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In this episode, Dr. Heidi explores the concept of the 'glass house' as a metaphor for the toxic personality's fragile self-image. She discusses the role of the 'chief editor' who manages the narrative to protect this image, the unpredictability of toxic behaviors, and the intense need to be right that drives these individuals. The conversation emphasizes understanding these dynamics to regain personal power and clarity in relationships with toxic individuals.

Here is the link to Dr Heidi’s other podcast: Fak’n Tired

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In this conversation, Dr. Heidi explores the concept of emotional math in toxic relationships, where positive experiences are often met with negativity. She explains how the toxic individuals in these relationships operate under a scarcity mindset, leading to insecurity and competition over emotional resources. Dr. Heidi emphasizes the importance of recognizing one's own successes and not minimizing them due to the reactions of others. The discussion also highlights the predictability of toxic behaviors, allowing individuals to better navigate their relationships and own their happiness.

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Also check out her sister podcast, 'Fak'n Tired' where she talks all about the after affects and emotional wreckage that is left over after the toxic relationship has ended.

https://open.spotify.com/show/0IGMxKcGNPOPDQMrCmfs8a?si=pYah9QsXTduaaGOEUzsCTA

In this episode, Dr. Heidi discusses the complexities of toxic relationships, and how we often second guess ourselves when attempting to find answers. She emphasizes how important both validation and understanding are in moving forward . She shares her personal experiences and insights on recognizing toxic behaviors, the predictability of such patterns, and the necessity of observing and documenting these behaviors for personal growth. The conversation aims to empower listeners to differentiate between normal and toxic dynamics in relationships, ultimately guiding them towards healing and self-awareness.

Here is the link to the new sister podcast, 'Fak'n Tired'.

https://open.spotify.com/show/0IGMxKcGNPOPDQMrCmfs8a?si=pYah9QsXTduaaGOEUzsCTA

In this episode, Dr. Heidi discusses the unseen complexities of toxic relationships and the journey towards healing and self-acceptance. She introduces her new podcast, 'Fak'n Tired,' which aims to provide support for those challenged by life after toxic relationships. Dr. Heidi emphasizes the importance of understanding the nervous system's role in our reactions and behaviors, and encourages listeners to strive for the element of understanding the residual effects that you may be experiencing. Her wish is that you too can find independence and peace. The conversation highlights the need for sustainable support, the recognition of internal changes, and understanding things that may show up after leaving toxic environments.

In this conversation, I discusses the complexities of emotional abuse and its long-lasting effects on individuals. I am choosing to emphasize that there are no truly good days in emotionally abusive relationships, as the perceived good days are often manipulated by the abuser to control the victim's feelings and reactions. I explain the difference between emotions and feelings, and how emotional abusers use language and behavior to distort their victims' perceptions of their own feelings, leading to confusion and dependency.

Listener question: My former has turning himself into the victim & it seems to be getting worse as negotiations move forward.

As I share more & more of my personal journey of healing, I see how even the everyday events, the ups and downs of just normal life have been affected by my past. Today, I am telling you a story & discussing the importance of understanding one's reactions and the impact of past experiences on current behaviors. Through an upsetting but non emergency life event, a flood in my basement, I reflect on the lessons I have learned about loss, change, and personal empowerment. The self growth is becoming so much more evident, even in the little things. The importance of making my own decisions, finding strength in adversity, & seeing the reason bad stuff sometimes happens, has given me a confident feeling of both self acceptance & inner peace.

In episode #243 I reminded you that YOU are the one that decides who in your life is healthy for your wellbeing and who may not be so healthy for you. In this episode I take it one more step, let's explore why it is confusing and why your mind becomes clouded when looking at your relationships.

Toxic relationships are complex and because of that you seek validation as you begin recognizing unhealthy behaviors.

Part of the reason you are seeking such validation is because the traits of toxic personalities become "normal" to you as you spend each day within the cycle. Let's jsut take one of the many traits that I teach today and expand on it a bit.

Self-centeredness is a trait of many toxic personalities, and the impact that can have on those around them can lead to low self-worth and compromised emotional health.

I encourages you to reflect on your behavior & patterns too as they may be adaptive to avoid conflict or confrontation within the relationship you are seeking validation for.

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In this episode, I reflect on my personal journey towards peace and self-acceptance after years of navigating the long term effects of my toxic relationships. I share my experiences of anxiety and stress related to vacations and how my perspective has shifted over time. Through self-awareness and understanding of my past, I now know the importance of prioritizing myself and recognizing the value of my personal growth. My overall mission has always been to educate others on the inner workings of toxic relationships but now, as I have personally learned, it is also about understanding ourselves and how the toxic relationships may have changed us.

Do Not Skip Over this Short Episode!

As you find yourself listening to my podcasts, knowing I've been where you are, be reminded of the one thing we miss in seeking validation of our situations.

This is the most important thing I will teach. It is the most important thing for you to learn, grasp, accept, and act upon if you are seeking inner peace.