When going through a divorce and dividing assets, there's an essential factor that many people overlook or have no idea about: future needs. In this episode, we discuss what "future needs" mean in family law in Australia, how they are considered by the court, and how they can significantly affect the division of property. From your health and age to your earning capacity and children’s future, understanding these factors is crucial for a fair property settlement. We also touch on the future needs factors outlined in Section 75(2) of the Family Law Act and discuss how to navigate property settlements both inside and outside of court based on the four divorce personalities, high conflict, manipulative and controlling (narcissistic types), amicable and avoidant. 

Listen to This Episode If You:

🌟 Are in the process of a property settlement and need to understand what "future needs" mean.

❓ Want to explore how the court factors in age, health, earning capacity, and other personal circumstances.

💡 Are looking to understand how future needs affect property division in both marriages and de facto relationships.

🛡 Want to learn how to protect your interests in property settlements, especially if you have children or a lower income.

📚 Are curious about the impact of future needs when dividing property amicably or through mediation.

Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:

What Are Future Needs?: Explanation of how the court considers future needs when dividing property.

Section 75(2) Factors: A breakdown of the 17 key factors listed in this section of the Family Law Act.

Health and Age: How your current health or age could influence your property settlement.

Earning Capacity: What happens if one partner earns significantly more or has greater financial resources.

Children and Their Needs: How the care of children under 18 can affect property division.

Impact of the Length of Marriage: How a long marriage can affect property division, especially if one spouse’s career supported the other.

Practical Tips for negotiating these factors amicably, as well as what happens if the case ends up in court.

Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:

Related Episodes:

• • https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode139 (Splitting Silver Hairs : A guide to grey divorce)

  • https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastfiftyeight (When an Amicable Divorce goes wrong and what you can do about it in your Property Settlement and Parenting Agreement)

  • https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode124 (Gold Diggers in Divorce: Strategies TO PROTECT YOUR ASSETS FROM A NON CONTRIBUTING EX)

  • https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode125 (when you mediation goes wrong and what to do next in your divorce, custody or property negotiations)

• Other Resources:
  • THE DIVORCE COURSE www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol
• Emergency Contacts:
• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline: 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police: 000
• DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)
• DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636
• National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)

Thank you for tuning in to this informative episode on future needs in property settlements. Whether you’re navigating these factors in mediation or preparing for court, understanding the role of future needs is crucial to achieving a just and equitable outcome. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the guidance they need. Stay strong and take care.

Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.

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Are you wondering if you really need a lawyer for mediation or family dispute resolution? In this episode, we discuss the ins and outs of mediation and whether you really need a lawyer by your side. Explore the different types of meditations, the pros and cons of having legal representation, and pick up some helpful tips for those on a tight budget who may not be able to afford a lawyer. If you're wondering how to approach mediation in your divorce journey—whether it’s about property settlements or children's matters—this episode will provide valuable insights to help you make a decision.

Listen to This Episode If You:

• 🌟 Are considering mediation but unsure if you need a lawyer.
• ❓ Want to know what happens during mediation and the role a lawyer plays.
• 💡 Need strategies for navigating mediation on your own or with minimal legal assistance.
• 🛡 Want to weigh the pros and cons of bringing legal support to your mediation.
• 📚 Are on a tight budget and looking for ways to handle mediation cost-effectively.

Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:

• Types of Mediation: The different stages of mediation, from initial discussions to court-appointed mediation.
• Do You Need a Lawyer?: The advantages and disadvantages of having a lawyer during mediation.
• Cost Considerations: How to handle mediation if you’re on a tight budget and can’t afford legal representation.
• Mediation Preparation: Tips on how to prepare for mediation and what documents to gather.
• Self-Representation: How to navigate mediation without a lawyer, including understanding the process and legal expectations.
• High Conflict vs. Amicable Mediation: How the nature of your relationship with your ex can impact whether or not you need a lawyer present.
• Settler’s Remorse: What happens if you agree to something in mediation and regret it later, and how to avoid this.

Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:

• Related Episodes:

• https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode166 (Understanding Legal Gatekeeping: Is Your Lawyer Telling Your Full Story in Divorce?)

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorceepisodefour (How to negotiate an agreement after divorce.)

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcasttwentytwo (Convincing the unconvincible in divorce negotiations for family law0

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastfiftyfour (FDR, Conciliation Conference & Mediation: the what, how, when, who, why of your family dispute resolution)

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcasteightyone (10 things that could happen legally and emotionally after mediation (in the family court or privatley)

 

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastonehundredtwo (What Is Mediation & Am I Ready For It? Navigating mediation during your divorce or de facto separation.)

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastninetythree (Can you really mediate with a narcissist? Mediation and negotiation tips for divorcing an ex with narcissistic behaviours.)

• https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode125 (when you mediation goes wrong and what to do next in your divorce, custody or property negotiations)

• https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode136 (The real deal with mediation: dispelling 5 myths)

 

• Free Resources:
• Mediation Checklist (Available on our website)
• www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

Webinars and Courses:

• DIY Divorce Blueprint www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol
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• Webinars on Navigating Divorce www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
•  
• https://www.patreon.com/TheDivorceCoursePodcast
•  

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline: 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police: 000
• DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)
• DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636
• National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)

Thank you for tuning in to this episode on mediation and legal representation. Remember, your situation is unique, and weighing the pros and cons is crucial to making the right decision. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the help they need. Stay strong and take care.

Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.

 

The DARVO method—Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender—is a tactic often employed by narcissists in legal battles, particularly during divorce or family court cases. In this episode, we shed light on the DARVO strategy and share eight essential ways to protect yourself against it. Whether you’re facing family violence court, property settlement agreements, or a child custody battle, these insights will empower you to stay calm, gather evidence, and ensure your truth is heard. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances. Listen to This Episode If You:

• 🌟 Are dealing with a narcissistic ex who might be the type to manipulate the narrative in court.
• ❓ Want to understand the DARVO method and how it impacts family court cases.
• 💡 Need strategies to counteract manipulation and lies in affidavits or legal documents.
• 🛡 Want to protect yourself from being gaslit and maintain your mental health.
• 📚 Are looking for ways to keep communication calm and factual during a contentious divorce.

Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:

• Understanding DARVO: What it means and how it shows up in legal battles.
• Importance of Written Communication: Why all communication should be documented via emails or apps.
• Respond, Don't React: Techniques for staying calm and responding thoughtfully instead of reacting emotionally.
• Gathering Evidence: How to collect and organise evidence to challenge false claims.
• Setting Firm Boundaries: The importance of setting clear boundaries to protect your mental health.
• Affidavit Strategies: How to stick to the facts and tell your story effectively in legal documents.
• Slow and Steady Wins the Race: Understanding that the truth will unfold over time with patience and perseverance.

 

Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:

Episodes for More Insight:

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcasttwentyfive (Divorcing a narcissist: what to expect in the family law process and courts and how to prepare)

 

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastthirtythree (The Narcissist Playbook in Divorce)

 

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastfiftytwo (Co-parenting: How to successfully do it even with a high conflict, narcissistic controlling or avoidant ex partner.)

 

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastseventytoo (How To Use The Grey Rock Method in Divorce & Family Law Proceedings with a narcissistic ex)

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastseventyfive (Co parenting and family court with a Narcissist)

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastninetythree (Can you really mediate with a narcissist? Mediation and negotiation tips for divorcing an ex with narcissistic behaviours.)

 

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastninetyseven (The Post Separation Abuse Playbook and what you can do about it. Part 1)

 

• Post-Separation Abuse: What You Need to Know

 

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastninetyeight (The Post Separation Abuse Playbook and what you can do about it. Part 2)

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• https://link.chtbl.com/divorceepisode113 (Why your narcissistic ex might want a parenting coordinator and what you can do about it)

• https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode134 (Mind over matter: divorcing a narcissist)

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• https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode140 (The Narcissists’ Chess Board: Understanding The Divorce SLAY strategy

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastninety (A simple way to protect your children from being used as chess pieces in your divorce or de facto separation)

 

• Webinars and Courses:

• DIY Divorce Blueprint www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol

• Webinars on Navigating Divorce www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

• https://www.patreon.com/TheDivorceCoursePodcast

* ARC App website https://download.arc-app.org.au/

* Empower You App https://www.police.nsw.gov.au/safety_and_prevention/policing_in_the_community/empower_you_app

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline: 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police: 000

• DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)

• DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636

• National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)

 

 

Thank you for tuning in to this important episode on understanding and counteracting the DARVO strategy. Remember, you are not alone, and there are ways to protect yourself and ensure that the truth comes out. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the help they need. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.

 

Are you feeling like your lawyer isn't telling your full story? In this episode, Laura and Lynette dive into the issue of legal gatekeeping and how it can impact your divorce case. They discuss why it's crucial for your lawyer to present all the relevant facts, including those that might be uncomfortable or distressing about Family Violence or Coercive Control. With new property legislation potentially on the horizon in Australia, it's more important than ever to ensure your story is heard, whether it concerns property settlements or children's matters. Tune in to learn strategies for advocating for yourself and making sure your experiences are properly represented in court. Trigger Warning this could be distressing or triggering for victim survivors of family violence or coercive control. 

Listen to This Episode If You:

• 🌟 Feel like your lawyer is not presenting the full picture in your case.

• ❓ Are dealing with family violence or coercive control and want to know how it affects your legal proceedings.

• 💡 Need to understand the role of your lawyer versus the role of the judge in court.

• 🛡 Want to ensure that critical information about your case is not being withheld.

• 📚 Are interested in how upcoming legislation may change the way family violence is considered in property settlements.

Understanding Legal Gatekeeping: Is Your Lawyer Telling Your Full Story? 

Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:

• Understanding Gatekeeping: What it is and how it can affect your case.

• The Role of Lawyers vs. Judges: Clarifying what each should be doing in the context of your story.

• Importance of Telling Your Full Story: How withholding information can negatively impact court outcomes.

• Legislation Update: A look at potential new laws in Australia that could affect property settlements involving family violence.

• Kennan’s Case: How this landmark case impacts current family law and property settlements.

• Strategies for Self-Advocacy: Tips on how to ensure your lawyer is representing all relevant facts.

• Impact on Children: The importance of being upfront about family violence to protect and support your children.

• Mediation and Legal Strategy: How to handle mediation and what to do if you're feeling pressured by your lawyer.

Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:

• Episodes for More Insight:

• The Pep Talk You Didn't Know You Needed

• Choosing a Family Lawyer & the Red Flags not to ignore

• Three ways to choose and use your family lawyer (that you probably haven’t heard of for your divorce.

• Post-Separation Abuse: What You Need to Know

• Using children as chess pieces in divorce

• Webinars and Courses:

• DIY Divorce Blueprint

• Weekly Webinars on Navigating Divorce

• https://www.patreon.com/TheDivorceCoursePodcast

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline: 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police: 000

• DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)

• DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636

• National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)

 

 

Thank you for listening to this important episode on ensuring your story is fully represented in court. Remember, your experiences are valid, and the right legal representation can make all the difference. If this episode resonated with you, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the help they need. Stay strong and take care.

Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances

In every divorce, there are two primary positions people find themselves in: sitting pretty or completely overstressed. In this episode, Laura and Lynette break down these common divorce dynamics and provide strategies to help you navigate whichever position you're in. Whether you're feeling trapped in a gilded cage with everything provided for you, or you're overwhelmed with stress, paying the bills, and managing all the responsibilities, this episode offers practical advice on how to shift the balance and move forward in your divorce journey.

Listen to This Episode If You:

• 🌟 Feel like you're stuck in divorce limbo and don’t know how to move forward.

• ❓ Are overwhelmed with financial or emotional stress during your divorce.

• 💡 Need strategies to encourage your ex to engage in mediation or negotiation.

• 🛡 Are sitting comfortably but worried about what might happen if things change.

• 📚 Want to ensure you’re not being manipulated or controlled during the divorce process.

Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:

• Sitting Pretty vs. Overstressed: Understanding the two primary positions in divorce dynamics.

• The Gilded Cage: Recognizing when comfort is actually a trap and why it’s important to start planning your next steps.

• Overcoming Financial Stress: Tips for managing overwhelming financial responsibilities and negotiating support.

• Mediation Strategies: How to encourage your ex to come to the table and negotiate fairly.

• The Impact on Kids: Why dragging out a divorce can harm children and how to avoid it.

• Balancing the Scales: Practical steps to move from an overstressed position to a more balanced dynamic.

• The Importance of Knowledge: How understanding your rights and the divorce process can protect you from manipulation.

• Finding Incentives: Creating motivation for both parties to settle and move forward.

Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:

• Related Episodes:

• Divorce Limbo

• Central Practice Directions

• How to Engage in Mediation

• Webinars and Courses:

• THE Divorce Blueprint

• Webinars on Navigating Divorce

• https://www.patreon.com/TheDivorceCoursePodcast

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline: 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police: 000

• DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)

• DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636

• National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)

 

 

Thank you for tuning in to this episode on navigating divorce dynamics. Whether you're sitting pretty or completely overstressed, understanding your position is the first step to moving forward. If you found this podcast helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps others find the support they need. Stay strong and take care.

Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.

 

Episode 165 Divorce Dynamic: Balancing Power & Progress 

Introduction to Divorce Dynamics

 Understanding the 'Sitting Pretty' Position

 Exploring the 'Overstressed' Position

 Strategies for Financial Stress

 Navigating Manipulative Tactics

 The Role of Emotions in Divorce

 Understanding Your Legal Rights

 Navigating Separation and Living Arrangements

 Emotional Preparedness and Counseling

 Financial Preparations and Legal Timelines

 The Importance of Mediation

 Impact on Children and Family Dynamics

 Taking Action and Seeking Help

 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

 

Divorce is often described as a journey, and just like any journey, it requires navigation tools to get to your destination successfully. In this episode, Laura and Lynette use the analogy of driving a car to discuss how to handle the emotional and practical challenges of divorce. They break down the five essential "tools" you need to navigate this journey: your handbrake, gas pedal, reverse, steering wheel, and road map. Whether you’re dealing with gaslighting, running out of steam, or simply trying to stay on course, this episode provides practical advice and emotional support to help you reach the other side of your divorce in the best shape possible.

Listen to This Episode If You:

• 🌟 Are struggling with self-doubt or gaslighting during your divorce.

• ❓ Need motivation to keep pushing forward through tough times.

• 💡 Want to avoid the pitfalls of overreacting or taking things too far.

• 🛡 Are looking for strategies to stay in control of your divorce process.

• 📚 Need guidance on how to map out your divorce journey effectively.

Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:

• The Handbrake: How to stop self-doubt and gaslighting from derailing your progress.

• The Gas Pedal: Finding your "why" to keep moving forward when the going gets tough.

• The Reverse: Understanding when to pull back if you’re overreacting or taking things too far.

• The Steering Wheel: Keeping control of your divorce process and not letting others take the wheel.

• The Road Map: Mapping out your divorce journey and understanding the steps ahead.

Navigating your Divorce: the 5 tools you need to stay on course

Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:

• Related Episodes:

• Disclosure Dilemmas

• The Pep Talk You Didn't Know You Needed

• Handover Hell

• Webinars and Courses:

• Divorce Blueprint

• In Depth Webinar on Navigating Divorce

• Patreon for a worksheet that goes with this episode

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline: 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police: 000

• DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)

• DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636

• National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)

 

 

Thank you for tuning in to this episode on navigating your divorce journey. We hope you find these strategies helpful as you move forward. If you found this podcast valuable, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps others find the support they need. Stay strong and take care.

Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.

00:00 Introduction to Divorce as a Journey

00:30 Understanding Gaslighting and Self-Doubt

01:40 Five Essential Tools for Your Divorce Journey

02:24 The Handbrake: Stopping Self-Doubt

05:30 The Accelerator: Finding Your Motivation

09:35 The Reverse: Knowing When to Pull Back

14:56 The Steering Wheel: Maintaining Control

20:38 Cutting Out Irrelevant Details

21:09 Steering Your Legal Strategy

22:16 Understanding Court Conventions

22:39 Introducing the Divorce Blueprint

23:18 Balancing Property and Children's Matters

25:03 Taking Control of Your Case

25:46 Navigating Legal Advice

26:47 Empowering Yourself Through Knowledge

29:09 Organising Your Legal Documents

30:26 Preparing for Legal Challenges

33:06 Recap and Final Thoughts

Divorce & property settlements are confusing enough, especially when it comes to recognizing all contributions. Educate yourself about some of the most overlooked non financial contributions you may have made that will help increase your percentage of the property pool.  In this episode, we discuss the often-overlooked aspects of contributions in property settlements, focusing on non-financial parenting contributions. Explore the surprising elements that might not be considered but can play a significant role in determining your part of the property pool percentage during divorce or de facto separation.

Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.

Listen to This Episode If You:

• 🌟 Want to understand the less commonly discussed contributions considered in property settlements.

• ❓ Are unsure how parenting contributions affect your property settlement.

• 💡 Are seeking clarity on what counts as a contribution before, during, and after the relationship.

• 🛡 Need to know how to document and present your contributions effectively.

• 📚 Are looking for strategies to ensure a fair property settlement.

Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:

• Definition of Contributions: Understanding what contributions are and how they factor into property settlements in Australia.

• Commonly Remembered Contributions: Financial contributions, non-financial contributions like renovating a house, and receiving inheritances.

• Overlooked Contributions: Parenting contributions, including caring for stepchildren and supporting a partner’s children.

• Impact of Salary on Contributions: Clarifying that higher salaries do not necessarily mean a larger share of the property pool.

• Special Contributions: Contributions like supporting a partner through education or living arrangements with in-laws.

• Legal Framework: Aligning contributions with the Family Law Act and understanding its implications.

• Real-Life Examples: Case studies and examples illustrating how different contributions are valued.

• Advice for Self-Advocacy: Tips for ensuring all your contributions are recognized and presented effectively.

PARENTING Contributions  in Property Settlement Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:

• Contributions Episode

• Salary Doesn't Count

• Future Needs

• The Pep Talk You Didn't Know You Needed

• PATREON ACCESS - https://www.patreon.com/TheDivorceCoursePodcast

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Property Settlement

00:32 Understanding Contributions in Property Settlement

01:51 Common Contributions in Property Settlement

03:30 Surprising Contributions in Parenting

05:34 Parenting Contributions: Stepchildren and Special Cases

10:13 Documenting Parenting Contributions

18:13 Stay-at-Home Parents and Property Settlement

21:20 Challenges of Family Court and Outdated Legislation

22:29 Evolving Roles and Contributions in Modern Families

24:28 Counter Arguments to Stay-at-Home Parent Contributions

27:00 Superannuation and Property Settlements

30:17 Short vs. Long Marriages: Impact on Contributions

33:00 Grey Divorces and Contributions

34:39 Importance of Legal Advice and Self-Advocacy

37:59 Final Thoughts and Resources

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline: 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police: 000

• DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)

• DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636

• National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)

 

 

Thank you for tuning in to this episode on property settlement contributions. Understanding your rights and contributions is crucial in ensuring a fair settlement. If you found this podcast helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps others find the support they need. Stay strong and take care.

Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.

 

Are you struggling to document and present your experiences of coercive control or family violence in your paperwork or to your lawyer, mediator , police, court or counsellor? Feel like you have to KEEP telling your story and you wish there was a better way?

Whether you're preparing for mediation, court, or consultations with your lawyer, effectively communicating these experiences is crucial for your case.

In this episode, we cover simple ways to lay out your coercive control or family violence experiences in an easy to read and use format.

Lyn provides practical strategies to ensure your story is heard and understood, aligning your documentation with the Family Law Act, and presenting your case compellingly.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

Listen to This Episode If You:

• 🌟 Are experiencing coercive control and need to document it for legal purposes.

• ❓ Want to understand how the Family Law Act defines and addresses coercive control.

• 💡 Seek strategies for making your lived experiences clear and impactful in legal documents.

• 🛡 Are preparing for mediation, court, or consultations with a lawyer.

• 📚 Need guidance on creating a comprehensive and organised record of coercive control incidents.

Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:

• Understanding Coercive Control: What it is and how it impacts family law cases.

• Family Law Act Section 4AB: Definition of family violence and examples of coercive control.

• Documentation Strategies: Tips for documenting coercive control effectively.

• Using Legal Language: How to align your documentation with the Family Law Act.

• Creating Impactful Narratives: Techniques for making your experiences come alive in affidavits and statements.

• Organising Evidence: Best practices for compiling and presenting evidence.

• Frequency and Patterns: Highlighting the frequency and pattern of coercive control behaviours.

• Presenting in Mediation and Court: How to convey your case effectively in different legal settings.

Family Law Act Discussed

Family Law act 4da

Episodes Mentioned that you can learn more about

The importance of record keeping during divorce & separation: the what, why, when and how to help yourself in mediation, family court or even just in negotiation.

 

How to Write an Affidavit

 

The Post Separation Abuse Playbook and what you can do about it. Part 1

 

The Post Separation Abuse Playbook and what you can do about it. Part 2

 

Here are the key highlights and important parts of the episode with timestamps:

[0:00] - Introduction

• Laura and Lynette introduce the topic of documenting coercive control for legal purposes.

[2:15] - Understanding Coercive Control

• Definition of coercive control and its impact on family law cases.

[5:30] - Family Law Act Section 4AB

• Explanation of how the Family Law Act defines coercive control and family violence.

[10:05] - Importance of Documentation

• Why documenting coercive control is crucial for your case.

[12:45] - Documentation Strategies

• Tips for effectively documenting instances of coercive control.

[15:20] - Using Legal Language

• How to align your documentation with the terminology in the Family Law Act.

[18:40] - Creating Impactful Narratives

• Techniques for making your experiences come alive in affidavits and statements.

[22:00] - Organising Evidence

• Best practices for compiling and presenting evidence in a clear and organized manner.

[25:35] - Highlighting Frequency and Patterns

• Importance of demonstrating the frequency and pattern of coercive control behaviours.

[29:10] - Presenting in Mediation and Court

• How to effectively communicate your case in different legal settings, including mediation and court.

[33:50] - Real-Life Examples

• Examples of how to document coercive control incidents and their impact.

[38:00] - Seeking Professional Help

• When and how to seek professional help from lawyers and other experts.

[41:30] - Resources and Further Reading

• Mention of relevant episodes and resources to assist listeners further.

[45:00] - Conclusion

• Laura and Lynette wrap up the episode with final thoughts and encouragement.

 

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

 

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Custody handovers can be one of the most stressful aspects of co-parenting, often referred to as "handover hell." Whether it's a tense interaction with your ex or the emotional strain on your children, it's crucial to find ways to make these transitions as smooth as possible. In this episode, Laura and Lynette dive into practical strategies for handling custody handovers, discussing everything from setting clear boundaries to using neutral locations for exchanges. They explore how to make handovers less stressful for both parents and kids, and offer insights on future-proofing your handover arrangements to avoid common pitfalls.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

Listen to This Episode If You:

• 🌟 Are experiencing tension and conflict during custody handovers.

• ❓ Want practical tips for making handovers less stressful for your children.

• 💡 Seek strategies to communicate effectively with your co-parent during handovers.

• 🛡 Are dealing with a high-conflict ex-partner and need to minimise drama.

• 📚 Need advice on creating a consistent and positive handover routine.

Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:

• Importance of Specifying Handovers: Why it's crucial to have a clear, agreed-upon plan for custody exchanges.

• Types of Handovers: Various options including school, neutral locations, contact centres, and supervised exchanges.

• Legal Implications: Understanding the legal reasons for specified handovers and how to lock them in with parenting plans or consent orders.

• Future-Proofing Your Plan: How to anticipate changes in your children's needs and circumstances as they grow.

• Minimising Stress for Kids: Strategies to make handovers as smooth and positive as possible for your children.

• Dealing with Different Personality Types: Tips for managing handovers with manipulative, controlling, avoidant, or high-conflict ex-partners.

• Setting Boundaries: The importance of maintaining clear boundaries to protect your mental health and well-being.

Episodes mentioned in this Podcast

Parenting Orders Program (POP) | Relationships Australia Queensland

12 Agreements for a Parenting Plan

Consent Orders

Help My Ex Won't Let Me See the Kids

Why Your Narcissistic Ex May Want a Parenting Coordinator

 

Handover Hell: How to Make Child Custody Exchanges Easier

00:00 Introduction to Handover Hell

01:33 Why Specify Handover Locations?

02:35 Types of Handover Options

08:42 Future Proofing Your Handover Plan

15:08 Locking in Handover Arrangements

20:08 Making Handover Easier for Kids

25:08 Arranging Handover for Parents' Well-being

29:35 Free Resources for Divorce Preparation

30:17 Common Mistakes During Handovers

31:24 The Dangers of Filming Handovers

32:28 Handling Drunk or Unsafe Parents

35:48 Dealing with Late or Unreliable Parents

40:05 When Children Refuse to Go

43:34 Legal Support and Family Reports

46:00 Creating Effective Parenting Plans

48:22 Managing Manipulative and Controlling Exes

51:14 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

 

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

 

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

 

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

 

Are you in the process of getting divorced and need to find the right lawyer for your case? Choosing the right legal representation can be daunting, especially during an emotionally charged time. In this episode, Laura and Lynette dive into the ten essential steps and questions you need to consider when selecting a lawyer. They discuss the importance of finding a lawyer whose experience, ability, and personality align with your needs, and they offer practical advice on navigating this crucial decision.

Listen to This Episode If You:

 

- 🌟 Are beginning the process of divorce and need to find a lawyer.

- ❓ Want to know the key questions to ask a prospective lawyer.

- 💡 Seek understanding of the importance of lawyer-client compatibility.

- 🛡 Are dealing with the stress and confusion of legal proceedings.

- 📚 Need strategies for ensuring your lawyer can meet your specific needs.

 

Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:

 

- Finding the Right Lawyer: Tips on what to look for in terms of experience, ability, and personality.

- Asking the Right Questions: Essential questions to ask during initial consultations to ensure a good fit.

- Understanding Costs: The importance of discussing billing practices, hourly rates, and getting itemised accounts.

- Legal Updates: Ensuring your lawyer is knowledgeable about recent changes in the Family Law Act and other relevant legislation.

- Step In, Step Out Services: Understanding flexible legal services and how they can save you money.

- Importance of Compatibility: Why it’s crucial to find a lawyer you can trust and communicate with effectively.

- Handling Legal Fees: Strategies for managing costs and budgeting for your legal expenses.

- Role of Communication The significance of clear and consistent communication between you and your lawyer.

 

Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:

 

Choosing a Family Lawyer & the Red Flags not to ignore

Three ways to choose and use your family lawyer (that you probably haven’t heard of for your divorce.

Divorce Budgeting 101: Understanding Legal Fees & Six Simple Saving Strategies

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

 

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

 

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.