Your coach isn’t your bestie. And that’s a good thing.

When you admit your marriage is in trouble, you need love that sees your blind spots, challenges your excuses, and won’t let you settle.

I share a Q&A moment where a woman wanted a pep talk about reconciling while still in an affair.

I paused and chose the truth: “I could make you feel better, but I kind of don’t want to.”

I called her higher, named the avoidance, and laid out her real choices:

• end the affair and give the marriage your all

• release the marriage and see where the affair goes

• keep lying until it blows up

That’s the love I offer as a coach: I hold up the mirror and walk beside you while you do the hard, honest work.

Because “when someone pushes you to be better, it’s not criticism. It’s an act of love.”

Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

In this episode, I share a client story where her husband secretly put a tracker on her car, and how tempting it was to tell him off or file a restraining order.

We walked through what those reactions would actually accomplish. Not much.

They don’t change the past and they can harm co-parenting and her peace.

She chose a different path. She chose to protect her peace and stay steady toward a peaceful divorce.

“If telling someone off worked, I’d tell you to do it.” It doesn’t.

So I give you three steps that do work: get clear on your goal, decide how you want to feel, and choose the strategy that gets you there.

Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

In this final episode of the Us Unfiltered: Behind the Beautiful Life series, I explore what “having it all” really means — and why a beautiful life on the outside can still feel empty when your marriage isn’t getting the care it deserves.

We talk about the difference between success, happiness, and true fulfillment, and how easy it is to give our best to work and our kids while offering only crumbs to our relationship.

I share why emotional connection is real wealth, why numbing keeps us stuck, and why we need to stop saying “I’m unhappy” without offering a path forward.

We’re whole humans. What happens at home affects everything else.

I walk you through how to evolve your marriage as life changes, and two questions every couple should ask to create a next chapter that feels as good as it looks.

The life you’ve built is beautiful. Now it’s time to make it feel beautiful.

If you’re serious about healing the disconnect in your marriage, there is a path forward.

Apply for a Private Couples Weekend. We’ll talk about what’s happening between you, what you want to rebuild, and whether this private, two-day experience is the right container to help you create lasting change—together. 

Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

In this episode, I talk about why desire fades — and why it’s not gone, just buried.

Buried under busyness, emotional distance, resentment, and the weight of responsibilities. A lack of sex isn’t the problem; it’s the symptom.

I break down what desire really needs (safety and aliveness), how routine and predictability smother intimacy, and why familiarity dampens passion over time.

You’ll learn the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire, why emotional closeness has to come first, and how sex becomes a standoff when no one wants to go first.

I offer simple ways to reconnect: eye contact, non-sexual touch, curiosity, small moments of presence, and adding bits of novelty back into your lives.

Desire doesn’t magically return — it grows again through connection.

In the next episode, we’ll wrap the series with what “having it all” actually means when it comes to love, success, and fulfillment.

Rebuild desire and closeness in a real way: join us for the Couples Weekend.

Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

In part three of Us Unfiltered, I explore how power dynamics quietly shape a marriage: who leads, who decides, who sets the tone.

These patterns usually come from what we saw growing up, and without realizing it, they create a one-up/one-down dynamic that erodes trust and connection.

Too much independence can turn partners into high-functioning roommates instead of a true team.

I talk about why every contribution counts, why control blocks intimacy, and how “keeping the boardroom out of the bedroom” matters more than most couples realize.

I share a moment in my own marriage where choosing presence over defensiveness shifted everything.

You’ll learn simple ways to restore balance: notice without blame, make space for your partner to lead, value emotional work, step out of the one-up stance, and reconnect around a shared vision.

If you’re serious about healing the disconnect in your marriage, there is a path forward.

Apply for a Private Couples Weekend. We’ll talk about what’s happening between you, what you want to rebuild, and whether this private, two-day experience is the right container to help you create lasting change—together. 

Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

I’m challenging the question, Am I a terrible person? 

I explain why that question keeps you stuck in shame and judgment.

I offer better questions: How is this serving me, and how is it not?

I walk through real examples, like not wanting to stop an affair and withholding love from a good man.

We look at the short-term hits and the real costs, including risk, stress, kids, family, and how avoiding vulnerability blocks connection.

I’m not here to judge. I’m here to help you make conscious choices that align with who you want to be.

Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

I share the story of a woman who followed my work for 10 years before she reached out, hoping the next blog or podcast might fix her 20-year marriage.

Once we finally worked together, she and her husband became more connected than ever.

I talk about why we wait: saying it out loud makes it real.

The unknown feels scary. We hope things change on their own. We want a guarantee. We worry. We don’t know what we want. We don’t want to do the work, and doing nothing feels easier.

But that wait creates distance and piles on resentment, and our behavior gets worse.

Our problems don’t age well.

If you’re stuck, you don’t need a decade. Sometimes you have to leap before you can see the ground.

Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

I’m breaking down what no-fault divorce is, why it’s more recent than most people realize, and why it isn’t the villain.

Laws don’t destroy marriages. People do.

What really ends marriages:

• Neglect
• Shutting down
• Avoiding hard conversations
• Blaming instead of owning our part
• Getting defensive
• Invalidating each other
• Turning love into a transaction
• Not listening
• And finally, indifference.

A no-fault divorce gives you the freedom to choose your reasons, and the only person who has to make peace with those reasons is you.

If you’re even thinking about ending your marriage, set a Google alert for “no fault divorce” plus your state so you know if that freedom is at risk where you live.

Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

In this episode, I break down the difference between therapy and coaching without making one better than the other.

Therapy helps you understand how you got here.

Coaching helps you decide where you want to go and how to get there.

We talk about timing, momentum, and why most couples wait too long to ask for help.

I share when to choose individual or couples work, and why one person showing up differently can still spark change.

We also look at quick fixes that don’t heal deeper issues and the importance of addressing what’s really driving the disconnection.

Sometimes the best path is both therapy and coaching—the key is choosing what fits your goals, your timeline, and your readiness for change.

Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

I know it’s easy to get caught up in life and forget to prioritize your marriage.

But the truth is, nothing thrives when you turn your back on it.

We’ll invest in Botox, hair appointments, and our businesses—but expect our marriages to somehow take care of themselves.

A healthy, connected relationship takes time, attention, and consistent effort.

It’s not about perfection; it’s about showing up and learning the skills that help you grow together.

If you want your marriage to feel good again, it has to make the list of what truly matters.

Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.