? What happens if you and your ex can't agree on a school, medical, or other major issue?

 In this episode, Laura and an Australian Family Law Specialist Lynette break down the complexities of these often-confusing topics. 

They discuss what parental responsibility entails, how recent changes in the family law impact it, and what it means for parents trying to make decisions for their children. 

Whether you're dealing with a high-conflict ex or just trying to navigate the legal jargon, this episode offers essential insights and practical advice to help you understand and manage parental responsibility effectively.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

🌟 Want to understand the concept of parental responsibility and how it impacts your legal rights as a parent.

❓ Are confused about the difference between joint, sole, and equal shared parental responsibility.

💡 Seek clarity on how recent family law act legal changes affect parental decision-making.

🛡 Are dealing with a manipulative, controlling, or high-conflict or narcissistic type co-parent.

📚 Need strategies for handling disagreements about major decisions for your children.

📝 Want to learn how to navigate court orders and legal terminology related to parenting.

• Definition and Importance of Parental Responsibility: What it is and why it matters in the eyes of the court.

• Changes in Legislation: How the new laws in the Family Law Act of Australia as of May 2024 impact parental responsibility.

• Joint vs. Sole Parental Responsibility: Understanding the differences and implications.

• Decision-Making: Which parent makes decisions about major long-term issues versus day-to-day matters.

• Court Orders and Parental Responsibility: How to handle existing orders and apply for new ones.

• Section 61DAB: Understanding the provision that outlines day-to-day decision-making without the need for consultation on minor issues. 

• Real-Life Examples: Cases of disputes over education, medical decisions, and other critical areas.

• Co-Parenting Challenges: Tips for dealing with uncooperative or high-conflict ex-partners.

• Post-Separation Abuse: Recognizing and addressing coercive control in parenting situations.

• For Full Show Notes & downloadable checklist for witness box tips, go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog

• For more support, visit www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

• Episodes to Help with Communication Boundaries:

• Bombarded with Legal Letters

• Do I Really Need to Respond to That?

• How to Respond to a Word Salad Letter

• Episodes on Managing Emotions and Self-Affirmation:

• Things the Court Doesn't Care About

• Disclosure Episode

• Red Flags Lawyers

• How to Choose and Use Your Lawyer

• Parenting Apps for Communication:

• Our Children CoParenting Platform

• My Family Wizard

Section 61DAB of the Family Law Act

Are you navigating a difficult divorce or separation? In this insightful episode, Laura and Lynette share five crucial steps to help you empower yourself through your divorce or de facto journey. They discuss how your actions, boundaries, self-affirmation, and standing up for yourself can significantly impact the outcome of your case. With practical legal education and empowering strategies, this episode is a must-listen for anyone facing a challenging breakup, especially if dealing with a high-conflict, narcissistic or manipulative ex-partner. Download the reflection worksheet that goes with this episode off our Patreon account.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

🌟 Want to know how your actions can make or break your case.

❓ Need guidance on setting and maintaining boundaries with your ex.

💡 Seek methods to reaffirm who you are amidst false accusations.

🛡 Are looking for strategies to stand up for yourself effectively.

📚 Need tips on avoiding common pitfalls during your divorce.

📝 Want to ensure you're doing everything possible to navigate your divorce successfully.

• Your Actions Make or Break Your Case: How your behaviour and decisions impact the outcome.

• Setting Boundaries: Importance of establishing clear boundaries with your ex.

• Reaffirming Who You Are: Techniques to maintain your self-worth and confidence.

• Avoiding Self-Sabotage: Tips to prevent actions that could harm your case.

• Standing Up for Yourself: Empowering yourself to take control and advocate for your needs.

• For Full Show Notes & downloadable checklist  go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog

• For more support, visit www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

• Episodes to Help with Communication Boundaries:

• Bombarded with Legal Letters

• Do I Really Need to Respond to That?

• How to Respond to a Word Salad Letter

• Episodes on Managing Emotions and Self-Affirmation:

• Things the Court Doesn't Care About

• Disclosure Episode

• Red Flags Lawyers

• How to Choose and Use Your Lawyer

• Parenting Apps for Communication:

• Our Children CoParenting Platform

• My Family Wizard

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline: 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police: 000

• DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)

• DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636

• National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)

Remember, you are not alone, and there are resources and support systems available to help you through this challenging time. If you found this podcast helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps others find the support they need. Stay strong and take care.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case.

For Full Show Notes, go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog

For more support, visit www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

Useful Resources:

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

Having to go into a witness box? About to go to a family court trial or a family violence hearing? Are you feeling anxious about stepping into the witness box? In this episode, we offer invaluable guidance on how to navigate this daunting experience. Whether you're involved in family law  court proceedings or dealing with family violence or domestic violence trial, this episode provides ten essential tips to help you stay calm and composed. DOWNLOAD OUR PRINTABLE WITNESS BOX TIP SHEET FROM our website www.thedivorcecourse.com.au go to the free resources tab.

From understanding the importance of honesty to managing your emotions to the rules of the witness box, Laura and Lynette share practical education to ensure you present your best self in court. Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

• 🌟 Are preparing to testify in family law court or domestic violence court.

• ❓ Want to know how to handle cross-examination.

• 💡 Need strategies to stay calm and collected while giving evidence.

• 🛡 Are looking for ways to effectively communicate your side of the story.

• 📚 Seek tips on how to present yourself and interact with the judge and lawyers.

• 📝 Want to understand courtroom etiquette and procedures.

• 📘 The importance of telling the truth and being honest in court.

• 👂 Listening carefully to questions and asking for clarification when needed.

• 🛑 Avoiding speculation and being truthful if you don't know the answer.

• ⏱ Taking your time to think before answering questions.

• 🎭 Maintaining respect and composure in the courtroom.

• 💧 Strategies for managing emotions and asking for breaks if necessary.

• 📑 Understanding who is in the courtroom and what their roles are.

• 🤝 The role of your lawyer and how they can support you during testimony.

• ⚖ How barristers structure their questioning to build their case.

• 📝 Tips on avoiding giving lengthy answers that could complicate your testimony.

• For Full Show Notes & downloadable checklist for witness box tips, go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog

• For more support, visit www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

• Documentation Episode

• Unfair Accusations Episode

• Trash Talking Episode

• What to expect on the day of your family court trial: divorce, parenting orders settlement or property settlement

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline: 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police: 000

• DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)

• DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636

• National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)

Thank you for tuning in to this essential episode on navigating the witness box. Remember, you are not alone, and there are resources and support systems available to help you through this challenging time. If you found this podcast helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps others find the support they need. Stay strong and take care.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case.

For Full Show Notes, go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog

For more support, visit www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

Useful Resources:

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

Are you struggling to deal with and address post-separation abuse? TRIGGER WARNING: Listener Discretion Advised: Domestic & Family Violence, Post Separation Abuse, Coercive Control and Suicide is mentioned in this episode. In this helpful episode, we discuss the various forms of abuse that can persist even after leaving an abusive relationship and what you can do about it. Using insights from the "Purple Book," Laura and Lynette (a family law expert) explore the patterns of coercive control, the legal and emotional challenges survivors face, and practical strategies for protection and recovery. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding and find support on your journey to freedom. (Please always see a lawyer for independent legal advice this is just an educational discussion not legal advice)

Listen to this Episode If You:

• 🌟 Want to understand the different forms of post-separation abuse.

• ❓ Are looking for strategies to document and address ongoing abuse.

• 📚 Need insights into the "Purple Book" and its application.

• 💡 Seek education on navigating the legal system while dealing with post-separation abuse.

• 🛡 Are supporting someone through their journey of post-separation abuse.

• 📝 Want to learn about tools and resources available for documenting abuse.

Key Ideas in this Episode:

• 📘 Introduction to the "Purple Book" and its significance.

• 🔄 Overview of the post-separation power and control wheel.

• 🛡 Undermining parental abilities and its impact.

• 🗣 Addressing harassment and intimidation tactics.

• 📉 Strategies for dealing with false accusations and discrediting as a parent.

• 💵 Withholding financial support as economic abuse.

• 🚸 Impact of endangering and disregarding children.

• 👩‍👧 Disrupting the mother-child relationship and emotional manipulation.

• 👊 Recognizing and addressing physical and other violence.

• 📝 Importance of documenting abuse and using tools like the ARC app.

Resources mentioned in this episode 

• The Domestic Violence Prevention Centre Gold Coast THE PURPLE BOOK

• ARC app for documenting abuse

• Jess Hill's "See What You Made Me Do" book & show

Episodes Mentioned to Listen to in this Episode:

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcasteightyfive (The importance of record keeping during divorce & separation: the what, why, when and how to help yourself in mediation, family court or even just in negotiation.)

• https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode135 (Unfair accusations in custody battles)

• https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode412 (Navigating Parental Trash Talk in Divorce) 

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case.

For Full Show Notes, go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog

For more support, visit www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

Useful Resources:

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

TRIGGER WARNING: Listener Discretion Advised: Domestic & Family Violence, Post Separation Abuse, Coercive Control and Suicide is mentioned in this episode.

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

Ever wondered what the deal is when it comes to mortgages during a divorce or de facto separation under Australian law? In this episode, we tackle the daunting topic head-on. Together with my mother, Lynette Galvin, a family law expert with 35 years of experience, we address commonly asked questions about mortgage responsibilities, court handling of joint mortgages, and strategies for dealing with uncooperative ex-partners before you’ve gotten your property settlement. Whether you're dealing with domestic violence, financial uncertainties, or high-conflict situations, this episode provides some insight into this complex issue within the context of Australian law. (Please always see a lawyer for independent legal advice this is just an educational discussion not legal advice)

Listen to this Episode If You:

• 😫 You're feeling overwhelmed by the idea of managing a mortgage during a divorce or separation.

• ❓ You have questions about who is responsible for paying the mortgage after separation.

• ⚖️ You want to understand how courts handle mortgages in property settlements.

• 🗣️ You're dealing with an uncooperative ex-partner regarding mortgage payments.

• 🏦 You need strategies for communicating with banks about mortgage issues.

• 🆘 You’re experiencing domestic violence and need advice on handling your mortgage.

• 📊 You’re unsure about the contributions and what counts in property settlements.

• 📈 You want to know the impact of rising property values on mortgage and divorce property settlements.

• 📝 You need clarity on consent orders and their role in property settlements.

• 🚧 You're in a high-conflict situation and need tips on maintaining boundaries.

What happens with Mortgages During Divorce & De Facto Separation?

Key Ideas in this Episode:

• 🏡 The intimidating nature of handling mortgages during divorce or de facto separation.

• ❓ Common questions about mortgage responsibilities after separation.

• 🕒 Importance of getting timely legal advice and understanding your financial situation.

• 🛡️ Strategies for dealing with mortgage payments during domestic violence situations.

• ⚖️ Different scenarios for mortgage responsibility: breadwinner vs. homemaker.

• 💼 Contributions in property settlements and what the court considers.

• 🏦 Court’s approach to handling joint mortgages during property settlements.

• 📈 Impact of rising property values on mortgage settlements and the importance of acting quickly.

• 📝 Role and process of consent orders in mortgage settlements.

• 🚧 Managing high-conflict situations and maintaining boundaries.

• 💡 Practical tips for sorting out mortgage issues promptly to avoid financial messes.

Episodes Mentioned to Listen to in this Episode:

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastseventyfour (Selling your house during divorce or property settlement: the process, the pitfalls and solutions)

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastninetyfive (I really really want to keep the house: general legal tips on how to achieve this goal whilst going through property settlement, divorce and de facto separation.)

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastonehundredfour (Creative Ways to Keep your House in Divorce: out of the box thinking for your property settlement.) 

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastonehundredfive (Financial Fairness During Divorce: A How to Guide for Spousal Maintenance & Child Support)

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastfourteen (Child Support in Australia)

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case.

For Full Show Notes, go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog

For more support, visit www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

Useful Resources:

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

In this special bonus episode of The Divorce Course Podcast, host Laura Furiosi and her mother, Lynette Galvin, an experienced family lawyer with 35 years of expertise, discuss the latest updates to the Family Law Act and to their course. Listen in to learn how these updates can guide you through your separation or divorce process more effectively.

Key Insights:

• Recent Amendments to the Australian Family Law Act:

• The Family Law Act and the rules for the Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia have recently been updated as of May 6.

• These changes are significant and have been incorporated into the course materials to ensure participants are well-informed.

• Course Launch and Updates:

• Laura and Lynette introduce the newly launched course, emphasising its step-by-step guidance from pre-separation to finalising divorce.

• There is now a new optional court support course open to  screened platinum members addressing the needs of those who may end up in court despite efforts to avoid it.

• Educational Empowerment:

• The course equips participants with the knowledge to effectively communicate with their lawyers and understand the legal process, especially with the new amendments.

• Real-life testimonials highlight the course’s impact on participants, including successful mediations and favourable court outcomes.

• For more information on course structure see www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol 

• Additional Support and Resources:

• Weekly Q&A sessions with Lynette for personalised support.

• A newly launched app for easy access to course materials and lessons.

• Positive feedback from course participants underscores the course's value in navigating the complexities of divorce.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case.

To sign up to do the course go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol

For more support, visit www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

Useful Resources:

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

Are you facing a challenging divorce or separation and looking for ways to save on legal fees by doing some of it yourself? Do you want to take control of your situation and handle some aspects independently? Listen to this episode to discover "Five Things You Can Do Yourself Without Lawyers to Keep Your Costs Down." Laura, a divorced mother of three, and her mother Lynette Galvin, a family law expert with 35 years of experience, share practical steps you can manage on your own. From writing letters to attending mediation, this episode is packed with tips to help you navigate some of your separation on your own with confidence. Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

Listen to this episode if you:

• Are navigating a divorce or de facto separation.

• Want to reduce your legal costs.

• Feel overwhelmed by the legal process and want to take proactive steps.

• Need practical education on handling parts of your divorce independently.

• Are looking for ways to reduce stress and gain confidence during this challenging time.

• Are worried that the disclosure process or mediation process is going to drain away all the money you’ve got for legal fees.

Smart Divorce Moves: Five Cost-Saving Tasks You Can Handle

Key Points:

• Writing Letters: Tips on how to draft letters to your ex regarding your separation and property settlement.

• Figuring Out Your Property Pool: Get an overview of how to identify and value your assets and debts.

• Full Disclosure: Discover the importance of full disclosure and how to gather and organise necessary documents with or without your lawyer.

• Attending Mediation: Tips on attending mediation without a lawyer and what to expect might happen.

• Creating Parenting Plans: How to draft a parenting plan.

• Overcoming Barriers: Build confidence to tackle these tasks independently and save money.

• Seeking Legal Advice: Reminder to get professional legal advice tailored to your situation when necessary.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case.

For Full Show Notes, go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog

For more support, visit www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

Episodes Mentioned

Can you really mediate with a narcissist?

Creating your own parenting orders or parenting plans with the 12 agreements

DIY Divorce Disclosure and Discovery, for property settlement & child support

Useful Resources:

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

🤔 Are you facing a challenging divorce, separation, or co-parenting situation with a difficult ex-partner? Are you seeking effective strategies to handle criticism, control, and over-explaining in your communications?

🎧 Listen to this episode to learn how the JADE Method can assist you in navigating these complexities, while being careful not to make mistakes that could come back to bite you in the Family Court or at Mediation with this ever-increasingly popular method.

💼 Learn about practical approaches to maintain composure, protect yourself from post-separation abuse, and respond calmly amidst conflict from a family law specialist with over 35 years of experience who has seen it all.

Listen to this episode if you:

• Are navigating a divorce, separation, or co-parenting, especially if it involves a difficult ex-partner.
• Want strategies for dealing with criticism, control, and over-explaining in communication with your ex.
• Are breaking out of a coercive control situation while going through the divorce or separation process.
• Are dealing with post-separation abuse after separation.
• Are co-parenting with a narcissistic ex.
• Are interested in understanding recent changes in family law regarding decision-making responsibilities for children.

Key Ideas:

• An introduction to the JADE method (Justify, Argue, Defend, Explain) and its application in dealing with difficult ex-partners.

• Discussion on the importance of not falling back into patterns of over-explaining or justifying oneself, especially if the relationship was characterised by criticism and control.

• Explanation of recent changes in family law regarding decision-making responsibilities for children, emphasising the distinction between major long-term decisions and day-to-day matters.

• Strategies for responding calmly and rationally rather than reacting impulsively in communication with an ex.

• Importance of taking care of one's own well-being and seeking support during the divorce or separation process.

• Reminder to seek individualised legal and psychological support as needed.

ARTICLE LINK

Jade Method Article by PsychCentral 

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case.

For Full Show Notes, go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog

For more support, visit www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

Episodes Mentioned

(Do I really need to respond to that?! When co parenting communication becomes tricky during divorce proceedings.)

Recent Reforms Episode

Word Salad Checklist and Method 

(The importance of record keeping during divorce & separation: the what, why, when and how to help yourself in mediation, family court or even just in negotiation.)

(Affidavits for Divorce Settlement in the Family Law Court)

(Pitfalls of premature percentages negotiations in divorce)

Useful Resources:

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

👥 Are you facing a divorce or family violence legal battle but are feeling financially overwhelmed? Tune in as Laura and Lyn discuss with special guest Kara Cook the vital role of legal aid and community legal services in providing support during divorce and domestic violence situations for those who cannot afford a lawyer.

💼 Worried about facing your ex in backed by a team of expensive lawyers in court? Kara, a community legal service expert, debunks the myth that legal representation guarantees victory, emphasising that the law is the ultimate arbiter and will help put your mind at ease.

⚖️ Learn about the recent legislative changes, including ten days of paid domestic violence leave, empowering survivors to seek support without fear of repercussions at work.

🏫 Discover the tips and steps to take to access a community legal service in your area. 

Navigating Legal Aid & Community Legal Services: Your Lifeline for DV & Divorce

Listen to this episode if you:

• Need guidance on legal aid and community services.

• Want to understand how community legal services or legal aid works.

• Seek insight into workplace entitlements if going through family violence.

• Are interested in remote legal assistance.

• Require help navigating family law.

Key Ideas:

• Access to legal aid and community legal services for domestic violence and divorce.

• Geographic accessibility and remote assistance via technology.

• Legal safeguards regardless of legal representation.

• Proportionality in legal representation and judicial scrutiny.

• Workplace rights and entitlements for those experiencing domestic violence.

• Availability of ten days of paid domestic violence leave in Australia.

• Supportive workplace cultures and confidentiality.

• Multifaceted challenges faced by individuals navigating domestic violence situations.

This episode provides valuable guidance for anyone looking to get help through community legal programs, women's legal services or legal aid. 

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case.

For Full Show Notes, go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog

For more support, visit www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

Useful Resources:

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.