No One Told Us

By Rachael Shepard-Ohta

No One Told Us the truth about parenthood. WHY?!

Welcome to No One Told Us, the podcast where we uncover the raw, unfiltered truths about parenthood. I'm your host, Rachael Shepard-Ohta, mom of three ... more

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No One Told Us episodes:

August 27, 2026Episode 111: Too Sensitive? Understanding Emotional Sensitivity, ADHD & Regulation with Dr. Sasha Hamdani
What does it really mean to be “too sensitive”? In this episode, Rachael sits down with psychiatrist, author, and ADHD expert Dr. Sasha Hamdani to unpack emotional sensitivity, ADHD, rejection sensitive dysphoria, and the ways our understanding of ourselves can shape how we parent.Inside this episode:
What emotional sensitivity really means and how it exists on a spectrum

Why labels can become part of our internal narrative

Understanding rejection sensitive dysphoria and intense emotional responses

How ADHD can impact emotional regulation…not just attention

Why ADHD is often diagnosed later in women, especially after becoming parents

How ADHD and emotional sensitivity can show up differently in girls and women

The role social media plays in ADHD awareness, education, and misinformation

How parenthood can reveal previously unrecognized neurodivergent traits

Practical tools for managing big emotional responses and building regulation skills

How we can help emotionally sensitive children develop resilience

Why emotional regulation should be taught early….and even in schools

And so much more!
Mentioned in this episode:
Too Sensitive by Dr. Sasha Hamdani

Dr. Sasha Hamdani on Instagram

Dr. Sasha Hamdani on TikTok
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Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast.
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52min
August 20, 2026Episode 110: Parenting the Spicy Kid with Mary Van Geffen
What does it really mean to parent a “spicy” kid? In this episode, Rachael sits down with parenting expert and author Mary Van Geffen to talk about strong-willed, sensitive, and neurodivergent children and what parents can do when everyday parenting feels especially challenging.
Together, they discuss emotional regulation, parenting shame, boundaries, meltdowns, bedtime struggles, and the importance of doing our own inner work. Mary shares practical tools and compassionate strategies for staying connected to your child while also learning how to regulate yourself, repair after hard moments, and parent with more confidence.

Inside this episode:
What makes a child “spicy” and how to understand their unique temperament

Why parental self-regulation is one of the most important parenting tools

How childhood experiences can shape the way we parent

Navigating neurodivergence, diagnosis, and finding the right support

Practical strategies for managing meltdowns, tantrums, and big emotions

How routine, predictability, and connection can help sensitive kids thrive

Setting firm boundaries while staying kind and connect

The role of self-compassion, repair, and doing your own inner work

And so much more!
Mentioned in this episode:
Parenting a Spicy One by Mary Van Geffen

Mary Van Geffen on Instagram

Mary Van Geffen on TikTok
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Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast.
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49min
August 13, 2026Episode 109: Parenting Wisdom from Around the World with Michaeleen Doucleff
What if many of the things we believe about parenting aren't actually universal? In this episode, Rachael sits down with journalist and author Dr. Michaeleen Doucleff to explore what different cultures around the world can teach us about raising children, building strong family relationships, and rethinking some of our most deeply held parenting beliefs.
Together, they discuss parenting myths, child development, autonomy, screen time, dopamine, sleep, and what it can look like to approach family life with more respect, connection, and trust.
Inside this episode:
Why so many common parenting practices aren't universal

What different cultures can teach us about raising children

The importance of respect, autonomy, and contribution in child development

How dopamine actually affects motivation and screen time

Rethinking the way we approach sleep and separation

How to build stronger, more connected parent-child relationships

Practical ways to encourage independence and healthy motivation

And so much more!
Mentioned in this episode:
Hunt, Gather, Parent by Michaeleen Doucleff

Dopamine Kids by Michaeleen Doucleff

Michaeleen Doucleff's website
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Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast.

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53min
August 06, 2026Episode 108: The Power of Hobbying for Parents and Adults with Marina Cooley
What if making time for a hobby wasn't selfish but one of the best things you could do for yourself and your family? In this episode, Rachael sits down with writer and researcher Marina Cooley to explore why hobbies matter, how Danish culture approaches work-life balance, and what we can learn about slowing down, finding joy, and supporting our mental health.
Together, they discuss how hobbies can reduce screen time, ease mom guilt, strengthen community, and help parents reconnect with themselves, even in the busiest seasons of life.
Inside this episode:
Why hobbies are essential for parents' well-being

How Danish culture approaches happiness and balance

Reducing screen time through meaningful hobbies

Reframing productivity, self-care, and mom guilt

The role of community in happier family life

Practical ways to make hobbies fit into a busy schedule

And so much more!
Mentioned in this episode:
The Geography of Bliss
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Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast.
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47min
July 30, 2026Episode 107: The Parenting Advice We Need to Unlearn with Fiona Weaver
What if the hardest part of parenting isn't your child's sleep, but the pressure to do everything "right"? In this episode, Rachael sits down with parenting educator and maternal mental health advocate Fiona Weaver for an honest conversation about the parenting advice we may need to unlearn.
Together, they discuss the myths surrounding sleep training and independence, why "good enough" parenting is actually the goal, and how societal expectations can fuel mom guilt and self-doubt. Fiona also shares her experience parenting three children, navigating toddler sleep challenges, and embracing a more flexible, compassionate approach that supports both children and their parents.
Whether you're questioning the parenting advice you've been given or simply looking for reassurance that you're doing enough, this episode offers practical wisdom, encouragement, and a refreshing perspective on modern motherhood.

Inside this episode:
Why "good enough" parenting is the gold standard

Common myths about sleep training and infant independence

The emotional and developmental needs of children

How societal expectations contribute to mom guilt and shame

Why you can't hang your mood on your baby's sleep

The connection between infant sleep and maternal mental health

Letting go of rigid sleep tracking and unrealistic expectations

Building stronger family relationships through flexibility and connection

How community and support can transform the parenting experience

And so much more!
Mentioned in this episode:
Mama Matters website

Fiona Weaver on Instagram
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Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast.
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50min
July 23, 2026Episode 106: Rethinking Baby Sleep: A Holistic Approach with Dr. Pamela Douglas
What if your baby's sleep challenges weren't something to fix but a clue to better understanding their unique needs? In this episode, Rachael sits down with physician, researcher, and founder of the Possums Program, Dr. Pamela Douglas, to explore a holistic, evidence-based approach to infant sleep, feeding, and development.
Together, they discuss why sleep, feeding, sensory development, and emotional well-being are deeply connected, how societal pressures can increase stress for parents, and why responsive, flexible caregiving often leads to better outcomes for the whole family. Whether you're navigating an unsettled baby or simply looking for a gentler approach to infant sleep, this episode offers practical, reassuring guidance.
Inside this episode:
Why sleep, feeding, and sensory development are all connected

The philosophy behind the Possums approach to infant care

The five domains that can contribute to an unsettled baby

Common myths about overstimulation and baby sleep

Why outdoor play and sensory experiences support healthy development

How parental stress can impact the parenting experience

Practical ways to respond to your baby's unique cues

Why flexibility…not rigid routines…helps families thrive

And so much more!
Mentioned in this episode:
The Discontented Little Baby Book by Dr. Pamela Douglas

Possums Program
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Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast.
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47min
July 16, 2026Episode 105: Dad Brain Explained: The Science of Fatherhood with Dr. Darby Saxbe
What if becoming a dad changes the brain just as much as becoming a mom? In this episode, Rachael sits down with psychologist, researcher, and author Dr. Darby Saxbe to explore the science behind "dad brain," how fatherhood reshapes the brain, and why great parenting is built through experience, not instinct.
Together, they discuss the neurological changes fathers experience during the transition to parenthood, the importance of paternity leave and hands-on caregiving, and how supporting dads benefits the entire family. Whether you're a new parent or expecting a baby, this conversation will change the way you think about fatherhood.
Inside this episode:
What "dad brain" really is and how fatherhood changes the brain

Why great parents are made…not born

The truth about maternal and paternal instinct

How paternity leave supports dads, babies, and families

Why hands-on parenting builds confidence and stronger attachment

The role of maternal gatekeeping and working as a team

The importance of supporting dads' mental health

How couples can better navigate the postpartum transition

And so much more!
Mentioned in this episode:
Dad Brain by Dr. Darby Saxbe

Natal Gazing on Substack

@Darbysaxbe
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Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast.
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50min
July 09, 2026Episode 104: Mom Brain Explained: The Science of the Postpartum Brain with Dr. Nikki Pensak
What if "mom brain" isn't something to laugh off, but evidence that your brain is undergoing one of the biggest transformations of your life? In this episode, Rachael sits down with clinical psychologist and author Dr. Nikki Pensak to explore the science behind the postpartum brain, why anxiety is so common after having a baby, and what every mother deserves to know about her mental health.
Together, they unpack the brain changes that occur during motherhood, why maternal instinct isn't as automatic as we're often told, and how sleep deprivation, stress, and trauma can shape the postpartum experience. Dr. Pensak also shares why healing is possible, how mothers can recognize when they need support, and the hope that can come through post-traumatic growth.
Inside this episode:
What "mom brain" really is and why it happens

How neuroplasticity reshapes the brain during motherhood

Why postpartum anxiety is so common and often overlooked

The myth of maternal instinct and what actually builds confidence as a parent

How stress and sleep deprivation affect the maternal brain

Understanding birth trauma and the possibility of post-traumatic growth

Signs it may be time to seek support for postpartum anxiety or depression

Why self-care is a vital part of maternal mental health

How social media can impact new moms….for better and for worse

Dr. Nikki's inspiration for writing Rattled and helping mothers feel less alone

And so much more!
Mentioned in this episode:
Rattled by Dr. Nikki Pensak
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Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast.
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39min
July 02, 2026Episode 103: Parenting Around the World with Elodie Ferchaud
What if raising your kids didn't have to look like everyone else's? In this episode, Rachael sits down with entrepreneur and Boundless Life founder Elodie Ferchaud for a conversation about choosing a different path, raising resilient kids, and creating a family life that feels aligned with your values…not someone else's expectations.
From leaving the corporate world to raising four children while living around the globe, Elodie shares how travel has changed the way she parents, why she's become a more relaxed mom over the years, and what different cultures have taught her about childhood, education, and community. Whether you're dreaming of worldschooling or simply looking for inspiration to parent more intentionally, this episode will leave you thinking differently about what family life can look like.
Inside this episode:
Why Elodie left the corporate world to build a life of more freedom and flexibility

How parenting four kids has shifted her perspective over the years

What different cultures can teach us about raising children

How travel helps kids build confidence, resilience, and independence

The surprising ways parenting support looks different around the world

What inspired Elodie to create Boundless Life

Rethinking school, learning, and what children really need to thrive

The power of community, especially when you're far from home

Why stepping outside your comfort zone can transform your family

How to create a life that feels intentional, connected, and true to your values

And so much more!
Mentioned in this episode:
Boundless Life

Montessori Method
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Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast.
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45min
June 25, 2026Episode 102: How to Protect Your Kids Without Parenting From Fear with Holly Choi
In this episode, Rachael sits down with child safety educator and founder of Safe Beginnings, Holly Choi, to talk about one of the biggest challenges of parenting: keeping our kids safe without feeling like we have to bubble-wrap them. If you've ever worried about baby-proofing your home, questioned whether your car seat is installed correctly, wondered which safety recommendations actually matter, or felt overwhelmed by all the potential dangers parents are told to watch out for, this conversation is for you.
Holly shares practical, evidence-based safety tips for babies and toddlers while helping parents understand the difference between healthy risk-taking and true hazards. This episode is equal parts educational, empowering, and reassuring and will leave you feeling more confident about creating a safer environment for your child.
Inside this episode:
The most common injuries babies and toddlers experience

Understanding the difference between risks and hazards

Hidden dangers many parents overlook in their homes

The childproofing essentials every family should know

How to think one step ahead when it comes to safety

Common car seat mistakes parents make

How to make sure your car seat is installed correctly

Water safety basics every parent should know

The importance of layers of protection around water

Balancing safety with independence and exploration

How to protect your child without parenting from fear

And so much more!
Mentioned in this episode:
Safe Beginnings

Instagram: @safebeginnings

Child Passenger Safety Technicians (CPSTs)

Water safety resources
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Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast.

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41min

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