Codependency Alchemy: The Podcast

By Alyssa Zander

What's Codependency Alchemy: The Podcast about?

Finding our authenticity and joy through shadow work and healing codependency. We heal the Mother Wound by coming together, sharing our truth, & being seen and witnessed by others. You can absolutely do this healing alone, the point is you don't have to.

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Codependency Alchemy: The Podcast episodes:

06.26.2024
5 warning signs of a codependent relationship
Today we’re going to get into some of the most common codependency warnings signs that I’ve learned along the way. Resources: * Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram * Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: $9/month (or $90/year) Subscribe on...
06.19.2024
How we rebuilt trust in our relationship
I'm going to be doing a long-awaited podcast episode on something I promised you a long time ago— and to be quite honest, I forgot! This episode is going to be about the tool that Justin and I used to...
06.05.2024
What to do when you and your partner are not on the same page
This week’s podcast episode is my personal share on what transpired over those few days where we were not on the same page, how I managed to stay aware that I was triggered by the things he was saying to...
05.29.2024
When you want to fix everything for everyone
If you feel like it'd your job to make everyone happy, or that it's always your fault when someone is upset, this definitely listen to today's episode. To learn more about why we do this, and practical solutions that you...
05.22.2024
What if I am still carrying shame from past sexual abuse?
This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com I’ll never forget when I was in my situationship back in 2019 and all my sexual abuse trauma came bubbling up to the surface. I was completely...
05.15.2024
What to do when you emotionally attach too quickly
For those of us with codependent or anxious attachment patterns, it's super common to find ourselves making a new person or relationship mean something about us. We start dreaming up this whole future with them and attaching our sense of...
05.08.2024
How can I learn to trust myself and others after being in abusive relationships?
This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com When we have experienced abusive relationships, it can be challenging to trust ourselves and others. I remember feeling betrayed by myself, like how could I allow myself...
05.01.2024
What is a "situationship"?
Opening up about a past "situationship" was incredibly difficult (or should I say embarrassing), but I really wanted to share with you all how that experience illuminated my insecure attachment patterns and codependent behaviors that I was completely unaware of....
04.17.2024
PRIVATE PODCAST: Honestly feeling unwell...
This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com Honestly feeling unwell. Annoyed. This is the best word to describe me right now. I'm dysregulated AF. Everything seems to just have the perfect smell, taste, or...
04.12.2024
MEETUP: April Meetup Replay
This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com If you find yourself blaming someone or something outside of you, you are avoiding something within you. It was so lovely to connect with those of you...
04.05.2024
MASTERCLASS: How to Stop Taking Responsibility for Other People's Feelings and Moods
This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com This months Masterclass in Codependency Alchemy: The Membership for paid subscribers is on How to Stop Taking Responsibility for Other People's Feelings and Moods, and discovering common...
04.03.2024
Healing Codependency in Community
I know I needed community and a brave place for me to navigate my unhealthy relationship patterns, so I created the places I needed. In this episode I talk about how Codependency Alchemy has grown, and thank you all for...
03.27.2024
Is There Codependency in Your Parenting?
Many of the women I have the privilege of working with are mothers. Mothers who feel touched out and need space, but feel guilt when it comes for asking or taking it, or they struggle trusting the resilience of their...
03.20.2024
What is Reasonable When it Comes to Seeking Support from Your Partner?
What is reasonable, or not reasonable when it comes to asking your partner for support. Additionally, what can you rely on your partner for? What are you afraid will happen or what are you afraid it might mean about you...
03.14.2024
MEETUP: March Meetup Replay
This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com It was so lovely to connect with those of you who were able to make the call for our March Meetup. Please feel free to leave any...
03.13.2024
When There is an Imbalance in Your Relationship
When one partner consistently over-gives or seeks to create comfort for the other, a pattern emerges—one that often stems from deep-seated codependent tendencies rooted in fears of abandonment and rejection. In this episode we explore how these patterns manifest, the...
03.06.2024
The Breakup That Healed Me
I think we can all agree that breakups are hardly ever easy. In this episode I talk about the breakup that pushed me to my edges, and how I finally had to face myself (and my unresolved trauma) in the...
02.28.2024
Do I Self-Sabotage, or Choose Love?
I think this means I passed the test?! Join me as I tell you babes about a vivid dream that sent me tumbling down the rabbit hole of self-doubt and fear, threatening to sabotage my relationship, once again. I unravel...
02.26.2024
MASTERCLASS: Healing the Mother Wound
This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com This months Masterclass in Codependency Alchemy: The Membership for paid subscribers is on Healing the Mother Wound, where we begin to recognize the role of the mother...
02.21.2024
Are You Anxious, Avoidant, or Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style?
This week we're talking about insecure attachment styles! We'll uncover the roots of anxious, avoidant, and fearful avoidant attachment styles. From understanding childhood traumas to its impact on our adult relationships, we'll explore how self-awareness, vulnerability, and personal responsibility can...
02.14.2024
Did I Just Do That? Healing Anxious Attachment in Conflicts
In this episode, Alyssa shares her personal journey of navigating conflict with a dysregulated partner while healing from an insecure attachment style. We'll talk about setting boundaries with compassion, creating space for your partner's emotions without feeling the need to...
02.07.2024
Discover Your Shadow Self
In this episode Alyssa Zander will give four prompts that will help you in understanding your shadow self. Learn how staying curious opens your heart and eases the ego, paving the way for self-reflection and personal growth.Explore powerful journal prompts...
01.31.2024
Navigating Relationship Triggers: Taking Responsibility for Your Emotional Safety
In this episode, Alyssa Zander addresses a listener's question on managing triggers within a current relationship. Discover three transformative strategies that have personally supported Alyssa in navigating relationship triggers, highlighting the importance of taking personal responsibility for emotional safety.Learn about...
01.24.2024
No Spark? The Reality of Healthy Relationships and Unresolved Trauma
In this episode, Alyssa opens up about the journey of her relationship, exploring the nuances of a healthy, consistent connection and the unexpected challenges she faced. Discover the hidden dynamics that can arise in healthy relationships, and how unresolved trauma...
01.17.2024
Breaking Through Depression: Confronting Intrusive Thoughts with Empowering Questions
In this deeply personal episode, Alyssa Zander shares a vulnerable moment of navigating through a depressive state and intrusive thoughts that sent her spiraling. Discover three empowering questions that guided Alyssa through the darkness and can support you in moments...
01.03.2024
Forgiveness and Its Role in Deep Transformational Healing
Forgiveness can feel hard to reach, especially if we have been hurt or harmed in the past. I hope to offer some new perspectives in this weeks episode. What are 10 things you are ready to forgive yourself for?
12.27.2023
Reclaiming My Inner Child
Inner child work can be messy and intense, as it was for me this week! I go into it all in this week's episode.
12.20.2023
How Resentment Ruins Relationships
Resentment is your teacher, and the sooner you listen to it the better off your relationships will be.
12.13.2023
How to Regulate Your Nervous System When You’re Fighting with Your Partner
Conflicts can bring out the worst in us, and they can also be catalysts for the deepest kinds of connection and intimacy. In this episode I share about what to do to avoid the nasty cut-throat interactions so that you...
12.06.2023
Why People-Pleasing is Keeping You From Your Authenticity & Joy
Let's talk about people-pleasing, codependency, "making other people happy brings me happiness" and where this way of relating can actually be keeping you from accessing your authentic joy. Genuine happiness in relationships is built from an overflow of trust, safety,...
11.15.2023
How Taking Responsibility Heals Our Relationships (Q&A Session)
Taking radical personal responsibility rubs up against all of our fears of rejection and abandonment. It is, however, the very thing that can deeply heal our relationships with ourselves and others. In this episode I sit down with one of...
11.15.2023
When You Can't Stand Your Partner
We've all been there (I think
11.01.2023
Let's Get the Guys Perspective, Shall We? (Q&A Session)
This week we have a vvv special guest, Patrick, who is here to share with us how his relationship has changed since he and his partner began to tend to the codependency patterns in their relationship.
11.01.2023
When You Are Constantly Defending Yourself
Do you find yourself defending yourself all the time? In this episode we explore our fears around being wrong and bring in new ways of relating so that we can stop going to war with the ones we love.
10.18.2023
What the Healing Journey REALLY Looks Like (Q&A Session)
I get together with my bestie, Erynn (LPC), to talk about how to hold ourselves when the fear of abandonment comes in. Basically, we share about what the healing journey REALLY looks like. (Hint hint: it's messy AF, sis)
10.18.2023
From Chaos to Abundance: Healing and Finding Safety
Many of us have experienced periods of chaos, especially in our childhoods, and then we watch it play out in our relationships, careers, and personal lives. Years of normalizing chaos primed our nervous system to attune and be more comfortable...
10.04.2023
"It's Always F*cking Safety!" (Q&A Session)
I get together with another Codependency Alchemy member to talk about fears around something we don't completely understand, and how it always's comes back to safety. We talk about embracing sexuality, fears around being sexualized, being in a state of...
10.04.2023
Overcoming the Fear of Abandonment
Listen, we all experience a fear of abandonment, and in this episode I give a visual representation of this fear and how we can overcome it in our lives, relationships, and work. My intention is that you walk away feeling...
09.20.2023
When a Past Experience is Holding Us in Resentment (Q&A Session)
In this episode I coach a member from our Codependency Alchemy membership. We discuss her fear around "taking a step back" from her business and a reframe for this, and I also support her in moving through a past experience...
09.20.2023
Alchemizing Manipulation
In this Alchemy episode we will be moving through a somatic practice, bringing awareness to where manipulation lives in our body so that we can access the healing this part of us needs. This episode is best listened to when...
09.06.2023
When You Feel Responsible For Everyone's Emotions (Q&A Session)
In this episode, I coach a mom who is navigating old toxic relationship dynamics, and how they impact her life as a partner and a mom. So much of what we learned, and how we learned to be, growing up...
09.06.2023
Ways You Are Manipulating (And Are Probably Unaware Of)
Me? Manipulate? YIKES. In this episode I get real and vulnerable with you about my first conscious exploration of manipulation, and how I started to see all the ways I WAS MANIPULATING while on a trip with my partner. You're...
08.16.2023
When You Feel Like You're Talking to a Wall (Q&A Session)
Do you notice yourself getting angry when you feel that you have clearly conveyed or communicated something with someone and then they act like it was never heard or seen? Do you feel like you are sometimes talking to a...
08.16.2023
Alchemizing Our Fears Around Enforcing Boundaries
When there is something we are struggling with, there is usually an underlying fear that is keeping us from doing the thing. In this weeks Alchemy episode we are going to move through the shadow work and somatic work for...
08.02.2023
Boundary Burnout (Q&A Session)
I loved our conversation on feeling burnt out on enforcing boundaries, and how we can shift our perception of others misunderstanding (or outright ignoring) us and our boundaries from a victim mentality to one that is empowering (hint hint: it...
08.02.2023
The Truth (You Need to Hear) About Boundaries
We hear a lot about boundaries and the importance of them, but there is this misconception that boundaries mean someone else needs to do (or not do) something in order to "respect" your boundaries... I have a hot take on...
06.21.2023
THAT'S A WRAP! Thank You for an Amazing Season One!
We celebrate the end of an incredible first season of Codependency Alchemy and share exciting news for the future!
06.21.2023
Fear of Abandonment, Rejection, and Betrayal in Relationships
Join me as we unravel the intricate layers of fears that can often leave us feeling vulnerable and uncertain in our relationships and discover empowering ways to heal and transform it. Together, we'll explore a somatic practice that has personally...
06.07.2023
Somatic Healing: The Fixer and Saviorism Trap (PART TWO)
In Part Two, we invite you to embark on a somatic journey, unraveling the roots of the pattern within your own body and unlocking the keys to self-empowerment. For the optimal experience, find a quiet space where you can close...
06.07.2023
The Fixer and Saviorism Trap (PART ONE)
As people with codependency tendencies, we often believe that fixing or saving others makes us good people, even viewing it as our "job." However, underneath this seemingly noble intention lies a web of unconscious beliefs that drive our need to...

What's Codependency Alchemy: The Podcast about?

Download our free app to listen on your phone

Codependency Alchemy: The Podcast episodes:

5 warning signs of a codependent relationship

How we rebuilt trust in our relationship

What to do when you and your partner are not on the same page

When you want to fix everything for everyone

What if I am still carrying shame from past sexual abuse?

What to do when you emotionally attach too quickly

How can I learn to trust myself and others after being in abusive relationships?

What is a "situationship"?

PRIVATE PODCAST: Honestly feeling unwell...

MEETUP: April Meetup Replay

MASTERCLASS: How to Stop Taking Responsibility for Other People's Feelings and Moods

Healing Codependency in Community

Is There Codependency in Your Parenting?

What is Reasonable When it Comes to Seeking Support from Your Partner?

MEETUP: March Meetup Replay

When There is an Imbalance in Your Relationship

The Breakup That Healed Me

Do I Self-Sabotage, or Choose Love?

MASTERCLASS: Healing the Mother Wound

Are You Anxious, Avoidant, or Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style?

Did I Just Do That? Healing Anxious Attachment in Conflicts

Discover Your Shadow Self

Navigating Relationship Triggers: Taking Responsibility for Your Emotional Safety

No Spark? The Reality of Healthy Relationships and Unresolved Trauma

Breaking Through Depression: Confronting Intrusive Thoughts with Empowering Questions

Forgiveness and Its Role in Deep Transformational Healing

Reclaiming My Inner Child

How Resentment Ruins Relationships

How to Regulate Your Nervous System When You’re Fighting with Your Partner

Why People-Pleasing is Keeping You From Your Authenticity & Joy

How Taking Responsibility Heals Our Relationships (Q&A Session)

When You Can't Stand Your Partner

Let's Get the Guys Perspective, Shall We? (Q&A Session)

When You Are Constantly Defending Yourself

What the Healing Journey REALLY Looks Like (Q&A Session)

From Chaos to Abundance: Healing and Finding Safety

"It's Always F*cking Safety!" (Q&A Session)

Overcoming the Fear of Abandonment

When a Past Experience is Holding Us in Resentment (Q&A Session)

Alchemizing Manipulation

When You Feel Responsible For Everyone's Emotions (Q&A Session)

Ways You Are Manipulating (And Are Probably Unaware Of)

When You Feel Like You're Talking to a Wall (Q&A Session)

Alchemizing Our Fears Around Enforcing Boundaries

Boundary Burnout (Q&A Session)

The Truth (You Need to Hear) About Boundaries

THAT'S A WRAP! Thank You for an Amazing Season One!

Fear of Abandonment, Rejection, and Betrayal in Relationships

Somatic Healing: The Fixer and Saviorism Trap (PART TWO)

The Fixer and Saviorism Trap (PART ONE)