The Stay or Go Podcast for Women Considering Divorce

By Britta Jo

Stay or Go is the bold, no-BS space where women on the edge of divorce find clarity, courage, and the unapologetic power to choose their future.

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Number 1: Lindsay Clancy & The Pressure for Women to Be Superhuman
Episode 123: The Lindsay Clancy Case: Why So Many Women Are Drowning in Silence 💔 Is the pressure to hold everything together leaving you completely exhausted? If you are a deeply sensitive, high-functioning, or neurodivergent woman carrying the weight of a marriage that looks "good" on the outside while drowning on the inside, this raw, unscripted episode is for you. Today, I’m opening up about a deep, intuitive download that poured out of me after processing the collective grief, rage, and visceral reaction so many of us felt watching the Lindsay Clancy trial unfold. Inside this episode, we’re unpacking:🛑 The Lindsay Clancy Case & Female Psyche: Why this tragedy hit such an unspoken nerve for women who recognize the terrifying reality of drowning without a safe harbor.⚡ Women as "Shock Absorbers": How we burn out trying to absorb the friction of failed systems, patriarchal expectations, and emotionally disconnected marriages.🌿 Somatic Healing & CPTSD: A personal walk-through of a recent trauma flashback I experienced, how my nervous system released it, and what true safety feels like.❤️‍🩹 Reframing Survival Tactics: Why affairs, overworking, or self-medicating aren't moral failings—they're desperate body responses to a lack of support.✨ Reclaiming Your Humanity: How to stop sacrificing your soul on the altar of keeping everyone else happy, and start building a life where you are genuinely held.You are not crazy, you are not broken, and you were never meant to carry this heavy load all by yourself. Take a deep breath, soft shoulders, and let's dive in together. 💗 Show Notes: Jenna's Instagram Post Apple - What Every Woman Deserves to Know with Quinn Otrera Spotify - What Every Woman Deserves to Know with Quinn Otrera Apple - Why Men Get to Succeed and Women Get Exhausted with Quinn Otrera Spotify - Why Men Get to Succeed and Women Get Exhausted with Quinn Otrera Support the show The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive Text 90MIN to 33777 to book a 90-Minute Session with me. ✨ Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community. ⚡️ Text EMAILME to 33777 for the free tarot guide using ChatGPT. 💫 Stay or Go Community Instagram Facebook YouTube Channel Subscribe to Stay or Go on Substack
September 08, 20261h 6min
Number 2: Why Your Nervous System Matters When You’re Considering Divorce with Jennica Mills
Episode 122: Somatic trauma release and nervous system healing with guest Jennica Mills. 🌿✨ Hey friend, welcome back! Today, we are taking a deep breath and dropping straight into something that every single woman considering divorce needs to hear. I am beyond thrilled to sit down with the incredible Jennica Mills—a somatic educator with over 22 years of experience in trauma release, sexual wellness, and embodiment work. If you’ve ever felt like you’ve completely lost yourself while trying to keep the peace, overfunctioning, or trying to manage everyone else’s emotions around you… this conversation is going to feel like a warm hug and a massive breakthrough all at once. ❤️ Jennica and I dive into:Why "calm" isn't the ultimate goal: Moving past standard nervous system regulation into true responsiveness 🌊Interoception & Neurosception: How to tune back into your body's wisdom so you can finally know your true "yes" and "no" 🔍The "Myopic Mirror": Why you might feel a deep conflict between who everyone else expects you to be and who your soul actually is ✨Orienting & Grounding: Why we have to build safety and capacity in the body before diving into deep trauma work 🌳It is time to give your body permission to step out of survival mode and into full-on intimacy with your life. Grab a tea, get comfortable, and let's drop in together! 🎧👇 Want to join Jennica live inside our Stay or Go Community? 💖 She is coming into the community for two powerful workshops on Orienting and Grounding! 📱 Text "stayorgo community" to 33777 to get onboarded so you don't miss out on dropping in with us live! Show Notes: Jennica's Website Jennica's Instagram Support the show The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive Text 90MIN to 33777 to book a 90-Minute Session with me. ✨ Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community. ⚡️ Text EMAILME to 33777 for the free tarot guide using ChatGPT. 💫 Stay or Go Community Instagram Facebook YouTube Channel Subscribe to Stay or Go on Substack
September 01, 20261h 9min
Number 3: If You Always End Up Being the Villain in Your Marriage, You Need to Know About DARVO
Episode 124: Ever enter a conversation trying to address something that hurt you, only to walk away 20 minutes later feeling like you’re the one who messed up? 🤯 If you constantly find yourself apologizing for things your partner did, you aren't crazy - you might be experiencing DARVO. In this episode, I’m digging deep into DARVO (Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender) the ultimate playbook used by manipulators, narcissists, and emotionally immature partners to dodge accountability and flip the script on you. Together, we’ll break down:🧠 What DARVO stands for and why it completely untethers your reality.💔 4 real-life stories illustrating how DARVO shows up in everyday conflicts, sexual coercion, avoiding responsibility during a crisis, and emotional punishment.🛡️ Why empathetic women are so vulnerable to this tactic (and how your best qualities get weaponized against you).🚪 How to spot the script so you can step out of the "crazy room," stop defending yourself, and reclaim your power and peace.Plus, before we jump into the topic, I’m sharing a very special request from my heart. I’m asking our amazing sisterhood to step up and help a wonderful young woman in deep financial need by supporting her GoFundMe. Let’s show up for each other! 💖 Links & Resources Mentioned:🚗 Support the GoFundMe: Click the link to read her powerful story and donate $10, $20, or whatever you can to help get her back on the road!💬 Ready to untangle the confusion in your marriage? If your gut is reacting to this episode, don't figure it out alone. Text 90MIN (all one word) to 33777 to book a 90-Minute Get Unstuck & Empowered Session with me.⭐️ Love the show? Please take a quick moment to rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. It helps more women find the clarity and support they need!Support the show The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive Text 90MIN to 33777 to book a 90-Minute Session with me. ✨ Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community. ⚡️ Text EMAILME to 33777 for the free tarot guide using ChatGPT. 💫 Stay or Go Community Instagram Facebook YouTube Channel Subscribe to Stay or Go on Substack
September 15, 202648min
Number 4: How to Tell Your Spouse You Want a Divorce or Separation
Episode 121: How to Have the Breakup Conversation When You Fear Conflict 💔 Having the breakup conversation with your spouse can feel utterly overwhelming, especially if you hate conflict or worry about how they’ll react. If you’ve been holding back your decision to leave simply because you’re terrified of bringing it up, take a deep breath. You are not alone, and you don’t have to navigate this dysregulating moment without a roadmap. In this episode, I’m digging deep into what it actually takes to prepare for the separation or divorce talk. We’re moving beyond just finding the "perfect words" to focus on what matters most: your safety, your emotional grounding, and setting firm boundaries. Here is what we dive into together:📋 Pre-Conversation Prep: How sorting out your logistics and knowing your rights beforehand gives you a grounded foundation.🔄 The Reality of EIPs: Why this conversation might not be "one and done" if you are married to an emotionally immature partner.💔 Grieving the Outcome: Accepting that no combination of words will magically make an emotionally volatile partner react calmly.🗣️ The Nonviolent Communication (NVC) Framework: A simple 4-step script to state your boundaries clearly without getting pulled into emotional manipulation or drama.Remember, my love: you don’t need your partner’s permission or agreement to choose yourself. Tune in, take a slow breath, and let’s walk through this together. 🤍 Next Steps & Resources Mentioned:🎙️ Episode 106 Apple: When Husbands Don't Lose Their Shit During Divorce🎙️ Episode 106 Spotify: When Husbands Don't Lose Their Shit During Divorce🎙️ Episodes 110 Apple: What Every Woman Deserves to Know (with Quinn)🎙️ Episodes 110 Spotify: What Every Woman Deserves to Know (with Quinn)🎙️ Episode 111 Apple: Why Men Get to Succeed and Women Get Exhausted (with Quinn)🎙️ Episode 111 Spotify: Why Men Get to Succeed and Women Get Exhausted (with Quinn)🎙️ Episode 85 Apple: Stop the Narcissist Hunt: Focus on How YOU Feel Instead🎙️ Episode 85 Spotify: Stop the Narcissist Hunt: Focus on How YOU Feel InsteadUnpaid labor Reel📚 Recommended Reading: Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People by Lindsay Gibson💬 Get 1-on-1 Support: Need a tailor-made roadmap for your unique situation? Text 90MIN to 33777 to book a 90-minute coaching session with me.👯‍♀️ Join the Community: Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to connect with women who truly get it!Support the show The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive Text 90MIN to 33777 to book a 90-Minute Session with me. ✨ Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community. ⚡️ Text EMAILME to 33777 for the free tarot guide using ChatGPT. 💫 Stay or Go Community Instagram Facebook YouTube Channel Subscribe to Stay or Go on Substack
August 25, 20261h 17min
Number 5: Only You Can Save Yourself From Your Marriage: Reclaiming Your Personal Authority
Episode 120: Reclaim your authority and trust your intuition when considering divorce. This episode is a banger, and I am speaking straight from the heart (and a little bit of fire 🔥). If you’ve been feeling stuck, exhausted, or constantly doubting your own reality, I want to land one fundamental truth in your heart today: In a world designed by and for men, trusting your own mind and body is a radically necessary act of self-preservation. 💡 In this episode, I’m opening up about a personal health scare with perimenopause and how easily even I caught myself outsourcing my authority to external "experts" who told me my symptoms weren't real. 🛑 We dig into how we as women, especially those considering divorce or coming out of fundamentalist religious environments, have been systematically programmed to believe someone else out there knows better than we do. Here’s what we’re breaking down together:🛑 Reclaiming Your "Motherfucking No": Why ignoring your body’s signals is keeping you stuck—and how to start trusting your burnout, your boundaries, and your intuition over someone else’s comfort.💔 The "Good Guy" Trap: How subtle manipulation, emotional hijacking, and patriarchal rules teach us to make our unhappiness a "me problem" instead of seeing the system for what it is.🚪 No One Is Coming to Save You: Accepting that while no knight in shining armor is showing up to fix your marriage, you hold the steering wheel—and you don't have to drive alone.📣 A Word to My Male Listeners: Why patriarchal systems exploit you, too, and why reclaiming individual agency is a civic and human imperative.You hold more authority than you think, babe. It’s time to take it back. 💪✨ 🔗 Resources & Links Mentioned in This Episode:Join the Stay or Go Community: Text STAYORGO to 33777 to surround yourself with women who have your back. 👯‍♀️Book a 90-Minute Strategy Session: Text 90MIN to 33777 to start doing the deep one-on-one work. 🗝️Recommended Episodes: Go back and check out my deep dive into Gerda Lerner's The Creation of Patriarchy and The Creation of Feminist Consciousness. 📚Episode 110: What Every Woman Deserves to Know with Quinn OtreraEpisode 111: Why Men Get to Succeed and Women Get Exhausted with Quinn Otrera"The Men Are Not All Right"...Right? - Diabolical LiesInvisible Women - Caroline Criado PerezSupport the show The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive Text 90MIN to 33777 to book a 90-Minute Session with me. ✨ Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community. ⚡️ Text EMAILME to 33777 for the free tarot guide using ChatGPT. 💫 Stay or Go Community Instagram Facebook YouTube Channel Subscribe to Stay or Go on Substack
August 18, 20261h 10min