In this video, we discuss:The Spotlight Struggle: Why your joy feels like a threat to my ego.The Obligation Trap: Why being "forced" to be romantic makes a narcissist want to rebel.Devaluation as a Tool: How ruining a special day gives the narcissist back the control.The "Gift" of Chaos: Why a fight is easier for us to handle than genuine intimacy.If you are feeling the "holiday dread" right now, this video is for you. Stop blaming yourself for their behavior.

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What happens when a narcissist can no longer rely on their looks, their money, or their status to control people? As a self-aware narcissist, Lee Hammock (@mentalhealness) explains the shift from "Grandiosity" to "Bitterness.

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"You’re too sensitive." "I never said that." "You're lucky to have me." 🚩Most of you heard these words and felt like they were a report card on your value. You felt small. You felt like you had to change to be "enough."As a self-aware narcissist, I’m pulling back the curtain on the Internal Playbook. In this Live session, I’m translating your trauma in real-time. I’m going to show you that these insults weren't descriptions of you—they were confessions of my own shame, insecurity, and fear of abandonment.In this Live Q&A, we are covering:✅ Real-Time Translation: Drop the insults you heard in the chat, and I'll tell you what was happening in the narcissist's head.✅ The "Mirror Effect": Why we dump our "Internal Trash" on the person we claim to love.✅ Breaking the "Trash Can" Cycle: How to stop carrying their shame so you can start your own healing.✅ NPD vs. BPD Projection: Why the "translations" are different for each disorder.If you're tired of being the dumpster for someone else's self-hatred, this stream is for you. Stop apologizing for a version of yourself that I manufactured.

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Why do narcissists ignore your boundaries? Because they don't respect feelings—they respect consequences. In this video, Lee Hammock (@mentalhealness) provides a raw, self-aware look at what actually goes on inside a narcissist's head when someone sets a boundary.Most people make the mistake of explaining their "why," which only gives the narcissist more leverage. Learn the 3 specific shifts you need to make to stop being an "easy target" and start being "high cost."

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Why a Narcissist's Treatment of You is Actually a Confession 🪞ConfessionHave you ever wondered why someone who "loved" you could treat you so poorly? In this video, self-aware narcissist Lee Hammock breaks down the psychology of Projection.Most people believe that the narcissist’s behavior is a reaction to something they did wrong. The truth is much darker: How a narcissist treats you is a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves.We explore the "Mirror Effect," why insults are actually admissions of insecurity, and how to stop being the "trash can" for a narcissist's internal shame. Once you understand that their behavior is a map of their own self-hatred, you can stop taking it personally and start healing.

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"I wish I would have known." 🥀If you’re feeling the weight of the years you "lost" to a toxic relationship, you aren't alone. Regret is often the final trauma bond that keeps you tied to a narcissist long after the relationship is over.As a self-aware narcissist, I see these patterns from the other side. I know how the confusion was manufactured and why you feel like you should have "seen it sooner." Today, I’m breaking down the Top 5 Regrets I hear from survivors every single day—and more importantly, I’m showing you why they aren't your fault.All My Links (Coaching, Courses, Merch): https://link.me/mentalhealnessIn this video, we discuss:Regret #1: Why ignoring the "Crazy Ex" was part of the plan.Regret #2: The high cost of ignoring your "Gut Feeling."Regret #3: Staying "One Year Too Long" (The Potential Trap).Regret #4: Sacrificing your support system for someone who didn't value you.Regret #5: The "Fixer" Mentality: Why your love wasn't a cure.Stop apologizing to your past and start reclaiming your future. 🧱🌱

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Why 75% of Marriages That Start as Affairs End in Divorce. Does an affair ever actually lead to a "happily ever after"? The data says probably not. In this video, self-aware narcissist Lee Hammock breaks down the grim statistics of relationships that start through betrayal.While it may feel like "destiny" in the beginning, the transition from a secret affair to a legal marriage is a psychological minefield. We discuss why only 3-7% of affair partners ever marry, why the divorce rate for these unions is a staggering 75%, and the "Trust Deficit" that poisons the relationship from day one.Key Topics Covered:The "Unreality" Bubble: Why affairs die in the real world.The "Once a Cheater" stigma and internal suspicion.The lack of social support and family isolation.Why a "Soulmate" born in a lie can't handle the truth.Stop living in the fantasy and start looking at the facts. Stay Aware. Stay Healed.

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"Was it all a lie? Did I ever actually matter?" In one of his most requested deep-dives, Lee Hammock answers the question that keeps every survivor awake at night. Discover the difference between being "loved" and being "useful," and learn how a narcissist’s lack of object constancy allows them to discard you without a second thought. This is the closure you’ve been looking for.

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• Why you mattered as a "Tool," not a "Person"

• The science of Object Constancy in Narcissism

• Why they don’t mourn the relationship like you do

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Are you "Pain Shopping"? In this episode, self-aware narcissist Lee Hammock breaks down the compulsive urge to check an ex's social media. Learn why your brain is addicted to the "Digital Self-Harm" of seeing their fake new life and how narcissists weaponize their profiles to keep you stuck in the trauma bond. It’s time to close the "Pain Store" and start your real recovery.

Key Topics: > * The Dopamine Trap of "The Scroll"

• Why the Narcissist's "New Life" is a Billboard, Not a Reality

• How to Break the Compulsion to Check Their Page

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Did the "fairytale" end as fast as it started? In today’s live session, we are connecting the dots between the intense Love Bombing phase and the cold, calculated Reverse Discard.As a self-aware narcissist, I’m pulling back the curtain on the internal "playbook" used to create a trauma bond. We’ll discuss why narcissists use intensity to bypass your boundaries, the psychology of "Baiting a Breakup," and why you feel like you’re losing your mind during the devaluation phaseThis isn't just about labels—it's about pattern recognition and your psychological safety. Whether you’re currently in the "honeymoon phase" or you’ve just been discarded, this live Q&A is designed to give you the clarity you need to stop the cycle.In this stream, we cover:The 4 Stages of the Narcissistic CycleWhy they "bait" you into ending the relationshipHow to protect your nervous system from the "High-Low" addictionReal-time Q&A: Your hardest questions answered from the "inside."

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