Did you know the AVERAGE home has over 300,000 items in it!? Moms have way too much STUFF to manage. Today we have Julia Ubbenga, author of "Declutter Your Heart and Your Home" as well as minimalist living coach, here to encourage us ALL to start making changes.

If you're feeling overwhelmed in your home and like you spend your day managing "stuff" and find it impossible to keep up- you'll love this episode. After Julia was diagnosed with PPD and had recently left her job to become a SAHM... she knew she needed to make a change, too.

Julis is partnering with the MOMSET Membership to bring a whole home decluttering challenge to us through May. We will have an daily realistic declutter task and will be reading her new book together!

This challenge will focus on decluttering your mind, heart and home as Julia and I team up together! All MOMSET Members get to join!

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Listen to episode 130 for Part One "Be Quiet" before you jump into asking great questions!

"To answer before listening—that is folly and shame." Proverbs 18:13

Get better at seeing the real problem because behavior is a symptom of a problem. When you’re quiet and ask a few good questions, you can let the problem reveal itself to you. 

This episode gets into WHY we are asking questions, WHAT the benefit is and HOW to do it- the words to avoid and use!

Buckle up buttercup and let's dig in! :)

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Podcast Episode 130: Be Quiet - A Mindset Tool to Improve Communication

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In this episode of Be Quiet, I’m teaching you a mindset tool that’s too easy not to implement, and I encourage you to use it in your marriage too! This tool—simply being quiet—can quickly reshape your mindset and communication skills, especially when dealing with challenging situations.

I’ll break down why, when, and how to “be quiet” and show you how Scripture supports this approach. We’ll dive into the power of pausing, listening, and thinking before responding. Plus, I’ll answer questions from listeners about how to effectively use this tool with kids and loved ones, address emotional triggers, and handle situations where silence feels uncomfortable.

If you’ve ever found yourself reacting before thinking or struggling with emotional responses, this episode is for you. Join me as I teach you how being quiet can help you build emotional maturity, strengthen your communication, and model healthy behaviors for your family.

Stay tuned for next week’s episode, where we’ll talk about asking effective questions after being quiet.

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Do you ever think that things are just going different than what you would choose for yourself?! Of course you do because we are humans living a big LIFE.

This episode is expanding your mentality to be able to have a greater capacity to accept what you are given, even when it is different than what you want or would choose for yourself.

This is YOUR life.

YOU get to decide what you think about it.

Is it happening for you, to you or just happening and has nothing to do with you? Let's get your mindset serving you.

I'll coach you in my membership.

You can see my free content here.

We have the incredible opportunity to learn about the power of owning your motherhood from Brooke Romney. This episode is full of encouragement and practical approaches for moms.

Brooke Romney is an author, speaker and mom of four boys! She's a season ahead of me and shared fantastic insights to what works well for her and what she priorities to help her show up as her best. We can all relate to some of these pain points and benefit from the perspectives.

-Own what you love in motherhood.

-Double down on your influences.

-Protect your headspace in home and family.

-Staying real and real intentional.

I love her Modern Manners Flipbook and would strongly encourage you to keep this as a focal point in your home.

Brooke Romney is on Instagram!

"If I forgive then they'll be let off the hook..." "Tessa, I want to forgive them but I can't just let them back into my life after everything they've done."

Gosh, do I relate and have some good news for you. I like to think I have gotten really good at forgiving because I also invite in a crucial piece that keeps me in charge of my seasons.

This episode is deeply connected to the way I coach women, just like you, through the journey and throws of becoming who you want to be no matter where you go or who you're with.

Join our membership to receive coaching with me! I'll teach you the tools and show you the way they work even in YOUR unique circumstances and relationships.

All my love,

Tessa Romero

Ever notice how when things go wrong, you blame others, and when things go right, you chalk it up to luck? I’m here to remind you that your hard work and intention deserve recognition. By breaking free from old patterns of blame and victim mentalities, you can claim ownership of your successes and learn from your challenges.

Tune in, shift your perspective, and discover how to flip your mindset—celebrating every victory and lesson on your journey to becoming the best version of you. This is your chance to reclaim your power and rewrite your narrative. Join me and begin.

Ready for more? Let me coach you inside of my membership. We'll be the ones to challenge you and treat you as who we believe you can be.

Join our March Challenge to adopt the 5 daily habits that change the game in your energy levels!

I was walking on a beautiful beach in Maui and three older women collectively sighed "poor mom."

Only, I know I am a lucky mom. Are you ready to know that too?

Click here if you want to be a source of joy in your motherhood and KNOW who you are while you do it. My coaching membership is full of powerful tools and community that completely transform your everyday life.

Your mindset is shaping your motherhood more than you realize. In this episode, we dive into the power of perspective and how the way you frame your experiences will make a difference for you. Are you focusing on lack and hardship, or are you seeing the opportunities, growth, and joy in your journey? Tune in to discover how shifting your mindset can completely transform the way you experience motherhood—because the difference between a “poor mom” and a “lucky mom” is all in how you choose to see it.

🎧 Listen now and step into a more empowered, fulfilling motherhood.

YES, the MOMSET Community App is officially launched and buzzing with excitement from moms around the world. Come join us in daily community discussions, a weekly coaching session and access to my three courses!

Get the details and sign up for the coaching membership.

Founding members locked in rate of $67/month is for January ONLY. The price is $97/month starting in February.

Join us in this heartfelt episode as we explore the two things moms must know to inspire and motivate their kids by truly understanding their unique visions for the future.

Learn how to uncover what excites your child, provide the right support, and encourage their dreams without pressure and stress.

From active listening to celebrating small wins, this episode is packed with actionable tips to help moms nurture a positive connection and guide their children toward a bright future. Tune in and discover the power of understanding your child’s dreams.

In this episode, we’re diving into a powerful practice: writing a letter to your future self to read at the end of 2025. This is your chance to put into words who you want to become—before it even happens. This will give you direction and intention for the entire year to come.

Creating a clear vision for yourself activates the brain’s Reticular Activating System (RAS), which helps you focus on opportunities and actions aligned with your goals. When you know what you want, your mind naturally works to make it happen. The real trick is to actually know what you want and that is where a lot of women struggle.

We’ll guide you through:

Start your letter with “Dear [Your Name]” and let your vision for the year come alive on the page. This is more than just a letter—it’s your declaration of what’s possible for you in the year ahead.

Let’s create a 2025 worth celebrating. 💖

p.s. My NEW Coaching Membership launches on our own app the MOMSET Community on January 7th. You can click here to have all of the details sent to you and lock in your membership saving $30 a month!