The Truth About Empaths, Childhood Trauma, and Shadow Work

Are empaths born—or made?

In this eye-opening episode, Lisa A. Romano, Breakthrough Life Coach and bestselling author, explores the origin of empathic sensitivity and its powerful connection to childhood trauma, emotional wounding, and spiritual purpose.

Some empaths are created through painful early experiences—rejection, abandonment, emotional neglect, and feeling unseen. These wounds condition the developing brain into hypervigilance, keeping the child’s psyche locked in "scanning mode." When a child is forced to tune into the emotions and behavior of others to feel safe, they become disconnected from their true self—and this is the breeding ground for codependency.

Other empaths are born, arriving with a spiritual assignment. Their nervous systems and emotional bodies are designed to feel what others suppress. Often, these empathic souls absorb the denied pain of their caregivers—especially unhealed maternal figures. Over time, these empaths become sensitive not just to individual pain, but to the collective suffering that society ignores.

But without proper tools, empaths can become emotionally capsized, overwhelmed by the very gift they were meant to use consciously. That’s why Lisa teaches empaths how to use symbols, metaphors, and boundaries to reframe their experience, and to reclaim the connection to self that trauma stole.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone who:

• Feels deeply affected by other people’s moods and energies

• Grew up walking on emotional eggshells

• Struggles with codependency, people-pleasing, or emotional burnout

• Wants to understand the true purpose behind their empathic gifts

You’ll also learn why many empaths feel called to “fix” or “rescue” others—and why this often stems from unresolved inner child wounds, not divine purpose. Healing begins when we stop absorbing and start integrating.

Lisa shares why true transformation for empaths lies in shadow work, conscious integration, and elevating the nervous system. Those brave enough to face their own shadows don't just heal themselves—they become vessels for generational healing.

✨ Pro tip: You may want to listen to this episode more than once. It’s packed with golden nuggets that could change your life.

Begin Your Healing Journey:

Lisa introduces her signature 12 Week Breakthrough Method—a trauma-informed, neuroscience-based coaching program created specifically for adult children of narcissistic, neglectful, or emotionally immature caregivers.

Inside the program, you'll be guided through:

• Brain retraining techniques rooted in neuroscience
• Inner child healing and self-concept reorganization
• Neuroscience Backed Journaling prompts and assessments to increase self-awareness
• Tools to stop subconscious self-abandonment and start living from your true self
• Embrace shadow work from a higher state of consciousness to experience integration

This method has helped thousands heal from complex trauma and break toxic generational patterns, with tools to rewire limiting beliefs and build authentic self-worth.

👉 Learn more: here

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What happens when the very people who were supposed to love us, protect us, and cherish us turn out to be the source of our deepest pain?

In this revealing episode, Lisa A. Romano, trauma-informed life coach and codependency recovery expert, explores the heartbreaking reality behind why so many children grow up loving the very people who harmed them—and how this sets the stage for adult codependency.

From narcissistic parents to emotionally neglectful caregivers, this episode dives into the psychology behind trauma bonding, betrayal blindness, and why our subconscious minds cling to toxic dynamics. Lisa unpacks the emotional and neurological imprinting that causes children—and later, adults—to overlook red flags and remain loyal to harmful people.

In this episode, you’ll discover: 🔍 Why the most dangerous people are often the ones closest to us 🧠 How childhood trauma wires the brain for survival, not clarity 💔 The tragic link between emotional betrayal and codependency 🪞 Why children internalize the abuse and blame themselves 🔁 How unresolved childhood wounds manifest as self-abandonment, people-pleasing, and unhealthy adult relationships

This episode is for you if: ✔️ You struggle to set boundaries with family or romantic partners ✔️ You feel guilt or shame for distancing yourself from toxic loved ones ✔️ You often feel drawn to fix, rescue, or gain approval from others ✔️ You suspect your past is still impacting your relationships today

Resources Mentioned: 🌱 Start your healing journey with Lisa’s groundbreaking 12 Week Breakthrough Program 👉 https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp

📘 Watch Lisa’s related video: Why You Still Love the Person Who Hurt You 👉 YouTube Channel – Lisa A. Romano

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Why do we cling to people who hurt us? Why does the fear of abandonment feel so unbearable? In this episode, Lisa A. Romano, expert in trauma recovery and codependency healing, unpacks the powerful link between attachment theory and codependency.

From early childhood dynamics to the subconscious fears that drive our adult relationships, Lisa breaks down how insecure attachment styles—like anxious or avoidant—set the stage for emotional dependency, people-pleasing, and self-abandonment.

If you've ever felt like you're addicted to love, overly responsible for others, or terrified of being alone, this episode will help you trace those patterns back to their origin—so you can begin to heal them.

In this episode, you'll learn:  What attachment theory is—and how it relates to codependency  How unmet childhood needs create fear-based attachment styles Why codependents often attract emotionally unavailable partners  How anxious attachment leads to over-functioning in relationships  Steps to begin forming healthier, more secure connections

This episode is for you if you: ✔️ Fear abandonment or rejection in relationships ✔️ Struggle to speak your truth or set healthy boundaries ✔️ Feel responsible for other people’s emotions ✔️ Tend to give more than you receive in friendships or love

Resources Mentioned: 🌱 Begin healing your attachment wounds with the 12 Week Breakthrough Program 👉 https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp

🎓 Learn more about attachment theory and recovery on Lisa’s YouTube channel 👉 YouTube – Lisa A. Romano

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Does your life feel out of control? Do you find yourself feeling stuck, angry, and resentful, and no matter how hard you try to be nice, or kind, or considerate, you only end up feeling worse? Dear One, that is no accident, as you will learn in this incredible breakthrough episode podcast.  Before Lisa A. Romano was diagnosed with codependency, she lived her life prioritizing others' needs, unaware that her lack of self-awareness, her inability to put herself first, or even to have her needs recognized, was rooted in trauma and missing information. Once Lisa was diagnosed with codependency and learned from an intuitive therapist that she was the adult child of unrecovered adult children of alcoholics, and possibly even dry alcoholics, the wheels in her mind started to turn.

From there, Lisa hit the books and the ground running, consuming every book and mentor she could to help her unwind her mind from self-loathing, hypervigilance, negative self-talk, insecurity, and deep feelings of shame and inadequacy. By adding new data into her data bank of self-understanding, through a ferocious and tenacious will, slowly Lisa's entire inner self-perception began to shift, and like a Rubik's cube, her life started reorganizing itself.  Lisa A. Romano is the first to tell you that healing is ugly, terrifying, and lonesome, and she will also ask that you accept the quest despite this, because it is the only way to break through the thick matrix caused by generational trauma. If you are the adult child of an alcoholic, or if you were raised by toxic, narcissistic, wounded, immature, or codependent parents, or if you grew up in what seemed like a normal family but felt emotionally neglected, this podcast episode will resonate with you. 

This episode is a must-listen if you:

• Grew up with a parent who struggle with alcoholic parents.

• You are the grandchild of an alcoholic.

• You feel stuck, angry and like your life is out of control.

• Ache to understand yourself, and how your subconsicous mind controls your emotions, reactions, thinking, and your expectation all outside of conscious awareness. 

✨ Pro tip: Understanding how your childhood has impacted how you 'think' today, how you 'react', and what you expect to occur in your life is you activating metacognition. Childhood trauma resides at the subconscious. Lisa's methods help you breakthrough!

Begin Your Healing Journey:

Lisa introduces her signature 12 Week Breakthrough Method—a trauma-informed, psychologist approaved, neuroscience-based coaching program designed for adult children of narcissistic, neglectful, or emotionally immature parents.

Inside the program, you'll discover:

• Brain retraining techniques rooted in neuroscience.

• Inner child healing and self-concept reorganization.

• Journaling prompts and assessments to increase self-awareness.

• Tools to stop subconscious self-abandonment and live authentically.

• How to integrate shadow work and break toxic generational patterns.

Thousands have transformed their lives with this method—learning to step out of survival mode and into authentic, empowered living.

👉 Learn more: https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp

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Borderline personality disorder can be understood as the extreme version of codependency, where, at the core are adult adult children who have suffered from abandonment, rejection, abuse, neglect, and trauma. When an innocent child is unable, through no fault of their own, to connect with their primary caregiver, and especially when that caregiver is actually a source of pain, suffering and instability, the brain of that child is forced to live from the plane of survival. Due to default settings of the personality, brain and nervous system, for the one who has been denied a healthy attachment and who at the same time, also learned that they could not and should not trust the one caring for them, the inner world becomes trapped below the veil of consciousness, living in fear of the love the being so desperately craves. 

How Narcissistic Parents Contribute to Borderline Personality Development

Children of narcissistic parents often grow up in environments marked by emotional unpredictability. One moment, the parent may be intrusive, critical, or controlling, and the next they may be cold, withdrawn, or dismissive. This creates a push-pull dynamic where the child never feels secure. Over time, this instability fragments the child’s developing sense of self. Because their emotional needs are dismissed or punished, the child learns to fear abandonment while simultaneously fearing engulfment. They internalize the belief that love is unstable, unsafe, and conditional. 

As adults, this unresolved conflict can manifest as borderline traits:

Intense fear of abandonment

Unstable self-image

Difficulty regulating emotions

Stormy, chaotic relationships

These symptoms are not “character flaws” but survival adaptations to a childhood where the parent’s narcissism left no room for stable, secure attachment.

How Narcissistic Parents Create Codependency

While borderline traits stem from instability, codependency develops from self-abandonment. In a narcissistic home, children quickly learn that their parent’s approval, affection, or even basic safety hinges on meeting the parent’s emotional needs. 

The child becomes hypervigilant, scanning the parent for shifts in mood, anticipating outbursts, and adapting themselves to keep the peace. This conditioning teaches the child: “My needs don’t matter.” “I must earn love by taking care of others.” “If I say no, I’ll lose connection.”

As adults, these children often:

Over-function in relationships

Prioritize others’ needs above their own

Struggle to set boundaries without guilt

Confuse love with caretaking or control

This is the essence of codependency: a pattern of chronic self-abandonment rooted in early survival strategies.

✅ Bottom line: Both borderline personality traits and codependency share the same root wound — a lack of secure, validating parental love. One path (borderline) reflects the inner chaos of unstable attachment, while the other (codependency) reflects the learned habit of self-erasure for connection. Both are survival strategies that can be unlearned through conscious healing, reparenting, and building self-trust.

Ready to breakthrough these subconscious patterns?

Start here with The 12 Week Breakthrough Method

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In this powerful episode, trauma-informed life coach and codependency recovery expert Lisa A. Romano explores the hidden dangers of falling for charisma—especially for adult children of narcissistic or emotionally immature parents. If you've ever been drawn to someone magnetic and charming, only to feel emotionally used, discarded, or confused, this episode will help you understand the deeper psychological dynamics at play.

• Why individuals with abandonment trauma and codependent traits are especially susceptible to charm

• How narcissists use charisma as a tool of emotional manipulation and control

• The devastating impact of betrayal by someone who once made you feel special, seen, or chosen

• How to distinguish real connection from performative affection

• Why ignoring your gut instincts leads to emotional disorientation—and how to start trusting yourself again

Charisma is not the same as character. For those who have experienced childhood emotional neglect, the attention of a charismatic partner can feel intoxicating—like love, validation, and safety all rolled into one. But when that charm is weaponized by someone with narcissistic tendencies, it can leave you emotionally devastated and doubting your sense of reality.

This episode is for anyone ready to wake up from the spell of manipulative charm and step into a more grounded, self-aware, and emotionally empowered life.

Lisa’s 12 Week Breakthrough Method is a neuroscience-based program designed to help you uncover the subconscious beliefs keeping you stuck in toxic relationship cycles. Learn how to heal from emotional abuse, build a healthy self-concept, and reconnect to your intuition.

Explore the Breakthrough Method at 50% Off https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp

In this powerful episode, Lisa A. Romano explores how codependency erodes authenticity and keeps people trapped in the exhausting cycle of people-pleasing. If you struggle to speak your truth, constantly seek approval, or fear setting boundaries, this episode will help you understand the deeper root of why you hide your authentic self—and how to begin unmasking the people pleaser within.

• Why people-pleasing is a trauma response rooted in childhood survival

• How codependency develops when authenticity is punished or ignored

• The difference between genuine kindness and compulsive approval-seeking

• Why suppressing your needs leads to resentment, burnout, and emotional confusion

• Practical steps to reconnect with your true self and honor your voice

Many adult children of emotionally immature, narcissistic, or unavailable caregivers learn early on that being “the good one” is the only way to feel safe. Over time, this coping mechanism becomes a false self—one that performs for acceptance while abandoning its truth.

But healing is possible.

By understanding the connection between childhood emotional neglect and adult codependency, you can begin the courageous journey back to your authentic self—one boundary at a time.

Lisa’s 12 Week Breakthrough Method is a neuroscience-informed system designed to help you unlearn codependent behaviors, reclaim your voice, and build a self-concept rooted in worth and truth.

Learn more: https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp

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If you grew up feeling emotionally unsafe, unseen, or like your feelings didn’t matter, you may have unknowingly developed codependent behaviors rooted in childhood emotional neglect. In this powerful episode, Lisa A. Romano, codependency recovery expert, breaks down how early life experiences shape your nervous system and self-worth—and why the "invisible child" often becomes an adult trapped in patterns of people-pleasing, self-abandonment, and toxic relationship cycles.

• How childhood trauma, emotional instability, or neglect programs the brain for codependency

• Why feeling unsafe as a child rewires your nervous system to seek external validation

• How beliefs like “I’m not enough” become subconscious blocks to self-esteem

• The hidden link between early emotional trauma and compulsive rescuing or caretaking

• How to start reclaiming emotional safety through boundaries, self-awareness, and nervous system regulation

Codependency is not just about behavior—it’s about the emotional blueprint you were given as a child.

If no one ever mirrored your worth or made space for your needs, you may now unconsciously look to others for permission to feel safe, lovable, or whole.

But healing begins with visibility—recognizing your patterns and rewiring the beliefs that keep you stuck.

Journal Prompt: When was the first time you felt emotionally unsafe or invisible? How is that experience still influencing your relationships today?

Self-Awareness Practice: Next time you feel the urge to fix or please someone, ask yourself: “Is this about honoring me—or avoiding rejection?”

Discover Lisa’s neuroscience-based system for codependency recovery in the 👉 12 Week Breakthrough Method: https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp

Are you constantly hurt by a spouse who struggles to prioritize you? Do they avoid setting boundaries with their parents—even when it damages your marriage?

If your partner was raised in a toxic or emotionally immature home, their nervous system may have been wired for survival—not connection. That early programming can lead to deep-rooted abandonment wounds, emotional shutdown, and a fear of conflict that puts your relationship at risk.

In this episode of Breakdown to Breakthrough, Breakthrough Life Coach and creator of The Conscious Healing Academy, Lisa A. Romano, unpacks the hidden trauma behind emotionally unavailable partners and explores why some spouses can’t put their significant other first—despite their best intentions.

You’ll learn:

• Why your spouse might feel safer pleasing their parents than protecting your marriage

• How unhealed childhood trauma impacts adult intimacy and emotional prioritization

• The subconscious fears that drive people to abandon their partner to avoid being rejected themselves

• What you can do to begin shifting this painful dynamic in a healthy way

👉 Ready to start healing the patterns that keep you stuck? Explore Lisa’s 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program: Healing Starts Here

In this powerful episode, Lisa A. Romano explores the emotional aftermath of being raised by a vulnerable narcissistic parent—the type who manipulates your compassion, guilt-trips you into forgiveness, and demands loyalty over authenticity.

If you were raised in a home where emotional manipulation, mood swings, and emotional neglect were the norm, this episode will help you understand how these early wounds manifest as codependency, self-abandonment, and chronic anxiety in adulthood.

Lisa breaks down how children of emotionally immature parents learn to suppress their truth to survive—and how that programming carries over into relationships, careers, and the way we see ourselves.

• What a vulnerable narcissist is and how they condition children through emotional manipulation

• How forced forgiveness becomes a form of control

• Why emotional invalidation leads to codependent behaviors

• How childhood trauma impacts the nervous system and self-worth

• What it takes to begin healing and reclaiming your authentic self

• Were raised by a parent who guilted or manipulated you emotionally

• Feel responsible for others’ emotions or avoid conflict at all costs

• Struggle with people-pleasing, low self-esteem, or fear of rejection

• Are beginning to awaken to your own trauma history and want tools to heal

Lisa introduces her signature 12 Week Breakthrough Method—a trauma-informed, neuroscience-based coaching program created specifically for adult children of narcissistic, neglectful, or emotionally immature caregivers.

Inside the program, you'll be guided through:

• Brain retraining techniques rooted in neuroscience

• Inner child healing and self-concept reorganization

• Journaling prompts and assessments to increase self-awareness

• Tools to stop subconscious self-abandonment and start living from your true self

This method has helped thousands heal from complex trauma and break toxic generational patterns, with tools to rewire limiting beliefs and build authentic self-worth.

👉 Learn more: here

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