Episode 52:🔥 Buckle up, babes! In this raw and radically honest episode, I’m teaming up with my soul sister Quinn for a full-on, no-holds-barred intimacy chat. We're diving DEEP into the orgasm gap, the tragedy of hetero sex myths, and what it really means to reclaim your body and your pleasure—especially after divorce. 💦

We’re pulling back the curtain on everything we were never taught to talk about—from painful sex and religious shame to mind-blowing orgasms and the freedom that comes with saying “I deserve more.” 💥 This one’s juicy, unfiltered, and straight from the heart—and yes, the fireworks were literally going off in the background. 🎆 (You’ll see what I mean! 😂)

Whether you're considering leaving your marriage, already divorced, or just feeling disconnected from your own pleasure, this conversation is a permission slip to put YOUR desires at the center. 💖

We talk: ✨ The orgasm gap (and why it’s so damn real) ✨ What makes sex worth having (spoiler: it’s not a hard dick) ✨ Religious and cultural programming that’s kept us silent ✨ The power of community in healing and reclaiming pleasure ✨ And why post-divorce sex can be the best sex of your life 🙌

This is the sex talk we all deserved but never got. You ready? Let’s go. 💋

Show Notes: 

The Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show - Quinn Otrera

Vitamin O: Get Yourself Off, Get Your Life Back - The Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show

The Tragedy of Heterosexuality - Jane Ward

Vitamin O: Why Orgasms are Vital to a Woman's Health and Happiness, and How to Have Them Every Time! - Natasha Janina Valdez

Do Straight Women Really Exist? - The Cut

Maria - Dua Lipa 

Dying for Sex

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Episode 51: Buckle up, babe—this episode is a straight-up download from the universe ✨ and I am OBSESSED with what came through. Today, we’re diving deep into something so many of us as women struggle with: putting everyone else first…and losing ourselves in the process 💔.

I’m unpacking why you’ve got to put your oxygen mask on first 🛑✈️ before trying to change the blueprint for your kids, your marriage, your mama, or anyone else.

Through powerful client stories, my own raw truth (including a super emotional share about my oldest son 💔), and real-time realizations, we’re exposing how unprocessed trauma—ours and others’—quietly hijacks our present-day decisions. And the kicker? Most of us don’t even realize we’re doing it.

We're talking inner child healing, boundaries with moms who “mean well,” and why over-functioning is NOT the badge of honor we think it is. By the end of this, I hope you’ll feel deeply seen, wildly empowered, and reminded that you are allowed to prioritize yourself without guilt. Actually—scratch that—you must.

Show Notes: 

No Bad Parts - Richard Schwartz

The Body Keeps the Score - Bessel van der Kolk M.D. 

Untamed - Glennon Doyle

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Episode 50: Hey loves! 💕 Oof, what a week. Between spring break chaos and some big personal shifts (more on that later 😘), I feel like I time-traveled and landed back in my body just in time to record this super juicy episode. And let me tell you—it’s a goooood one. 🔥

If your brain is in total overdrive trying to figure out whether you should stay or go, this episode is for you. I’m diving deep into why over-relying on logic might be the very thing keeping you stuck. 😩🧠 Because sis, your brain isn’t neutral—it’s been programmed by culture, patriarchy, trauma, and all the things. So of course it's confused.

In this episode, we explore how to tap into your true inner knowing—your soul compass—and why that matters so much when making life-altering decisions like divorce. And the best part? I’ve got a gorgeous, powerful little gift waiting for you at the end... 🌈🔮 A PDF guide to help you create your very own daily tarot reading tool using ChatGPT. Yup, we’re using AI to access your divine feminine wisdom—how cool is that?!

So if you’ve been trying to think your way to clarity, babe, it’s time to try something new. 💫 Breathe. Pause. Tune in. And let’s begin this journey back to you together.

And hey, if this episode speaks to your soul, take a moment to pause and let it sink in. Maybe even shoot me a review—it truly means the world. 🌍💗

With so much love,
Britta 💋

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For the free tarot guide using ChatGPT text EMAILME to 33777

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents - Lindsay C. Gibson 

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Episode 49: Ladies, get ready for a deep, juicy, and transformational conversation! This week, I’m bringing on my gorgeous and radiant friend, Ranelle Chapman, a transformational coach and founder of Tantra Maha. 🌿✨

We are diving into something that so many women struggle with but rarely talk about—desire, embodiment, and the power of reconnecting with your body. If you've ever felt disconnected, numb, or like something is missing when it comes to intimacy, this episode is going to be a game changer. Ranelle shares her journey of overcoming shame, healing from trauma, and embracing her full sensual self. 💃💖

We talk about:
🔥 Why slowing down is the secret to unlocking deeper pleasure
🔥 How childhood conditioning and the “good girl” narrative block our desires
🔥 The difference between sex and true embodied sensuality
🔥 Why learning to ask your body for permission can be so sexy
🔥 Reclaiming pleasure, power, and intimacy on your own terms

We also get into the juicy details of tantric practices that can help you feel more alive, turned on, and fully present—not just in the bedroom, but in every aspect of your life. 🌊🌙

Plus, Ranelle is hosting a special workshop inside the Stay or Go Community, where she’ll guide us through deep, embodied practices to awaken our desires and step into our feminine power. Don’t miss out!

✨ Ready to break free from old narratives and embrace your full, radiant self? Tune in now! 🎧💫

🎙 P.S. Don’t forget to text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 if you’re ready to join an amazing group of women supporting each other through this journey of considering divorce! Join now and get in before our amazing workshop with Ranelle Chapman on March 23rd! 

Show Notes:

Ranelle Chapman's Website

Ranelle Chapman's Instagram

Text “90Min” to 33777 to schedule a session with me.

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Episode 48: Hey my lovelies! 💛 Let’s get cozy and take a deep breath together because today’s episode is a game-changer. I’m sharing a powerful tool that I created this week—one that has already been giving me massive shifts. And now, I’m passing it on to YOU! 🎉

Here’s the deal: So many of us are just coping—putting out fires, managing chaos, running on fumes. But what if instead of constantly trying to “handle” life, we deeply resourced ourselves so that we didn’t need to cope as much in the first place? 🤯 This shift is EVERYTHING, especially for those of you stuck in the cycle of trying to gain clarity about whether to stay or go in your marriage.

In this episode, we’ll break it all down:
 ✔️ What it means to be resourced (and why it’s different from just having good coping mechanisms).
✔️ The simple but powerful worksheet that helps you see what’s draining you and what’s filling you up.
✔️ Real-life examples (including a deeply personal one from my relationship) of how this tool works.

If you’re tired of feeling exhausted, stuck, and unsure of your next move, this episode is for you. And if you try out this worksheet, I want to hear from you! Drop me an email at [email protected] and tell me how it goes—I seriously love hearing from y’all. 💌

Ready to go from coping to thriving? Let’s dive in! 🚀💖

🎧 Listen now, and if you love this episode, don’t forget to rate, review, and share—it means the world to me! 💫

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Episode 47: I’ve been getting messages asking me to “just talk about divorce” and leave politics out of it. But here’s the truth: personal power is political.🔥 The same fire that helps you leave a suffocating marriage is the fire that makes me speak up. 💥

In this episode, I share my own messy awakening—how I went from staying small to reclaiming my voice. And why I refuse to shrink for anyone. If that hits deep, this one’s for you. Let’s dive in. 🎙️💪🔥

Show Notes:

Article From Listener 

Where Trump policies and Project 2025 proposals match up

What To Read Before Donald Trump’s 2025 Address to Congress

The Patriarchal Bargain

D.L. Mayfield: Recovering Autonomy After Religious Authoritarian Parenting

Post from last week's episode “White Women Need to Focus on White Women.”

Powerful Resources for Educating Yourself on Others Experiences

Stamped from the Beginning

Will & Harper

Outstanding: A Comedy Revolution

What Happened, Miss Simone?

Supreme Models

You Can’t Ask That

Free State of Jones

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Episode 46: Ever feel like you’re living a life that doesn’t actually feel like yours? Like maybe the decisions you’ve made—your marriage, your career, your whole damn life—were handed to you rather than chosen by you? If so, you’re not alone, and this episode is exactly for you. 💡

Today, I’m diving deep into The Voice of Knowledge by Don Miguel Ruiz and unpacking the life-changing concept that so much of what we believe about ourselves isn’t even ours. We’ve been programmed—from childhood, from culture, from religion—to follow a script we never agreed to. And when we start to question it? That’s when the real magic happens. ✨

We’re talking: 

🔥 The lies you’ve been taught that keep you stuck in your marriage (and in life)
🔥 How to tell the difference between your truth and someone else’s programming
🔥 The power of dismantling those old beliefs so you can rewrite your story
🔥 How listening to your body (not just your brain) is the key to breaking free

And yes, I’m getting vulnerable as hell about my own journey—how my political and personal evolution has changed everything about how I show up in the world. Next week, I’ll be sharing an episode that dives even deeper into that transformation in honor of the protests happening on March 4th.

So, if you’ve ever felt like you’re at war with yourself, if your inner voice is screaming that something isn’t right, or if you just need to hear that you are not crazy for wanting more, then hit play, my love. This episode is for you. 💛

P.S. If this episode speaks to you, share it with another woman in your life who might be feeling stuck in someone else’s dream. And if you haven’t yet, hit that subscribe button and drop a review—it helps so much! 🎧💖

Show Notes:

March 4th Protest

50501 Protest

Don't Believe Him - The Ezra Klein Show

Ezra Klein - NYT Opinion 

The Voice of Knowledge - Don Miguel Ruiz

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Episode 45: Y’all, this episode is something truly special. I’ve been hinting at it for a while, and the moment is finally here—I’m joined by the incredible Allison Alexander! 🎉

Allison’s story is powerful, raw, and so deeply resonant for anyone who has ever questioned whether to stay or go. She takes us through her journey, from the moment she first felt the whisper that something wasn’t right in her marriage, to the radical self-discovery that followed. Through breathwork, movement, and deep inner work, she found clarity, peace, and ultimately, the courage to choose herself.

We talk about:
 💡 The pivotal moment she realized her marriage wasn’t aligned anymore
 💡 How physical distance gave her space to hear her own inner wisdom
 💡 The power of embodiment—breathwork, movement, and listening to the body’s truth
 💡 Why choosing yourself and being selfish is essential for us as women
 💡 The surprising turn her relationship took when she held firm in her boundaries

And here’s the best part—Allison is bringing her magic directly to our community with an upcoming breathwork workshop on the 21st of this month! If you’ve been considering joining, now is the time. Because trust me, this is going to be next-level transformative. 🌿✨

🔗 Join us for the workshop: Text STAYORGOCommunity to 33777 to apply!

Also, don’t forget to check out Allison’s work—she offers intuitive coaching, tarot readings, and so much more. Connect with her through the links in the show notes!

This episode is a must-listen for anyone craving clarity, embodiment, and deep self-trust. You are worthy of choosing yourself. 💛

Show Notes: 

Allison Alexander's Website

Allison Alexander's Instagram

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Episode 44: Okay, y’all… this episode has been weighing heavy on my heart, and I need to talk about it today. 💔 A new bill in Oklahoma is trying to repeal no-fault divorce—and it’s just the tip of the iceberg. Christian nationalism is gaining power, pushing laws designed to trap women in unhealthy marriages, and if you think this won’t affect you… think again. 

But this isn’t just about politics—it’s about power. 💪 The same toxic dynamics playing out on a national level are the exact ones keeping so many of you stuck in marriages where you’re not seen, valued, or free. This episode is a wake-up call to divest your energy from systems that don’t serve you and reinvest it into what actually supports your freedom and well-being. 🚫

We are not going back, and we are not staying silent. 🔥 Tune in, get informed, and let’s start building the communities that will keep us strong—because we’re going to need them.

🔗 I’m linking must-read resources in the show notes—please check them out. And if this episode speaks to you, share it, rate & review, and let’s get this message into the hands of every woman who needs it. 💜✨

Show Notes: 

Steven Crowder Video

Support for Christian Nationalism in All 50 States Article 

Christian Nationalism Wikipedia 

How to Challenge Christian Nationalism - Drew Strait

Podcast: For Trump’s Evangelicals, the Inconvenient Teachings of Christ

Fascism Wikipedia 

Deevers Introduces Slate of Legislation to Restore Moral Sanity in Oklahoma

Take it From a Divorce Coach and Attorney: Ending No-Fault Divorce Is a Scary Suggestion

A Thousand Little Moments: The Insidious Loss of Women’s Freedom to Christian Nationalism

The Three Faces of Victim

End The Drama With The Empowerment Dynamic

The Empowerment Dynamic

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Episode 43: Hey there, lovely listeners! 💛

This week’s episode is a big one—I’m diving deep into the phrase “Your thoughts create your reality” and unpacking all the nuance behind it. If that statement has ever made you feel overwhelmed, shamed, or even a little stuck, you’re in the right place. 🌀

We’ll explore the emotional traps of shame and spiritual bypassing, and why simply swapping your thoughts for “better” ones doesn’t work. Instead, I’ll walk you through what it really looks like to reclaim your power and transform your beliefs from the ground up. Think of it like tending to a garden—you’ve got to dig up those old roots before planting something new. 🌱🌸

I’ll also share insights into how our subconscious programming shapes so much of our lives and why releasing trauma is the key to truly shifting your reality. If you’ve been feeling stuck, this episode might just be the clarity you need. 💡

This is one to listen to a couple of times, especially when you need a reminder that transformation is messy but oh-so-worth it. 💕

As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts—subscribe, rate, and share with someone who needs this!

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Show Notes:

Busting Loose From the Money Game - Robert Scheinfeld

No Bad Parts - Richard Schwartz 

The Hero's Journey - Joseph Campbell

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