When the person you're trying to save feels exactly like the parent you couldn't.

Marina Triner is a somatic coach and host of the Deep Within podcast who helps people move through deep-rooted patterns of stress, emotional disconnection, and shutdown through nervous system regulation and body-based healing. In today's episode, she shares how outgrowing her marriage allowed her to access deeper truths about her parents, her childhood, and deeply rooted patterns she hadn't seen before.

✨ What this episode explores:

▪️What Happens When You Heal and They Don't — Why outgrowing a relationship and the guilt of leaving can feel heavier than the pain of staying. 

▪️The Relationships That Keep You From Seeing the Truth — How a partner can block you from from facing what's actually unresolved with your parents, your childhood, and yourself.

▪️Why You Can't Stop Trying to Save Them — How the fixer pattern was never about the other person; it was about the child inside you refusing to give up on saving your parent.

▪️The Shame of "I Should Be Further Along" — Why years of healing don't make you immune to old patterns, and why falling back in isn't proof you've failed.

▪️When Asking for Help Is the Breakthrough — How letting people see you fall apart can be the most radical thing you do for your healing.

🎧 If this episode resonated, you might also love:

▪️ Ep 201 | Trauma-Bonded No More — My Journey Through Shame, Regression & Finding My Way Back

▪️ Ep 142 | Terry Real on Relational Trauma, Love Addiction and Shame

▪️ Ep 130 | Addicted to Fear & Chaos: The Adult Child Inner Drug Store w/ Dr. Scott Lyons

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Cory Scott is a therapist, somatic experiencing practitioner, EMDR specialist, and VITA sex, love, and relationship coach who's back for round two. As the scapegoat child in her family, she spent years channeling repressed anger from childhood into righteous blame, eating disorders, and a stress response she'd mistaken for her personality. She now helps people access the aliveness and freedom that trauma buried — through somatic healing, intensives on her 80-acre property in Virginia, and the kind of deep body-based work that goes where talk therapy alone can't reach.

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You don't know who you are because you were too busy being who she needed you to be.

Viviana Vozmediano is a trauma-informed coach who works with women who grew up with emotionally unavailable mothers - and she's speaking from experience. After spending her childhood as a Jehovah's Witness trying to be the perfect daughter to earn her mother's love, she was excommunicated and lost her entire community overnight. 

✨ What this episode explores

▪️Why Being the "Good One" Never Works — How becoming the easy, rule-following child was never about being good, but a strategy to earn love that was never available on those terms

▪️The Grief of Losing Someone Who's Still Alive — What it means to mourn a parent you can still call but can't actually reach, and why no one prepared you for that kind of loss

▪️When Your Whole Identity Belongs to Someone Else — How growing up performing for an emotionally unavailable parent can leave you with no idea who you are once the performance stops

▪️Why a Healthy Relationship Feels Like the Hardest Thing You've Ever Done — How finally being safe with someone can surface everything you suppressed to survive the relationships that weren't

▪️What Happens When You Lose Everyone Overnight — How being cut off from your entire world creates an abandonment wound so deep it keeps you in the next bad situation for years

🎧 If this episode resonated, you might also love:

• Ep 136 | Healing the Mother Wound: Why It Hurts and How We Begin to Heal w/ Bethany Webster
• Ep 103 | Religious Trauma & Abuse w/ Dr. Laura Anderson
• Ep 161 | Abandonment Trauma Expert Susan Anderson on Rejection and Equating Love with Insecurity Connects

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What if the anxiety you feel didn’t start with you at all? This episode uncovers how inherited trauma and unconscious patterns shape our lives,

Mark Wolynn is a leading expert in inherited family trauma and director of the Family Constellation Institute. , and author of the acclaimed ‘It Didn’t Start with You.

He recently published a revised and updated edition of his international bestseller It Didn’t Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle, along with The Official It Didn't Start with You Workbook.

• The 4 Unconscious Themes — The most common ways we carry or repeat family trauma without knowing it
• The Latest in Epigenetics — What new research shows about inherited trauma
• Your Core Trauma Language — How the key to healing often lies hidden in your own words
• What You Carried From the Womb: How in-utero trauma shapes your nervous system
• The Break in Early Attachment: Why not feeling seen, known, or soothed by your mother qualifies as big T trauma

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This is an epidemic no one is talking about: adult phone addiction.

Millions of people are struggling worldwide—and most don’t realize how much it’s impacting their focus, mood, relationships, and ability to be present.

In this episode, I break down 8 manifestations of compulsive phone behavior, how to tell when you’re in it, and why “just stop” doesn’t work when your phone has become your nervous system’s fastest relief.

1. Device checking compulsion
2. Social media compulsion (passive scrolling + active participation)
3. Mobile gaming
4. Information/content compulsion (news, rabbit holes, constant consuming)
5. Online shopping
6. Dating apps
7. Work/productivity compulsion
8. Fitness/biometric tracking compulsion

Internet and Technology Addicts Anonymous

Irresistible: The Rise of Addictive Technology and the Business of Keeping Us Hooked by Adam Alter

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