Are you constantly hurt by a spouse who struggles to prioritize you? Do they avoid setting boundaries with their parents—even when it damages your marriage?

If your partner was raised in a toxic or emotionally immature home, their nervous system may have been wired for survival—not connection. That early programming can lead to deep-rooted abandonment wounds, emotional shutdown, and a fear of conflict that puts your relationship at risk.

In this episode of Breakdown to Breakthrough, Breakthrough Life Coach and creator of The Conscious Healing Academy, Lisa A. Romano, unpacks the hidden trauma behind emotionally unavailable partners and explores why some spouses can’t put their significant other first—despite their best intentions.

You’ll learn:

• Why your spouse might feel safer pleasing their parents than protecting your marriage

• How unhealed childhood trauma impacts adult intimacy and emotional prioritization

• The subconscious fears that drive people to abandon their partner to avoid being rejected themselves

• What you can do to begin shifting this painful dynamic in a healthy way

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In this powerful episode, Lisa A. Romano explores the emotional aftermath of being raised by a vulnerable narcissistic parent—the type who manipulates your compassion, guilt-trips you into forgiveness, and demands loyalty over authenticity.

If you were raised in a home where emotional manipulation, mood swings, and emotional neglect were the norm, this episode will help you understand how these early wounds manifest as codependency, self-abandonment, and chronic anxiety in adulthood.

Lisa breaks down how children of emotionally immature parents learn to suppress their truth to survive—and how that programming carries over into relationships, careers, and the way we see ourselves.

• What a vulnerable narcissist is and how they condition children through emotional manipulation

• How forced forgiveness becomes a form of control

• Why emotional invalidation leads to codependent behaviors

• How childhood trauma impacts the nervous system and self-worth

• What it takes to begin healing and reclaiming your authentic self

• Were raised by a parent who guilted or manipulated you emotionally

• Feel responsible for others’ emotions or avoid conflict at all costs

• Struggle with people-pleasing, low self-esteem, or fear of rejection

• Are beginning to awaken to your own trauma history and want tools to heal

Lisa introduces her signature 12 Week Breakthrough Method—a trauma-informed, neuroscience-based coaching program created specifically for adult children of narcissistic, neglectful, or emotionally immature caregivers.

Inside the program, you'll be guided through:

• Brain retraining techniques rooted in neuroscience

• Inner child healing and self-concept reorganization

• Journaling prompts and assessments to increase self-awareness

• Tools to stop subconscious self-abandonment and start living from your true self

This method has helped thousands heal from complex trauma and break toxic generational patterns, with tools to rewire limiting beliefs and build authentic self-worth.

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What happens when the very people who are supposed to love, nurture, and protect you are also the source of your deepest emotional wounds?

In this powerful episode, Lisa A. Romano, Certified Breakthrough Life Coach and trauma-informed expert in codependency recovery, explores the devastating impact of narcissistic parenting and how it lays the foundation for lifelong codependency.

Children of narcissistic parents are often emotionally neglected, manipulated, and made to feel responsible for the moods, needs, and approval of their caregivers. This can set the stage for an adult life of self-abandonment, low self-worth, and an unhealthy need for validation.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

🔹 The key traits of narcissistic parents: — Grandiosity, lack of empathy, control, and chronic invalidation

🔹 The emotional toll on children: — Feelings of never being good enough — Suppressed emotional needs — Growing up believing love must be earned through performance

🔹 How this creates the perfect storm for codependency: — Emotional enmeshment and learned helplessness — A compulsion to please, fix, or rescue others — Difficulty identifying one’s own needs or setting boundaries

🔹 Why this toxic cycle is hard to break without trauma-informed support

This episode is for you if:

✔️ You grew up with a narcissistic, controlling, or emotionally unavailable parent ✔️ You constantly feel responsible for others’ emotions ✔️ You struggle to say “no” or prioritize your own needs ✔️ You’re tired of repeating painful patterns in your adult relationships

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If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a one-sided relationship—where you're the fixer, the rescuer, the peacekeeper—this episode is your wake-up call.

In this powerful episode, best-selling author and codependency recovery expert Lisa A. Romano uncovers the invisible thread between childhood emotional neglect and codependent behaviors in adulthood.

If you:

• Feel overly responsible for other people’s emotions

• Stay in toxic relationships hoping things will change

• Obsess over your partner’s moods

• Feel like you've lost your sense of self

...you're not broken. You're running survival patterns wired into your nervous system long ago—when love meant self-abandonment, and your feelings didn’t matter.

This isn’t your fault. But now that you know, it becomes your power.

Lisa explains how codependency is a subconscious trauma response rooted in unmet emotional needs and a lack of safety in childhood. We mistakenly learn that love must be earned through fixing others—especially the ones who hurt us. But this only perpetuates the pain and draws us toward emotionally unavailable or narcissistic partners.

 How early childhood trauma wires your brain for codependency  Why rescuing others is a subconscious survival strategy  Why narcissists and toxic partners are drawn to codependents  How to spot the thinking traps of codependency  Actionable steps to reconnect with your authentic self

Whether you're healing from a codependent marriage or waking up to your past for the first time, this episode will help you break free from emotional enmeshment and start living from a place of empowerment and emotional clarity.

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To thrive after narcissistic abuse, you will need to change your entire mindset toward narcissistic people in your life. The key to maintaining your sanity is not to take their attempts at baiting you into circular conversations where they get to act out their need to persecute others with self-righteous indignation. If you confuse love with guilt and obligation, and especially if you have high empathy and struggle to end toxic relationships due to abandonment issues, letting go can trigger complex trauma symptoms such as a burning brain, heart palpitations, brain fog, mental confusion, and emotional paralysis.

One of the most difficult things in the world to accept is that sometimes the people you love are built to not hear you, although their words may say otherwise. When dealing with a high-conflict person, you will notice that they escalate drama, problems, and issues in relationships instead of de-escalating them. Narcissists need flying monkeys, and the more they have, the more emboldened they are to attack, confuse, persecute, vilify, diminish, and discard you or any feelings or opinions you have. 

In this episode, Lisa A. Romano, Breakthrough Life Coach, explains why changing your mindset toward the narcissistic people in your life can preserve your sanity, no matter how tough it might be to accept and let go. 

What is your peace of mind worth to you? If you are ready to take the journey within to heal the core issues that result in you're being entangled in narcissistic relationships, join Lisa and her team of seasoned life coaches this July for The 12 Week Breakthrough Journey back to the divine self. 

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It's a significant test of emotional and mental resilience when someone you love attacks you through gaslighting, projection, moral superiority, subjective morality, innuendos, and storytelling, all of which downplay their actions and focus entirely on your reaction to their behavior or words. Loving those with high conflict personality means you are investing your emotions, time and energy toward a relationship wish a person who is not as invested as you are. In time, you will notice the one-way nature of the relationship. Through an enormous painful event, if you are lucky and wise, you will let go of those whose false mask, grandiosity, and tremendous insecurity prevent them from taking accountability for how their narcissism affects those who love them.

In this podcast episode, you will hear from Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach and Award Winning Author, creator of the 90 Day (12 Week ) Self Love Recovery Breakthrough Program, share how when you speak to a narcissist with certain words, sentences and phrases, you successfully hold onto your energy and prevent them from dragging you onto the dark stage in their minds. 

Embark on the path to conscious awakening, emotional healing, and transformation with Lisa's Conscious Healing Academy, which includes a 3-tier coaching system that assists with one's awakening, emotional intelligence, and mental and emotional mastery. 

12 Week Breakthrough Program (Level One - The Awakening)

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When it comes to narcissism, there are physical signs that help you spot narcissistic behavior sooner rather than later. Narcissists often reveal their true nature through their eyes—cold, unfeeling, and devoid of empathy. This chilling stare is a red flag, signaling a lack of emotional connection and a potential for manipulation.

According to FBI profilers, such individuals prey on those with high empathy, low self-worth, and a strong desire to please. Codependents, in particular, may overlook these warning signs due to blurred boundaries and a history of emotional neglect.​

If you've experienced cognitive dissonance in a toxic relationship, it's crucial to recognize these signs and prioritize your well-being. Understanding the dynamics of narcissistic abuse can empower you to break free from trauma bonds and embark on a healing journey.​ Take the first step towards self-discovery and recovery.

Our codependency quiz can help you identify areas needing attention and guide you towards inner healing.

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If you are codependent, lack a sense of self, struggle to know who you are and generally find your balance in the taking care of others, please know this is not your fault. Codependency is a manifestation of complex trauma, and simply means you are stuck living below the veil, operating through the survival coping mechanisms of your inner child. The miraculous news is, you can heal and live an empowered life, this I promise you!

This July 13th, join me for the groundbreaking, proven 90 day roadmap that is helping adult children heal from the cognitive dissonance, low self worth, and dis-contentment in thief lives. 

Register early and save $500 with the early bird discount.

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The best way to stop focusing and ruminating about narcissists in your life is to close your eyes and fall in love with the self. Ancient Persian Philosopher Rumi is an excellent example of how to break up with, let go of, divorce, and go no contact with narcissists in your life. In this lesson, you will learn what Rumi has to say about releasing narcissists from your life, and why doing so is terrifying yet brings emotional freedom at the same time.

Healing from narcissistic abuse, requires that you release resistance to the pain manipulation, gaslighting, triangulation, smear campaigns and discard have created. Through radical self awareness, and acceptance, we discover the power of sacred wisdom as it pertains to choosing nonresistance. A narcissist will never follow you into solitude. When you embrace solitude, narcissists will run away because in solitude their masks fall. And that's why you must travel into the silence within. Codependency is akin to spiritual death. It implies you are living in denial of what is, and running from reality. The answer lies in climbing the ladder of the mind, from the subconscious to the higher conscious realms. But first, we must figure out where you are now and at what level of awareness do you reside.

Feel free to take my FREE Codependency Quiz to discover more. ✨ Take my FREE Codependency Quiz 🔗 https://www.lisaaromano.com 

 "I know it's painful", Rumi says, yet he says, "Walk this way anyway." That's how I feel about The 12 Week Breakthrough Program.

 Let's peel back decades of layers of the subconscious mind and teach you the skills you need to live emotionally free, unbound by the chains of the past.

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 It is not you, it is only your programming. Your higher self is free, but your inner child is stuck. All you need are tools, an experienced guide, and the grit to stick to this healing journey when the going gets tough. Remember, steel is forged through fire, and diamonds appear only when enough force is applied. You can develop a stainless steel spine, and my three-part healing framework helps you achieve unbound emotional freedom.

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No worries, read The Road Back to Me to activate higher consciousness. Follow that up with My Road Beyond the Codependent Divorce, Codependent Now What? Codependency Manifesto, Quantum Tools to Heal Your Life Now and then Loving the Self Affirmations volumes 1 and 2

The most dangerous people in our lives are not strangers, they are people we know and love. For a child, the most dangerous people are their parents and step-parents, and for adults, the most dangerous people in their lives tend to be their partners. In this eye opening podcast, you will learn about the statistics that suggest that while we teach children about stranger danger, w are neglecting to fully comprehend the totality of the abuse that occurs simply because adults have access to powerless children.

This is not to suggest that all parents and all step-parents are abusive; however, statistically speaking, one of the contributing factors to child abuse and neglect tends to be associated with a nonbiological step-parent. 

This podcast comes with a trigger warning, because it speaks the truth, a truth that many may not be ready to accept has occurred to them, a truth that a parent may not be ready to face about their choice in a spouse that had access to their children, or it may sting the eye of the one who has neglected and abused a child, or spouse. 

The intention of this conversation is to fully acknowledge what is statistically true, so that we can all become more aware and responsible for who has access to our children, in addition to becoming more conscious of the fact that our partners are the most dangerous people in our adult lives. It's not the guy hanging out on the street corner at 3:00 am we need to worry about. It's those we love who may associate love with control, dominance, and power. Once we become entangled with them, we need to be more cognizant of the quality of the relationships we engage in. 

If you're codependent, you are at great risk for becoming entangled in toxic relationships dynamics and that is not your fault. 

Breakthrough with me here, with the 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program.

In this podcast, learn about the codependent communication struggles no one talks about. In codependency, the focus is usually on keeping the peace, avoiding conflict, and managing someone else's emotions, at the expense of your own truth. This makes authentic communication feel dangerous, especially if you grew up in a toxic environment where speaking up led to punishment, rejection, or emotional withdrawal.

Poor communication is one of the defining features of toxic relationships, especially when one or both partners are codependent. Rather than say what they mean, codependent people tend to hint, people-please, or stuff their emotions down to avoid being abandoned. Over time, this leads to resentment, confusion, and emotional disconnection. Without clear, honest communication, even the strongest connection can break down under the weight of unspoken expectations and unmet needs. Healing from codependency means learning how to communicate with clarity, courage, and compassion. It requires unlearning the belief that your needs don’t matter and developing the inner safety to speak your truth. 

Whether you're in recovery from a toxic relationship or just starting to recognize codependent patterns in your life, learning how to communicate effectively is essential if you want to build real intimacy and self-respect. The first step, is telling the truth, and learning to take accountability for poor communication skills, while understanding with self compassion, it could literally be no other way. 

Today, if this resonates with you, you have a shot at healing your life by unlearning the survival patterns that kept you feeling safe, that also kept you stuck repeating the faulty patterns from the past. Are you codependent? If so, you probably have an insecure, anxious attachment style, and the good news is, we can fix that! 

Calling all serious, ready, willing and able souls who have the time and can invest in themselves at this time to finally take their lives back.

💥 12 Week Breakthrough Codependency Program starts July 13. The first lesson will be delivered to members library on July 13th, and our first live group call will be on Saturday July 19th. It is an honor to help you breakthrough codependency, reparent and heal your inner child and find your authentic self. 

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