The Empowered Wife Podcast: Marriage Help with Laura Doyle

Have you ever wondered how our relationship coaches help women transform their marriages without their husbands even knowing? Today, I’m taking you behind the curtain to hear an actual coaching call. If you haven’t experienced coaching from a Certified Laura Doyle Relationship Coach, you might think, “Is there any real difference between relationship coaching and counseling? Aren’t they pretty much the same?” 

This is where I get very animated because, oh no it’s not the same! But instead of telling you about all the ways relationship coaching is more effective and enjoyable, we got special permission to play this actual session for you so you can hear for yourself why our approach is so transformative. It’s something mind-blowing, and maybe even jarring, that I want every woman to experience. On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, I’m letting you eavesdrop on a real coaching call.

How do you know if your marriage is successful? You sure know when it’s not because it’s stressful and exhausting. At least that’s how it was at my house. We were fighting and having cold wars without talking for days. It was too embarrassing to tell anyone. I was always trying to fix it. The only choices I saw were changing him or getting divorced. The problems were all him—he wasn’t very affectionate or attentive, even though I told him to be. But the harder I tried to fix it, the worse it got. I was stuck, until I got these 5 keys to a successful marriage. Now I get to hear how beautiful and wonderful I am, and get lots of affection and attention from my husband. So on today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, I’m talking about the top five keys to a successful marriage.

Plus, do you ever wonder what the husband thought about his wife practicing the 6 Intimacy Skills™ in their marriage? Today you’ll find out because my guest Eran tells us his side of the story as part of our Man Panel series. Hear the male perspective on what makes men attracted to their wives and want to be her hero. 

Imagine being able to attract your husband like you did in the beginning, without having to do anything special. Where he’s looking for you because he just can’t wait to be with you, and is always pulling you close. If that stops, it can make you feel unattractive or even ugly, which feels terrible. But I’ve got great news: Attracting your husband effortlessly is not about how you look. Feeling desired and adored is completely possible. If you cultivate these three traits, it’s not just possible—it’s inevitable that you will attract him, without having to beg or feel desperate. On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we’re talking about 3 traits to attract your husband effortlessly.

Also, do you ever wonder what the husband thought about his wife practicing the 6 Intimacy Skills™ in their marriage? Today you’re going to find out because my guest Ferrin tells us his side of the story as part of our Man Panel series. Get ready to hear the male perspective on what makes men attracted to their wives and want to be her hero.

I have a confession about the 6 Intimacy Skills™ I’m always talking about. At first, I thought they sounded stupid. I remember thinking, “I am NOT going to do THAAAAT!” I thought they were old-fashioned and just plain yucky. I thought if I apologized for being disrespectful, that would be a step back for all womankind. And that’s NOT how *I* was raised. Or if I expressed my gratitude for something my husband should do anyway, that would turn me into a Stepford Wife robot. Good thing I was so desperate or I probably never would have tried the 6 Intimacy Skills. Once I did, I saw things so differently. Yes, the Skills were counterintuitive but also compelling. I got excited about how I felt when I experimented with them. I didn’t think that was going to happen, but then I actually *tried* them. Which wasn’t easy to do all by my lonesome. Fortunately, there’s now a whole community of like-minded women, and we have something exciting brewing! I’ll tell you all about it on today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, where I’m talking about the 5-Day Adored Wife Challenge.

And the Man Panel continues! My guest Tim is the husband of a podcast guest and relationship coach. I’ll get his perspective on the changes in his family as a result of his wife using the 6 Intimacy Skills and the Connection Framework. Get ready to hear the male perspective on what makes men attracted to their wives and want to be her hero.

If you've ever felt the frustration and loneliness of trying to communicate with a partner who just shuts down, you're not alone. If your man won’t say a word to you or only talks about logistics or the kids, it’s devastating and scary. I remember feeling panicked when that used to happen at my house because I felt so abandoned. The only way to stop the terror, I thought, was to insist that he talk to me, which seemed to make him dig in even more. It was awful and I felt pathetic. Other people said just ignore him until he calms down, but I’m not a patient person and that never worked for me. So on today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we’re talking about how to deal with a stonewalling husband. These three tips will help you navigate those stressful moments with more dignity and to create a home where there’s so much emotional safety that stonewalling becomes a distant memory. 

Plus, my guest Jessee is not a student but rather the husband of a podcast guest and coach. He generously agreed to be part of our Man Panel series, and today I’m going to get his perspective on the changes in his family as a result of his wife using the 6 Intimacy Skills™ and the Connection Framework. Get ready to hear the male perspective on what makes a man attracted to his wife and want to be her hero.

Having the topic of separation on the table is scary and painful. Even if you’re the one who wants to separate, it means you’ve been suffering and struggling, probably for a long time. That’s no way to live. Which is why separation is on the table to begin with! When you have a headache, you just want it to stop. Likewise, when you’re in a marriage that hurts every day, you just want the pain to stop. Separation promises to give you that relief. Plus, it seems a lot less final than divorce. If, on the other hand, you don’t want to separate, this can be a really terrifying topic. Either way, on today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we’re talking about 3 questions to ask before you separate.

Plus, my guest Caroline wondered why her husband was so angry. Her marriage felt heavy with the threat of divorce. But as she experimented with the Intimacy Skills she started to feel like a princess. Her husband adores her now and divorce is off the table. She’s going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too!

Everybody has feelings, but as women, we have emotional brilliance. Maybe your feelings are overwhelming or you think that you’re too emotional or too sensitive and you want to figure out a way to not be so easily hurt. But I don’t know of a way to not feel what you feel. Even if I did, I wouldn’t recommend it. I see being sensitive as a gift. Now that I know how to connect with my feelings, they’re not a burden. They are the key ingredient for so many tender and connecting moments in my relationships. They tell me when I’m enjoying myself, when I want to make a change, and how to care for myself. And yes, when I’m hurt, disappointed or lonely. I know what I want because I connect with my feelings. I know myself because I tune into how I feel. And that helps me make myself happy, even if I start out miserable. On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we’re talking about three ways to connect with your feelings.

Plus, my guest Theresia’s marriage felt lonely whenever she got her husband’s silent treatment, which sometimes lasted for weeks! He seemed to be getting angrier and angrier. Then she had some insights on how to talk to him. Now, she feels close and playful with her husband, who doesn’t seem so angry anymore. She’s going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too!

Normally, I’m allergic to focusing on what is wrong, but today we’re making an exception. We’ll focus on whether something is wrong because that may be where you are right now, if you’re anything like I was. It’s a nagging, anxious feeling. Is something wrong? You’ve tried asking what’s up, but if he doesn’t offer any explanation or just says he’s stressed or tired, your mind could wander down a dark alley. Maybe your heart is telling you there’s more to marriage than just being roommates, just getting by without laughter, passion and plans for the future. You’re right—there is definitely more to marriage than just existing, without feeling loved, which is depressing and demoralizing. That’s not okay. So on today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we’re talking about how to figure out whether something is wrong with your marriage. I’ll share 3 ways to know and what to do about it. 

Plus, my guest Heidi’s husband had shut down and moved out. But then she said something that made him soften, which felt like a miracle. Now he tells her he loves her every day and their relationship is better than ever. She’s going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too.

It’s annoying when your husband complains. It sucks the fun out of everything, makes you feel unappreciated, and can definitely lead to resentment (if you’re a mere mortal woman like me). What I’m going to share with you is going to sound counterintuitive. What I’ll invite you to try when your husband complains too much is not a regular power that most women have. No. These are superpowers that some wives have developed for strengthening their families. You can too. On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, I’m talking about what to do when your husband complains too much. I'll share 2 ways to change that.

Also, my guest Mary felt very alone and scared that her husband would leave or cheat on her, especially when he brought up divorce during a fight! She decided to experiment with the 6 Intimacy Skills, but her husband was skeptical and sometimes it backfired completely. Then he started flirting and seeking her out more, and now the passion has skyrocketed. She’s going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too.

If you’re thinking that your husband doesn’t care about your desires and that’s why he doesn’t get inspired when he hears them, that’s so hurtful and unloving. It's also very lonely, like you’re invisible. That's how I felt when I thought that John didn’t care what I wanted. That’s what a lot of students thought too. But we were wrong. It turns out, we just weren’t expressing desires. We thought we were, but we weren’t. On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, I’m talking about four reasons your desires aren't inspiring and how to fix that in a hurry.

Plus, my guest Marian couldn’t stop raging at her husband, who told her he wasn’t happy anymore. She discovered this podcast and started implementing the Intimacy Skills, and today he tells her he loves her all the time. She’s going to tell us how she went from depressed and anxious to content and calm so you can do it too!