What if the secret to thriving after divorce isn’t about pushing harder, but learning when to let go?

In this powerful conversation, Amanda Goetz joins Michelle Dempsey-Multack to unpack toxic grit, the hidden cost of overperformance, and how divorced and single mothers can reclaim energy, clarity, and joy without burning out.

Listeners will walk away with practical frameworks for balance, permission to prioritize themselves, and strategies for rewriting outdated scripts about womanhood, motherhood, and success.

Why toxic grit keeps women trapped in cycles of guilt, overwork, and exhaustion

How Amanda’s Character Theory helps you separate and align the different versions of yourself, mom, professional, partner, and more

The power of transition sequences to reset your energy and reduce overstimulation in parenting and work

Why outsourcing certain tasks (the “sanity tax”) can be essential for single parents

How to navigate guilt, societal expectations, and scripts handed down by family or culture

04:12 – Amanda shares her journey from a small-town upbringing to building a career in tech and marketing while navigating divorce.

11:58 – The hidden weight of toxic grit and why traditional “lean in” culture fails single mothers.

18:20 – Introducing Character Theory, a framework to understand the multiple roles we play and how misalignment leads to burnout.

24:37 – Practical strategies for creating transition sequences that shift your energy between work, parenting, and personal life.

31:15 – The “sanity tax” and how investing in help can protect your well-being and your children’s stability.

36:42 – Reframing guilt and learning to ask: Whose voice am I hearing when shame or doubt creeps in?

40:10 – Amanda’s insights on mosquito tasks, 10-10-10 decision making, and reducing cognitive overload.

Meet The Guest:

Amanda Goetz is an author, CMO, and founder whose upcoming book, Toxic Grit redefines resilience and self-leadership for women. A divorced mother of three, she blends personal experience with business acumen to empower women to pursue ambition without self-sacrifice. She is also the new host of the Girl Boss podcast, reimagined as Ambition 2.0.

Character Theory – understanding the multiple identities within us and how to align them

Transition Sequences – practical rituals to reset energy when shifting roles

Sanity Tax – reframing outsourcing as a necessity, not a luxury

10-10-10 Framework – assessing urgency and significance before reacting

Mosquito Task List – capturing small tasks to reduce cognitive load

“Permission is power. When we give ourselves permission to rest, delegate, and prioritize joy, we break free from the toxic cycles of guilt and overperformance.”

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Divorce can feel overwhelming, especially when money is involved.

In this empowering conversation, divorce coach Michelle Dempsey-Multack and Sylvia Guinan, a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA), break down the most important financial steps every divorcing woman needs to know. From understanding hidden assets to protecting your children’s financial future, this episode delivers clarity and confidence when you need it most.

How to identify and protect yourself from financial abuse during separation.

The critical first questions to ask your divorce attorney about assets, spending, and hidden accounts.

Why a financial affidavit matters, and how to complete it without fear or second-guessing.

02:10 – Why money fears are the #1 stressor in divorce, and how to take the first step toward financial clarity.

09:25 – Recognizing signs of financial abuse and reclaiming control.

15:18 – The truth about financial affidavits and why honest numbers empower you.

23:40 – When to fight for the house, and when to let it go.

30:55 – The hidden costs of divorce most people overlook.

36:12 – Sylvia’s strategy for building a trusted professional team to protect your future.

41:30 – Final financial planning tips to move forward with confidence.

Sylvia Guinan is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst with Wells Fargo Advisors who specializes in guiding women through the financial realities of divorce. Her expertise helps clients make informed decisions, avoid hidden pitfalls, and secure a confident path forward

Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA): Expert support to evaluate assets, tax implications, and settlement scenarios.

Financial Affidavit Tips: How to accurately document expenses and protect your lifestyle.

Team-Based Divorce Planning: The value of combining legal, financial, and emotional support.

“There’s no price for your freedom. Be brave, find your truth, and remember, you deserve a financial plan that reflects your worth.” – Sylvia Guinan

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Resentment is a natural, but draining, part of single parent life.

In this empowering episode of The Moving On Method®, Michelle Dempsey-Multack opens up about the hidden mental load of solo parenting, the quiet envy of watching partnered friends get a “break,” and the practical self-care strategies that keep resentment from taking root. Listeners will learn how to name the feeling, release it, and reclaim their energy and joy as a single parent

Why resentment shows up in single parenthood, and how to recognize it before it overwhelms you

Daily self-care practices (sleep hygiene, gentle movement, nourishing meals) that lower stress hormones and quiet negative emotions

How to reframe single parent life to reduce comparison, jealousy, and the “why me” mindset

Ways to ask for help and build a supportive community without guilt or shame

Why releasing resentment strengthens your relationship with your children and models emotional resilience

Michelle Dempsey-Multack is a certified divorce and co-parenting specialist, author, and the creator of The Moving On Method®, guiding parents toward resilience, self-care, and healthy post-divorce family dynamics.

Sleep hygiene routines to promote deeper rest and reduce irritability

Gentle movement practices like yoga, stretching, and evening walks to clear resentment from the nervous system

Breathwork for immediate nervous-system regulation

Community care: reframing asking for help as a sign of strength, not weakness

“Resentment is like swallowing poison and hoping it affects someone else, it only hurts you. Naming it, nurturing yourself, and letting others support you transforms exhaustion into empowerment.”

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What if the very thing you’re clinging to in co-parenting, the need for control, is what’s keeping you from peace?

In this episode, Michelle Dempsey-Multack unpacks why control in co-parenting is an illusion, how expectations create unnecessary heartache, and what true surrender looks like for divorced parents. Listeners will learn how to shift from frustration to freedom and create a calmer, more resilient environment for their children.

Why co-parents crave control after divorce and how it impacts anxiety

The difference between healthy influence and harmful attempts to control

How to respond when your ex behaves in ways you can’t change

Tools for modeling resilience and stability for your children

A practical exercise to release control and focus on what really matters

The “Expectation Audit” Exercise – writing down one thing you can’t control in co-parenting, and one thing you can control.

Modeling Resilience Framework – showing kids strength and calm through action rather than reacting to negativity.

“Your power as a parent doesn’t come from controlling every variable; it comes from modeling grace, resilience, and love.”

Letting go of control isn’t giving up, it’s reclaiming peace. Take a deep breath, release what isn’t yours to manage, and focus on what truly matters: showing up for your children with stability and love.

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How do you rebuild your financial independence after a divorce?

In this episode of The Moving On Method® Podcast, Michelle Dempsey-Multack speaks with Ashley Miller (Madam Trader) about closing the wealth gap, overcoming financial fear, and taking practical steps toward financial freedom. Together, they unpack how women can transform money from a source of stress into a tool for empowerment, choice, and resilience.

Why financial literacy is a form of freedom, and a key to leaving toxic relationships

How to take stock of assets, liabilities, and cash flow after divorce

Practical shifts to reduce expenses and align spending with values

Why investing, not just saving, is critical for long-term security

The mindset shift every divorced woman needs to reclaim her financial independence

Meet the Guest:

Ashley Miller, known as Madam Trader, is a finance professional and educator dedicated to helping women take charge of their financial futures. Through her podcast and coaching, she spotlights successful women traders, promotes financial literacy, and empowers women to close the wealth gap.

Madam Trader Approach – storytelling and education to normalize women in finance

Pre-Investing Checklist – emergency funds, debt payoff, and employer match strategies

Compound Interest Framework – using time and consistency to grow wealth exponentially

Ellevest Platform – an accessible robo-advisor and impact investing tool designed for women

“Money is a tool. The less you understand it, the more it controls your life. The more you understand it, the more freedom you have.” – Ashley Miller

By building financial literacy and investing consistently, women can reclaim independence, model resilience for their children, and create a future they won’t have to recover from.

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What happens when your ex keeps introducing new girlfriends to your children?

This episode explores one of the most common and emotionally triggering co-parenting challenges: protecting your kids’ emotional safety when you can’t control your ex’s choices.

Michelle Dempsey-Multack shares practical, child-centered strategies to help parents manage their own emotions, create stability at home, and provide the safe harbor children need to thrive.

What You’ll Learn:

Why you cannot control your ex’s decisions—but you can control your response

How to process “ragey” feelings without placing that weight on your children

The impact of a revolving door of partners on a child’s nervous system

Simple scripts for responding when kids share their experiences with new partners

The Safe Harbor Parenting™ framework for creating consistency, boundaries, and emotional resilience

Episode Highlights:

Tools, Frameworks, or Strategies Mentioned

Safe Harbor Parenting™ – a branded framework emphasizing emotional safety, consistency, boundaries, and resilience building

Serenity Prayer Reframe – a mindset reminder for focusing energy only where you have influence

Closing Insight:

“Your job is not to control your ex. Your job is to be the safe harbor where your children can always return.” – Michelle Dempsey-Multack

By modeling calm, consistent, child-centered co-parenting, you create the environment your kids won’t have to recover from, even if the other parent makes choices you cannot control.

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What happens when your children say they feel unsafe with their other parent, or when hostility from a co-parent makes stepfamily life harder than it should be?

In this episode of The Moving On Method®, Michelle Dempsey-Multack addresses the top three questions divorce coaches hear most often, covering child safety, stepmom struggles, and parenting plan boundaries around introducing new partners. You’ll walk away with clear, compassionate strategies to keep the focus on your kids while managing the most difficult co-parenting dynamics.

How to support your children when they resist visitation with their other parent

Why stepmom–bio mom conflict often stems from fear and ego, and how to defuse it

The truth about six-month “waiting period” clauses for introducing new partners

How to focus your energy on child-centered priorities, not ego-driven battles

Simple mindset shifts to help you thrive as a co-parent, step-parent, or divorced parent

Michelle Dempsey-Multack is a certified divorce and co-parenting specialist, best-selling author, and host of The Moving On Method®. She empowers parents worldwide to move from high-conflict separation to child-centered co-parenting with empathy, resilience, and clarity.

Safe Harbor Parenting™ – creating the stable, secure home your children need

Respect First Approach – why step-parents earn trust by honoring the bio parent

“Hills Worth Dying On” Framework – choosing battles that actually protect your kids

"You cannot change what happens in your ex’s home, but you can create safety and stability on your own. That’s the most powerful gift you can give your children."

If this resonates, tune in now and discover how to approach co-parenting challenges with compassion, boundaries, and confidence.

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What if your body has been holding onto trauma long after your mind thinks you’ve healed?

In this powerful conversation, Michelle Dempsey-Multack sits down with Janine Forte, founder of One Yoga International™, to explore the science and soul of releasing stored trauma through yoga, mindfulness, and somatic healing. From understanding how “the issues are in the tissues” to learning gentle, accessible ways to reconnect with your body, this episode offers hope, tools, and inspiration for anyone seeking to heal from the inside out.

Why traditional talk therapy alone may not resolve trauma without addressing the body.

How trauma hides in physical tension, especially in the hips and shoulders, and how yoga can release it.

The Breathe–Move–Release Method for shifting out of fight-or-flight mode and into nervous system regulation.

Practical daily rituals to build trust with your body after trauma or toxic relationships.

How self-awareness, emotional regulation, and empathy expand when you “start by stopping.”

Janine Forte is a mindfulness teacher, yoga and meditation instructor, and the founder of One Yoga International™, a global platform offering in-person and online classes, transformational retreats, and a soon-to-launch 200-hour yoga teacher training. Her work supports a worldwide community dedicated to personal growth, healing, and conscious living.

Breathe–Move–Release Method – a framework for somatic trauma release

Magic Carpet Mindset – approaching the yoga mat as a place for self-discovery

Six Movements of the Spine (Pratapana) – foundational daily mobility practice

Closing Insight:

“If you’re miserable, shift.” — Janine Forte Sometimes the smallest adjustments, on the mat or in life, open the door to deep healing.

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What legal and emotional tools do you actually need to leave a marriage, especially if you didn’t want the divorce in the first place?

It's time for some expert legal advice. This week, host Michelle Dempsey-Multack sits down with Rachel Kipnis, family law attorney, divorced co-parent, and senior associate at GWHS Law, to unpack how women can take back their power through informed legal strategy.

Together, they explore what most women overlook when navigating divorce, how to protect your peace during legal negotiations, and what it means to parent while grieving.

What You'll Learn:

The real legal questions women should ask before filing for divorce

How to avoid the most common (and costly) divorce mistakes

What amicable divorce really looks like—and how to protect it

How grief and motherhood can coexist after a separation

Why choosing the right attorney changes everything

Meet the Guest

Rachel Kipnis is a senior associate at GWHS Law and an experienced family law attorney who has helped hundreds of women navigate complex divorces. A divorced mother herself, Rachel combines legal clarity with lived empathy.

Tools, Frameworks, or Strategies Mentioned:

The Moving On Method – Michelle Multack’s trauma-aware approach to healing after non-mutual divorce

Peace-Protective Legal Strategy – Rachel’s philosophy for minimizing unnecessary litigation

Child-First Co-Parenting – An agreement style focused on children’s emotional security

Closing Insight:

“You’re not weak for hurting—you’re strong for staying in the fight, even when it’s quiet, messy, and invisible.” — Michelle Multack

Chapters:

02:00 Why Rachel became a divorce attorney after going through her own separation

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Connect with Rachel Kipnis

Find Rachel on Instagram @thesplitstrategist

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What really causes estrangement between parents and children, and how can you prevent it, especially after divorce?

In this episode of The Moving On Method, host Michelle Dempsey-Multack sits down with psychotherapist and author Whitney Goodman (aka @sitwithwit) to unpack the nuanced emotional dynamics that lead to parent-child estrangement.

From parentification to narcissistic family systems, Michelle and Whitney explore what it takes to be the safe, emotionally attuned parent your child needs, particularly when co-parenting in a high-conflict situation.

What You’ll Learn:

Why estrangement is becoming more openly discussed, and what’s actually driving it

How parentification harms children (even when well-intentioned)

The critical difference between protecting vs. over-sharing with your child

How to build emotional safety and connection during divorce or co-parenting

What “parenting without a roadmap” really means, and how to do it with confidence

Episode Highlights:

Meet the Guest:

Whitney Goodman, LMFT, is a licensed psychotherapist, speaker, and author of Toxic Positivity. Best known for her online presence as @sitwithwit, Whitney helps individuals navigate family estrangement, generational trauma, and emotionally mature parenting through her work at callinghome.co.

Tools, Frameworks, and Concepts Mentioned:

Parenting Without a Roadmap – Whitney’s emotional navigation model for parents without healthy templates

Parentification – A breakdown of the emotional role-reversal between parent and child

Narcissistic Family Systems – Traits and long-term impacts

Emotional Maturity vs. Emotional Oversharing – Why kids need honesty with boundaries

Safe and Stable Parent Model – A guiding principle for high-conflict parenting

Closing Insight:

"Bad parents don’t worry about being bad parents. Conscious ones do."

Being afraid your child will resent you one day is a sign you’re already trying to parent with awareness. But trying isn’t enough; you need tools, insight, and support.

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