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Is your behavior accidentally destroying your marriage? In this video, Kimberly Beam Holmes reveals one of the top predictors of divorce—second only to affairs—that most people don't even realize they are doing.

Control is a silent relationship killer. You might think you are just trying to "help" your spouse, protect your family, or make sure things are done "the right way." But to your partner, it feels like intrusion, intimidation, and a lack of trust.

At Marriage Helper, we see thousands of couples in crisis, and control is one of the hardest hurdles to overcome—but it IS possible. In this video, Kimberly breaks down the psychology behind why good people become controlling, the 5 distinct ways control manifests in a marriage, and gives you a 5-question self-assessment quiz to see if you are guilty of these behaviors.

In this video, you will learn:

• The Root Causes: Why fear, low self-esteem, and poor emotional regulation lead to controlling behavior.
• The 5 Types of Control: Intrusion, Intimidation, Correction, Disempowerment, and Emotional Coercion.
• The Self-Assessment: 5 honest questions to ask yourself right now.
• The Solution: Practical steps to stop controlling your spouse and start saving your marriage.

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Are you being gaslighted in your marriage, or is something else going on beneath the surface? In this video, Kimberly Beam Holmes breaks down what gaslighting actually is, how to know if it’s truly happening, and when a painful pattern in your marriage might be caused by miscommunication, different backgrounds, fear, or unhealed wounds—not intentional manipulation.

If you’ve ever felt confused, crazy, or like you’re losing your grip on reality during arguments with your spouse, this is the video you need to watch. You’ll learn the real signs of gaslighting, what makes it different from normal disagreements, and the three key statements you can use to set boundaries, stay grounded, and stop getting pulled into endless arguments.

Kimberly also explains why the term “gaslighting” is often misused, how fear can drive controlling behavior, and why two people can remember the same event in completely different ways. Most importantly, she shows you what to do when you feel invalidated, dismissed, blamed, or overwhelmed in conversations with your spouse.

In this video, you’ll learn:

• What actual gaslighting looks like in marriage
• The difference between gaslighting and conflicting perspectives
• How past experiences shape how spouses interpret situations
• Why you may feel "crazy" even when no one is gaslighting you
• Signs of emotional control or manipulation
• Three powerful statements that help you stay calm and set healthy boundaries
• How to reset destructive communication patterns
• When it’s time to pause the conversation—and how to exit with strength
• How to turn painful conflicts into productive conversations

Whether gaslighting is happening or you’re simply stuck in damaging communication loops, this video gives you actionable next steps to protect your sanity, improve conversations, and move your marriage toward healing.

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If you’re a woman who makes more money than your husband, this video is for you.

This dynamic is becoming more and more common—but many couples are struggling silently with the tension it can create. The goal of this video is not to shame success, ambition, or calling. It’s to help you protect your marriage while you continue pursuing the work you feel called to do.

I’ve been the primary income earner in my own marriage for nearly a decade. I know the pressure, the guilt, the loneliness, and the internal tug-of-war that can come with it. And I also know how easy it is to unintentionally say or do things that leave your husband feeling disrespected, unseen, or pushed away—even when that was never your intention.

Today, I’m sharing 3 things you should not say to your husband when you earn more than he does—and what to do instead so that your marriage can feel like a true team again.

Because your marriage can stay strong.
You can be successful and connected at home.
You don’t have to choose one or the other.

In this video, you’ll learn:

• Why earning more can trigger insecurity in your spouse (and what to do with that)
• How to communicate without diminishing your spouse’s role or contribution
• What to say instead of “you’re not doing enough”
• How to rebuild respect, connection, and emotional intimacy—starting today

Whether you’re an entrepreneur, executive, leader, or professional woman—this message matters. And you are not alone.

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If your wife is the primary income earner in your home, this video is for you. More and more marriages today are experiencing a shift in traditional roles — and many husbands aren’t sure how to navigate it. You may fully support your wife’s success and still find yourself wrestling with confidence, identity, or how to “lead” in the relationship without competing with her.

In this video, Kimberly Beam Holmes shares:

Why this role reversal can create unexpected stress in a marriage

What your wife actually needs from you emotionally

How to step up as a confident, loving husband (without becoming controlling or passive)

How to work together as a team so both of you feel respected, valued, and connected

You don’t have to make more money to play a meaningful, strong, and respected role in your marriage. And your wife doesn’t want to compete with you — she wants to be on the same team with you.

There is a path forward where your marriage can feel balanced, secure, and deeply connected again.

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When your marriage feels like it’s falling apart, anxiety can take over your mind—and your marriage. In this video, Kimberly Beam Holmes shares 3 powerful ways to overcome anxiety during a marriage crisis so you can think clearly, stay grounded, and begin the process of saving your relationship.

Drawing from her personal experience with lifelong anxiety and her decades of helping people in crisis through Marriage Helper, Kimberly explains how fear, control, and uncertainty can keep you trapped—and how to break free from that cycle.

You’ll learn:
 ✅ How to take every thought captive and stop the endless “what if” spiral
✅ Why you must find the helpers who bring peace, not panic
✅ The science-backed way to reset your body through 4x4 breathing

Anxiety doesn’t have to rule your mind—or ruin your marriage. These tools will help you calm your thoughts, regulate your emotions, and start rebuilding the connection with your spouse.

If your marriage feels stuck in chaos, remember: there is always hope.

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In this segment, taken from our live show, Dr. Joe and Kimberly talk with a wife who wants to reconcile the marriage but is encountering some resistance... her husband is still sleeping with his affair partners.

Dr. Joe and Kimberly give insight into how to start exploring reconciliation, even when your spouse might not be willing.

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Do you ever wonder how to feel more alive in your marriage again? That spark you felt in the beginning doesn’t have to fade forever. In this video, Kimberly Beam Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper, shares 5 proven ways to reignite passion, intimacy, and connection with your spouse so you can feel fully alive in your relationship again.

Research shows that “being madly in love” is often just limerence—a temporary stage fueled by brain chemistry. But real, lasting love is built on intimacy, passion, and commitment. The good news? You can rekindle that passion and start thriving together no matter where your marriage is today.

Inside this video, you’ll discover:

1. How a shared purpose can pull you and your spouse back together when life pulls you apart
2. Why adventure and play boost bonding and create lasting memories
3. The role of emotional safety and vulnerability in building trust and passion
4. How affection and desire keep love fresh through small daily actions
5. Why supporting each other’s growth leads to a stronger, more secure marriage

If you want to know how to feel more alive in your marriage, these five steps can transform the way you love, connect, and grow together.

👉 Watch until the end for practical ideas you can start using today to bring intimacy and passion back into your marriage.

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Are you the one fighting to save your marriage while your spouse seems ready to give up? Maybe they’ve grown emotionally distant, controlling, or even unfaithful. You feel the weight of the marriage on your shoulders, asking: “Why me? Why do I have to do all the work?”

In this video, Dr. Joe Beam reveals the hard truth about what it takes to save a marriage when your spouse wants a divorce. You’ll learn:

• Why focusing on your spouse’s mistakes often pushes them further away
• What you can control when it feels like everything is slipping through your fingers
• Why criticism, guilt, or pressure rarely bring a spouse back—and what actually can
• How choosing strength, grace, and perseverance changes the dynamic of your marriage

At Marriage Helper, we’ve worked with thousands of couples on the brink of divorce. Many felt hopeless, yet they discovered a proven path forward. If you’re hurting but still holding on to hope, this message is for you.

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Divorce is never easy. But when kids are involved, the stakes are even higher. Before making the life-changing decision to divorce, there are five essential considerations every parent needs to think about.

In this video, Kimberly shares heartbreaking real-life stories and powerful research that reveal the true impact divorce can have on children. You’ll learn:

✅ Why children’s greatest fear is losing a parent—and why divorce can feel even harder for them than a parent passing away.
✅ How stability and consistency directly affect a child’s ability to thrive.
✅ What shared custody really looks like—and the sacrifices many parents don’t anticipate.
✅ The hidden emotional toll kids carry when they blame themselves for their parents’ divorce.
✅ The financial realities that can drastically change a child’s lifestyle.
✅ How your marriage (or divorce) teaches your kids what love, forgiveness, and relationships look like.

Kids are resilient—but they shouldn’t have to be. Divorce doesn’t just shape your future, it shapes theirs too. Before you file, take time to truly count the cost—not just for yourself, but for your children

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Do you feel something is “off” in your marriage but can’t quite explain it? The truth is, the biggest warning signs of a troubled marriage aren’t always obvious. In this video, Dr. Joe Beam reveals 3 hidden signs your marriage is in trouble—and why couples often miss them until it’s too late.

After working with thousands of couples over 30+ years, Dr. Beam explains:
 ✅ Why “we never saw this coming” is more common than you think
 ✅ The dangers of emotional drift and what it looks like in everyday life
 ✅ How secretiveness creates distance (even without an affair)
 ✅ Why criticism and keeping score can destroy your bond
 ✅ The specific steps you can take TODAY to turn things around

Whether your spouse has pulled away, mentioned divorce, or you simply feel disconnected, this video will give you hope. At Marriage Helper, we’ve seen marriages restored even after affairs, separation, and divorce papers were filed. No marriage is too far gone if the right changes are made.

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