Are you addicted to "Pain Shopping"? In this video, self-aware narcissist Lee Hammock explains why survivors compulsively check their ex's social media and how narcissists use their profiles as a weapon. Learn how to break the digital trauma bond and stop the cycle of self-harm today.

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"Will this ever end?"Channel Memberships For More perks- www.youtube.com/channel/UCm1vYQOEQRo6X4Dy8KoGPMw/joinIt’s the question that keeps you up at night. You’ve gone No Contact, you’ve blocked the numbers, but you’re still looking over your shoulder. As a self-aware narcissist, I’m going to give you the honest truth about the "Mental Rolodex" we keep. Do we ever truly let go, or are you just "on ice" until we get bored?Today, we are breaking down the mechanics of the hoover, the concept of "shelf supply," and what it actually takes for a narcissist to decide you are no longer worth the effort.

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My story from beginning to right now about how I have been diagnosed with NPD or narcissistic personality disorder

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"I know who they are... but I’m staying."Not everyone is ready to leave. Whether it's for the kids, financial stability, or a hope that things will change, many people choose to remain in a relationship with a narcissist. As a self-aware narcissist, I want to have a real, judgment-free conversation about what that actually looks like.If you choose to stay, you have to know the price you are going to pay. Today, we are talking about the "Trade-Offs"—the isolation, the loss of self, and the reality of radical acceptance. This isn't about shaming you for staying; it’s about preparing you for the life you are choosing.IN THIS LIVE, WE DISCUSS:Radical Acceptance: How to stop waiting for the "Old Version" of them to come back.The Isolation Factor: Why your world gets smaller the longer you stay.The Death of Expectation: How to survive when you know your emotional needs will never be met.Building a "Life Within a Life": How to find pockets of peace while living in the storm.If you’ve decided to stay, you need to know how to protect your spirit while you’re there.

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Are they "scared" of intimacy, or are they "managing" you?It’s the question that keeps thousands of people stuck in toxic cycles. You see them pulling away, shutting down, and becoming cold—but is it because they have an Avoidant Attachment Style or is it Narcissistic Devaluation?All My Links (Coaching, Courses, Merch): https://link.me/mentalhealnessAs a self-aware narcissist, I’m breaking down the nuances that therapists often miss. I’m explaining the difference between the "Avoidant's Fear" and the "Narcissist's Control." If you treat a narcissist like an avoidant, you will end up destroyed. If you treat an avoidant like a narcissist, you’ll miss the chance for a healthy boundary.

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Are you swiping right on a predator?

Online dating is a narcissist's dream. It allows them to curate a "Perfect Mask" before you ever meet them. As a self-aware narcissist, I’m pulling back the curtain on how we use dating profiles to target empathetic, successful, and high-value people. From the "Nice Guy" bio to the weaponized religious photos, I’m showing you exactly what the "bait" looks like.

IN THIS LIVE, WE DISCUSS:

• The Visual Bait: Why they use gym selfies, "flex" photos, or photos with kids that aren't theirs.

• The "Nice Guy" Paradox: Why labeling themselves as "God-fearing" or "wholesome" is a major red flag.

• The Intent Trap: What "Short-term open to long-term" actually means in narcissist-speak.

• Keywords to Avoid: Why phrases like "drama-free," "soulmate," and "can handle me" are immediate "Swipe Left" warnings.

Don't fall for the mask. Learn to read between the lines.

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"Just go No Contact!" feels like a slap in the face when you have shared custody, a business, or legal ties to a narcissist.For many survivors, complete severance isn't an option. But that doesn't mean you have to remain their emotional punching bag. As a self-aware narcissist, I know exactly how we use children, finances, and property as leverage to keep getting "supply" long after the relationship ends.In this video, I’m introducing the "O.N. Contact" (Only Necessary Contact) method. This is the strategic evolution of "Gray Rock," designed specifically for those who are forced to communicate with their abuser.All My Links (Coaching, Courses, Merch): https://link.me/mentalhealnessIN THIS VIDEO, WE DISCUSS:The Narcissist’s Leverage: Why they use the kids or money to bait you into emotional arguments.Defining "Necessary": How to strip every ounce of personality and emotion out of your communication.The "Hostile Coworker" Mindset: Shifting from "ex-partner" to "business associate that I hate."Communication Protocols: Why you must move everything to email or parenting apps (and never phone calls).The Extinction Burst: How they will react when you stop feeding them supply through co-parenting chaos.You can't always leave the situation, but you can leave the dynamic.RESOURCES & SUPPORT: 📚 Self Love Journal: https://a.co/d/70L3zKb 📖 Kid’s Book ("It's Not Your Fault"): https://a.co/d/2WNtdKJ 📧 Newsletter: subscribepage.io/mentalhealnessWHO IS LEE HAMMOCK? I am a diagnosed narcissist who has spent over 8 years in psychotherapy to understand my own mind and help you protect yours. On this channel, I take the mask off to show you how narcissists think, why we do what we do, and how you can heal from the damage.Join the Community: www.youtube.com/channel/UCm1vYQOEQRo6X4Dy8KoGPMw/join

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Are you spiraling because the narcissist replaced you with someone who feels like a massive "downgrade"?It’s not about love; it’s about logistics. As a self-aware narcissist, I’m explaining the concept of "Transitional Supply." This is the person we jump to out of pure necessity—because we need a place to stay, money for bills, or simply because we cannot stand to be alone with our own thoughts for five minutes.IN THIS LIVE, WE DISCUSS:The "Band-Aid" Supply: Why we choose someone who isn't our "type" just to fill a void.Convenience Over Connection: How housing, food, and financial stability dictate our next move.The "Palate Cleanser": Why we sometimes choose someone "easier" after a strong partner (Grade A) sets boundaries.The Lifespan of the Transition: Why these relationships usually burn out as soon as the narcissist gets back on their feet.Stop comparing yourself to the person who is just a temporary life raft.

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Are you "Grade A Supply" without even knowing it?Most people think narcissists target "broken" people. As a self-aware narcissist, I’m telling you that’s a lie. We want the best. We want the person with the biggest heart, the most success, and the most to give. But there is a dark side to being "the best"—to a narcissist, you are a high-value asset that is ultimately replaceable.IN THIS LIVE, WE ARE DISCUSSING:The Anatomy of Grade A Supply: The 4 traits that make you an irresistible target.The "Reflector" Effect: How we use your light to hide our darkness.The Cold Truth on Replaceability: Why we can move on in 24 hours even after you gave us everything.Breaking the Pedestal: How to stop being "supply" and start being a person again.If you’ve ever felt like you were "special" to them only to be discarded like trash, this Live is for you.

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Have you ever discovered a betrayal—infidelity, a lie, or a discard—and suddenly felt a surge of intense desire to be close to the person who hurt you? That isn’t love—it’s Hysterical Bonding.

Hysterical bonding is a biological survival response. When a narcissist pulls away or betrays you, your brain treats the loss of the relationship as a life-or-death threat. This triggers a frantic need to reclaim the bond, often through intense physical intimacy or emotional desperation, just to feel "safe" again.

In this video, I’m breaking down this phenomenon from the perspective of a self-aware narcissist. I’m explaining why this response is exactly what a narcissist wants, because it resets the cycle and gives them ultimate control over your panic.

IN THIS VIDEO:

• The Panic Response: Why betrayal leads to an obsession with reconnection.

• Biological Warfare: How your own hormones (Oxytocin/Dopamine) keep you trapped.

• The Narcissist’s Reset: Why we use your "bonding" to avoid accountability for what we did.

• Breaking the Cycle: How to recognize the difference between love and trauma-induced panic.

Your body is reacting to a threat. Don't let the narcissist convince you that your panic is "passion."

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