In this episode, I’m answering a big question I hear often: “If I change how I think about my partner’s hurtful behavior… am I just letting him off the hook?”

We unpack that idea starting with how our thoughts create our feelings, and how learning to shift those thoughts is not about pretending things are okay.

It’s about reclaiming your emotional power.

Whether it’s something small, like not replacing the Q-tip jar lid, or something big, like lying and broken trust, I’ll show you how curiosity and understanding are much more effective than control or criticism.

Because you don’t change your life—or your relationship—by staying stuck in blame.

You change it by seeing clearly, responding differently, and choosing what feels better for you.

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"If you don’t know how to manage your mind, all you have is the ancient instinctual wiring from centuries ago. It’s playing out in your life in a modern world." - Sharon Pope

Our hormones shape so much of how we react to each other.

Women, driven by estrogen, are wired for connection and emotional harmony, while men, influenced by testosterone, tend to react to conflict with more aggression or defensiveness.

I’m diving into the biological differences between men and women and how those differences affect our relationships.

Understanding these natural differences is key to improving communication and reducing unnecessary blame.

When we manage our reactions and recognize our instinctual wiring, we can navigate relationships with more clarity and less emotional upheaval.

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In this episode, I unpack the subtle but powerful ways resistance shows up in our relationships, both in our partner and in ourselves.

Whether it’s denial, blame, or even sarcasm, these are just avoidance tactics we’ve learned to protect ourselves from feeling hurt or rejected.

But when every hard conversation is met with pushback, we stop having them. And when we stop having them, we stop repairing the relationship.

I’ll walk you through the 12 most common forms of resistance.

You’ll know how to recognize them and what to do instead: stay present, hold the hard moments with compassion, and keep connection alive even in the messiest conversations.

This isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being aware and doing better when we know better.

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You did the best you could to love one another, and you made some mistakes along the way, and that’s what brought us here. It doesn’t mean you’re bad people.

What happens when one partner finally makes changes after years of disconnection and neglect, only for the other partner to feel too far gone to trust those changes?

We often wait for our partner to change, but the reality is, change comes too late for some relationships.

When you're finally ready to make your decision, whether to stay or go, it's important to assess if the changes being made are genuine or just a response to fear of losing everything.

While the effort to change can feel like progress, it might not be enough to bridge the emotional distance that's developed over time.

Sometimes, it's about knowing when to accept things for what they are and make the best decision for yourself, regardless of the outcome.

Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

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In this conversation, I talk about navigating the emotional turmoil of financial betrayal in a marriage and how to maintain your integrity while making tough decisions.

It’s important to choose how you feel in any situation, especially when faced with emotions like grief, anger, and betrayal.

Setting boundaries, standing up for yourself, and letting go of the “shoulds” that don’t serve you are key to healing.

I also highlight the power of compassion—not only for yourself but eventually for the person who hurt you—without compromising your self-respect or well-being.

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Your husband isn’t like you.

I’m sharing insights on how differences in a marriage can actually enhance the relationship, rather than cause friction.

I dive into the dynamics of one partner always reaching for more while the other stays steady and how these contrasting approaches can balance each other.

We also explore how understanding and appreciating these differences can lead to greater connection and intimacy.

In this episode, I use real examples from my own marriage to show how embracing the uniqueness of your partner can strengthen your bond.

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I want to share with you what I’ve learned about the emotional ups and downs of navigating divorce.

It’s normal to think that once you’ve made the decision to leave, the journey will feel easier.

In reality, it’s often filled with doubt, fear, and uncertainty.

The journey can often mirror the stages of grief and you might bounce between these stages, even within the same day.

As you process these emotions, you’ll need the right support to help guide you through the tough times and to move toward clarity.

I share insights on how to navigate these phases, and the importance of finding meaning in the loss, which can ultimately help you heal and move forward.

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In this episode I break down the three essential phases of healing after an affair: Stop the Bleeding, Rehabilitation, and Healing.

These stages are crucial for rebuilding trust and healing the pain of betrayal.

The first phase is about managing the initial shock and emotional impact.

In phase two, you’ll do the deeper work of understanding what led to the affair and healing both individually and together.

Phase three is where you begin to envision and create a new future, even if it looks different from what you expected.

I’ll explain why each phase is essential, how to avoid getting stuck, and why having the right support is key to moving forward.

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"The person who most needs to hear your words is you."

Have you ever wished you could just see your situation clearly and finally hear exactly what you most need to know?

I’m sharing one of my favorite self-coaching exercises, inspired by Martha Beck, to help you do just that.

We begin by exploring someone else’s stuck patterns and hidden courage — because sometimes it feels safer to look outward first.

Then, step by step, I guide you to turn those insights inward, revealing the truths and guidance you most need to tell yourself.

This simple but powerful practice can help you drop old ways of thinking, see your life with fresh eyes, and feel more at peace with the decisions ahead of you.

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What do you do when you and your partner feel like you’ve run out of things to say?

You’ll hear the story of my client Patty, who sat through an awkward, silent dinner with her husband and went home feeling deeply alone.

If you relate, know this: you haven’t lost your connection… you’ve just forgotten how to talk to each other.

I walk you through practical, open-ended questions you can use to spark deeper, more meaningful conversations. Questions like “What are you working toward right now?” or “When have you felt most loved by me?” 

These are simple but powerful ways to break out of the small talk rut and rediscover each other. 

Start with one question at a time, stay curious, and watch how you remember how to truly connect.

Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.