In episode #243 I reminded you that YOU are the one that decides who in your life is healthy for your wellbeing and who may not be so healthy for you. In this episode I take it one more step, let's explore why it is confusing and why your mind becomes clouded when looking at your relationships.

Toxic relationships are complex and because of that you seek validation as you begin recognizing unhealthy behaviors.

Part of the reason you are seeking such validation is because the traits of toxic personalities become "normal" to you as you spend each day within the cycle. Let's jsut take one of the many traits that I teach today and expand on it a bit.

Self-centeredness is a trait of many toxic personalities, and the impact that can have on those around them can lead to low self-worth and compromised emotional health.

I encourages you to reflect on your behavior & patterns too as they may be adaptive to avoid conflict or confrontation within the relationship you are seeking validation for.

If you are wanting to know more, you are in luck, I cover all the toxic traits and how you may have adapted to them within my "Freedom...Me!" Program. Application for this program is on my website found below.

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In this episode, I reflect on my personal journey towards peace and self-acceptance after years of navigating the long term effects of my toxic relationships. I share my experiences of anxiety and stress related to vacations and how my perspective has shifted over time. Through self-awareness and understanding of my past, I now know the importance of prioritizing myself and recognizing the value of my personal growth. My overall mission has always been to educate others on the inner workings of toxic relationships but now, as I have personally learned, it is also about understanding ourselves and how the toxic relationships may have changed us.

Do Not Skip Over this Short Episode!

As you find yourself listening to my podcasts, knowing I've been where you are, be reminded of the one thing we miss in seeking validation of our situations.

This is the most important thing I will teach. It is the most important thing for you to learn, grasp, accept, and act upon if you are seeking inner peace.

In this conversation, I explore the complexities of emotional wiring and how it affects relationships, particularly with toxic personalities. The importance of understanding different personality types to navigate your future decisions effectively is imperative. Your relationship will remain confusing causing self doubt until you know them as well as you know yourself.

Announcing the "You've Got To Be Kidding Me - Validation Session is now open to all who are seeking to find answers to why "they can't just act normal". The validation session, aims to provide clarity and insight for individuals struggling in their relationships, helping them to recognize their worth and make informed decisions about their future.

More information about the Validation Session can be found on my Website: https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

Use VIP Listener's Code at the time of check out for $50 off the 3 hour Validation session. INNITVAL

As I celebrate yet another year of life & reflect on my growth journey, I particularly want to celebrate the understanding and managing my own emotions. In the context of toxic relationships having and owning your own feelings is very difficult to do. The impact of emotional control by others was very significant in my life, even long after the toxic relationship had ended. The full understanding of emotional abuse, and the importance of taking control of one's feelings is true freedom. I cannot emphasize enough the significance of naming your feelings/emotions, setting boundaries, and recognizing your right to emotional freedom.

The conversation serves as a challenge and guide for listeners to reclaim their emotional independence and navigate their feelings authentically.

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You have been there, you probably still are. When you get a message you "feel" the need to respond no matter what the message says. You have learned that by responding quickly, in a way they will get what they want you have been able to keep the peace better than if you delay your response or do not respond.

Here are a few tips on knowing if a message even needs a response, & how to respond if it does.

For more information about becoming an exclusive client with guidance through the process of changing the way you interact with them visit my website.

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A great explanation from one of my exclusive clients.

Welcome to yet another “New Year”

I remember when I was in an unhealthy marriage each time the "New Year" came around and 'Old Year" passed my world became smaller & my outlook became more and more hopeless

All I could see was my life. Ug! It was nothing to reflect on. All the wasted years just scrolling by and me not having a say or remembering any of it. Now I knew I should have been grateful, I should have been able to embrace my "all my blessings". I was just way too deep in it to really know why, I was frustrated because I did not, in the past or presently do ABSOLUTELY ANYTHING to change my situation, and frankly I was too exhausted to think about the mountain I would need to climb in order to make a change. 

MY VIEW OF THE "F...ING NEW YEAR" HAS CHANGED SIGNIFICANTLY!

If you or someone you know is experiencing emotional, verbal, or mental abuse.... please share my podcast. You may change someone's life.

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No one wakes up one morning and thinks... "That's it, I need a coach!" Rather you wake up and immediately start solving the problems that are already surfacing and its not even 8:00am.

I needed someone to understand and meet me for daily discussions on the problems of the day so I could come away with a solution and a skill that I could use the next time it happened. I would have NEVER thought about hiring a coach, mentor, or guide. Well even though I am a coach, I give you just what I mentioned above, answers and strategies for you to handle today's crisis, and tomorrow's crisis and understand why things are happening that you yourself do not understand.

I did not realize that so many knew about this podcast but did not know about my work. Here is a little insight to what I can offer, and aside from the name, it is NOT coaching, it is listening, solving, and working with you and your unique situation. I did not choose this mission this mission chose me so "selling" does not come easy. One asked me one day, "Why are you not telling EVERYONE what you do? You have paid dearly for the gift you have so get out there and let people know you have it!"

Your goals are not to life a life of peace (well maybe ultimately) your goal is to get through today. That is what I can do for you, leaving you with the ability and skills to do it too. It's about baby steps and stacking them up. It's about one fear at a time and doing it together.

If you are interested in knowing more about Freedom...Me! my exclusive client program, use this link.

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In my search to find a gratitude practice that fit me and my personality I ran across something I did not realize had been happening. In the years I spent in a toxic relationship I was always positive, people told me so, but was I? Turns out I was using "toxic positivity" to trick myself into being grateful for very very negative things. The article that was most helpful to me in my research was written by Ashley Laderer. HOW TO MAKE A GRATITUDE PRACTICE THAT DOES NOT FEEL LIKE TOXIC POSITIVITY - Stop Looking At The Bright Side. (find article here:

https://www.wondermind.com/article/gratitude-meaning/

Reflecting on this, and knowing how I was altered by survival mode I have been able to see how I was tricking myself and thus altered my reality of how unhealthy the relationship truly was for me. I encourage a healthy and healing gratitude practice for everyone.