In this conversation, I discusses the complexities of emotional abuse and its long-lasting effects on individuals. I am choosing to emphasize that there are no truly good days in emotionally abusive relationships, as the perceived good days are often manipulated by the abuser to control the victim's feelings and reactions. I explain the difference between emotions and feelings, and how emotional abusers use language and behavior to distort their victims' perceptions of their own feelings, leading to confusion and dependency.

Listener question: My former has turning himself into the victim & it seems to be getting worse as negotiations move forward.

As I share more & more of my personal journey of healing, I see how even the everyday events, the ups and downs of just normal life have been affected by my past. Today, I am telling you a story & discussing the importance of understanding one's reactions and the impact of past experiences on current behaviors. Through an upsetting but non emergency life event, a flood in my basement, I reflect on the lessons I have learned about loss, change, and personal empowerment. The self growth is becoming so much more evident, even in the little things. The importance of making my own decisions, finding strength in adversity, & seeing the reason bad stuff sometimes happens, has given me a confident feeling of both self acceptance & inner peace.

In episode #243 I reminded you that YOU are the one that decides who in your life is healthy for your wellbeing and who may not be so healthy for you. In this episode I take it one more step, let's explore why it is confusing and why your mind becomes clouded when looking at your relationships.

Toxic relationships are complex and because of that you seek validation as you begin recognizing unhealthy behaviors.

Part of the reason you are seeking such validation is because the traits of toxic personalities become "normal" to you as you spend each day within the cycle. Let's jsut take one of the many traits that I teach today and expand on it a bit.

Self-centeredness is a trait of many toxic personalities, and the impact that can have on those around them can lead to low self-worth and compromised emotional health.

I encourages you to reflect on your behavior & patterns too as they may be adaptive to avoid conflict or confrontation within the relationship you are seeking validation for.

If you are wanting to know more, you are in luck, I cover all the toxic traits and how you may have adapted to them within my "Freedom...Me!" Program. Application for this program is on my website found below.

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In this episode, I reflect on my personal journey towards peace and self-acceptance after years of navigating the long term effects of my toxic relationships. I share my experiences of anxiety and stress related to vacations and how my perspective has shifted over time. Through self-awareness and understanding of my past, I now know the importance of prioritizing myself and recognizing the value of my personal growth. My overall mission has always been to educate others on the inner workings of toxic relationships but now, as I have personally learned, it is also about understanding ourselves and how the toxic relationships may have changed us.

Do Not Skip Over this Short Episode!

As you find yourself listening to my podcasts, knowing I've been where you are, be reminded of the one thing we miss in seeking validation of our situations.

This is the most important thing I will teach. It is the most important thing for you to learn, grasp, accept, and act upon if you are seeking inner peace.

In this conversation, I explore the complexities of emotional wiring and how it affects relationships, particularly with toxic personalities. The importance of understanding different personality types to navigate your future decisions effectively is imperative. Your relationship will remain confusing causing self doubt until you know them as well as you know yourself.

Announcing the "You've Got To Be Kidding Me - Validation Session is now open to all who are seeking to find answers to why "they can't just act normal". The validation session, aims to provide clarity and insight for individuals struggling in their relationships, helping them to recognize their worth and make informed decisions about their future.

More information about the Validation Session can be found on my Website: https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

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As I celebrate yet another year of life & reflect on my growth journey, I particularly want to celebrate the understanding and managing my own emotions. In the context of toxic relationships having and owning your own feelings is very difficult to do. The impact of emotional control by others was very significant in my life, even long after the toxic relationship had ended. The full understanding of emotional abuse, and the importance of taking control of one's feelings is true freedom. I cannot emphasize enough the significance of naming your feelings/emotions, setting boundaries, and recognizing your right to emotional freedom.

The conversation serves as a challenge and guide for listeners to reclaim their emotional independence and navigate their feelings authentically.

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You have been there, you probably still are. When you get a message you "feel" the need to respond no matter what the message says. You have learned that by responding quickly, in a way they will get what they want you have been able to keep the peace better than if you delay your response or do not respond.

Here are a few tips on knowing if a message even needs a response, & how to respond if it does.

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