Whew, this one goes deep, y’all 💥💗. I sat down with my bestie Quinn to unpack one of the biggest emotional hurdles so many of us face but rarely speak out loud: What do I do with the heartbreak of not having my kids with me all the time? 😩💔

This two-part episode was sparked by a powerful listener email that stopped me in my tracks. She put into words the raw grief and fear that can hit you hard when you imagine your children living part of their lives without you… especially when you don’t fully trust the other parent 😬.

Quinn and I come at this from very different mothering frameworks — and y’all, the magic is in that contrast 💫. Together, we dig into:

* 🧠 Why that gut-wrenching pain isn’t just biology — it’s cultural, generational, and deeply conditioned

* 👩‍👦‍👦 What emotional adulthood really looks like when your kids are with their other parent

* 💌 Tender rituals to stay connected without handing your emotional regulation over to your kids

* 🧳 Practical tools for transitions, co-regulation, and redefining what motherhood looks like in two homes

* 🎢 The surprising gifts of shared custody (yes, they exist!), including how it builds resilience in your kids

* 🧘‍♀️ Nervous system regulation when the ache hits (“I miss them so much it hurts”)

* 📖 Redefining “good mom” energy — from martyrdom to sovereignty and self-trust

* 🔁 Reframing that double bind: Stay and suffer? Go and lose time? No, friend. There is a third way 💥

I also get really real about what this has looked like in my life — including the heartbreak (and eventual healing) of my oldest son choosing to live primarily with his dad 💔➡️💗. It wasn’t easy, but I walk you through how I processed the grief, managed my mind, and found a way to anchor myself in the long game 🛤️.

Whether you’re navigating shared custody, trying to reclaim your identity beyond motherhood, or just feeling the weight of missing your kids — these episodes are for you 💞👣.

✨ Part 2 of this conversation is available exclusively to my paid subscribers on Substack! So if you haven’t signed up yet, head to the show notes to join us there. This is the kind of work that changes lives — yours and your children’s 💌🌱.

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Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show Spotify

Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show Apple

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Episode 72: Y’all… this episode is a BIG one! 🎉✨ The anticipation has been real, and I’m finally sharing all the juicy details about the podcast’s move to Substack—plus, a chance for YOU to win a free 90-minute coaching session with me! 🎁🔥

But let’s be real—this episode is about so much more than a platform shift. This is a deep dive into something that’s been transforming my life: RECEIVING. 💌

I’m talking about how hard, uncomfortable, and even vulnerable it can be to receive love, support, help, praise—and why it’s absolutely essential if you're going to become the woman you’re meant to be. Especially for those of you stuck in caretaker roles, exhausted from constantly pouring out without ever being poured into… this episode is your wake-up call. 🛑💡

We unpack why patriarchy has stolen women’s ability to receive, what happens when we start reclaiming it, and how receiving isn't just some fluffy self-care vibe—it's RADICAL and NECESSARY. 💥💪

And, in a moment that had me fully practicing what I preach, I read your beautiful listener emails aloud. 🥹💖 I let myself receive your gratitude, your love, and your stories—and babes, it was a full-body experience. Vulnerable as hell and SO powerful.

Then, of course, I walk you through what Substack is, why I’m moving there, and how this shift is deeply aligned with my next evolution—more connection, more intention, more YOU. 💫

👀 Don’t miss the deets on how to subscribe (there’s even a founding member option for my legacy-building babes 🙌) and how to enter the 90-minute coaching giveaway!

So if you’ve been feeling worn out, unseen, or like your needs have been pushed to the backburner for way too long… this is your episode. 🎙️💥

Show Notes:

Subscribe to Stay or Go on Substack

Download the Substack App 

Email for questions: [email protected]

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Episode 71: Hey babes 💛 This one poured out of me on a Friday night with dusk falling outside my window 🌅 because I couldn’t not record it. This episode is my full-body YES to the truth that the life you want most? It's not only possible—it’s happening faster than ever before 🚀💥

I’m opening the door and letting you peek into a totally ordinary, magical day in my life—one I never would’ve dreamed was possible back when I was considering divorce. You’ll hear about everything from flashbacks and Five Guys 🍔 to tarot cards and raising our black cat baby 🐈‍⬛ with Joe, and how I’ve built a life that feels like me in all the right ways.

I’ll also share the stories of two beautiful women, one client and one new community member, who reminded me just how brave, powerful, and world-changing this path is when we start choosing ourselves first 💖

PLUS I’ll let you in on a big shift coming to the podcast 👀 (no more cliffhangers, I promise!) and how we’re building something so much bigger than just our own healing. It’s a movement, and I’m honored to be in it with you 🙏🔥

Whether you're in the thick of deciding, knee-deep in grief, or just catching glimpses of your power again, I want you to know: you’re not crazy, you’re not alone, and the life you want most is already whispering your name ✨

Let’s dive in, babes 🧡

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Episode 70: Hey babe 💛—whether you’re out walking, driving, curled up in bed, this one’s for you.

In this week’s episode, I’m sharing the story of my own “roadside test” last week—when my middle son broke his arm at football practice—and the big wake-up it gave me about what happens when we ignore the check engine lights in our lives. 🚨 From cars to life to marriages, those little warning lights are trying to tell us something… and pretending they’re not there doesn’t make them go away.

We’re talking:

💪 Why it’s time to stop waiting for the breakdown before we take action.
👩‍🔧 The four truths that came out of my own roadside test (and how they’ll help you avoid your own desert breakdown).
💔 How fear keeps us stuck—and why nobody is coming to turn off that light for you.
🌍 Why today’s political and cultural climate makes this work more important than ever.
💖 How to create a life (and relationships) that feel steady, supported, and ready for whatever detours lie ahead.

This is part rallying cry, part heart-to-heart, and part practical “get under the hood” moment. You’ll walk away with a loving push to handle what’s asking for your attention—so that when life throws the next roadside test at you, you’re not running on fumes.

So, deep breath, big girl panties (or not—your choice, babe 😏), and let’s get into it. You’ve got this. 💛

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Episode 69: Hey, my loves! 💕 This week’s episode emerged from a comment shared with me by one of my community members and I cannot wait for you to dive into the goodies that came out of it with me. We’re talking about something BIG—moving from an expectation mindset (hello control + perfectionism 👋) into an exploration mindset that gives you SPACE to breathe, play, and actually be human. 🌱

So many of us, especially as women, are living under crushing double standards. We give everyone else so much grace—our kids, our partners, even strangers—yet hold ourselves to impossibly high bars. And when we dig deeper, we see how this is rooted in childhood trauma, cultural programming, and patriarchal BS. 🙅‍♀️

I’m going to share:
 ✅ Where this pattern of perfectionism and self-abandonment comes from.
 ✅ How to spot when you’re living from expectation instead of exploration.
 ✅ Why an exploratory mindset is your birthright (and how it changes EVERYTHING).
 ✅ What this looks like inside real relationships—and what to do if your marriage doesn’t allow room for exploration.

This episode is part pep talk, part permission slip, and 100% your reminder that you were never meant to be perfect—you were meant to BECOME. 💫

Grab your headphones, take a deep breath, and let’s reclaim that juicy, curious, messy, ALIVE version of you. You deserve this. ❤️

Show Notes:

The Man Music Video - Taylor Swift

Ejaculate Responsibly: A Whole New Way to Think About Abortion - Gabrielle Stanley Blair

The Crane Wife - CJ Hauser 

The Tragedy of Heterosexuality - Jane Ward

Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships - Marshall B. Rosenberg PhD

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Episode 68: Hello, my loves! 💕 This week, I’m coming to you straight from the messy middle—yep, that foggy, disorienting space where life says, “LOL, nope!” to all your perfectly laid plans. 😅

If you’ve ever found yourself wondering, “How the hell did I end up here?” or if you’re navigating the collapsing scaffolding of a life you thought was secure (hello, divorce consideration crew 🙋‍♀️), this episode is for YOU.

We’re talking about:
 🌪️ What happens when control—our favorite coping mechanism—is ripped away
 💔 How to handle the self-judgment spiral (that “Why wasn’t I enough?” soundtrack)
 ✨ Why letting go is not punishment, but a sacred breakdown leading to something better
 🌀 How life’s growth comes in cycles—like a spiral staircase
 🧘 Practical ways to build trust with yourself (and why that’s the ultimate antidote to control)

I’m sharing my own real-time journey of uncertainty, grief, and yes… hope. 💫 If you’re in the in-between right now, feeling like you’re free-falling without a net, please know you are not alone. There is refuge. There is magic ahead. And spoiler alert: the magic always comes when we lean into trust. 💖

Take a deep breath with me. You are safe in this moment. Let’s walk this unknown road together. 🌈

Show Notes:

K-Pop Demon Hunters

Jungian Dream Interpreter GPT

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Episode 67: Hey loves 💗,

This week’s episode is a little different—short, unfiltered, and deeply vulnerable. I hit record right in the middle of my own "tower moment" (yep, for my tarot friends out there, that card 🌩️), where everything feels like it’s crumbling... and I’m letting it.

Instead of packaging my process into a neatly wrapped episode with clear takeaways, I’m inviting you into the middle of the mess with me. This is me practicing what I preach—laying down the role of the “one who always holds it together” and learning to surrender to what I can’t control 😮‍💨💔.

If you’re also in a season of uncertainty, fear, or raw transformation, I hope this gives you permission to breathe, to stop fixing, and to just be where you are. Sometimes, the bravest thing we can do is admit we’re not okay... and trust that it’s still enough 💞.

I love you all so much. Thanks for being part of this sacred space. May you feel seen, held, and deeply worthy—even in the mess.

xo,

Britta 💕✨

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Episode 66: This episode is raw, real, and liberating. Quinn and I dive deep into the second part of Jane Ward’s The Tragedy of Heterosexuality, unpacking what it means to live inside a system that was never built for our wholeness.

We explore the emotional and erotic numbness so many women feel in straight relationships—and how it’s not your fault. We talk about internalized misogyny, performative sex, the quiet tragedy of disconnection, and the deep grief (and power) in waking up 💥.

But this isn’t about blame—it’s about the system. We name the ways patriarchy hurts men too, and what’s possible when we let go of scripts, center real pleasure, and build relationships and communities rooted in emotional honesty, mutuality, and freedom 🌈.

We also share four “exit ramps” from the system:
 1️⃣ Name it
 2️⃣ Learn nonviolent communication
 3️⃣ Let go of the roles
 4️⃣ Rebuild true community

Whether you're staying, going, or somewhere in between, this conversation will meet you there—with clarity, compassion, and hope. You’re not broken. You’re not alone. And there is another way 💗

Show Notes

The Tragedy of Heterosexuality - Jane Ward

To Wong Foo, Thanks For Everything! Julie Newmar Trailer

"The Men Are Not All Right"...Right? - Diabolical Lies Podcast

Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don't Know - Adam Grant

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Episode 65: This week’s episode is a massive eye-opener, y’all. 🤯 Quinn and I dive deep into The Tragedy of Heterosexuality by Jane Ward, and let me just say—holy 💩, our minds were blown. 

We unpack the historical roots of heterosexual marriage and how it was never designed with women’s joy, freedom, or wellbeing in mind. From patriarchy and white supremacy to eugenics and post-WWII propaganda, we trace how systems were built to serve capitalism—not connection—and how they continue to shape modern relationships, sex, and gender roles. 😤💔

We expose the heterosexual “repair industry”—a self-help movement that gaslit women into believing they were the problem when marriages didn’t work. We name how religion, media, and even love stories sold us on performance over partnership, submission over selfhood, and how even “woke” men today are still often performing feminism while propping up patriarchy. 🧠🔥

And most importantly, we ask: what if the real work isn’t about becoming “better wives”? What if it’s about shedding the programming and finally becoming more of who we truly are? 🦋

We share personal stories, Mormon roots, and what it means to courageously wake up and refuse to play a game that was never meant for our thriving. This is the beginning of liberation—and if you’ve ever felt like something’s off, like you’re not crazy but finally waking up… this one’s for you. ❤️‍🔥

Show Notes:

The Tragedy of Heterosexuality - Jane Ward

Would love to know if we missed anything or what you thought!

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Episode 64: Okay y'all, this one’s for the women leaning toward staying—but not the old way. In this episode, I share the rest of the 7 powerful shifts that can transform your marriage into one built on truth, safety, and mutual thriving 💫💥

We cover everything from the myth of “two halves make a whole” 🙅‍♀️ to rewriting your marriage rule book 📖, and even how separation can be a healing tool—not a failure. Plus, I’m spilling the tea on my recent astrology + GPT obsession (you’ll want to try this!) 🪐✨

If you’re wondering whether staying is right for you, this episode is your map. Bring your journal and let’s go deep 💗

Show Notes:

Astrology GPT 

Questions to Ask:

Can you please tell me about my life purpose?

Please tell me more about my career and vocation insights.

Let’s discuss my relationship patterns and soulmate indicators.

Tell me about my emotional needs and inner healing please.

Can you please show how my Part of Fortune and Black Moon Lilith add more depth to my emotional healing?

Can you explore how these connect to my love life and even my soulmate contracts?

Is there anything in my chart that gives deeper insight into sexuality?

Please explain and explore my tantric blueprint?

Resources Mentioned in the Episode:

Attached - Amir Levine

Complex PTSD: From Surviving To Thriving - Pete Walker

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents - Lindsay C. Gibson

No Bad Parts - Dr. Richard Schwartz

Want Match - Life Coach School Podcast

The Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Passion and Fulfillment - Jack Morin

Existential Kink: Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power - Carolyn Elliott PhD

Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life - Emily Nagoski Ph.D

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