This episode was inspired by a post from one of our favorite Instagram therapy accounts, @millennial.therapist, titled “Let’s Stop Postponing.” It sparked an honest conversation as we walked through each point and reflected on how these patterns show up in our own lives. From expressing appreciation to making decisions, navigating emotions, and leaning into joy, we share where we feel confident, where we are still growing, and how these small shifts can create meaningful change in our everyday lives.

Key Topics Covered:

• Letting people know what they mean to you and the impact of expressing appreciation in real time.
• Navigating big decisions with more trust and less hesitation, with different personal perspectives.
• Allowing space for emotional release instead of holding everything in.
• Taking accountability and offering genuine apologies when needed.
• Asking for support and clearly communicating personal needs.
• Approaching hard conversations with more confidence and emotional maturity.
• Wearing clothes that make you feel good instead of saving them for later.
• Exploring hobbies and rediscovering what feels fun and fulfilling.
• Celebrating small, everyday moments instead of only major milestones.

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Follow Dr. Sara Kuburic on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/millennial.therapist/

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After Amy sparked a conversation on Instagram about expecting more independence from her boys, it became clear just how many moms are wondering the same thing: when do you start, and how do you actually follow through? In this episode, we’re sharing how we’ve gradually increased expectations in our own homes, why contributing to the household matters, and how to get your kids involved in a realistic, sustainable way..

Key Topics Covered:

• When to start expecting more independence from kids.
• Why contributing to the household builds confidence and responsibility.
• The importance of predictable routines at home.
• Practical ways kids can help with laundry, kitchen tasks, and shared spaces.
• Managing clutter in mudrooms and sports bags.
• How to handle different expectations for siblings of different ages.
• A helpful mindset shift for explaining responsibilities to kids.
• How personality types can influence chores and participation.
• Why starting small leads to long-term success for both kids and parents.

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Hormones, sleep, nutrition… or something else entirely? When your body starts to feel “off,” it’s not always easy to pinpoint what’s actually going on, especially during perimenopause. In this episode, we are so excited to sit down with Dr. Mary Claire Haver; board-certified OB/GYN, Certified Culinary Medicine Specialist, Certified Menopause Provider, and the founder of The ‘Pause Wellness, a private medical practice that focuses on women in midlife. She is the #1 New York Times bestselling author of The New Menopause and The Galveston Diet. In our conversation she breaks down what’s really happening in your body, how to recognize the signs of perimenopause, and what you can start doing today to feel better.

Key Topics Covered:

• How to tell if you’re in perimenopause vs. dealing with poor sleep or nutrition.
• Why there’s no definitive test for perimenopause.
• Early vs. late perimenopause and what to expect in each stage.
• Surprising symptoms like heart palpitations, lung changes, and asthma.
• The connection between hormones and sleep disruptions.
• Practical, free strategies to manage cognitive and physical symptoms.
• Why hormone testing isn’t always recommended.
• Barriers to accessing quality women’s healthcare.
• A positive perspective on life after menopause.

LINKS AND RESOURCES:

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It’s easy to fall into the trap of comparing yourself to other women and feeling jealous, intimidated, or like you’re somehow behind. But what if you could shift that mindset and instead feel genuinely inspired by the success around you? In this episode, we share a recent real-life experience from a mastermind we attended with highly successful business owners and how it challenged us to see comparison differently. Instead of letting the “small fish in a big sea” feeling discourage us, we used it as proof of what’s possible. We talk about the mindset shift that helped us move from comparison to inspiration, why personal growth plays a huge role in that process, and how surrounding yourself with the right people can change the way you view your own potential.

In this episode, we discuss:

• What it felt like walking into a room full of highly successful entrepreneurs.
• The surprising common habits we noticed among women operating at a high level.
• Why taking care of your physical health often supports long-term success.
• The “highlight reel vs. inner life” trap and why it distorts how we see other people’s journeys.
• Questions to ask yourself when someone else's success triggers comparison.
• The hidden sacrifices and personal work that often sit behind visible success.
• Practical ways to shift from jealousy to curiosity and inspiration.
• Why your mindset about others’ success can either hold you back or move you forward.
• How getting support, such as a mindset coach, can help you break out of negative thought patterns.
• The powerful question to ask when a negative thought about someone else pops up.

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Mom guilt has shaped so many seasons of our motherhood journeys, but it does not hold the same power it once did. In this honest and reflective conversation, we look back on what used to weigh heavily on our hearts and compare it to the much shorter lists we carry today. From work-related guilt and feeling torn between responsibilities, to struggling to fully enjoy our kids while managing the chaos of daily life, we share the real-time challenges we are still navigating. We also open up about the pressure of meeting different needs within the same family and how growth, perspective, and practical shifts have helped us loosen guilt’s grip. Our hope is that hearing where we have been and how far we have come helps you peel back a layer of guilt in your own motherhood story.

Key Topics Covered:

• Amy’s early fears about bonding, attachment, and whether her firstborn would recognize her after returning to work.
• The internal struggle around justifying time with friends during the early years of motherhood.
• Abby’s vulnerable admission of questioning whether she was cut out for motherhood during a difficult phase.
• The specific work pressures that tend to trigger guilt in this current season.
• Navigating overlapping sports schedules and creating a fair system when multiple kids need to be in different places at once.
• Wanting meaningful one-on-one time with each child but feeling stretched thin.
• The emotional load of managing kids versus enjoying them.
• Parenting a spirited child whose needs require extra time and attention.
• Practical mindset shifts that have helped us move from shame toward self-compassion.

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Listen to Episode 12. Mom Guilt: How We’re Working Through It: https://www.herselfpodcast.com/listen/12-mom-guilt-how-were-working-through-it

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Editing your life doesn’t require a dramatic overhaul, it starts with small, intentional shifts every single day. In this episode, we explore what it really means to take an “edit” mindset into your routines, your responsibilities, and even the expectations you carry. From closets to calendars to long-held commitments, we share how thoughtful adjustments can reduce overwhelm and create more breathing room in this season of life. If you’ve been feeling stretched thin, this conversation will help you step back, reassess, and take ownership of what stays and what goes.

Key topics covered:

• Practical strategies for deciding what to donate, sell, or keep in your wardrobe.
• How trends influence buying habits and how to shop more intentionally.
• Four closet decluttering challenges you can implement immediately.
• Why overcommitting can crowd out what matters most.
• Navigating guilt around volunteering and kids’ activities.
• Managing group text dynamics and communication overload.
• Evaluating whether networking events align with your current season.
• Understanding “legacy commitments” and reassessing past obligations.

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Some comments linger longer than they should. A tone, a look, an offhand remark from your partner, your child, or a friend can spiral into a story in your head before you even realize it. This conversation unpacks what it really takes to not take things personally, especially in the relationships that matter most. From defensiveness and truth triggers to slowing down your reactions and separating someone else’s mood from your responsibility, we share practical mindset shifts that create more peace at home and in your friendships.

Key Topics Covered:

• The connection between defensiveness and hidden truths.
• Why pausing before reacting changes everything.
• Separating your partner’s emotions from your own sense of worth.
• The role tone plays when giving and receiving feedback.
• Helping kids regulate before expecting repair or apology.
• Teaching children awareness of how their words impact others.
• Navigating the sting of feeling like a means to an end as a parent.
• Modeling reciprocal conversations and emotional awareness at home.
• How past friendship wounds shape present reactions.
• Real life examples of working through friendship conflict without escalation.

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No one really tells you how much parenting shifts once your kids reach school age, and there are a few things we deeply wish we had known sooner. The early years are all-consuming and survival-focused, which makes forward thinking feel nearly impossible. Now on the other side of that stage, we reflect on the bigger transitions kids experience once they enter school and the areas that deserve a little more intention.

Key topics covered:

• What changes once kids enter school and why it can feel like a whole new parenting phase.
• How friendships evolve from “everyone is invited” to more complex social dynamics.
• Coaching kids through hard friendship moments, apologies, and repairing relationships.
• Why it’s important to remember your child’s experience may look different from your own.
• The impact of words and helping kids understand how their choices affect others.
• How to handle notes home from school and why the truth often lives in the middle.
• The value of volunteering at school and gaining perspective on a teacher’s day-to-day.
• Being pro teacher and why believing the teacher matters.
• Managing the overwhelm of school paperwork, sign-ups, and assignments.
• Creating systems at home so responsibilities don’t fall through the cracks.
• Teaching kids to apologize with intention, not just to avoid consequences.
• Why school-aged parenting can be challenging and incredibly fun at the same time.

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We turned the conversation over to you and asked one powerful question: In what ways do you struggle with comparison? The overwhelming response was the realization that comparison shows up far more often than we think, especially around money, careers, bodies, relationships, and even our kids. We unpack why comparison feels so loud today, how much of what we see is a highlight reel, and why everyone’s starting point, values, and circumstances are completely different. From navigating career shifts and body image to friendships, marriage, and parenting, this episode is a reminder that you are not behind, broken, or doing life wrong. You are simply living your own version of it.

In this episode, we talk about:

• The sneaky ways comparison shows up, especially the thought of “What am I doing wrong and how can everyone else afford this?”
• Why social media hides financial stress, marriage struggles, and real life challenges.
• How different values and priorities shape what people choose to spend money and energy on.
• Career comparison and promotions, including Abby’s experience leaving the corporate world and redefining fulfillment.
• Why your job might not be the problem and how finding fulfillment outside of work can change everything.
• Body comparison, genetics, and why not everything is meant to come easily or naturally to everyone.
• The truth behind our friendship and why working together skews what people see.
• Comparing kids, milestones, achievements, and even siblings within the same family.

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Parenting in a village isn’t anything new. It’s a necessity for many families, especially when extended family isn’t close by. In this episode, we talk candidly about what it really looks like to build and rely on a village of friends, neighbors, and other families. If you’ve never done this before, know that it can feel intimidating at first. Trusting others with your kids, your schedule, and your needs takes time and practice but it gets easier, and it’s worth it.

Key Topics Covered

• What it means to build a parenting village when family isn’t nearby.
• Why relying on others often starts out of necessity.
• How to ask for help clearly, specifically, and in a way that feels fair.
• Making drop-off birthday parties work for your family.
• When and how to incorporate paid support into your village.
• The impact of unexpected support and paying it forward.
• How building a village models healthy relationships and help-seeking for kids.
• Letting go of what you thought your village would look like and getting creative.
• Abby’s go-to coaching prompt for asking for help.

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