The Stay or Go Podcast for Women Considering Divorce

By Britta Jo

Stay or Go is the bold, no-BS space where women on the edge of divorce find clarity, courage, and the unapologetic power to choose their future.

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Number 1: Only You Can Save Yourself From Your Marriage: Reclaiming Your Personal Authority
Episode 120: Reclaim your authority and trust your intuition when considering divorce. This episode is a banger, and I am speaking straight from the heart (and a little bit of fire 🔥). If you’ve been feeling stuck, exhausted, or constantly doubting your own reality, I want to land one fundamental truth in your heart today: In a world designed by and for men, trusting your own mind and body is a radically necessary act of self-preservation. 💡 In this episode, I’m opening up about a personal health scare with perimenopause and how easily even I caught myself outsourcing my authority to external "experts" who told me my symptoms weren't real. 🛑 We dig into how we as women, especially those considering divorce or coming out of fundamentalist religious environments, have been systematically programmed to believe someone else out there knows better than we do. Here’s what we’re breaking down together:🛑 Reclaiming Your "Motherfucking No": Why ignoring your body’s signals is keeping you stuck—and how to start trusting your burnout, your boundaries, and your intuition over someone else’s comfort.💔 The "Good Guy" Trap: How subtle manipulation, emotional hijacking, and patriarchal rules teach us to make our unhappiness a "me problem" instead of seeing the system for what it is.🚪 No One Is Coming to Save You: Accepting that while no knight in shining armor is showing up to fix your marriage, you hold the steering wheel—and you don't have to drive alone.📣 A Word to My Male Listeners: Why patriarchal systems exploit you, too, and why reclaiming individual agency is a civic and human imperative.You hold more authority than you think, babe. It’s time to take it back. 💪✨ 🔗 Resources & Links Mentioned in This Episode:Join the Stay or Go Community: Text STAYORGO to 33777 to surround yourself with women who have your back. 👯‍♀️Book a 90-Minute Strategy Session: Text 90MIN to 33777 to start doing the deep one-on-one work. 🗝️Recommended Episodes: Go back and check out my deep dive into Gerda Lerner's The Creation of Patriarchy and The Creation of Feminist Consciousness. 📚Episode 110: What Every Woman Deserves to Know with Quinn OtreraEpisode 111: Why Men Get to Succeed and Women Get Exhausted with Quinn Otrera"The Men Are Not All Right"...Right? - Diabolical LiesInvisible Women - Caroline Criado PerezSupport the show The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive Text 90MIN to 33777 to book a 90-Minute Session with me. ✨ Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community. ⚡️ Text EMAILME to 33777 for the free tarot guide using ChatGPT. 💫 Stay or Go Community Instagram Facebook YouTube Channel Subscribe to Stay or Go on Substack
August 18, 20261h 10min
Number 2: Why Your Nervous System Matters When You’re Considering Divorce with Jennica Mills
Episode 122: Somatic trauma release and nervous system healing with guest Jennica Mills. 🌿✨ Hey friend, welcome back! Today, we are taking a deep breath and dropping straight into something that every single woman considering divorce needs to hear. I am beyond thrilled to sit down with the incredible Jennica Mills—a somatic educator with over 22 years of experience in trauma release, sexual wellness, and embodiment work. If you’ve ever felt like you’ve completely lost yourself while trying to keep the peace, overfunctioning, or trying to manage everyone else’s emotions around you… this conversation is going to feel like a warm hug and a massive breakthrough all at once. ❤️ Jennica and I dive into:Why "calm" isn't the ultimate goal: Moving past standard nervous system regulation into true responsiveness 🌊Interoception & Neurosception: How to tune back into your body's wisdom so you can finally know your true "yes" and "no" 🔍The "Myopic Mirror": Why you might feel a deep conflict between who everyone else expects you to be and who your soul actually is ✨Orienting & Grounding: Why we have to build safety and capacity in the body before diving into deep trauma work 🌳It is time to give your body permission to step out of survival mode and into full-on intimacy with your life. Grab a tea, get comfortable, and let's drop in together! 🎧👇 Want to join Jennica live inside our Stay or Go Community? 💖 She is coming into the community for two powerful workshops on Orienting and Grounding! 📱 Text "stayorgo community" to 33777 to get onboarded so you don't miss out on dropping in with us live! Show Notes: Jennica's Website Jennica's Instagram Support the show The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive Text 90MIN to 33777 to book a 90-Minute Session with me. ✨ Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community. ⚡️ Text EMAILME to 33777 for the free tarot guide using ChatGPT. 💫 Stay or Go Community Instagram Facebook YouTube Channel Subscribe to Stay or Go on Substack
September 01, 20261h 9min
Number 3: Stop Mansplaining Your Inner Child: EFT Tapping with Jess Johnson
Episode 118: EFT Tapping for Nervous System Regulation & Somatic Healing with Jess Johnson Ever feel like your mind knows you’re safe, but your body is still completely hijacked by anxiety, rage, or overthinking? 🤯 Babes, you are not crazy—and you definitely cannot "think" your way out of a body-level stress response! In today’s episode, I am freaking out with excitement because I’m joined by the incredible Jess Johnson, a former trauma therapist turned mind-body connection coach. Jess uses evidence-based EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique/Tapping) to help high achievers, leaders, and women like us drop the self-doubt, stop tying our self-worth to productivity, and get our bodies actually on board with our healing. 🧠✨ We get super real, raw, and explicit about:🕷️ The Science of Tapping: How two rounds of EFT literally cured Jess’s severe, life-disrupting arachnophobia.🧠 Mansplaining Your Inner Child: Why forced positive affirmations don't work until you give your true feelings a voice first.💥 Body vs. Mind Disconnect: What’s really happening when your emotional reaction doesn’t match the situation in front of you.🩺 Perimenopause, Rage, & Medical Gaslighting: Jess’s honest journey through physical burnout, finding the right support, and using EFT as "emotional Drain-o."🖐️ A Step-by-Step Tapping Guide: A mini-walkthrough of the exact EFT points so you can start getting instant somatic relief today!Whether you’re dealing with CPTSD emotional flashbacks, burnout, or making tough life transitions, this episode is full of science-meets-soul wisdom, zero-BS tools, and plenty of laughs. Pop in those earbuds and let's get into it! 🎙️✨ 🌟 Resources & Connect with Us: Join the Stay or Go Community: Text StayorGocommunity (all one word) to 33777 to get in ASAP for our upcoming live nervous system regulation workshops! Jess’s Fun Side-Hustle: Don't forget to listen to her hilarious smutty book podcast, Between the Folds! 😉 Jess's Website: www.jessjohnsoncoaching.com Jess's Instagram: @jess.johnsoncoaching Get Jess's Free Basic EFT Workbook — Sign up for Jess's email list to instantly receive her step-by-step workbook to help you use EFT for your daily goals and nervous system regulation! Check out Jess Johnson's YouTube Channel for guided EFT videos, including:Tapping Meditations:📽️ WTF is EFT? (Playlist) — A great, beginner-friendly starting point!📽️ I Choose Courage📽️ EFT for Self-TrustPersonal "Tapping in the Wild" Sessions:Husband Fuckery RecoveryProcessing Medical AnxietyAfghanistan Crisis TappingThe Science of Tapping by Dr. Peta Stapleton TEDx Talk: Is Therapy Facing a Revolution? by Dr. Peta Stapleton EFT vs. EMDR Comparative Studies: Explore the latest clinical research comparing EFT and EMDR side-by-side at Evidence-Based EFT Comparative Studies. Brad Yates YouTube Channel — High-yield, approachable tapping videos from one of the pioneers in the EFT space! Support the show The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive Text 90MIN to 33777 to book a 90-Minute Session with me. ✨ Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community. ⚡️ Text EMAILME to 33777 for the free tarot guide using ChatGPT. 💫 Stay or Go Community Instagram Facebook YouTube Channel Subscribe to Stay or Go on Substack
August 04, 20261h 16min
Number 4: Leaving a "Good Guy" with Deep Wounds: Why Love Alone Can’t Save the Relationship
Episode 117: Why Love Alone Can’t Save Your Marriage (And Leaving a "Good Guy" with Deep Wounds) Hi there, love. Place a hand on your heart and take a deep breath with me. 🤍 In today’s deeply personal episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on a recent, heavy experience that brought up a truth many women in our community struggle with: Why love alone cannot save a relationship, especially when you are considering divorcing a "good guy" who carries deep, unhealed wounds. 💔 After learning about the tragic passing of an ex-partner, I found myself revisiting the old scabs of a relationship filled with profound love, chemistry, and connection—but one where we were ultimately both drowning. 🌊 If you’ve ever found yourself wishing he would just cheat or do something terrible so you’d have a "clear line" to leave, I want you to know: You are not alone, and you are not crazy. Often, your empathy becomes the very cage that keeps you trapped in self-abandonment. In this episode, we unpack:🕊️ The "Healing Fantasy": How childhood attachment wounds make us fall in love with potential instead of staying grounded in current reality.🧮 The "Compatibility Math": A neutral, shame-free framework to evaluate variables like childhood trauma, addiction, neurodiversity, and capacity.⚓ Drowning vs. Anchoring: Why two codependent, insecurely attached partners can’t pull each other to safety without a life raft.✨ Hope for Secure Attachment: How choosing yourself isn't selfish—it's the gateway to true, securely attached love (and why it's waiting for you on the other side).Loving someone doesn't mean you have to sacrifice your mental health, your peace, or your life purpose to keep them afloat. Let’s talk about how to look at the "math" of your relationship with radically honest, loving eyes. 🌿 Ready to Get Clarity on Your Next Step?🕊️ Book a 90-Minute Clarity Drop-In Session: A focused, ground-level deep dive to map out your history, your relationship dynamic, and your immediate roadmap forward.✨ Apply for 1:1 Deep Dive Coaching (3 Months): High-touch, intimate support for women navigating the entire process of deciding whether to stay or go.Show Notes: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson Episode 113 Apple: Why You Don't Trust Yourself When It Comes to Divorce (Exploring Mother Hunger & implicit memory) Episode 113 Spotify: Why You Don't Trust Yourself When It Comes to Divorce (Exploring Mother Hunger & implicit memory) Episode 12 Apple: Attachment Theory & Its Hidden Impacts on Your Marriage Episode 12 Spotify: Attachment Theory & Its Hidden Impacts on Your Marriage If this episode touched your heart, please pass it along to a sister who needs to hear it today. Sending you so much love! 💖 Support the show The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive Text 90MIN to 33777 to book a 90-Minute Session with me. ✨ Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community. ⚡️ Text EMAILME to 33777 for the free tarot guide using ChatGPT. 💫 Stay or Go Community Instagram Facebook YouTube Channel Subscribe to Stay or Go on Substack
July 28, 20261h 9min
Number 5: Why Men Get to Succeed and Women Get Exhausted with Quinn Otrera
Episode 111: Hey loves! Welcome back to the podcast. Today, Quinn and I are wrapping up our two-part series on historian Gerda Lerner, and we are diving deep into her incredible book, The Creation of Feminist Consciousness. We’re unpacking exactly how women have spent the last 1,500 years fighting to break free from patriarchal programming and own their minds. 🧠✨ Before we get into the history, I have a quick but super important business update. Regular Tuesday episodes won't be posted on Substack anymore. To support the show, please switch your listening over to Apple or Spotify, hit follow, and leave a quick review or comment. It takes two seconds but helps massive amounts with the algorithm! To my Substack babes: don't worry, this space isn't going away. It’s shifting into my exclusive hub where I'll be dropping extra goodies, values worksheets, tarot freebies, and personal essays just for you. 💖 In today's episode, Quinn and I are looking at what it means to actually "self-authorize"—to believe you have a right to your own thoughts and choices. For centuries, women were taught that our only purpose was to pour all our energy into the emotional, sexual, and professional development of a man (shoutout to fucking Jerry! 😂). We talk about how women's history was systematically erased, forcing generations of brilliant women to reinvent the wheel in isolation like lonely Robinson Crusoes on desert islands. 🏝️ We also break down the four things women absolutely need to turn their dreams into real-world freedom:Economic independence 💰Reproductive control 🤰Equal access to education 📚Autonomous social spaces outside the family unit 👯‍♀️That fourth piece is exactly what we’ve built in our community—a space away from the male gaze where you can realize you aren't "too much," you're just brilliant. Once you see through the matrix of patriarchal thought, you can never unsee it. 🌍✨ Pop in your headphones and let’s dive in! Show Notes: Extra ✨bonus✨ material can be found on Substack for my paid subscribers. stayorgo.substack.com Text 90MIN to 33777 to book a 90-Minute Session with me. ✨ Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community. ⚡️ Text EMAILME to 33777 for the free tarot guide using ChatGPT. 💫 The Creation of Feminist Consciousness - Gerda Lerner Who Cooked Adam Smith's Dinner? by Katrine Marçal The Exceptions by Kate Zernike Invisible Women: Data Bias in a World Designed for Men by Caroline Criado Perez The Power by Naomi Alderman Women's War series by Jenna Glass SUFFS on PBS / Broadway Ladies First on Netflix Support the show The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive Text 90MIN to 33777 to book a 90-Minute Session with me. ✨ Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community. ⚡️ Text EMAILME to 33777 for the free tarot guide using ChatGPT. 💫 Stay or Go Community Instagram Facebook YouTube Channel Subscribe to Stay or Go on Substack
June 16, 20261h 54min